Unless I lived in the tiniest town, I would get
Posted By: professional help on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: What would you do? - sm
Unless everybody in town knows everything about you and all your personal business...(I live in a large city and would be mortified to receive anything like this), hire a private investigator.
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That one tiniest girl looks like even 14 is a stretch - more like 10!
melanine in wheat gluten meant for pet food, wouldn't have any problem at all, I'm sure, falsifying age documents if it means getting a gold medal, especially in THEIR OWN COUNTRY. The ambition to look good in the eyes of the world and their own country, not to mention the fact that how EASY would it be to get away with it in their own country as opposed to another country, and I'd be very, very surprised if all of those girls aren't underage.
Of course, I applaud them on their excellent performances - they kicked our butts yesterday. But if that government truly does yank the kids out of school at 3 to be forced to be gymnasts, then it's possible the girls themselves don't even know their true ages. Might have been lied to about their ages as soon as they showed Olympic potential.
This town has been through so much. The same storm that hit the town of Enterprise sm
the high school where 15+ kids died when a tornado hit their school, destroyed this hospital in Americus, GA. The town was devastated. Please see this local news link to help them win an MRI machine. Thanks everyone!!
http://www.wrbl.com/index.php/news/article/sumter-regional-hospital-enters-contest/3057/
What to do when you are going to be out of town
of someone whose mother and grandmother are past coworkers?
We live in a small community and they live also in my neighborhood. This young girl was only 20 years old. She has been sick off and on all her life with kidney problems and even had a transplant a few years ago. Her father had given his kidney and then he passed away from an accident a couple of years after that. So tragic for this family and their losses.
What could I do for this family. My mother is going to visitation and will pass on why I couldnt be there.
What do you say to someone who has lost a child. I cannot find the words.
Are you in my old town?
I am jealous. As soon as we can we are going back. I miss people who really care and are genuine. We live in a "transient" town, growing continuously, construction everywhere, drugs, alcohol, plastic people, and Stepford Wives are everywhere. Gambling is legal here and all that goes with it are all around you all the time including those who live for it to the detriment of themselves and their families. We went to the DMV yesterday, could not get in, could not even park there after an hour of cruising around looking for a spot. It appeared that only one other person was an American that we saw the whole time. Most were illegal aliens. We have lots of casinos, construction companies, hotels, and lawn services who apparently are unable to properly "screen" them and isn't it great that they have all that cheap labor? Can't go to the DMV tomorrow, it is closed for Vets Day. Can hardly wait to try again. Hope there is at least one other "grandma" there when I get there.
We have one nice neighbor next door on one side - normal, kind, helpful, sharing, caring with a darling little child. Our other neighbor on the other side is a nut-case (and I am being kind here). He speaks to no one. He has a girlfriend now, thank goodness. I say that because before she arrived he removed all lawns, all plants, and just let ugly weeds grown in his yard about knee high. He landscaped the front now and there are flowers on his porch. He still sprays Roundup over the totality of his back yard every season, which is huge, about an acre, so dirt blows over here constantly. For years he just drove off to work (he uses a remote and cruises out, closes the door, and disappears. Like the Burbs. When he leaves he wears a wig (seriously)that is in dire need of thinning and styling. When he comes home it is the same with furtive looks left and right to see if anyone notices him. He is drunk a lot. We know that because then he starts going outside and spies on the neighborhood and he is then without his wig. Whenever we have a family yard project he gets on the roof and watches us. Barbecues in our yard or swims in the pool are not private either if he has been drinking. He likes to "watch." He yells at kids who are unfortunate enough to trick or treat at his house or go there to sell tickets to car washes for the school, etc. Cusses and threatens, they tell us. Says he does not want any rotten kids in his yard. He hates all animals and has been approached by the sheriff for shooting cats and shooting at dogs of our good neighbor from across two fences (my husband was in the line of fire one of those times and the jerk almost got him). He wouldn't answer his door and hid like a woman when I became enraged and banged on his door after that incident.
