Your dad having a girlfriend means nothing really
Posted By: don't you see that? sm on 2009-01-28
In Reply to: How would you feel about this... - sm
Your dad is in love with your mom. I don't know who initiated the divorce, but it seems very obvious your dad is still in love with your mom. Having a girlfriend is just to keep him from feeling so alone, but she obviously doesn't fill that void he has, which is his family and wanting that life he had. YOU are his family, you and your mom were the life he had; divorce doesn't make those feelings go away. I'm sure he does come by to see what your mom is doing or if she is at home but no doubt he just misses that closeness with you as well.
He wants to still know he has a family..... his girlfriend certainly isn't filling that void.
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The one where the guy's girlfriend is in his best
Too funny. Always cracks me up. Secret Luuuuverrrr.... (kam)
You go girlfriend!! nm
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Or Chandler's ex-girlfriend! GAG! Definitely a new gig
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My son and his girlfriend got their Chihuahua sm
that way. Her cousin moved to California and she asked her to keep Chewy and another cousin to keep Lea. Well, Chewy was apparently the more difficult poochie of the two with absolutely no discipline in the past and probably a little abuse as well since he was hand shy, but now is just the most lovable little stinker around. Let me tell you, he could show his teeth and growl and was not afraid of anything. I had no doubt at all he could and would bite. All he needed was just a little discipline and now he is great. Well, the cousin called Saturday and she said she was pregnant and could only take one dog back and she really didn't want Chewy so now he is a member of my son's house. He's quite comfortable here with my dogs too and his post is in front of the full view door where he can stretch in the sun and look outside. Begs like the big boys too! 
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Your father might have a girlfriend but
he is a lonely man and probably missing your mother and his family. Annoyed? That would all have to do with how much I loved my father, I guess.
Ex's new girlfriend calling my home
My ex-husband has a new girlfriend. She was introduced to my kids a few months ago, and they have only met her twice.
Yesterday was my son's birthday, and she called my home to wish him a happy birthday. This is, by the way, the 4th girlfriend he has introduced to the kids in the last 2 years. She doesn't even live in the same state as my ex.
Also, not one single member of ex's family acknowledged my son's birthday in any way, and my ex was only concerned about my son talking with his new girlfriend.
Am I wrong to be upset about this? I don't really care if he introduces people to the kids on his own time with them, but I feel like his girlfriends should not be calling MY home. I also feel like he should be encouraging people that my son actually knows and loves (like my ex's parents) to call him on his birthday.
Am I wrong to be upset about this or should I just keep my mouth shut about it? I feel like my personal space has been entered, and I really want to call her and tell her not to call my home.
What do you think?
Why doesn't he break up with his girlfriend?
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I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
My girlfriend went to school here in Atlanta
with Gladys Knight at Archer High.
This reminds me of a girlfriend of mine
who had some young age, gained some weight and really dressed always like her granny. One day picking the kids up from school someone remarked about why cute grandchildren she had! People without thinking can say some pretty stinging remarks sometimes, such as asking overweight lady when is she due!! I always when seeing a pretty baby go for the generic so I don't guess wrong and say pretty girl when it's a boy, just say what a cute little baby. The parent usually tells me girl or male or at least gives me a hint so I will know.
girlfriend named Shirley. What's not to like?
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Hang in there girlfriend. If you feel the trust
is there, then believe in it. Truely hope it works out for you. I have seen amazing turn-arounds in marriages. It can work.
Darn nice guy! Unless it was his girlfriend, then a jerk:) Good for you! nm
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bull, he was not too drunk he has a girlfriend. See the writing on the wall. nm
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It means...
I don't care for organized religion. I believe there are some truths in most religions - the Golden Rule, live a life of moderation, try to make the world a better place. I believe there are spiritual aspects to our existence, that we are not just bones and skin and blood, we are something more. As to exactly what that "more" consists of - I read, I study, I learn, I experience....maybe one day I'll figure it out. Or maybe not.
Don't know if this answers your question, but it's the best I can do.
perhaps? That means maybe...
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So that means don't put his name in
the hat for gift exchange or expect him to help decorate or attend a party. I think the amount the company spends per employee on any parties (if they are the ones paying) could simply be given to him as a check. Other employees could be told they have this option also. Maybe there is somebody else who thinks it's a lot of nonsense but just kept their mouth shut, but now they have the option of getting a check.
That's what I'd do if I were the OM or giving ideas to the OM. I'd still decorate if the majority want to, but avoid using real greenery for a completely different reason - a lot of people are now extremely allergic to Christmas trees or boughs that have been treated with some chemical to extend their life.
what it means
When he calls you that name, it means he has contempt for you. When he projects everything to be your fault, he also holds you in contempt. This is verbal and emotional abuse. As far as punching the wall, the wall is the stand in for what he would like to do to you and he may eventually punch you. Take it from me, who was called every dirty name ever invented by my spouse and whose doors and walls had holes and dents.
