Can anyone tell Jan a sister-in-law is not family as far as blood relative, my goodness!
Posted By: Interesting! on 2009-03-07
In Reply to: To this I can say only this..... - Jan
Her children, the children of my brother, would have been heirs BUT Jan, you need to understand TVA which is a huge place, never found them and took a year trying to do so. I never knew this money was there, never had anything to do with obtaining the money up front, nothing. TVA contacted me. I had to get death certificates which I was questioned about being as it was my stepmom and the dept wanted to know WHY I wanted that. I got her death certificate, the death certificate of my brother, the names- do you realize that I had to have this all notarized as to telling the truth. I do not now nor have I in the past years since 1973 had AN ADDRESS FOR THE SIL AND HER CHILDREN, MY NIECE AND NEPHEW. This has been 36 YEARS AND NO ADDRESSES. If the TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) could not find, how was I supposed to find? You want me to hire a detective on my MT salary and go hunting is that right? You want me to take off from work and go to another state and look for someone when I have NO ADDRESSES in 36 YEARS and I might find? I probably would not have a job when I got back as even taking off long enough for a doctor's appt is frowned upon but you want me just to leave my home and look for persons I have no contact with. Do you understand how you sound? Why can you not get off this soap box and put more attention on your own affairs, that is the money your sister is getting off your mother. I understand where you are coming from but this has been settled now at least 3-4 years. I have stolen from no one. I did get 1 phone call after my father's funeral (remember those same kids you have said I stole from that did not show up at the funeral home nor funeral, they must have really cared about their g'father) and after about a week the SIL called to see what kind of money had been left to her son, my nephew. She was able to call because he wanted to see what he had coming to him. Don't give a flip about g'father, only the money he might have for you. None was there then. Take a rest, ok?
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JAN--A SISTER-IN-LAW IS NOT A BLOOD RELATIVE.
Did that tell her?
I would never sue my family. We are out the $$ and out my sister.
Maybe I could've forgiven her for putting her hands on me, but now she is 100% lying and saying that didn't happen. This I don't think I can forgive.
I'm done with this and am going to move on. Unfortunately, my family dimensions are different now and that is sad.
Okay, my sister and I are doing Thanksgiving this year and since my sister can't cook, that means
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I had a corn casserole at one potluck I went to, but never got the recipe. Anybody got a good corn recipe?
Thanks Ladies!
Have a relative who does this
but she has never really talked much about it, she left her job when she had a child and wanted some type of work from home, but last I heard she had taken in babysitting, I would assume the $40,000 a year (ha ha)that you hear about was not to be. I think the most you can hope for is a few free meals and a couple of bucks for spending money, not any kind of real income to live on.
I have a relative who......sm
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it's all relative
  I was telling my girlfriend I could use one of the smaller hand held baskets in the grocery now and still spend the same amount I bought in the regular grocery cart and she said, "Oh yeah, well I just spent the same amount filling up the lawnmower that I used to spend filling up my truck"!
What to do about the relative who - sm
Brings 2 pies to a holiday feast but asks for and expects to take home half (and I do mean HALF) the leftovers. I have let them do this for a few years now to save the embarrassment of telling someone they cannot have food to take home, but I am about at my limit this year. Let me add they have never invited me to their house for a huge holiday meal and seem to find relatives to eat with every holiday out of the year. Is there something I could say that would not come off mean but that maybe, just maybe WE want the leftovers ourselves to be free from cooking for a day or two? 
yes, it is relative to you. But this still does not
make her beautiful and elegant.
maybe a close relative the pet knows?
