Why doesn't he break up with his girlfriend?
Posted By: nm on 2007-02-01
In Reply to: Okay, girls, I need some insight here on a personal level. (sm) - Wondering
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The one where the guy's girlfriend is in his best
Too funny. Always cracks me up. Secret Luuuuverrrr.... (kam)
You go girlfriend!! nm
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Or Chandler's ex-girlfriend! GAG! Definitely a new gig
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My son and his girlfriend got their Chihuahua sm
that way. Her cousin moved to California and she asked her to keep Chewy and another cousin to keep Lea. Well, Chewy was apparently the more difficult poochie of the two with absolutely no discipline in the past and probably a little abuse as well since he was hand shy, but now is just the most lovable little stinker around. Let me tell you, he could show his teeth and growl and was not afraid of anything. I had no doubt at all he could and would bite. All he needed was just a little discipline and now he is great. Well, the cousin called Saturday and she said she was pregnant and could only take one dog back and she really didn't want Chewy so now he is a member of my son's house. He's quite comfortable here with my dogs too and his post is in front of the full view door where he can stretch in the sun and look outside. Begs like the big boys too! 
Nip Tuck - CT's girlfriend
Feel free to email me. I'm a huge fan. Love, love, love the show and especially Julian McMahon. Pretty graphic but great stories. I'm sure you'll love the first two seasons. I just started watching last year, but I've been watching a lot of the first two seasons on You Tube and a few other sites.
Our local target had the first three seasons for $14.99 so I got myself an early Christmas present.
Your father might have a girlfriend but
he is a lonely man and probably missing your mother and his family. Annoyed? That would all have to do with how much I loved my father, I guess.
Your dad having a girlfriend means nothing really
Your dad is in love with your mom. I don't know who initiated the divorce, but it seems very obvious your dad is still in love with your mom. Having a girlfriend is just to keep him from feeling so alone, but she obviously doesn't fill that void he has, which is his family and wanting that life he had. YOU are his family, you and your mom were the life he had; divorce doesn't make those feelings go away. I'm sure he does come by to see what your mom is doing or if she is at home but no doubt he just misses that closeness with you as well.
He wants to still know he has a family..... his girlfriend certainly isn't filling that void.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
Ex's new girlfriend calling my home
My ex-husband has a new girlfriend. She was introduced to my kids a few months ago, and they have only met her twice.
Yesterday was my son's birthday, and she called my home to wish him a happy birthday. This is, by the way, the 4th girlfriend he has introduced to the kids in the last 2 years. She doesn't even live in the same state as my ex.
Also, not one single member of ex's family acknowledged my son's birthday in any way, and my ex was only concerned about my son talking with his new girlfriend.
Am I wrong to be upset about this? I don't really care if he introduces people to the kids on his own time with them, but I feel like his girlfriends should not be calling MY home. I also feel like he should be encouraging people that my son actually knows and loves (like my ex's parents) to call him on his birthday.
Am I wrong to be upset about this or should I just keep my mouth shut about it? I feel like my personal space has been entered, and I really want to call her and tell her not to call my home.
What do you think?
I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
My girlfriend went to school here in Atlanta
with Gladys Knight at Archer High.
This reminds me of a girlfriend of mine
who had some young age, gained some weight and really dressed always like her granny. One day picking the kids up from school someone remarked about why cute grandchildren she had! People without thinking can say some pretty stinging remarks sometimes, such as asking overweight lady when is she due!! I always when seeing a pretty baby go for the generic so I don't guess wrong and say pretty girl when it's a boy, just say what a cute little baby. The parent usually tells me girl or male or at least gives me a hint so I will know.
girlfriend named Shirley. What's not to like?
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Hang in there girlfriend. If you feel the trust
is there, then believe in it. Truely hope it works out for you. I have seen amazing turn-arounds in marriages. It can work.
Darn nice guy! Unless it was his girlfriend, then a jerk:) Good for you! nm
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bull, he was not too drunk he has a girlfriend. See the writing on the wall. nm
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It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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Well...I took a break for a while but... (sm)
I left the field for a year and came back. It does get old but...so did my other job. And the other job had other problems too - you're 5 minutes late, fill out a little pink form, etc., etc. and the commute was awful. And then there are the office politics. Basically, I try to find exciting things to do when I am not working and I limit my hours. Even though I work at home, I have pretty well set hours and I try not to do other than those. I find that the earlier I get up and get going, even though I am not a morning person, the earlier I finish and the better I am able to focus while I'm working. All I can say is, the grass isn't greener anywhere else - There is a different set or problems with every job. BUT My ass is also ever-expanding haha!! And a break in the sunshine is always nice!! You don't get to do that when you work in most offices.
Oh cut me a break?
Are you kidding me?  This kind of stuff happens all of the time even when you are WATCHING them! Get a life!  To the OP, this kind of stuff happens all of the time. You are doing the right thing being at home with your child. As if..... Boy just when you think you've seen it all on this board! Someone comes on with a one-liner-NM statement like that. 
As a kid I would break them
and roll the mercury around in my hand. Little did I know that I could "glow" one of these days by doing that.
Break myself from
visiting sites like these after every 2 charts are typed.
