maybe it's anonymous because the person knows you would say Not True.

• What would you do? - sm
  • I would not dismiss this. - Grain of truth
  • I do not believe a guy sent this - Katie
  • I doubt a guy would send an anonymous letter- sm -
    • I sorta laughed at the place where you said your husband - Reading your post
    • more on above - as I said in my case - sm -
      • He could have asked you to buy them because (sm) - just me
        • No, he wanted them because he - sm -
          • Have you not heard the saying, once a cheat - Wondering
            • you guys are missing the point, -sm -
              • Are You Kidding Me? - Wake Up
                • Still wondering? - larry
      • If I knew there was a history of cheating on former wives, - Kendra
  • I agree with those who say don't be so - sm
  • If you have kids you have to be careful sm - anonamiss
  • It really sounds suspicious for revenge, and (sm) - Me
  • I wouldn't accuse him, but I would show him the - letter.
  • I would not accuse him, but I would definately look into it. - Karen
  • I would investigate it further... - MT
  • been there with the ex - shelley
  • I would trust my husband and throw it away... - Kendra
    • having said that, I would tell my husband about the letter... - Kendra
  • I'd have to check into it - been there too
  • Did he see the note? - OldMT
  • Unless I lived in the tiniest town, I would get - professional help
  • If you're sure it isn't true, ignore it - Old part-timer
  • I would investigate. There may be some - Been there, divorced that
    • maybe it's anonymous because the person knows you would say Not True. - nm
      • I would look into it if it were me. - OldMT
        • Sorry, corrected post from above. - OldMT
          • Don't be so quick to ignore it - lrlrlady

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I think YOU might be ill and need a therapist.  I'm not that poster but I think your response here is assumptive and presumptive and you *seem* so much smarter than this.....you cannot assume anything on a public board online....and you said YOU'D BET YOUR FIRST BORN on your thoughts about that poster.....I think you need to recheck your priorities...........

JMO..........

With this being a major factor in the political arena right now I wanted to ask this: 

For anyone who has ever had an abortion (and there are many of us), were/are you ok with it still or did you have a period of extreme guilt/anxiety over it?  I had one and did not terribly regret it, other than a short grief period, until I actually had children.  I went through about two years of horrible guilt and remorse.  I am now pro-life. I feel an abortion kills an innocent child and causes emotional scars for the mother that will never go completely away.  I feel that I am not deserving of complete happiness in my life, ever, because I denied my child the right to have a life and attempt to find happiness.  I know my reasons at that time and I know I felt like it was something I had to do, but the fact is many of us had them to avoid the shame, embarassment and/or financial burden that we feared.  We thought we couldn't give our child a decent life even if we had him/her.  The thing is, for the small price of some embarassment/shame and inconvenience, we could have given a family without a child a chance to have a child to love and raise, we could have given that child an opportunity to grow and seek happiness, even with obstacles to overcome.  Instead, many of us chose a more selfish route, convincing ourselves it was less selfish.  Anyway, that's how I feel about it.  How about you.

How common do you think it is?  I think it is very, very common.  Statistics show it affects about 1 in 3 people.  Do you know anyone who has it? (self included?)

I know a few people who have it.

With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him.  I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces.  The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?

Second child, same experience.  She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs.  I had already put my regular clothes back on as well.  My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.

I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases.  With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.

posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism?   Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about.  I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.

I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time.  But then be done with it.  He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him.  Change the locks. 

Be strong.  Hugs to you.   

After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water.  Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet.  I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with.  Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another.  All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive.  Now I have IBS and colitis.  I can't exercise because I have to battle real and exhausting pain for the next 2 hours.  I have pain every single day.  I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat.  I've been with 2 different GI's during this time, failed 5 or 6 different medicines, and still can't lose weight, diet or exercise.  My pay has been cut in half.  I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again.

The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues. 

The calling card is yours if you want, but I didn't receive a reply address; the "From" field was blank for some reason.  If you could resend, that would be great! 

You could use all kinds of psychological terms like "codependent" and "enabling" but the fact is, she is a mooch and you are a sucker.

Harsh, I know, because you were trying to be nice and help someone. But there are some people you just can't be "nice" to. They will walk all over you. Obviously, she is one of those people.

If you're angry at anyone, you should be angry at yourself for taking so long to figure this out.

But that would be a waste of time. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Cut your ties with this person as much as possible, and if on occasion you have to see her for whatever reason, practice saying "No. No. NO."