I want to move so much that I can almost feel what it would be like to drive off from here. I thought the old creep would "move soon" so we have never relocated to get away from him. That is obviously not going to happen and it is 20 years later and here we all are. We have to go outside with all our animals constantly out of fear that he may harm them. I guess he got into serious trouble for is escpades because he now tries to keep his animal hatred down to simply trapping any living creature that comes into his yard and then he has the pound come and pick them up.
I would give a lot if I could live in a community filled with people like yours and the funny part is that when I had that I don't think I appreciated it, just took it for granted. Enjoy your Thanksgiving with them and never move to a place like this! I can't wait to get out of here! Save me a spot for when my husband finally retires. I want three horses, chickens, a couple of cows and a pig. I will bring my three dogs and sit on the porch and be thankful for the friendly feeling!
Yes, my town does have and I have thought
about this also. The deputy police this morning told me he has served them before and also when swearing out warrant told by a person in the court had others that this company did same to. If no money in the morning, will definitely see about the television stations. I know I can garnish if I could only find out where they bank.
But you know, with Ms Little Flit Around Town
this probably will be bad for her. Now you and I would not be able to tell the difference as we work from home and stay home a whole lot, but her?? How will she pose from home - will they bring the red carpet to her? Oh, I really feel sorry for that poor little rich girl.
As kind of the new kid in town....
and a very rural town at that, I introduced myself to all my neighbors in walking distance and let them know who I was, gave them my phone number if they ever needed anything, and let them know I was gonna be bringing in some stinky animals and told them I would be doing my best to ensure they wouldn't stink up their joints. I couldn't believe how welcoming everyone was! People were genuinely happy to have farm-y neighbors and admitted they were worried when they heard we were "from away," as they thought we'd be tearing down the little house we bought to put up a McMansion or something. Neighbors even came by with carrots for the animals and asked if their kids could pat the horses and stuff. One family even invites us to their home for Thanksgiving every year because they know we don't have any family nearby and really can't leave the animals for any length of time. They give us hugs and welcome us into their home like we are their family. I can't describe the feeling--it's just awesome.
Now, when we lived in a condo in the city--out of about 100 buildings we knew maybe 3 of our neighbors. Imagine, packed in like sardines and we never talked to anyone. Rush rush rush, keep your head low and don't make eye contact. Darndest thing....of course hardly anyone spoke English as a first language there, but it was still weird to check your mail and have a bunch of people nearby and no one spoke--very icy. I'm so glad I reverted to bumpkin-like livin'.
Get this one, ad running here in town
It is a person supposedly in medical field and she is saying got a job at XYZ and says "see what X college have done for me." I want to call the place, tried to find a number- is that the way you want to be represented? Terrible English.
I am in a small town between
Abilene and San Angelo called Ballinger. My husband has relatives in Abilene.
also being from a small town...
I would call and speak to the principal directly about what you heard. You can do this anonymous if you want, just don't use your phone as they very often have caller id now. I think it is up to the principal to decide if the comments of your child/friends have any merit. The principal should have ALL information and he/she should go from there. To me, my first and foremost priority would be my child. As for this child being falsely accused of something...well...maybe his parents should have taught him to be prepared to deal with the possible consequences of his actions. All kids make mistakes but sooner or later this individual will have to answer for his remarks and take responsibilty for himself - from my point of view, the sooner the better. I would definitely want to know if my child was speaking to others in this manner. I would not want to jump to conclusions but if your gut feelings say to keep your child home from school, do it. Missing a couple days from school is not the end of the world and I am certain he will not be the only one.
In a town hall
In Denmark by the mayor of the town.
Now that I live in town -- 3
We've only been living in town for about a year now. In that time, I've only had to borrow an ice pack from the 1. We have also asked another neighbor to dog-sit for the weekend and my other neighbor I've known since I was in high school and would think nothing of asking her if I needed something (she's also my stylist). I'm literally right around the corner from the grocery store, so it would be very hard for me to ask for an egg or milk, etc.
