yes, it is relative to you. But this still does not
Posted By: mm on 2009-05-02
In Reply to: But I'm short, stocky, and heavyset, so....sm - Ella (retired)
make her beautiful and elegant.
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Have a relative who does this
but she has never really talked much about it, she left her job when she had a child and wanted some type of work from home, but last I heard she had taken in babysitting, I would assume the $40,000 a year (ha ha)that you hear about was not to be. I think the most you can hope for is a few free meals and a couple of bucks for spending money, not any kind of real income to live on.
I have a relative who......sm
It is an antidepressant but as with a lot of antidepressants, it can help with pain. People who have chronic pain tend to get depressed from the chronic pain, or they have depression, which causes them to feel more aches and pains. Either way, Cymbalta is suppose to be better in helping the individual deal with their pain better, but how much I suppose depends on the person taking it. They haven't been on it long, so not sure of the effect yet. Hope this helps.
it's all relative
  I was telling my girlfriend I could use one of the smaller hand held baskets in the grocery now and still spend the same amount I bought in the regular grocery cart and she said, "Oh yeah, well I just spent the same amount filling up the lawnmower that I used to spend filling up my truck"!
What to do about the relative who - sm
Brings 2 pies to a holiday feast but asks for and expects to take home half (and I do mean HALF) the leftovers. I have let them do this for a few years now to save the embarrassment of telling someone they cannot have food to take home, but I am about at my limit this year. Let me add they have never invited me to their house for a huge holiday meal and seem to find relatives to eat with every holiday out of the year. Is there something I could say that would not come off mean but that maybe, just maybe WE want the leftovers ourselves to be free from cooking for a day or two? 
maybe a close relative the pet knows?
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Bailed relative out
He was sinking deeper and deeper. Getting pay day loan from one place to pay off pay day loan for another place. We finally bailed him out ONLY because I kept a strict eye on his finances, wrote out the envelopes, told him on what day to send what payment, etc. Before I agreed to bail him out I wanted to know what he got paid (take home), what his bills were, etc. He was getting paid enough to pay his bills and have some money left over even after paying me a certain amount each month (he owed me $1800). I said it would take awhile but I didn't want him to be strapped and I told him I was allotting him money to do some "fun" stuff (the guy is 48 years old going on 12). Anyway...after about 2 months the little "you know what" decided to quit his job because one of his "you know what" friends told him he could collect more money through unemployment. Also he was tired of taking the bus to work and having to sit and listen to people and he couldn't sleep on the way to work...the poor baby! So instead he doesn't get rid of the car we told him to get rid of cos he couldn't afford gas and was driving around with no insurance. But he didn't do what we told him to, he quit his job and didn't tell us, and then when I called there they told me he quit 2 months earlier. Talk about being quite a bit "peturbed". I told him I spent at least 2 weeks figuring out his budget and he didn't have the decency to tell me he quit. So, blah, blah, blah 4 years later and he has paid me back $700. I told him if he had held onto his job he would have paid me back and if he saved any of the extra cash coming in he would have at least 25K in a savings account now. Sure wished I listened to the advice my grandfather told me growing up when he wouldn't lend me money to buy a car. He told me - never lend relatives money because they won't pay it back. Talk about hard lessons learned. - oh sorry...that was a totally different rant. I wish all those payday loan places would be shut down. They pray on the needy and people will never get out of it unless they go "cold turkey". Don't know how many times we told brother-in-law he needs to do without something, but he never listens...always self gratification and forget everyone else....oops...sorry again....another rant. P.S. We don't talk to relative very much anymore
Which relative tortures you the most?
I believe the men will be found innocent in this survey........
Relative newlywed
A little over 2 years and still feels like the honeymoon period. We got along fabulously before and still do.
I think we get along so well due to mutual respect and consideration. In fact we're so considerate of each other a few of our friends say we're 'sickening,' lol!
I figure as long as we don't veer off course in this area, we're good to go pretty much for a few decades.
I have a relative who has a wealth of knowledge
and was telling her about the posts on this board, namely this thread. She tells me she got a high school graduation and later baby shower invite from her great niece- this person never called, never wrote- my relative said they went in the garbage. She and I are on the same page. BTW, I have gotten late calls on days, like Mothers Day, Thanksgiving- etc. from people and I, like you, think after thought.
No, I do not do this all the time. I have a relative coming from out sm
of town to visit. That's all.
Abe Lincoln is a distant relative
My children are direct descendants of Abraham Lincoln. Their father did all of the geneaology for his family and they traced it back to Abe Lincoln and his descendants, and my son was born on Abe Lincoln's birthday!
