The ring is symbolic of a union.
Posted By: my opinion on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: what do you think about choosing your own ring - ???
If you can't even agree on who should pick out the ring, you may want to rethink your union with this gent. There are going to be so many issues that will arise in your marriage that will need you to come together and make a decision. It starts now though. Some food for thought. I would rethink the whole reason for wanting to "get the ring". I would not focus too much on who picks it out. You may want to see a marriage counselor beforehand to see if you two are the "right fit". It doesn't sound too good starting out a union in this manner. JMO. Good luck.
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Agree totally; best prices and no union BS
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members of the int'l longshore and warehouse union..
who threatened to slash my tires/throat if i didn't ratify contract in our medical records department.
Talk to a local bank or credit union.
That is a HUGE downpayment and that will more than likely offset any bad juju as far as credit rating. You may be pleasantly surprised...we were and we also had crappy credit but because of the large downpayment, that worked in our favor and were able to get an incredible rate with a local bank. Above anything else, avoid those pieces of crap you see advertised on TV and on the computer. Nothing but predators that should be smacked upside their heads with a 2x4.
I do not even have to have a ring but
when my hubby and I married in Las Vegas in 2000 (I had been married before, he hadn't), I had to let him know the minister would ask for a ring and therefore on the way to get married he and I stop in a shop and got a simple gold band for me (I didn't want him to feel embarrased at not having anything when asked) and you know what, I would not take anything for the marriage I have. We have been married 7 years now and I adore him. If you love him enough to marry him, you could care less really about a ring to impress. That is what your post sounds like to me. So many important things about a marriage and a ring is not high up there.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
Yes he is - and he deserves a ring!
I am a New Englander and now very well liked right now as I was rooting for Peyton (hate greedy people - LOL)!
anyway - what a great game - glad I'm still alive after cheering for Peyton!
what do you think about choosing your own ring
My boyfriend who wants to eventually get married hates the fact that I want to choose my own ring. I also don't want a proposal like finding it in my baked potato or something. I'd like to be able to say this is the ring I want, buy it and when ready give it to me at a dinner with our parents or something like that. he is having a fit. and trying to make me feel like I'm nuts. Anything wrong with being able to choose your ring?
ring advice
My hubbie to be took me to a nice jeweler locally to have me sized (my finger that is) and I took the opportunity to talk to him about the rings that were displayed and why I like or disliked them. I like very simple (but elegant) jewelry. My hubbie listened and when my ring was presented to me I was shocked and elated as well as surprised. He had taken the info I had given him and had designed a ring for me that was practical yet gorgeous and I LOVED it.
So given him a litte guidance and let him do it his way you may be pleasantly surprised.
Note: I became pregnant with my first child and took my beautiful ring off and put it in my wallet and it somehow got lost. I still to this day weep whenever I think of my ring and he is working on replacing my ring and as much as I look forward to having a ring on my finger again however no ring will ever replace that ring in my heart or on my hand.
Give your hubbie a chance if you cann't trust him with picking out a ring can you trust him with your heart?????
Maybe get the ring stretched and
then coat the inside with clear nail polish.
Definitely Ring My Bell.....
it just goes on and on and on
Does this story ring true for you?
Talked to the mom of one of my daughter's friends on the way home from work yesterday. She told me her husband is going to federal prison for 8 years because he recieved some child porn via e-mail (didn't say who/where from) and reported the e-mails to his ISP. She says the ISP reported it to the FBI, and the FBI never tried to trace the e-mails back to the originator but arrested and prosecuted her husband for them being in his possession.
I've decided not to let my daughter go to their house again. The little girl is welcome at my house, but even if the story above is mostly true, what prompted him to be getting those type of e-mails and why is he even opening them? Would like to know if other moms agree or I am going overboard?
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
Some questions for you--it may ring a bell
Do you get headaches when this happens? How long do these sweats last for and how often do you get them? What's your BP normally?
I have a reason for asking, I promise.
Another possibility is ring worm. (nm)
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And didn't propose but gave a ring...nm
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I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
Ginger Quince here..kinda has a ring to it!
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It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
A wedding ring doesn't matter. Either
the guy is true to his wife and family or not, wearing a ring does not make a difference.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
Does "thou shalt not kill" ring any bells?
God created marriage for sex to be a blessing that would bring people together and create families, not sex outside of marriage so that babies could be optional.
My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring
or any jewelry for that matter. He's allergic to gold and can't even wear a watch. I suppose he could wear silver, but to me it's no big deal. He will wear it on special occasions but his hands swell up. I also know some men who don't wear it when they're at work if they run machinery, ect where it could get caught and get their fingers ripped off.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
I disagree. I still have my class ring (class of 1985). It's tucked away in my jewelry...
box. My fingers are too fat to wear it now, but it has sentimental value. Mine was just a metal ring as well and it still looks great.
I gave my class ring to a boyfriend back in the day and it wore it on his pinky. Then he lost it on the beach at the local lake. We ended up breaking up not too long after that and I thought I would never see my ring again. Then one day I'm reading the local paper and there's an add that said "LORI -- did you lose your class ring at city lake? Call... and describe the ring." I called the number and described the ring and it was mine. Thankfully I had had my full name inscribed inside the band of my class ring! The guy that found it was this little old man who had a one of those metal detectors and he spent his retirement days scanning beaches, parks, etc for change and what other treasures he could find. I couldn't thank him enough! He wouldn't take any kind of reward for finding it.
Just thought I'd share my class ring story. I feel that class rings, class keys (Do they still do that?), and yearbooks are such an important part of the high school years, but that's just me.
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