When we lived in the country, we only had 2 neighbors, but I the last things I borrowed from them were lemon juice and eggs.
When I first got married, though, I used to live right beside my grandma and just across from parents. We used to always call one another for a roll of toilet paper. I don't know how we always ended up in that situation, but we did. I guess it was just part of the newlywed process for me (don't know about my parents and grandparents).
I used to live in a town of 200, but now (sm)
I live in a city in the southwest that I believe is close to a population of 1 million or will hit 1 million shortly. It was definitely a shock coming from a small, midwestern town of 200, but I love the big city! :)
small town.
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that i'd never live in a town again.
i grew up in the city, married and then lived in the country for 20 yr. Said now one'd ever get me to live in town again. Then we moved to another state and couldn't afford a place in the country, with prices higher here. But its a tiny town and though i'd rather live in the country by far, its not that bad...
In my small town
He was a city boy from 12 hours away living with a cousin for a while. I was a small town country girl. We met one night after I got off work and met up with my best friend to go "riding" around. He was with a friend of mine who was his cousin's girlfriend. We got into her car and rode around together. He was asking my friend about me that same night. He finally called about a month later after some misinformation that I was seeing someone and we've been together ever since. I was 16, he was 19. Married 12 years this year with the three best kids in the world!
I don't even know what that is... lived in CA, AZ, OR
and Nevada. Never heard of scrapple.
:) Thanks! LOL--I wish you lived near me too...SM
We live in Nebraska.
My idea of shopping is Walmart, Target, and K-Mart. It worked while my boys were young, but now that they're getting older I guess I'll hafta dig deeper in the pocketbook and shop at stores in the mall. Thanks for the link! :)
Chickadee
I wish I lived
close enough to a beach to go every day, but then again, I probably would NEVER work!
You see, I have never lived by
myself. I went straight from home, to the college dorm, to my grandma's for the summer, then I got married. I never got to be on my own. I think everybody should have that opportunity. I think it would have changed me in lots of ways.
Did you grow up in 1 town or move...sm
and if you moved, how often and are you glad you moved? As for me, we moved every other year due to my father's occupation. There were 2 places I was very glad that we moved from and 2 places I would have loved to have stayed, the others were OK. When people ask me where I was raised I tell them "everywhere" because that best summarizes it.
What about you? Do you have a home town?
Nevermind the gift - take her out on the town.
Give that same gift of getting out once a month. Think of something new each month - and get her back into the swing of things!!!! Songs are just reminders of what she has just gone through in my opinion! Spend time with her. Call her when she leasts expects it. Make her do things that single people do (even if you are married explain the situation to your husband). I'm sure he can respect that you are helping a friend in need at this time. She'll get through it with your help. 
I agree. The footage I saw in a town in
Kansas was horrible. The tornado was 3/4 of a mile wide and wiped out a whole town. Horrifying.
I'm very sorry for those who lost family members, pets, homes, churches, and businesses.
This mother saying too big a town for driving through yet
I honestly can understand this as when my children first started driving we were living in a huge city and all the freeways around, not some small town where everyone knows everyone and I bit my nails to the quick. The mother probably just wants the child to get more experience under his belt before he tries such a trip and the son is lying to her and making this trip regardless. He and the girl both sound like they are too much into each other for things like school right now. It happened to me- son just did not want school after high school. Sad when it is handed to you on a silver platter.
Howdy! I am from a small town
between Abilene and San Angelo called Ballinger. 
