Wedding Ring ?
Posted By: Janey on 2007-01-18
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Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
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A wedding ring doesn't matter. Either
the guy is true to his wife and family or not, wearing a ring does not make a difference.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring
or any jewelry for that matter. He's allergic to gold and can't even wear a watch. I suppose he could wear silver, but to me it's no big deal. He will wear it on special occasions but his hands swell up. I also know some men who don't wear it when they're at work if they run machinery, ect where it could get caught and get their fingers ripped off.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
I do not even have to have a ring but
when my hubby and I married in Las Vegas in 2000 (I had been married before, he hadn't), I had to let him know the minister would ask for a ring and therefore on the way to get married he and I stop in a shop and got a simple gold band for me (I didn't want him to feel embarrased at not having anything when asked) and you know what, I would not take anything for the marriage I have. We have been married 7 years now and I adore him. If you love him enough to marry him, you could care less really about a ring to impress. That is what your post sounds like to me. So many important things about a marriage and a ring is not high up there.
Yes he is - and he deserves a ring!
I am a New Englander and now very well liked right now as I was rooting for Peyton (hate greedy people - LOL)!
anyway - what a great game - glad I'm still alive after cheering for Peyton!
what do you think about choosing your own ring
My boyfriend who wants to eventually get married hates the fact that I want to choose my own ring. I also don't want a proposal like finding it in my baked potato or something. I'd like to be able to say this is the ring I want, buy it and when ready give it to me at a dinner with our parents or something like that. he is having a fit. and trying to make me feel like I'm nuts. Anything wrong with being able to choose your ring?
ring advice
My hubbie to be took me to a nice jeweler locally to have me sized (my finger that is) and I took the opportunity to talk to him about the rings that were displayed and why I like or disliked them. I like very simple (but elegant) jewelry. My hubbie listened and when my ring was presented to me I was shocked and elated as well as surprised. He had taken the info I had given him and had designed a ring for me that was practical yet gorgeous and I LOVED it.
So given him a litte guidance and let him do it his way you may be pleasantly surprised.
Note: I became pregnant with my first child and took my beautiful ring off and put it in my wallet and it somehow got lost. I still to this day weep whenever I think of my ring and he is working on replacing my ring and as much as I look forward to having a ring on my finger again however no ring will ever replace that ring in my heart or on my hand.
Give your hubbie a chance if you cann't trust him with picking out a ring can you trust him with your heart?????
Maybe get the ring stretched and
then coat the inside with clear nail polish.
Definitely Ring My Bell.....
it just goes on and on and on
Does this story ring true for you?
Talked to the mom of one of my daughter's friends on the way home from work yesterday. She told me her husband is going to federal prison for 8 years because he recieved some child porn via e-mail (didn't say who/where from) and reported the e-mails to his ISP. She says the ISP reported it to the FBI, and the FBI never tried to trace the e-mails back to the originator but arrested and prosecuted her husband for them being in his possession.
I've decided not to let my daughter go to their house again. The little girl is welcome at my house, but even if the story above is mostly true, what prompted him to be getting those type of e-mails and why is he even opening them? Would like to know if other moms agree or I am going overboard?
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
The ring is symbolic of a union.
If you can't even agree on who should pick out the ring, you may want to rethink your union with this gent. There are going to be so many issues that will arise in your marriage that will need you to come together and make a decision. It starts now though. Some food for thought. I would rethink the whole reason for wanting to "get the ring". I would not focus too much on who picks it out. You may want to see a marriage counselor beforehand to see if you two are the "right fit". It doesn't sound too good starting out a union in this manner. JMO. Good luck.
Some questions for you--it may ring a bell
Do you get headaches when this happens? How long do these sweats last for and how often do you get them? What's your BP normally?
I have a reason for asking, I promise.
Another possibility is ring worm. (nm)
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And didn't propose but gave a ring...nm
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I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
Ginger Quince here..kinda has a ring to it!
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It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
Does "thou shalt not kill" ring any bells?
God created marriage for sex to be a blessing that would bring people together and create families, not sex outside of marriage so that babies could be optional.
LOL; were you at *my* wedding?
I think it took me almost a year to get them all out - but 100+ is a lot of handwritten thank yous! I know, no excuse ; )
The Wedding
Yes, you are just being petty. Obviously, you love your dad, but really ... What difference does it really make to YOUR life how much he paid for the ring, how much they spend on the wedding, etc.? Rejoice in your dad's happiness and grow up. You only go around once in this life. Let your dad enjoy his golden years. I say, "Good for him - go Daddy!"
