the only thing is.. even if they aren't his biological children,
Posted By: Gina on 2009-06-27
In Reply to: Ok, take a look at all 3 of them - Lynn
he still treated them as his own.. you don't always have to be blood kin to feel like its your own.... if they love those kids like their own, then why bother testing.. other than the mothers trying to get money, but I'm sure he would have left them money or something anyway..
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If you aren't planning on more children, I would have the surgery.
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Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Well trust me, you aren't missing a thing! :) nm
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If she has children, she should know IMO. I just have this weird thing
by accident. You know what I mean? It could happen!
Last year I said same thing, Christmas is for children. SM
And I got clobbered on this board. Practically called un-Amreican.
I believe Christmas is for children. Up to age 18. After that, perhaps a check is in order, but that's about it. As far as gifts for aunts, uncles, cousins, second cousins, postman, WHOMEVER, forget it. Bake cookies. Have a party and invite friends and neighbors.
Say you are sending check to charity of choice and ask family and friends to do same. That is charity of their choice, since I know my family doesn't agree on anything.
But presents? Presents most of the people would not even want? Forget it.
The way I see it (and lived it) the biological parent
needs to step up to the plate and handle things. I'm sure of the woman who started this post had a husband that backed her up, she wouldn't be nearly as upset. I'VE LIVED/AM LIVING THROUGH THIS and my stepchild live with us 100% of the time (husband had custody). Sweet and first but things turned sour quickly. And guess what? My husband did very little in terms of taking care of his son, forcing him to be accountable for his behavior, etc. In turn, I ended up being the heavy and HATED for it (still am, and he's an adult now).
I was very young when I married my husband and didn't know what I was in for, just as the OP. You think, how can this sweet child be anything but good? You honestly have no idea what you're getting yourself into. Especially when other people will tell you that they CAN make step-families work. I think they work when/if the biological parent is firm with the child and sets the boundaries for that child, and the stepparent doesn't have to.
It's so difficult. I really feel for the orig poster.
Her mother is a piece of trash. So is that biological father.
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Have to agree that the biological parents are not always the best solution. But we were just discus
MTs working at home with their children. I meant to imply that I certainly didn't think it was neglect or abuse for mom to have a set of headphones in her ears.
Sorry you had a bad experience with a CASA volunteer. But afterall they are all people too and the primary intent of the children's justice system is reunification with parents if possible. Sounds like they were probably just lacking enough evidence/proof to terminate parental rights at that time.
You'll have to get something with a biological odor eater in it. Fabreze is not
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that. Biological has to be in the description. Wildly expensive, but works even
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You need a biological odor killer. Found in better hardware stores. Have no
Names are something along those lines, but make sure it has the word biological in it. If you can wash the blanket, put some in the wash water. If it's not washable, then just spray it for a few days in a row while hung up. I got rid of smoke odor in a couch using this stuff. It really works! Fabreze and other name brand odor eaters are not enough to do a complete job. The stuff is pricey, but worth it. Gets rid of skunk, mold smells, vomit, all kinds of funk! You can probably search for these products on line and then see if your local hardware stores or cleaning supply places have them locally. Good luck! nm
Because my biological child is a high school science teacher who
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I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
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Hope you aren't someone I know. Why would you even
respond to the poster like this? Post the ways to reach this goal of yours instead of just mouthing off. What are you DOING to help the situation? Or do you just like spouting off your opinions with no substance? Bet you don't even vote let alone do anything constructive or supportive.
I know!! Aren't there any other doctors? - LOL (sm)
It's our little half hour escape to fantasy land!
Are sure sure there aren't other hidden -sm
issues, such as maybe drug or alcohol abuse?
Aren't there any agencies to help you? I cannot believe SM
you are not receiving child support.
I have cousin who did the same thing. Raised her grandchild alone. You must be very strong. Good luck to you.
Why aren't they working?
At least your son should be working. I agree with the other poster, you MUST cut them off. I can imagine how hard it will be, but it must be done. Sad situation, and it's the babies that suffer.
Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Aren't our babies fun??
 My Simon tries to put two toys in his mouth and throws them at my feet when I'm working - okay, I get the hint!! 80 degrees in Texas Monday - awesome.
Oh aren't they BEAUTIFUL!
Doncha just love flowers?! I was just talking to my husband today about how I just got royally screwed over by an on-line company...
My friend's husband just passed away after a long awful illness. So, I sent her some flowers. When I went to her house to give hugs and support in person, I didn't see them anywhere...no one sent the poor thing flowers . This lady has absolutely nothing, is dead broke, and has no family, and I was very bummed she didn't even get my floral version of a big hug. So I called the on-line floral place and they told me they had no idea and couldn't give me the name of the florist they do business with. Long story short, no flowers for this poor lady.
My husband thought flowers were a stupid way to spend money, but I told him that people LOVE getting flowers. No matter how bad things are, flowers make you temporarily forget. It's why I wanted to be a florist...one of the best jobs in the world is to give someone flowers. Then I learned how nasty some brides-to-be can be and bailed, because I can't take heat like that. Just dang.