Maybe the small town gal coming out in me,
but I'd help as much as I could. My mom's that bad with a computer, and after I got it straightened out for her when it was really bad..most of the time it's something really simple. She'll say something like that where her email won't come up and it's just that she's hitting the wrong button or has her number lock key on or something. I guess maybe you could ask yourself if you or your hubby were away and something happened, would they help you? If the answer is no, then by all means let them fend for themselves. Like I said, might be the small town gal in me, but we help our neighbors any time they need it and we're able to.
its school vacation in my town nm
nm
We have the best Goodwill store in my town
Lots of rich people in my area who donate their clothes to the Goodwill store. Designer brand clothes still with tags on or worn maybe once or twice. I usually have better luck buying stuff there than I do at any retail stores. Most of the shirts, skirts, pants are $4 or $5. Bought my daughter a J. Crew hand-knit sweater there last year for $12, originally was close to $100. Don't think it had ever been worn. My daughter is a shoe-aholic and buys her shoes at thrift stores. That skeeves me out a little though.
live in a town of <150. No zeros.
that's less than 150 people, 13 miles from nearest grocery, in the middle of the USA...and i grew up in a big city in CA. but whoohoo!! now we have a cell tower too. turkeys roam the yard every day. sometimes deer, right in town :) and we've been upgraded to high speed I/N as well. Living is good!!
My town has 25,000 people but when I first moved
here 23 years ago, it only had 5,000. We had a Tastee Freeze and a Chicken Country and that was it. Our town has gotten to big for our liking but the school system is excellent so I suppose we'll just bear with it for a while.
Walmart only game in town sm
I live in a poor rural county and Walmart is the only place there is to shop and is also one of the largest employers. This may be because they came in and killed off other businesses, but there is also Family Dollar and Dollar General which seem to be going strong. When I'm in there, which is probably 2-3 times a week, they are always telling employees to take breaks and I see the same faces I've seen for the past 7 years. I can't afford to shop anywhere else and if I could, don't have time to drive at least 1 hour one way to shop at Target, Kohls, etc. which is what I would have to do.
Here's mine and NKOTB were just here in my town
Mine are the Backstreet Boys, although it's not much of a secret among my close friends. I've seen them 3 times and even met some of them. Also, disco music, especially the BeeGees, 70's music in general, and Barry Manilow.
Small town isolation
I have lived in small towns for nearly 40 years. Newcomers are not welcomed very well. I had a person at church tell me thank for coming to their church after being a member for many years. They are not a bit backward in ignoring you at pubic events.
Since you live in a small town
and you say people know your dog, perhaps you could leave your new address and phone # with several people. If he does show up, surely someone will contact you. Wishing you the best.
In my day, no vaccine. We all got it. We all lived.
At least now he will be immune. Hope you had hubby don't come down, too, but if so, it doesn't last forever. Just keep him away from others while contagious. And don't let him scratch!
When I lived in Colombia....
no one printed anything for me in English. Their country, their language, respect their ways. Those who come here should do the same - our country, our langauge, our ways. If you want to speak Spanish, go back across the border.
We speak English here precisely we were all originally from somewhere else.
The "We were all immigrants" argument is inane. Any country can say that. Mexicans were not originally from Mexico except for the Indians, who are extremely underprivileged and discriminated against by the Mexican government and the majority of Mexicans. Within the Latino culture, there is plenty of discrimination and prejudice - the lighter the skin and hair color, the higher the prestige. Latin American countries look down on the Caribbena and Mexico, etc.
Prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination are not just a white-black issue.
Why is that the Vietnamese and Koreans and other Asian groups come here, learn a new alphabet and many times will learn both Spanish and English in order to do business, but the Spanish speakers come here and demand everything be done to accommodate them?
It don't want to be Americans, they should stay home. If they want to adopt the American culture, come on over - legally.
hopefully this will be short-lived
I'd still send pictures, etc., especially to your grandparents. Good luck!
lived with us for a year.
by the time she moved out, no one would talk at the dinner table. my husband & I would go outside to talk. not good. hopefully your mil will be able to get some friends.
She has lived with us for 2-3/4 years so she...sm
knows all of the family line. We have been told that the judge that is finalizing the adoption spends a lot of time hanging out with a child that is old enough to talk with him at the time of adoption so she's looking forward to that. We've got the camera ready to go with a new battery and lots of memory on the memory card for the photos.
I have made an appointment to get her portrait made and the place we're doing that can create some adoption announcement cards for us with her picture and information on it to send out to people.
