You answered your own post by questioning me
Posted By: Jackie on 2007-02-08
In Reply to: What makes you think she will? - NM
you said your children tell you everything. You at the same time said your 18 year old son had sex at 17 and told you about it the other day, meaning he had sex, what a year ago and he is now telling you, irregardless of whether he felt bad about it or liked it. It is good that you take the thought that your children tell you everything. I see many disillusioned parents who thought the same way as you do.
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I apoligized to a relative 1 time that got very upset with me. I called, told them over and over as they cursed me out I loved them (they had cancer by the way) and they finally said I could visit them again. I bit my tongue from then on- agreed with everything they said, never had my own thoughts any more but I was able to visit. Never did I say what I wanted to- just went along with the flow- so yes it meant that much to me and I will say sorry.
I guess I answered my own post
The person posting above said Florida did not allow,something about all their capital punishment?? Whatever she meant by that. You are right, the poster is from Texas and I stated (without my knowing her state) I be willing to bet Texas did the whippings.
Exactly! What are you questioning?
As you said, you are grown as is he. Let it be. Is he questioning her sm
or her motives? It is not your place at all to say anything to your father about his impending wedding, honeymoon, etc. Now, if she was taking his money, squandering, etc., and not marrying him then that's another story. She obviously loves him and he loves her, so wish them well, be sweet and happy for him and move on with your own life.
I can sense your bitterness and you need to cut that out of your life. It's counter productive to be bitter and resentful. And, the Bible says it clearly: Bitterness rots your bones.
Yeah my 10-y/o is questioning it - sm
I feel bad for deceiving her and hope she fares well when she finds out the truth. She only still believes because many of her friends still do and my 8/y-o swears she saw Santa at my parents house 4 years ago. I showed then Norad last year, they thought that was pretty cool. But when the time comes I will try to explain it the best I can and hope they are not too upset with me.
All the questioning and answering in the world
cannot stop these idiotic people out here now. How pray tell, if you have all kinds of notices on your medical records stamped in RED BIG letters and you have an allergy wrist band on, do you still COME OUT OF SURGERY WEARING WHAT YOU ARE ALLERGIC TO??? Idio....ts
What do you make of the lab tech questioning the donated eggs? (sm)
There seemed to be something weird there, but can't figure out whose eggs they might be, if that is what was even implied.
Thanks so much, all who answered!
You all had some excellent advice, and I sure appreciate it. There are valid arguments on both sides of the question of whether or not to have a curfew for an 18-year-old. We decided to stick with the curfew, and made it clear to our daughter that she was to follow it, or the car would be taken away for a week. While she lives in our house, I want her home at a reasonable hour.
By the way, I do NOT implicitly trust her. My older daughter taught me how foolish that was after a late night car accident (she said she thinks she fell asleep at the wheel). I've been through the teenage thing long enough now to know that we really have no idea what they're doing when we can't see them. I just don't want her on the road at 4 a.m., even if she is 18.
Thanks again for your great advice.
I just answered your email *S*
 
You just answered a question I had.
I wondered how many symptoms it would help. It would be fantastic to be rid of periods, but how disappointing it doesn't do anything for PMS. So it sounds like you would still have whatever intestinal problems that go along with the hormone changes too. My colon is much more trouble than my uterus, unfortunately.
Once again, question not answered
WHO IS THIS PERSON?? Never heard of her and I am entitled to ask who she is, remember gab board to talk about anything.
ok you answered my question down here...
doesn't the daughter want the ashes or have any ideas what to do about the ashes? 22 years is a long time......
ok and here you answered my question about ...
I should have read the entire thread before I ever posted, eh? *lol* - All my queries have been answered, have a daughter who does not particularly care to have the ashes...but your fiance' does care and I understand the latter's feelings on it...
My suggestion is force the ashes on daughter - leave them at her house as you are getting ready to leave, then you leave...just my opinion, of course....
You answered my question....
Did not think pain, picking up she does not meow, just lays there. Thanks because never had a cat before to reach an old age and be on her last leg, like I suspect she is. I will just keep babying and taking care of her as much as possible.
you already answered you own ? about husband
A change in behavior like that is more than suspicious. Don't be blinded by how he was even a year ago. That was then, this is now. Not sure if you saw Dr. Phil last week about the swingers, but if not, check his w/s just for add'l info. If not that, there's clearly another woman (or man, maybe?). The fact that suddenly you're being left out is no accident, darlin'. I've known married men who do that
down-low thing (ick factor, but true), and everything else in-between.
Are you able to get someone to tail him (a PI, or even a friend who can be trusted)? Also, like I tell everyone, CHECK THE CELL PHONE CALLS! Many cheaters continue to get caught by this, as crazy as it sounds in 2008. The first thing you need to to is set aside your emotions, hard as it may be. So far you've been really smart. This way he's less likely to think you've already gotten a head start on him.