Lilly
When is the wedding and where are
you staying?
wedding
Wedding is 05/17 at Mandalay Bay but we are staying at New York, New York - this is my first trip to Vegas and I'm pretty excited. . We are staying 3 nights.
Would you go to a wedding of
a step neice that you have not heard from for over 20 years? I am so against this, plus I have not talked to her mother or aunts for the same amount of time. I cannot afford to get something to wear with the paychecks I have been getting, giving a gift, etc. I think the only reason I was invited was for the gift. I am trying to get out of it but it is my stepfather's granddaughter and he has been very good to me so I would be doing it for him only. How could I get out of this without hurting my dad? It is this Friday and I have done absolutely nothing to get ready for it. Unfortunately, I already sent in the RSVP card for dinner.
Wedding
 If it were me, I would just send a card with a small gift in it. This way you won't have to spend any money buying something to wear. You are probabably right about just wanting the gift.
Yes - the wedding was on TV, he married
he did marry the air-head, he called her princess.
She was a wedding present
From my husband to me. When we brought her home she weighed just 1.5 pounds. She was so scrawny. We almost lost her twice and boy did she cost us a fortune, but it was well worth it. We found out she had asthma when she was about two and when I found her she was turning blue. She was on steroids for a long time. She weighed 20 pounds, quite a change from when we first got her. Then she ate fake pine needles from our Christmas tree one year and had to have emergency surgery to get this huge wad of needles out of her intestine. She was the sweetest cat and wouldn't hurt anything or anyone. She used to sleep on my head (on my pilow) which drove my husband nuts. LOL. She purred like a race car. I'll miss that definitely. I still have a, what I call, a wacky 10 year old black cat at home. I think he knows she's gone. Thank you so much.
I had a no child wedding except for immediate - sm
family; so to hopefully appease the very few that could not bring their kids (3 couples) I just had my 2 nephews carry my dress train. We had a swim party reception and I did not want to have to worry about parents getting drunk or inattentive and having a child drown. I knew my SILs would watch their kids as they are both somewhat overprotective, plus they were used to doing this when all the family was over anyways. But the post below is good about the gifts, or maybe directing people to the guest registry; handing out the "favors" or whatever you may have there for the guests.
Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family.....)...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Wedding question. SM
Okay, I'm confused as far as the gift process. I am invited to the bridal shower and the wedding and reception. My question is this, do I get two separate gifts - one for the bride for the bridal shower and one for the happy couple for the wedding? This is an older couple (in their 50s) and this is the second marriage for both.
If so, I need some nifty ideas for a bridal shower gift. Nothing naughty like lingerie or sex toys (which would be hilarious) because the bride is very, VERY refined and would not find any kind of humor in it at all. Plus the bridal shower will probably be elegant and tasteful and will make Emily Post proud. So I guess I should wear a bra and show up with a tasteful gift. 
Thanks!
Another wedding question... SM
I posted a question a few weeks back about a wedding I'm about to attend and whether I needed to give a gift at the bridal shower and the wedding...
Anyway, the wedding is this Saturday. I've been asked to be in charge of the guest book, whatever that means. The dress I bought for the wedding is red. Yesterday, I'm told that the bride isn't happy with that and that her wedding colors are periwinkle and some sort of pastel green.
Now, I'm very irritated. I'm told that I'm not part of the wedding party, but they just want me to make sure everyone signs the book. No one told me that I need to try and match the wedding colors and now five days before the wedding, I'm told the bride doesn't like that I have a red dress!!??
I came from out of town for this thing so this dress is the only dress I brought with me! I'm working from my hotel room so we could be here this whole week because my daughter is the flower girl and they needed to do a fitting for her and she had to be here for the rehearsal. Now they are suggesting I buy a new dress?
My response to the bride was if she doesn't like my dress, she can buy me a new one. Now her daughters are telling me I'm being difficult and ruining their mothers special moment. The groom does everything the bride tells him too, so he's not on my side even though he's my family. I have half a mind to get in my car and drive back to Missouri with my daughter and tell them all to take a flying leap!
Am I being unreasonable here?
WOW. Yes what a crazy wedding
Glad you have been demoted to program passer outer. LOL. Butterflies and 65 and 68 years old. CRAZY. Keep us posted about he reception. I am sure that should be a hoot too.
Enjoy yourself. It is almost over. LOL.
BTW - I am going to a wedding Sept 1st. They are going to have a pig roast. How about that?? I am from NJ and never been to a wedding like that before. Should be very exciting. Can't wait.