I would put your well-being and that of your child first and seek therapy. It would be great if he went, but he sees you as the problem, and he may refuse to go. You can't fix him. He needs to fix himself.
As much as you may not want to hear this, leaving him may be the best thing for your own sanity and self-preservation and also so your child doesn't have to grow up in that environment.
If you can't afford therapy, there may be a battered woman's group in your area that can give you information and advice. I utilized my local group and found it very helpful.
The only regret that I have about my marriage is that I stayed in it far too long.
means.
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I think she means
that with unstable dry sand, or even with sand of a wetter consistency, if a hole is too deep (over a child's head)it is possible for them to be in the hole and the sides collapse in on top of them. Just inform your kids that they cannot dig over a foot or so deep; make whatever limit you feel safe with. There's nothing to fear if they keep it shallow.
This happened to a man I knew years ago with dirt, not sand, but I agree it would be possible in sand and probably easier done. He was working in a ditch deeper than he was tall, and when it collapsed on top of him, it killed him. I do believe that is what 'SM' is warning against.
And that means?
Marriage is mostly a gamble. Some turn out alright, some don’t. I think it has nothing to do with the fact of the friend spilling her soul to a daughter.
thank you so much that means a lot to me
i'm in tears. I'm so glad you are happy.
No, I would not go. If that means he goes and you spend TG by yourself so be it.
After enduring 13 years of the "in-laws" I gave my husband an ultimatum - either them or me and I meant it. I was not putting up with them anymore. Fortunately, he chose me and his kids, and our lives have been so peaceful for the past 6 years without them in it! I just severed the ties.
Good luck with your situation. I really feel for you.
My mom always says "stay away from those who disrupt your inner peace." I listened to her advice.
I could be wrong but I think the OP means....sm
I read the OP's post as meaning if HEAVEN FORBID something happened either to their relationship (breaking up for example) or to her DH (heaven forbid but we don't know around the corner, eh?) - that she perhaps might want more children (with a 2nd husband is how I read this). I don't read it as selfish - I read it as WHAT IF HE DIES.......and she chooses to get remarried or WHAT IF THEY DIVORCE and she chooses to get remarried.
So, yeah, to the OP - the post made some *sense* to me as you were hoping it made to most of us. Best luck! 
I don't think he is spoiled by any means..sm
he just likes natural food. There is nothing wrong with that. If it was my kitty though, and this is not meant to be judgemental so please don't take it that way, I would probably delay the vacation until the kitty was a little older. But that's just me.
The word means to
water something down, not meaning neuter. IF you have a concetrated solution, you can put water in and that would so call neutralize it. Two completely different words.
I think a *record* means NOTHING if you have to - sm
CHEAT (i.e., steroids) in order to achieve it. He's still so OBVIOUSLY all 'roided up.... puffy face, oversized neck, etc. Heck, if I shot all that junk into my body, I could probably hit just as many homers out of the park, and I don't even play baseball!
I'm just SO thankful they didn't interrupt *Big Brother* to bring us the *news*.
yes, it means something to the Jewis and to
A little cultural education about others goes a long, long way!! You might want to check into it......
It means, that back then you were in the sm
midst of full living and happiness with important people in your life. To pay attention to now because now is here and you should be creating happiness at this moment so when you look back you can say, ahhh, that was all good. You deserve to be happy. So if your not, find a way. If you are, be aware of it and count your blessings!
I think it means sharp tap.
Kind of like a teacher might do on her desk to get the class' attention.
I think it means you are still willing to learn (sm)
Something I have noticed about being "defined" is that sometimes it gets in the way of learning something new or even correcting old cherished ideas that are really wrong.
I have come to have definite and convictions about things, but it took time and something I still do is draw contrasts with other ideas to see if I still am comfortable thinking the way I do. Some things I have become more sure of, some refined and others discarded.
If I was going to give advice, I would say to keep asking questions about things and when you get answers, analyze whether they really make sense. It sounds like that is already what you do. As you go, you will become more sure about some things you believe now and other things are yet to be discovered.
One more thing I would advise: Keep an open mind and don't discount anyone as possibly having the information you need to find what is right and true.
No, it means you had sex on the same night, 13
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Thank you for caring. It means a lot.
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I think OP means she would use the terms
mentally handicapped or mentally challenged. At least those are the terms I usually hear now-a-days. Good luck to you and your family.
We always have it the night of. Which means
if they set the date for that weekend, it will "interfere" with the rehearsal, dinner, etc.