GIVE ME A BREAK
If she can afford a Cadillac Escalade, then why is she on food stamps? This has nothing to do people who DESERVE the aid given to them in this country via food stamps or anything else. It's about the people who lie and abuse the system and YOU and I PAY for it in our taxes. Open your mind.....not your legs!!
Here's how we break down our $1000....sm
4 of us living in the house receive gifts totaling no more than $110 (including Santa gifts), so that's $440.
My husband's parents and my mom receive gifts that $50-75, so we allot $225 for the parent gifts.
My husband and I have 4 siblings & spouses between us and they receive gifts that cost no more than $25 each. That's $200.
We have 4 nephews/nieces and they're allotted $20/gift, so that's $80.
The remaining $55 is spent on the little $5 gifts for teachers, close friends and neighbors... usually we bake things or pick up nick-nack things to keep it under $5. Any gift that comes under budget has that surplus added to the gifts for us "basic 4" - which helps my husband and kids focus on watching sale ads and surfing the net for deals for decent gifts.
This year I got some incredible deals on eBay. For my husband I bought a brand new with tags still on it Ralph Lauren suit for $50, including the shipping, and another brand new suit with tags on it for $35 including shipping. For our parents we got a deal with Omaha Steaks where for $60 including shipping they receive a bunch of steaks, pork chops, potatoes and all sorts of stuff. I'm on their e-mail list and when we get notices of the "super sales" we buy most of our meat from them as many of their sales make it cheaper than the stores, and the quality of the food is superb.
Something else needs to break on your computer.
Bake him another pie! :)
What a nice break!
Only 24 hours though, seriously?! That's just too danged short!
I went there maybe 10 years ago and went to the keys...oh wow just gorgeous. LOVE the fact that there are a ton of "tiki" bars serving fruity drinks almost everywhere down there. We took our rental car and DROVE right on Daytona Beach! I dunno if you can still do that or not but it was incredibly fun!
When it was time to go home I actually cried. On the drive back to the airport we pulled over some place and took a walk through some sort of boardwalk in a swamp and saw a few spiders that were as big as my head. I got totally heebed out and deciced it was really time to go back to New England, cause that just ain't right.
Glad you had a safe trip and welcome back!
My drink on break
I think today at the mall I will order something to drink that I hate instead of getting what I like. That way I can complain. Same theory as continuing to read what one considers immature and boring in lieu of just going on and developing your own constructive topics that you like.
PJs first thing until my 1st break...
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Give her a break.
From her posts it sounds to me like she is just very concerned for her friend. I take it you don't have anyone that you're that close too. I have a best friend who lives across the street. We talk all the time and see each other almost every day. If all of sudden she just stopped for whatever reason I'd be very concerned. And yes, I have a life. To the OP, just keep being a friend. Hopefully once the baby is older and she starts to feel better, things will get back to normal. I don't see anything wrong with at least sending a card.
I'm on my way! Have to wait for break! NM
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MIL is lonely, cut her a break! nm
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Give me a break........
You are upset by her calling a dog stupid? Goodness gracious people. Someone complains about their elderly mother with medical problems being bothered by dogs and all you can say is to not call the dog stupid. Sheesh. Some people just amaze me.
How do I break this cycle?
I admit I have spoiled my furbabies (3 cats) with treats and now I have to pay the piper so to speak. The furries are worse than children. As I sit at my desk working during the day they come and they meow and they meow and, well you get the idea. When husband is off, they are very quiet and do not approach my work space. How in the world do I break them from this addiction to the treats they have? If I shut my door they just meow outside the door so that is no help. Any suggestions? .
Spring Break
Our Spring Break is the week of the 13th. That's one of the weeks I take off from work so we can do things with the kids. Usually we take our vacation then and go away. Luckily it's usually half way decent here so at least the kids can go out and get some fresh air and play with the other kids in the neighborhood. Does your school district have any type of program for the kids during the break? Here there's a camp that the kids can go to at various locations.
Oh, lordy....gimme a break.
Where does this person LIVE???!!! Yucky, yucky, yucky...I feel gross after just reading it and picturing these things. Ptouey!! This woman needs some meds, and quick!
Robe until first break (I start at 4 am)...
then shower at 6 am and put on yoga pants and comfy shirt. Sometimes even put on a bit of make up just in case someone shows up! A bit more professional than working in robe or jammies all day!
I am sure in would break my MILs heart too but - sm
we spent the day up there for TG; my FIL spent about 10 minutes watching them play outside, then retreated to his recliner and read a book the whole day; my MIL spent absolutely no time with them at all; after all her whining that she doesn't get to see the kids much, and no she was not busy in the kitchen for the 8 hours we were there. I pointed this out to my DH because I don't think he believed me when I said the times I have gone there to spent the night there with the kids, they barely interact with them. So I am sick of their whining (my In-laws) about not spending enough time with the kids.....my MIL couldn't resist a couple digs either but I just ignored them, maybe if she had actually played with them I'd bring them up more...my BIL actually played with them most of the time....
hate to break the news but...
if I saw something like I did back in the 80s today I stil could not take a picture, cellphone wise, camera or otherwise. don’t use my cell for pictures, don’t own a camera (movie or otherwise) - I guess would just have to keep to myself as I have done for those past years, nothing to document except my word.