I like the tree idea - thanks for that one! Hopefully I could keep it growing! :o)
I grew up and lived in PA
until I made a few moves down south a few years back and moved to Ohio a year ago. I am about 45 minutes now from my hometown in PA, but my hometown in PA is just 45 minutes away from Pittsburgh. We could be close enough to be neighbors!
I wish I lived right next door to
help you with your project. That's my kind of fun. :oD I wuv a good rottie. Can't imagine playing with 3 of them.
How about: If I lived here, I'd be the cook!
Looks beautiful! WIsh I lived there. NM
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Did your parents help? I lived on my own but (sm)
it was because my stepfather did not want me there. I worked a full time and a part time job and tried to put myself through college. It took me years just to get an associate degree. If I had had help from my parents it would have been so much easier. It was very difficult as an 18-year-old to earn enough money to take care of myself.
I wished you lived near me...sm
So that you could meet my big baby and get to know him. I promise you would say this is no pit bull. My mom was scared to death when I got him that he would grow up and be this mean vicious killer. Well now she loves him to death. My father-in-law was against us having a pit. Now he says he ain't nothing but a baby. Some may be mean. But I am telling you mine is not mean. UNLESS he feels threatened or his family is threatened. Just a while ago a friend of my husbands was over here and CJ was just head set on getting up in his lap. CJ weighs about 70 pounds and he thinks he can sit in your lap. Lots of people say he isn't a pit is he? I say yes but he is a nice pit. Some are mean, some are not. It depends on the dog and a lot of how it is raised. This dog has been babied like a child from the time I got him. When he was 3 months old I got him and routinely rocked him in my recliner. Now he is just this huge baby.
We lived 2 blocks away from each other
I knew him in high school. He was the 'much older' Senior and I the lowly Sophomore. I had a crush on him, we'd ride with a group of boys & girls to away football games & he was always very nice to me. My older brother and his older brother were in the same class & had been good friends for years.
DH graduated & then two weeks before my senior year was to start, my now BIL came over to our house, after he returned from the Marines, to see if my brother was home. He wasn't but we talked for a few minutes. Then furture BIL went back to his home and told DH....you need to call Renee.
The rest is history.
We dated during my senior year and we went to all the dances. It was a great year and I have a box full of silly bids from dances, pictures and fun times! That was some 42 years ago now...LOL.
when i lived in the south, they said
i had a 'northern' accent. I'm born/raised Californian. When we moved to midwest, teased kids for having southern accent. however, when my husband used to work all over the country 40 yr ago, he could tell almost exactly where someone was from, hearing them talk a bit. With all the travel/moving around now, accents are there, but not nearly as identifiable, and ofttimes a mixture ...
never lived there but visited.
I love it. So jealous of you. Good luck!!
I lived there and HATED it!
There is nothing to do in North Carolina. The BIG event in Raleigh is the weekly Farmer's Market. The lakes are ugly, manmade bowl-like things. The police are out of control in that part of the country.
You could not PAY me to live in North Carolina again. At least not near Raleigh. Charlotte and the Mountain area are nice, but for the middle of the state? YUCK!!!
Twice so far in 11 years we have lived here - sm
Once when I lived at home years ago, boss got me out. I was excused the two times here as my kids were little and still at home, and no babysitter. My husband got called a few months ago, first time, no clue what he did with the papers or exactly what they said, I think he just blew it off, but no one has ever come to get him if that was the case.
The man who lived across the street.
We lived in cul-de-sac of 10 homes. The whole neighborhood knew each other. This man thought he was the boss of everyone, told everyone how to raise their kids, keep their yards, take care of their pets. He was physically and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. He was absolutely awful.
Someone called me one day to say that man had liver cancer and had less than 6 months to live. I thought couldn't have happened to a nicer person. He died on New Year's Day 2004 and as we watched the ambulance leave his house with his body in it, everyone (including his family) gave a sigh of relief. Only 6 people attended the funeral. Isn't it horrible to think that way about someone? He was only 52.
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