Let him join 4H by all means
My neice has participated in 4H going on her 5th year since she was 8. jShes' now 12 and she shows her horse, plus she does enters cooking projects, art, scrapbooking, and crafts. There are so many different interests and programs for any kid. Besides horses, there are rabbits and guinea pigs, plus all the assorted farm animals. There's archery and competetive shooting. Public speaking, woodworking, art projects, cooking, sewing, dog training, just about anything you can think of. Your son doesn't not have to have a horse to participate. Join a club that has a horse group. A lot of times the leaders have horses they'll loan a kid for the year or know someone who will. Don't let that stop you. If you're in a position to do it, you can lease a horse. That's what we did at first, we leased her horse for 6 months and then ended up buying him. 4H helps keep them out of trouble. Teaches them responsibility and gives them self-esteem. It's a family organization, so you and your husband can partiicipate if you like, they're always looking for adult volunteers. Check with the county extension office where you live or in another county, if you like. You should be able to find info online. There's no residency requirement. Tell them what you're looking for and they'll try to find a club that's a good fit for your son.
By all means, keep the vet appointment sm
just to make sure of what's going on. She could have just about anything, from arthritis, tendinitis, Lyme, or even a blood clot. I'm glad the med is helping her. Is it Rimadyl? I would avoid using aspirin until you hear from the vet.
Yes, like I said, by all means go to Al-Anon. sm
You work the Al-Anon program for yourself and not for the alcoholic. You'll be more than glad you did. Not to necessarily save your marriage, but to save YOURSELF.
this usually means some atypical cells
were seen - usually nothing diagnostic - sometimes something treatable (in which case I would think they would give you a script) like yeast. They are not worried, just want to make sure that it is okay in 6 months or if it isn't then it may be something diagnostic. It happened to me once - think it may also have been after relatively recent birth. Shakes you up but it is probably okay.
at their age, they know what "at work" means, and-
nm
I don't either. If she loves your brother, that means she SM
should love you too, or, at the very least, respect the love you have for one other. She doesn't seem very loving.
My stepdaughter just got booted out of house by my stepson DH bought for the two of them by his new girlfriend. Doesn't exactly sound like love.
If you love man, you must love family or at least try to get along.
Sorry you had a bad time. Again, I don't understand this behavior. Life is easier when all get along and life is too darn short.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
I know for a fact that you dreaming of your ex means sm
that you are "yearning" for a closeness like you once felt. If you are married or have been for a long time, when you are neglected emotionally, spiritually and physically, your body goes back to something you once had that was good.
I don't know if it is our subconscience trying to tell us something (like leave your loser husband if he's not doing a thing for you), but it's saying something to us.
In any case, that's what they usually mean.
One can't put a price tag on what Christmas really means but...sm
if we didn't set limits/budgets in our household then we'd end up spending a cazillion bucks on the season. Having limits set helps keeps us on track of not getting carried away buying gifts yet lets us purchase gifts for people to Celebrate the season.... just as the wise men took gifts when Jesus was born to celebrate his birth. Setting limits gives everyone who is buying in our family line parameters for what kind of gifts they need to look at. Fortunately no one in our family line needs anything per se but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give them a gift. We do buy gifts in addition for foster kids and that comes from a different section of our family budget.
Yes. And discipline means desciple.
Parents are to provide discipline, desciple means one who is taught. Spare the rod means let them do whatever feels right. Well, in the real world that is a dangerous way to approach life. So, to me spare the rod means if you don't set boundaries, spoil the child, you have a child always testing boundaries who will someday have no or little morals. At least that is my idea of the saying.
Having pain occasionally probably means it's nothing (sm)
to worry about. It's probably that the "density" of the breast tissue makes it difficult to identify anything out of the ordinary.
Ya know, just by being in certain part of country means
your name is that common. My mother, grandparents living in south- named Paradiso. I don’t consider that very southern but here is where we live. You generalize when you say certain names for certain parts of the country. My last name is now French- but hubby and I both southern.....
That's what I thought too....not necessarily means yes (nm)
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"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
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What works best for me and am not cured by any means - sm
I am highly allergic to dust mites. I mean off the chart allergic to them. I am slightly allergic to pig weed but nothing else at all. For years I have had my mattresses and pillows encased, no carpet in my entire house, HEPA filter in bedroom and home office, no curtains in the bedroom, and I got allergy shots for 4 years, which did no good at all. I am still having to take various prescription allergy meds and nose spray on a daily basis. The doctor did tell me kids do much better with allergy shots, especially for dust mites, than adults because their immune systems are still forming. All I know is you have got to eliminate as many allergens as possible and keep trying different things to see what works best.
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