Similar thing here about a friend keeping in touch
Posted By: Lora on 2009-03-13
In Reply to: My best friend from high school kept - Backwards typist
Over the past 40+ years one of my girlfriends had stayed in touch with me until she had a son who died about 2-3 years ago. I made the big mistake, I guess, of repeating some things she herself had said when he was alive and basically she quit talking after that. Oh, well, she was the one who always needed helping and emotional support, had 2 sons who were either alcoholic or druggies or both and ran herself silly over grown men always bending over backwards, taking money she got from social security and paying their bills, letting them mooch off her, with her giving them cell phones so they could stay in touch, acted as if they were 4 years old, just literally enabling them to run her crazy. I guess I made the mistake of repeating what she had told me (and everyone else she knew).
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Friend with a similar gruesome experience. sm
She went to the ER in excruciating pain and was told by the ER physician that she could not possibly have a kidney stone because "women don't get kidney stones." Her husband, an RN, knew better but had no authority to prescribe any painkillers, and how she suffered until her test results came back in a day or so. I wouldn't go back to that NP either, sounds to me like she doesn't know what she's doing!
I'd get a similar thing with a neighbor (sm()
he's yell over, "Where ya goin now?" After I lived and learned, I reply, "I don't know."
Going thru similar thing. Thanks for posting this message...sm
Next week, my husband will be attending a meeting with our child's school for my kindergartener. He does have a slight speech problem (I believe due to having a pacifer too long!), and they're talking about speech therapy, which is great, along with special education?? We know his score from the first couple of weeks of school was quite low for where he needed to be but is doing really well now and do not feel he needs special ed. When we received this letter to meet with the principal, speech therapist, special education teacher, and his teacher next week about this, we were shocked. I had just recently had a parent-teacher phone conference with his teacher, and she never mentioned this to me,just how he's doing so much better. What do we do in this situation? We do want him to have the best education possible but also don't want to be conned into something for the sake of a "quota." I guess we go and see what they have to say. Actually, my husband will be going as I need to stay home with our little one, but he's way better at speaking his mind than I am. He'll have no problem speaking up, if need-be.
I had a similar thing happen on I-40 in Arizona once - sm
I was driving from SF to New Mexico, and since I hadn't been on I-40 before, it was all new to me, and I wanted to keep going. I dumbly passed the last town for MILES, and then it was dark. Was dead-tired, but had to keep going. I kept hallucinating and seeing people standing by the road, and also animals - cows, horses, bears, etc. I'd look once, think I saw it, then look again and it'd be gone, or else be a cactus or a rock or something. (Those saguaros DO look alot like people!). Further down the road I passed a yellow sign that said 'Watch For Animals', and remember thinking to myself, 'Wow! I guess someone else has been hallucinating, too!'
Not surprisingly, that very next morning is the day I first started drinking COFFEE.
I had a similar thing happen at my prior - sm
residence. I rented a cottage on a large estate, lived there 8 years, and then the owners wanted to turn it back into a guest-cottage for visiting kids & grandchildren. I can understand that. But I know how these guys at my current apt. operate: (1) No one EVER gets their deposit back. I can forget about it anyway, 'cuz my rugs and fridge are almost as old as I am! ;)
(2) But I've seen their *upgrades* - and all they'll do is put in a cheap, thin Berber carpet with no padding underneath, and maybe paint the walls. Then they'll turn around and rent the place for $1800 a month.
My friend is doing the exact same thing!
She uses her age (38) a lot but if you use words like "uterine prolapse" and "fibroid tumors" they stop asking questions...LOL
Are men REALLY this out of touch?
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Thanks, God bless you, You never know who you may touch...nm
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They need those no touch rules!
I went to a place that is very well known in Florida before they enacted the 'no touch rule'. My older brother pounded into my head when I was little 'if someone grabs you - hit, kick, and scream'. So, of course, when some zombie-thing grabbed me, he got elbowed VERY hard in the stomach. He was not happy about that! I had gone thinking that they weren't allowed to touch you, so it really freaked me out!!
After that incident, I told my friend we had to leave before I got arrested! I don't go to those things any more - my nerves can't take it!
Out of touch, what are you talking about?
Pardon my ignorance.
yes, still in touch, by email. also, a really, sm
really good friend to both of us. best man at our wedding and whom I loved very much. died Nov 2. I am still mourning the loss.
That little touch of color at my desk
would be my hubby. He sure brightens my day.
Isn't that sad? And touch & parent's voices are
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and I did touch up my roots today! :-) (nm)
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yes, getting in touch with Talon might be easier. Thanks nm
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I touch myself -- can't remember who signs it!
No, they are both cool to touch. It's cold here so I'm always chilly. nm
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That should be keepING
How do I get 100% on QA checks, but yet I can't type a simple post? I do the same thing with my school papers. My professor's look at me and say "YOU'RE a medical transcriptionist?"