You are welcome to e-mail me anytime at kathy@perin.org Like I said before, I only post under "Hayseed" because there were, at the time, lots of Kathy's and KathyP's and KPs posting and I just wanted to be different, otherwise I'd just use my regular old name. I gots nothin' to hide and hopefully no one to hide from, well, except from the Jehovah's Witness' folks. It's always been in my blood to just hide when I see 'em coming, don't know why really...that explanation is for another day I guess....
Oh my, aren't we uppity!
I've seen the Festivus episode. I googled the information people said to Google and did NOT find it. Obviously if someone has never heard of the "other evil board that shall not be named", it's not quite that easy to find it.
So get over yourself already and just post the name.
Well aren't you the lucky one! Most of us don't have
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Do you REALLY think they aren't learning the
SF has one of the best school systems in the country.
As for 'separation of church and state', what makes you think this will be a religious ceremony? It may be nondominational.
I just can't believe the things I'm reading here this morning. It's really sad.
Aren't you guys always saying that
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if you aren't doing it out of love
and because you want to, then don't!! You could allow others the opportunity, go out to eat, volunteer at a public dinner, etc. That's silly to do it all with that attitude. Be true to yourself.
Deeni - Are you sure you aren't ME? LOL
I'm just sorry I went full-in and did not figure it out first like you did.
I hope you are happy now in whatever relationship you are in...
Boy, you are pleasant, aren't you?
I would take a screaming toddler over you ANY day! Even someone's poorly behaved toddler.
You aren't bothering me....sm
The purse is 10-1/2 inches tall without handles and
10-1/2 inches wide. It is
4-1/4 inches deep from the front to back of the purse. With the handles it is 18-1/2 inches tall so the handles themselves are 8 inches.
LOL! Men are a whole different species, aren't they?
I have 'disappeared' a few clothing items too... They usually either don't notice or think they misplaced it somewhere - LOL!
Most of us on here aren't unemployed
But most of us are taxpayers and can see the cost of such a program. I won't even get into the infringements on personal rights. Unemployment is EARNED; the government has no right to try to find loopholes around preventing companies (think the Q here) from paying it out.
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
See the thread below about businesses that are and aren't
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Mine aren't on the list...
Ours are a lab named Festus, a McNab named Jinx and two cats, Precious and Tiger. I'd just die laughing if Festus hit the top ten, that was my husband's big idea.
Aren't yeast infections
caused by the imbalance caused by all the heavy-duty antibiotics that have to be used nowdays to kill bacteria?
I am starting to see medical reports from journals saying that strong antibiotics seem to be causing the increase in serious allergies and asthma, and it's due to yeast and other fungi. Not all doctors are on board yet, but it took them along time to believe that ulcers were often caused by bacteria, so we shall see.
If your scissors aren't sharp enough, you can end up
literally sawing them off, which DOES hurt. (Trust me.)
I have also tied a thread tightly around the base, which cuts off the blood flow and they will die and fall off in a few days without pain.
these look like sugar ants, but aren't
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Aren't those puppies the cutest!
I have a female Siberian husky who is the absolutely sweetest dog I have ever had. I'm sorry for your loss.
Aren't they sweet all crammed in together like that!
I love to sleep with my critters too. I sleep like a log when they are in bed. Sadly, my poor husband does not. He has to wear a CPAP and has a really bad back, so if the critters hog the bed, he's not a happy camper and I have to give them the boot. Thankfully they've pretty much learned to sleep next to me, or on my head, or smooshed up against me so I can't move at all during the night. Hey...maybe that's why I'm all crippled up come morning!
We actually bought a king size bed becase of the room needed to accompany everyone...how sad is THAT?!
LOL, dads are stubborn, aren't they?
I wish your friend the best of luck. I don't think his desire to want acknowledgment of his name choice is silly, either. Families are sure a trial sometimes.
LMAO--bipolar cat!! Aren't they all?!
I swear, that's exactly what makes 'em so great though!
People don't turn gay, they either are or they aren't - sm
so either he is bisexual or he is gay but married you to appear normal, or maybe he wanted kids and figured that by marrying a woman that would be the only way he would ever have children. First thing I would do is go get checked out medically by your OB/GYN for STDs, HIV, etc. If your sex life is less than wonderful then he is probably gay, if it is great then he is probably bisexual. I have a friend (male) who is bisexual, while he likes sex with women he prefers men. Obviously it is time you had a very serious talk with your husband and don't be snowed by his explaination which I am sure will be quite inventive. No straight man would be caught dead looking at gay porn (unless it is 2 women) or calling gay sex lines. I hope there are not children involved because that is going to make this harder for you than it already is.
Squirrels are creative, aren't they?
They can figure out a way to get into most birdfeeders. True acrobats!