Going to an outdoor wedding on Sat.
where they are having a pig roast. Never heard of such a thing at a wedding, so should be interesting. Sunday going to my sister-in-law's summer home, as she calls it, (her trailer at a campsite). She loves it there and then laboring on Labor Day. Have to work. Enjoy the unofficial end of Summer.
Wedding poem? sm
DH and I are renewing our vows for our 20th anniversary. At first we didn't think this was going to happen but just found out it is a go and it is happening Wednesday. Would like for our daughter to read a poem. It will just be DH, DS, DD, myself, the preacher, and the Lord. Any suggestions. Am also posting on Christianity board for additional suggestions for DS. Thanks for any help!
What about Betsy's Wedding???
It is kind of an older movie with Molly Ringwold when she was very young and Alan Alda. This has got to be about the funniest movie I have seen. Also get Big Trouble with Peter Falk and Beverly De'Angelo, Robert Stack and others. This and In-Laws are about the funniest movies I have ever seen. Anyway we all get down in the dumps at times. I kind of dread the holidays sometimes because my sister's husband is so very rude and they are all very materialistic -- all they care about is money -- it is kind of hard to be around people like that. His mother just recently died and I don't think he shed one tear or even cared. It was just business as usual. Kind of shallow person. Oh well. Takes all kinds to make the world they say. So you just cheer up girl. Hope you feel better really soon.
Suzanne
destination wedding
I've thought about this - with just a few friends/family. . maybe a cruise or somewhere you could spend honeymoon?
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
X
Met at my brother's wedding.
My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
xx
I disagree. I still have my class ring (class of 1985). It's tucked away in my jewelry...
box. My fingers are too fat to wear it now, but it has sentimental value. Mine was just a metal ring as well and it still looks great.
I gave my class ring to a boyfriend back in the day and it wore it on his pinky. Then he lost it on the beach at the local lake. We ended up breaking up not too long after that and I thought I would never see my ring again. Then one day I'm reading the local paper and there's an add that said "LORI -- did you lose your class ring at city lake? Call... and describe the ring." I called the number and described the ring and it was mine. Thankfully I had had my full name inscribed inside the band of my class ring! The guy that found it was this little old man who had a one of those metal detectors and he spent his retirement days scanning beaches, parks, etc for change and what other treasures he could find. I couldn't thank him enough! He wouldn't take any kind of reward for finding it.
Just thought I'd share my class ring story. I feel that class rings, class keys (Do they still do that?), and yearbooks are such an important part of the high school years, but that's just me.
I have my wedding/engagement rings and now - sm
my mom's. My dad gave them to me after my mom died. However I cannot wear any of them since I have gained 70 pounds since I first married. My rings still fit after 30 pounds but now I just cannot do it. I bought 2 fake bands in larger sizes, but they are too tight now too. I am working now though to lose the weight and with any luck wear my rings again in about 5 months. As far as I know it does not bother him that I do not wear my rings, though once I get thin again we will see if that attitude changes, I have a feeling it may. As for my DH, he has worn his ring about 3 times, a waste of $750 (luckily that was a wholesale price and not retail--I have connections). He works with electron microscopes though, and it is dangerous for him to wear his ring, though he could if he really wanted to and was careful, but then he'd probably end up losing it. A co-worker had his on and an electron beam arched and literally welded his ring and finger to the gun in the microscope. Poor guy had quite a burn on his finger and quit wearing his ring after that. So most of the engineers there do not wear their rings. I do not have a problem with it though. He tells people he is married with kids if the subject ever comes up.
Son's wedding - Grandma is insisting
does not want at THEIR wedding. How do I, as the groom's mother, handle this. This has put us in a very awkward situation and I am not liking it at all. She calls me and then immediately calls our son and is leaving nasty messages on both phones. Threatening messages, may be a better word for it. By the way, grandma is also my mom.
Curious as to who is paying for the wedding?
x
La Venta Inn wedding - what to wear???
I've been invited to a wedding in CA at the LA Venta Inn the weekend of Thanksgiving. I would like some input on what to wear. Looks like a pretty nice place and I know they are trying for a sunset wedding ceremony - like around 4:30 with the reception at the Inn afterwards. I know it gets cool in the evenings, but if anyone has any suggestions on what to wear - I would appreciate it. Sounds like a formal or semi-formal affair. Thanks.
My father's 4th wedding was HUGE
They had a big Victorian wedding. They had a huge rehersal dinner, wedding and reception. She was married once before and had a small wedding. She wanted a big wedding. Maybe your father and this lady want to have a party with their friends and family?
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