You wrote for advice, but you obviously know you're not being treated right here, and we support you. But don't be blinded by what "was" in the past 10 years. It really sucks, but it's sadly the truth. Many before you have been in the same position. Never again will I ever put all my trust in a man. I'm not bitter, I'm just telling it like it is. That doesn't mean there aren't great men/marriages out there, but there are far too many players and really good con artists!
Incidentally, to this date I still get an abundance of married men hitting on me, so single, married, separated, it matters not. So please get the info first, then remember to keep your self-respect. A man who is cheating, lying, or simply leaving you out of the picture altogether is no man you want to spend the rest of your days with. Don't mean to sound hard, but too many women waste valuable years trying to fix a man, when they should be cutting their losses (regardless of kids or no kids), and maintaining their dignity.
Please keep us posted.
Be strong!
She asked, I answered. Cool down.
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You've answered your question.
They wanted to be on Oprah, etc. This was a stunt.
Is this an answered prayer or is something wrong? (sm)
I have been in the process of getting ready for a divorce. My 11 year old in the past had asked me not to because he would have to spend to much time with his dad. Later he asked me about it, I told him it would be a few months, and he said he was "ready to go right now and get out of here". I have prayed and prayed about this and yesterday my son said it didn't matter to him either way, whether we divorce or not, he will be fine either way. He said it in such a calm nonchalant way. It almost makes me think he is at peace about it all. On the other hand I am worried that maybe he is just giving up or just not willing to talk to me anymore about it? He does seem very calm and ok with everything though and does not seem sad or depressed or worried. Could this be the answer to my prayers?
Well you answered a question that was not asked (sm)
I did not ask you if it was acceptable nor did I ask you if it was right. I asked if it was something most women end up dealing with at some point. Because the statistics I have read say that it occurs at some point in the majority of marriages. I wanted to see if that was true according to the sampling of women on here. Thanks for not patting me on the a&& though - I would have had to report you.
If I had answered with my first thought, X-rated back
but would be off this board so I will say after my bath this morning just put on some Lubriderm as my skin tends to be very dry.
Well, you post with something that is going to --sm
get your *butt jumped* and then you cry when someone does. judgemental of everything, huh? don't get your halo in a twist. geez.
your post says *they*...
Is more than 1 of your children living with this person? Just curious...
Thank you for your post....sm
at least YOU seem to understand the concept of what a thyroid problem can do to a person...unlike anon poster below, who has a very closed mind about ANYthing she does not agree with.
My thyroid problem is quite bad. I HAVE seen an endocrinologist who explained that thyroid disease is an autoimmune disease, where the body attacks certain organs for no reason. I did not do well on synthetic thyroid replacement and switched to a *natural* form. I am currently taking 120 mg daily and that is a lot. The endocrinologist said that my thyroid was barely functioning at all.
I feel very bad for your brother in law, as I truly understand how he feels. Thank you again for your understanding support for my problem, rather than attacking me with being a food junky, being paranoid, needing a psychiatrist, telling me I am nuts, and to pursue bariatric surgery, which all tends to lower my already low self-esteem. thank you for your courage to post. It is nice to know that SOME people understand.
was the *duh* in yer post necessary?.....
#
better post than your first one *LOL*
I like what you said there - you have had a GOOD solid thing for 41 years now.......or thereabouts with your husband -
Doing this to him, even surreptitiously....do you think this is what HE deserves after you having a full life with him? Do you have a conscience? Even if you don't see this guy from 900 miles away - YOU'RE STILL CHEATING, you are carrying on a secret relationship in a secret email account behind your husband's back.........
I ain't judging.........but points upward.........towards G_d.........
jes' sayin'..............
how did this post above from 1/16/07 end up
on the top of GAB BOARD? And silly me, I answered it *LOL* - says Jan 16, 2007....all below this are March of 2007........very bizarre...someone probably trying to invoke conversation(?)
very_curious_indeed
what does this have to do with my post?
to be adopted already....
I really liked your post, thanks for that!!!..sm
I so respect what you said/typed.......thank you :)
oh that post is NOT *way down below*...sm
it's right under this post *ROFL*....I'm tired.....
Cut off from above post: j/k nm
uhijok
Post (SM)
All prayer requests belong on the Prayer Request board. You access it by going to the Gab board first, then clicking the Prayer Request link just above the posts.
I have not received any emails from you regardnig your post.
Sorry to post again about this but (sm)
Divorce is a huge decision - I have been talking to family and friends but this is the only place I can get anonymous opinions from a lot of people, and it is more likely that someone here may have been through something similar. My husband now is asking me to not go. But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago. He went nuts a few years ago during a very minor argument (children were not present), and now says that it was probably because of years of frustration. But now he is once again asking me to stay. Because my parents are divorced he says that "divorce is the only thing I know" when faced with conflict. I have been here almost 14 years and he has never been happy with me. Even when I was young and thin and our house was spotless. My question is - if he has never been happy with me, and I have always been a source of frustration, why should I stay now and expect things to improve? We have been to 4 marriage counsellors in the past. I am scared about leaving and I still do love him deep down, but why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?