How old are you now? Think the key is keeping yourself
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He was being sarcastic about the soil part. They just have a magic touch.nm
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As a prior vet tech and diabetic, I wouldnt touch this
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keeping tabs
My daughter travels around the country for business and she is the only employee that calls her employer when she arrives on site and when she returns home. They really appreciate this.
I have a parrot. What was said about keeping
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keeping a secret
taking addiction too seriously is a mistake. Keeping it a dirty little secret is a mistake. Hiding "Pa" in the basement because he is an embarrassment is a mistake. There is NOTHING shameful about being addicted to a substance. I hardly think there is one person on this board who does not know someone on antidepressants or takes them and that is considered healthy? But medicating depression with vodka is shameful?
The best disinfectant is light.
accounting is awesome and nurses have to touch sick people -nm
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regarding keeping the car tuned up and possible breakdowns(sm)
It can happen to ANYONE at ANY time. I had a brand new 2003 car. Six months off the lot and I'm stranded in a mall parking lot because the ignition switch died. No warning. No symptoms. It was just DEAD! At the time (Thanksgiving) it wasn't that cold out; however, I had gone out with a light jacket and no cell phone thinking there was no possible way I was going to wind up stranded anywhere because the car was reliable. Now I don't go anywhere without the cell phone and a heavy coat when it's cold out. AND there is always a set of botts in the trunk just in case. I'm happy that you don't have to worry about blizzards and cold temperatures; however, I'd be re-thinking your preparedness attitude.
I am keeping the journal going and in addition...sm
I bought a ceramic cross yesterday with 1 Samuel 1:27 on it which says "For This Child I prayed". I wrote the baby's nickname that my husband & I called it, the EDC and "went to heaven" dates on the front of the cross and it's hanging in our living room next to our family photo.
Keeping the spark in your marriage...
For those who have been married for a number of years and are still in love with your spouse, how do you keep that "spark"?
Spare us the intimate details , but share with us how you and your spouse keep the flames of love a' burnin!
Keeping my fingers crossed that
Sanjaya's number will be up 
Why is there any controversy about keeping a maiden name?
I've "kept" mine. I also added my husband's name. Anyone who knows me as my children's mother uses my husband's last name when they address me. It's not wrong, so I don't correct them. There's no need. But my driver's license has my first name, my maiden name, and then my husband's name, no hyphen. (Hyphenation is clumsy, IMO, and causes so many problems when people are trying to find your name on alpha lists.)
I loved my father very much, and I had a wonderful family growing up. I was named for my father and we were very close. It's part of who I am. I want to keep that name because he gave it to me, and a very special gift it was, too! I also love my husband very much, and we built a family together. That also is part of who I am. He offered me his name as a gift to me, as well. I was glad to accept it, as well. I proudly use both names.
Yet, I've run into quite a few people who get quite angry and upset over MY name. I have a friend who married a Texan. When he found out that I continue to use my maiden name, he turned to my husband and said, "And you let her do that?" My husband's reply: "She's my wife, not my child. It's not for me to give her a name. And if it's none of my business, then it's certainly none of YOUR business."
That's why I love him!
In keeping with the question down below about in-laws...
We have all done our best to accept my brother's wife, but she grates on everybody's nerves. Now, that we can handle, but a few years back my mom bought a new (second-hand) car and gave her old car to my brother. She even gave them $500 to buy new tires for the car.
Then, when my mom's "new" car turned out to be a lemon and had to be in the shop for a week, my SIL refused to let my mom use HER OWN CAR that she had given them while her "new" car was in the shop - even though my SIL was NOT working and my brother had a car to go back and forth to work.
Yes, I know my brother needs to grow a backbone already, but that kind of set the tone for my SIL's relationship with the whole family.
So - what's your in-law story?
Keeping kitties off the counter...
I have always had good luck with this. Cover your counters entirely with aluminum foil. Tape it down. Leave it a day or two. The kitties absolutely hate the feeling of the foil under their paws and won't go back. I have even used this on the back of a sofa and it worked there too. The picture of you sitting there by the tree, in wait with the squirt gun is priceless. All this kitty talk, I'm getting ready to go to the shelter and get me another little furball of love. Wise
I love keeping out trash
like the person described above next door to her, love that have not seen 1 home here that is boarded up and reposssed, love that animals are not allowed to roam all over the place, love no cars sitting on blocks and junking up the neighborhood, love my neighbors are friendly, quiet and don’t have beer parties at all hours of the night, love the beautiful landscaping of our yards- in all just love being here in my little section of heaven.