nm
Bailed relative out
He was sinking deeper and deeper. Getting pay day loan from one place to pay off pay day loan for another place. We finally bailed him out ONLY because I kept a strict eye on his finances, wrote out the envelopes, told him on what day to send what payment, etc. Before I agreed to bail him out I wanted to know what he got paid (take home), what his bills were, etc. He was getting paid enough to pay his bills and have some money left over even after paying me a certain amount each month (he owed me $1800). I said it would take awhile but I didn't want him to be strapped and I told him I was allotting him money to do some "fun" stuff (the guy is 48 years old going on 12). Anyway...after about 2 months the little "you know what" decided to quit his job because one of his "you know what" friends told him he could collect more money through unemployment. Also he was tired of taking the bus to work and having to sit and listen to people and he couldn't sleep on the way to work...the poor baby! So instead he doesn't get rid of the car we told him to get rid of cos he couldn't afford gas and was driving around with no insurance. But he didn't do what we told him to, he quit his job and didn't tell us, and then when I called there they told me he quit 2 months earlier. Talk about being quite a bit "peturbed". I told him I spent at least 2 weeks figuring out his budget and he didn't have the decency to tell me he quit. So, blah, blah, blah 4 years later and he has paid me back $700. I told him if he had held onto his job he would have paid me back and if he saved any of the extra cash coming in he would have at least 25K in a savings account now. Sure wished I listened to the advice my grandfather told me growing up when he wouldn't lend me money to buy a car. He told me - never lend relatives money because they won't pay it back. Talk about hard lessons learned. - oh sorry...that was a totally different rant. I wish all those payday loan places would be shut down. They pray on the needy and people will never get out of it unless they go "cold turkey". Don't know how many times we told brother-in-law he needs to do without something, but he never listens...always self gratification and forget everyone else....oops...sorry again....another rant. P.S. We don't talk to relative very much anymore
Which relative tortures you the most?
I believe the men will be found innocent in this survey........
Relative newlywed
A little over 2 years and still feels like the honeymoon period. We got along fabulously before and still do.
I think we get along so well due to mutual respect and consideration. In fact we're so considerate of each other a few of our friends say we're 'sickening,' lol!
I figure as long as we don't veer off course in this area, we're good to go pretty much for a few decades.
I have a relative who has a wealth of knowledge
and was telling her about the posts on this board, namely this thread. She tells me she got a high school graduation and later baby shower invite from her great niece- this person never called, never wrote- my relative said they went in the garbage. She and I are on the same page. BTW, I have gotten late calls on days, like Mothers Day, Thanksgiving- etc. from people and I, like you, think after thought.
No, I do not do this all the time. I have a relative coming from out sm
of town to visit. That's all.
Abe Lincoln is a distant relative
My children are direct descendants of Abraham Lincoln. Their father did all of the geneaology for his family and they traced it back to Abe Lincoln and his descendants, and my son was born on Abe Lincoln's birthday!
Anyone else have The Food Poisoning Relative
My sister-in-law has very long artificial nails which accumulate a lot of raw meat underneath them when she cooks I always get the crud. I try to warn the kids when she cooks breakfast to stick to the cold cereal!
Pushy relative question
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What is considered appropriate if a neighbor's relative passes away. SM
My neighbor's uncle passed away. She and I are friends, but not best friends, we basically see each other every day as we walk our dogs and we talk every day. Her uncle just passed away and I was unable to go to the wake. The funeral is today, but I cannot go to that either. What is the appropriate thing to do here, a card, flowers, what? Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks.
I guess inexpensive is relative to the area...
I live in the SF Bay area where EVERYTHING is crazy expensive! She charges about 40% less than the going rate for someone at a comparable salon. It's probably more expensive than usual too because I have dark, dark hair that is overall highlighted to make it all blond. I guess that's probably more expensive than just a plain color job.
Anyway, thanks for your opinion!!!
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Here's another shot that shows his relative size.
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You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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I can type 95 wpm, am a distant relative of Shirley Temple.
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
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Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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What price range? I recently made a slide show for a relative (sm)
from their old photos
It's in the blood.
If I were you I would go to the ER.. Blood
in the urine is an indication that the kidneys are involved.
Or was it from your period?
How can you stand the pain in your inflamed urethra and ureter?
SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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yes, they do do lab work on the blood, --sm
as well, and those results would be available within a very short period of time. Maybe you should continue your studies in the forensic pathology area, if that is what interests you.
I can as have had low blood pressure in the
past and you can feel extremely fatigued, you can have dizziness from it running too low. When mine would run extremely low, say 80/60 or so, I used black licorce as this I found out years ago will elevate blood pressure. So tired with it, that I know.
blood tests
HIV...period...