Need a little YouTube break from typing? - sm
Then take a mini-tour of San Francisco, the way we skaters like to enjoy it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jwe8B2o7EhE&feature=related
Huh? How did you break a tooth there that you wouldn't have (sm)
anywhere else?
Hate to break your heart
When I read the first part I thought that was an odd thing to say, especially since he keeps saying it. I would say to him "why wouldn't I believe it and why do you have to keep asking if I believe you". I don't know much about the relationship (long distance-local). If (and I'm just assuming this is an if) he is long distance he might have a wife or girlfriend. You can't trust what he says if you can't see the situation with your own eyes. If he hasn't called there is definitely something wrong (hence I would start to believe he has another girlfirend or wife). Have you ever been to this persons home, seen where he lives, or any of that?
The second part of the message is what bothered me. When someone borrows money no matter how much you care about them no matter how much they borrow they should pay it back. I know you care a lot about this person, but to lend someone money is a very dangerous thing. I know from experience.
We loaned my BIL some money about 4 years ago. We helped him get out of some payday loans and I went through his budget very very carefully and spent almost 3 weeks constructing a budget for him to live on to including a separate bill for paying us back (a certain amount each month), but this budget also included some "fun money" for him - not a lot but would give him the means to go to a movie or grab a pizza once a week. Anyway...here it is 4 years later and he has only paid us back less than half of what he ows us. He keeps giving us the line "I'm good for it" "I love you guys a lot" "You know you can trust me" "I won't let you down". I keep getting these "lines" from him (and he's my BIL). My point I am saying is this is my BIL and he keeps giving me the same type of lines it sound like this person is giving you.
Please be very very cautious with this relationship and just remember, there are hundreds of other fish in the sea who you will meet and will fall in love with you and won't have to add "I hope you believe that".
So, I hate to break your heart but I think he is taking advantage of your kindness and has no intentions of anything further. If I was in your shoes I'd send this person an email ditching him, and remove the email from my contact list and have no further contact with him.
My DH's motto that he keeps instilling into me for the past 25 years.... "Trust No One".
I've had to break into my own house more than once!! nm
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Is there an easy way to break bad news? (sm)
I've been left in charge of our finances. Last year we ran into a blip on both of our parts - DH had his problems and my workload lessening to where I wasn't bringing in as much as before. I never dreamed it would come out, but it's about to and I'm not sure how to tell him. A few times during the past year, our car payment was late, not to mention I have made arrangements with a few credit cards to pay them off through a collector. As a result, we are not qualified for a home loan until one year from now. The mortgage lady told me to straighten up our unpaid bills and come back in a year.
DH doesn't know these things and now I have to tell him. It's not one or the other, it was both of us involved, but I didn't have enough money to make payments on the credit cards, they fell behind to the point of not being able to make the payments. He's asking me to find out if we would qualify for a home loan, but I already know the answer. How do I break this to him and that we need to take a year to straighten out our credit?
Stealing child: How to break the habit??? sm
We have a 6-year-old foster child whose birth mom had a stealing problem. Our 6-year-old has had several episodes where she was caught stealing both before she came to live with us and since moving in with us. Conversations with her about it being wrong to steal, talking with the caseworker, psychologist & even a policeman have helped but occasionally she steals something from a store anyway. The last episode was this weekend when she stole some nail polish when my husband turned his back for a moment, even when she was being allowed to buy some lip gloss she was wanting.
Does anyone have any ideas of how to get her to stop stealing? I've talked to the local juvenile court system and all they said was they couldn't do anything unless she is actually arrested.... which of course we're trying to stop. Of note her biological mother had a problem with being arrested several times for stealing and even though it's not documented, we suspect that this child would see her mother steal or her mom had her steal at times for her. There are plenty of times we can go into a store without problems with her, it's only every few months she steals.
Thank you.
Anyone every break a blood vessel in their eye. I just did and it looks awful. nm
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Spring Break!!! Let's go to the Labrador Islands!!
nm
Would break my heart if my grandkids didn't want to come over. (sm)
Actually they truly love to take turns spending the night and being the "only one" for a while.
I don't think you should force them either. They can visit without having to be stuck there spending the night.
She should re-evaluate herself and wonder why they don't love to come see granny.
Give me a break and crawl back
into the hole you came from!
A friend called me today on my break SM
and says she and her husband visited her husband's uncle last night in a local hospital here in our town. The nurse came in and gowned and gloved and wore a mask when taking vital signs while they were there. My friend went out to the desk and asked why . . . The patient has MRSA. No sign on door, no special instructions or precautions given to the public about visiting this patient. She says they were there for about an hour or so and she touched him different times during the visit. What do you think? The souce of the MRSA is unknown at this point. I told her to call her primary care and discuss this issue with him. 
Three main reasons why marriages break up...
money, in-laws, cheating.....
FOR THE LOVE OF MIKE - GIVE HER A BREAK - SM
She's been saying she is GETTING OUT. Why don't you stop beating her up about this!
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