They ARE amazing, aren't they? Definitely scary - (sm)
when you're indoors.... so much banging, rattling, stuff falling, etc. But if you're lucky enough to be outdoors, as I was during the 1989 Loma Prieta quake (7.1 on the Richter), it's totally awe-inspiring. I was getting ready to wash my truck, and was carrying a bucket of soapy water across the yard. Suddenly the trees started shaking, and I thought a sudden breeze had come up on what had been a quiet, muggy day. Then I saw that the barn was swaying back and forth, and realized it was a quake. A few steps further, and it really started rolling. Had to hang onto the side of the truck to remain standing. Giant redwood trees were whipping back and forth so far that the tops of them were almost horizontal. We had a large pasture in front of the property for horses, and there were large waves in the ground, moving up and down with more than a foot and a half of vertical displacement. I couldn't help but laugh... it was pretty funny. Interestingly, all the horses turned and stood facing in exactly the direction of the epicenter. Once it stopped & I could let go of the truck, I ran into the landlord's backyard to look at the pool. The waves were big enough to surf on.
A friend of mine who lived up in the Santa Cruz mountains was driving down a long, steep, straight road when the quake hit, and she actually saw a big wave in the pavement (the primary, or P-wave) coming straight at her. She stopped and rode it out in the truck.
Another, very LUCKY friend, had been driving on I-880, and had just emerged from the covered section of freeway that collapsed when the quake hit, so wasn't caught in that awful disaster. He said it was weird... felt like he had a front flat tire, so he stopped on the side of the freeway to check his tires. As did several hundred other people! Imagine the whole freeway stopping, and everyone looking at their tires.... a 'Chinese fire drill', California-style.
My mom lives directly on top of the epicenter of the Northridge quake of ྚ. It was a very sharp vertical quake, and it literally threw her out of her bed, lengthwise. Good thing, because the bookshelf/headboard part of the bed fell over and landed where her head had been on the pillow.
I lived down there during the 1971 Sylmar quake, and I was trying to stay in my bed while it bucked like a bronco. My sister was in the bathroom hanging onto the sink & screaming. We had a jillion aftershocks from that one, which were more unnerving than the original quake. Every time we had an aftershock, another of my sisters started hyperventilating. That night, my parents were having the floor measured for new carpets. The poor contractor doing the measurements was so rattled by the shocks, not to mention everyone screeching and running out of the house when they hit, that he measured everything wrong, and the carpet they brought didn't fit. So a couple weeks later he had to come back and do it all over again. I was in Jr. College back then, and had a part-time job working at a stable. After the quake, when the sun came up I went up to the stables for work that day, and it was too dangerous to clean stalls with the horse in there during the aftershocks, so I had to take each horse out and put it in a corral while I cleaned the stall. Took me forever! I was up there all alone all day, and wasn't really worried, 'til I sat down on the ground to sharpen a pair of animal clippers. THAT'S when I realized that the ground was continually moving all the time.... jiggling very faintly, sort of like Jello. That's what got me feeling spooked.
Another time, I think in the 80's, when I was at work we had a long, not-that-strong, rolling quake. I was in the basement using the copy-machine at the time. I'd had a migraine that day and had just taken Fiorinal for it, which made me feel a little strange sometimes. While at the copy machine, I was feeling really dizzy and strange, and hearing strange creaking noises. I'm thinking, 'Wow... I don't feel so hot!' The rolling continued, and I felt kind of nauseous. Tried not to look at the light in the copier, which has triggered migraines in me in the past. Noticed lots of people standing in the doorway to the Medical Records dept. and Radiation Oncology, and my foggy brain wondered why they were all taking their break at the same time. Still felt sick, and decided that if I didn't feel better within the hour, that I would go home to bed. Right about then, (with the floor still rolling), someone commented to me on how nonchalantly I was copying away during an earthquake! I was actually relieved to learn that's what the problem was, and not a reaction to the medication! :D
why aren't your kids in school?
Funny, there aren't a lot of answers on this one.. nm
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We aren't the only area of US preparing.
I haven't actually watched the radar yet but I have family that lives south of Ohio and I know they are expecting bad storms too. You might get it up from them and MI from the west. I know the normal flow is for their weather to come up from ohio and across the edge of Southeast MI. But the timing you mention wouldn't make sense so I'm not sure. Guess I'll be watching the weather channel this afternoon!
aren't beagles yappers?
Every beagle I've ever known was a howlin' hounddog. Really noisy.
In general I'd say dog size & volume are inversely proportional.
my kids aren't grown yet, but
I definitely would not put up with the 19-yo. He can get out and get a job. As for your daughter, I feel for her b/c she has kids. I'm not sure that I'd let her move in, though. She should look for some place cheaper to live. Offer to keep her kids for a day while she house hunts or apartment hunts. I also understand what she's going through with childcare expense. How old is the child she's asking you to watch this summer? Is he/she old enough to entertain himself -- 10 or 11? -- old enough to fix himself a lunchmeat sandwich and watch TV? If so, then I think if you could, you should consider watching him over the summer. $250 may not seem like much, but if she's able to find somewhere cheaper to live, it could be the difference between living on her own or moving in with you.
Obviously, you are under no obligation to help either of your children, but I suspect this situation bothers you because you care for them greatly. Maybe a compromise could work to benefit both of you. Good luck!
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