Anyone else have The Food Poisoning Relative
My sister-in-law has very long artificial nails which accumulate a lot of raw meat underneath them when she cooks I always get the crud. I try to warn the kids when she cooks breakfast to stick to the cold cereal!
JAN--A SISTER-IN-LAW IS NOT A BLOOD RELATIVE.
Did that tell her?
Pushy relative question
I have an aunt who lives across the country from me who I am pretty close to. She is my only family that I still speak with. (We basically mutually disbanded. It was for the better.) When I was in my late teens and early 20s, she was there for me when no one else was. I appreciate that and am very grateful. The problem is that now I am 37, am married and have 2 children. She hates my husband and my husband hates her. She has no children of her own and can be very bossy, pushy, rude, inconsiderate, condiscending (sp?) etc. Every time she comes for a visit or goes anywhere really, all she does is complain how it is not up to her standards somehow and she was slighted and wronged by someone. She has a terrible relationship with her husband's kids because of all the things I previously mentioned. Every time she comes and visits, my husband leaves "on buisness" because he can't stand to be around her. I don't mind because they will come to blows after a while together because he won't tolerate her BS. I have flat out told her that my husband does not like to have house guests overnight. He has offered to pay for her hotel room, but she insists that she stays with us. She has plenty of money (She's a millionaire.), but now again is insisting on coming to or house this year. I get so stressed out every time she comes. it makes me sick to my stomach. Any advice on how to deal with this. I hate to sound as if I don't love her, because I do, in spite of her shortcomings, which I realize we all have. Why won't she just stay in the nice hotel 3 minutes from my house?
What is considered appropriate if a neighbor's relative passes away. SM
My neighbor's uncle passed away. She and I are friends, but not best friends, we basically see each other every day as we walk our dogs and we talk every day. Her uncle just passed away and I was unable to go to the wake. The funeral is today, but I cannot go to that either. What is the appropriate thing to do here, a card, flowers, what? Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks.
I guess inexpensive is relative to the area...
I live in the SF Bay area where EVERYTHING is crazy expensive! She charges about 40% less than the going rate for someone at a comparable salon. It's probably more expensive than usual too because I have dark, dark hair that is overall highlighted to make it all blond. I guess that's probably more expensive than just a plain color job.
Anyway, thanks for your opinion!!!
Medicare questions for helping my relative
I have a relative who wants to live alone although she really needs some basic care such as grocery buying, food prepared, light cleaning in her home, going to doctors appointments, the very basics of everyday life. I will be able to pay through her bank what she needs for lights, cable and things like that (she has gotten to where she cannot make out a check because of tremors in her hands). She went to live with another relative and it has not worked out at all. She has been on her own for years and wants to be that way again as much as possible. Is there anyone out there who knows what Medicare does to help out the elderly and give me any information you might have.
Here's another shot that shows his relative size.
Yes, he is missing his tail. This species uses the tail as a single-use defense mechanism (where, when threatened by a predator, the lizard goes one way and the tail goes the other), and it does not grow back, unlike some other species.
I can type 95 wpm, am a distant relative of Shirley Temple.
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Can anyone tell Jan a sister-in-law is not family as far as blood relative, my goodness!
Her children, the children of my brother, would have been heirs BUT Jan, you need to understand TVA which is a huge place, never found them and took a year trying to do so. I never knew this money was there, never had anything to do with obtaining the money up front, nothing. TVA contacted me. I had to get death certificates which I was questioned about being as it was my stepmom and the dept wanted to know WHY I wanted that. I got her death certificate, the death certificate of my brother, the names- do you realize that I had to have this all notarized as to telling the truth. I do not now nor have I in the past years since 1973 had AN ADDRESS FOR THE SIL AND HER CHILDREN, MY NIECE AND NEPHEW. This has been 36 YEARS AND NO ADDRESSES. If the TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) could not find, how was I supposed to find? You want me to hire a detective on my MT salary and go hunting is that right? You want me to take off from work and go to another state and look for someone when I have NO ADDRESSES in 36 YEARS and I might find? I probably would not have a job when I got back as even taking off long enough for a doctor's appt is frowned upon but you want me just to leave my home and look for persons I have no contact with. Do you understand how you sound? Why can you not get off this soap box and put more attention on your own affairs, that is the money your sister is getting off your mother. I understand where you are coming from but this has been settled now at least 3-4 years. I have stolen from no one. I did get 1 phone call after my father's funeral (remember those same kids you have said I stole from that did not show up at the funeral home nor funeral, they must have really cared about their g'father) and after about a week the SIL called to see what kind of money had been left to her son, my nephew. She was able to call because he wanted to see what he had coming to him. Don't give a flip about g'father, only the money he might have for you. None was there then. Take a rest, ok?
What price range? I recently made a slide show for a relative (sm)
from their old photos
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