I should have put LOL after my post
about the fancy car. My parents and my MIL drive "fancy" cars. I agree that wasn't a nice thing to say.
Well, here you can post what you think
Well, here you can post what you think is an awesome idea or might we say lame... (Creativity is the key)
I'll start with:
Awesome:
Water powered cars...
Lame:
Really cool stuff that is ridiculously expensive(i.e. PS3)
Please do post a pic of your pup
if you haven't already. Hayseed knows how.
Was this post really necessary?
Why bother reading a post that doesn't interest you just to post something rude and totally unnecessary? I for one love hearing about the good things in life. It's not just all work, work, work.
see my post sm
Would anyone who has used Cymbalta please reply to my post on the Mental Health board. I think this is suitable for "gab" but only one answer on that board. Thanks! BTW, I don't think exhaustion and pain from this profession is all "in our mind." I hope you agree.
Post her pic?
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I saw that post too
I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. This is a gab board and that's what we're doing gabbing about cats and other animals. If he/she isn't interested, just don't read the posts. By the way, I have an all black Halloween cat and the kids get a big kick out of him when them come to the door.
I think your post is right on
My hubs and I have separate and I trust him beyond belief, would never know what he made a year except at tax time. I think it is great to have hubs you trust and can take care of things like yours does. Seems like a dream deal to me. I could care less for doing anything when it comes to financial deals but sometimes have to fool with that. If I had a hubs that dealt with everything, I would be more than happy. You are blessed.
Just saw this post
Yes, his anal glands were really impacted- the post below this 1 helped me tremendously. Never knew felines got that way. He went to the veterinarian the very day I learned about the possibility of what it could be, the vet expressed the glands and relieved that problem. Yesterday my big boy (20 and a half lbs) went to the groomers to get him all cleaned and smelling good again. One more thing I learned- he is double furred boy and hair was even growing over his anus which had to be shaved. He is quite the handsome guy today!
100% right and that is my post
Give varied foods to be served but can you just imagine if 10 or more kids would not eat and demanded certain foods for their own eating? Did not say kids should be forced to eat anything but definitely needs vegetables in their diet. Sit foods on the table, not much fuss and let the child eat and eat good, no junk stuff, no Cokes, no sweetened drinks, no overloading on the chips, cookies and other sweets.
By the way, there is a second pic in that post above. (nm)
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I just had to post this pic too!
This is my youngest, Scooter, when we first brought him home 2 years ago. He is MUCH bigger now! LOL!
Above post is IMO, of course.
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Thanks for your post
She's actually the one that's hard on herself. If she was in regular classes it wouldn't matter to me. I'll see what happens when she gets home in an hour.
The post above you was right
You have said as much by "someone saying to mind your own business." It is her business, not any of yours at all. As far as the thrown away card, once a person is given a present, whether it is a card or whatever it is, it is their property then and the person can toss it, hold onto it or do what they like. She is minding her own business as you should. In your posts you come back time and again about what friends you were, how you emailed every day, you seem really clingy to this person, like you cannot make it another day before you hear from her. Do you have any life of your own?
your post
The mare is foaling - NOT having a "baby" thats human and she will either have a colt (male) or a filly (female)
FYI
your post
Sorry Cat, but NO apology is necessary -- the word "foal" was used in the original post, for those who don't know, "give birth" would have been a better term and BTW -- I am the granddaughter of a cattle rancher and have seen my share from BIRTH TO DEATH -- and we are talking 25,000 acres as well thank you VERY much
your post
I was the "oldest granchild" on my mom's side of the family and the "eldest of 4 girls" on my dad's side and he was the baby of his family. My paternal grandmother was the head baker for the local hospital and used to make ALL the "Holiday" pies for the docs to take home -- she had a mincemeat receipie to DIE for but when she died, it went with her :(
My maternal grandparents were great too. Little by little during the depression, they bought land in the Sandhills of Nebraska spent WHOPPING sum of $10 an acre and eventually built the ranch up to be approximately 25K acres, their cattle were pretty much all grass fed, gram had a "scrap bucket" under the sink, which was used to feed the chickens and they produced ORANGE yolks.
I just wish that our generation that is being raised nowadays could somehow understand how much more important the "simple values" are
Thank you for your post!
It sure is refreshing to listen to someone who actually KNOWS about religion and can pontificate (chose this word on purpose) about differences/similarities. If more people KNEW about various religions, we would have more acceptance and less ignorance in the world.
Thanks again, from your friendly agnostic....
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