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
You know how I looked at it? I tried to validate keeping my ovaries for (sm)
for the exact same reasons you are, but then when I thought about the risks involved, I then justified it in my heart and mind that a total complete hysterectomy was to be my path because I was afraid of anything metastazing to other organs, etc. In the long run, I figured I would have to lose the ovaries no matter what (whether it be now or years later), but the fear of me having been able to prevent it when I had the chance made me very comfortable with my decision.
I really can say that I have not experienced any side effects at all from it, but I do feel more at peace mentally just knowing that I have one less thing to worry about. Of course, this is not saying it will never reoccur somewhere else (God forbid), but I took care of the immediate problem completely.
I am going to continue you in my prayers and please let us know when you are going in so that we can all be here for support. Your decision is the best one you can make for your friends, family and especially for YOU. ((((hugs))))
Keeping tabs and silver platters
I'm in my 50s, but because I'm female and usually travel alone, I make sure someone in the family knows what plane/train I'm on or the general route I'm driving and I call them when I get there and when I get home. Usually, I just leave a message because it's roaming minutes on the cell, but they know I'm OK. That way, they don't worry without cause. Should they ever have cause, then they can tell the cops where to start looking for me.
On another note, perhaps your son doesn't value what he's been given because it has been given to him on a silver platter. I didn't have a car until I could buy it myself. I had small scholarships to a private school, but my dad paid most of it - and it cost the same as buying a new car every year (which was not his style). If I had pulled anything even vaguely resembling what your son did, I'd have been pulled out of school at the end of the semester and brought home to find a job I could walk to in my little rural town. I'd have been paying room and board at home, too, until I found a place to live. When I came to my senses and came crawling back to dad for help, he might have cosigned a loan to send me to the regional state school in the next town over, a fate worse than death. I knew for a fact dad would do this if I got out of line or got bad grades, so I made sure I never did.
Still keeping the windows open, even at night
Here in So. Indiana, we are finally past the heat wave and really having some enjoyable weather.. but are still desperate for some rain. Won't even thinking about burning any wood in the stove until December.
machio-man:.....'that she is not keeping up the deal on her end.'
Does he? To make it believable he should have included pictures (from himself, not from his son!)
If this story really took place, I bet, judging from her answer, that this conversation was not done in a joking and amicable manner.
Can't give you any advice of keeping plants alive, I'm
lucky my children are still living. LOL!
Keeping that part of my life separate sounds best -
I have been asked on dates but just have not been interested. I feel stuck just wishing we could all be a normal family again (the 4 of us). I even think ahead to when I'm a grandma down the road and still can't picture me with a new man! I don't know, maybe I'm just destined to remain alone unless I met the guy who was a perfect fit with my kids.
ROFLMAO!! But hey, with that humor, she probably doesn't stay mad long! Good for her keeping you.
dodging the bullets! Keeps it interesting! And keeps you honest! ![Cowgirl](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_4_124.gif")
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Try scrub ing/mopping with baking soda and vinegar and keeping windows open as much as possible - nm
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Same applies to spine surgery. DO NOT TOUCH MY SPINE;
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
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Good luck!
I had a similar but now use sm
Wolfgang Puck's open face grill, buy on HSN.com. 1200 watts, get to 550 degrees. You can actually GRILL a hamburger or steak. The Foreman ones only kind of steam food, very inadequate.
Something similar here sm
I also live in a small town and we have many Indian docs and they usually bring relatives here and to run hotels and motels they have purchased. I know of one family that did this 25 years ago. A Comfort Inn right up the road from us is owned/operated by an Indian family that live in our neighborhood. Truely some of the nicest people I have ever met.
OMG! I was going to say something similar... sm
Same timeframe and same team, but off by 2 years in age. Unfortunately, my brother was home from Penn State and I gave him my Game 6 ticket. After all these years, I still slap myself on the forehead when I think about that. I was in Philly with the other million or so revelers the next day, though!
I'm doing something similar..
I live in Florida also and am planning a little weekend gettaway for myself. I know it sounds weird, but this way there will be no computer and absolutely no way I can be conned into working. I picked a fairly cheap little resort place that is right on the beach. It's not very fancy, but it has a kitchen. I want to wake up and hear the water and see the sunset at night. I did spend a little more to get a place that had more of a private beach so it would be a little quieter. Just think about the things you want to do and what is more important and then decide. Will you be at the beach more, or golfing more? Do you want more peace and quiet? Or do you want a place where kids can run around - if so golf course probably not a good idea.
Anyway, whichever you choose, have a great time!
I might have something similar
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I went through something similar...
Except not on me, on my son, who I think was like 4 or 5 at the time. They wanted to put a white filling in a baby tooth, and make me pay the extra for it. So glad I didn't let them, found another dentist who put in a silver one and shortly thereafter, the tooth came out. So sorry this happened to you, but unfortunately you'll probably do more harm than good by not paying the full amount, cause they will try to ruin your credit.
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