You might want to get some blood work
A lot of time women have thyroid problems, and this can cause you to feel tired, very disinterested in sex, cannot lose weight et cetera, or there may be a hormonal imbalance that can also cause this. I would recommend talking to your doctor or gynecologist and get them to write a script for some lab work.
taste of blood.....
yea alot of people say that. I have heard it numerous times, but then I see shelters take in hard core fighting dogs & turn them into loving pets & working dogs for the community such as lawdogsusa.org so I believe this is a myth.
Gee, didn't mean it was NOT in the blood but stating that it would have
shown in the autopsy quite quickly in the organs, as that is what I thought the original poster had inquired about.
Point out he can get a blood infection and die - sm
if he does not get his teeth taken care of. He must have some rotten breath too, yuk. Guess you don't do much kissing either. I went out on 1 date with a guy with bad teeth, gross, I did not want to kiss him goodnight and barely did, never dated him again because I was so grossed out.
Have your blood sugar checked! I'd nod off (sm)
to the point that my nose would actually touch the keyboard!! While funny, it was also a symptom. I had undiagnosed diabetes and would just "poop" out when my blood sugar was too low (or even too high!). According to my doctor there's more undiagnosed diabetes out there than you'd believe!
Check the blood pressure often, have my own
cuff and last check was 106/70 something and no headache at all. Was thinking yesterday wonder what the wait would be going to the emergency room, that bad. The last visit to an ER was about a year ago and I spent the entire night waiting to be seen, was admitted the next morning. I am not 1 just to go to be going, has to be really severe.
New cause for blood pressure increase sm
Typed in a report today: His blood pressure is 160/100, however, he attributes this to his wife's driving.
Typical male remark, LOL. 
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Hey, folks. Need your opinions if you don't mind. How high should bp be before one becomes alarmed, and what is a reasonable expectation of your doctor's response when you visit him/her with an elevated bp? Should we be concerned if bp is above:
A. 120/80
B. 130/90
C. 140/95
This isn't a quiz, not really. I am just wondering for myself personally. Also, let's throw in that the pt had been under a significant amount of stress over the last few months which is now lessened pretty much to 'normal', and that the patient also has had a couple of migraines in the last couple of weeks prior to the bp shooting up - with no hx of migraines.
Appreciate the opinions.
Sincerely,
A paranoid hypochondriac HC
Blessed by the Body and Blood
...
Blood is thicker than water.
Cord blood banks
Does anyone know of a reputable blood bank where new mom's can store their baby's cord blood? Also, the procedure for doing this? Thanks for your help. 
Have you ever had your blood sugar suddenly
I was just wondering, because I think that's what happened to me today just as I was finishing up with getting a little exercise this afternoon. Usually a piece of meat or cheese and I'm completely normal again, but this time it's much slower to go away. Just as I was about to call it a day anyway, I suddenly got very weak-feeling and slightly nauseous, & a little light-headed. Sat down until it passed, then skipped going to the market afterward, like I'd planned, and came home. While driving home I was sweating so much that in about 10 minutes I was soaked. I came inside, had some cheese and some slices of chicken, then lay down, using a big bath towel as a blanket since that's what was handy. Soon that was soaked, too. Felt better about 30 minutes later, took a hot shower and had some dinner. Now I'm almost back at baseline. I've had similar spells very occasionally in the past, but they always cleared up within minutes of having either some protein or a banana. Does that sound like a hypoglycemic episode to you? I'm not diabetic, in fairly good shape, not overweight, and do tend to eat a lot of sweets.
This little smiley shows how quickly it comes on, and how it feels! 
transferred two units of blood
what did she type
Should be "transfused 2 units of blood."
Where would you be transferring it from?? It's being transfused into the body.
how many of you have high blood pressure
..and do you have it under control??? Do you think it runs in family's.
Mine is still not where it should be but better than it was. I do think it runs in family's. My mom is a little bitty woman and has uncontrollable blood pressure. All 4 of us kids has high blood pressure. My mom, myself and my brother have all had strokes. My brother has had 2. My older brother tends to get nose bleeds and has to have his nose packed. My younger sister has just started experiencing problems with her blood pressure. My dad on the other hand has low blood pressure and will drop to quickly.
Anyone every break a blood vessel in their eye. I just did and it looks awful. nm
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could be broken blood vessel, often called
soccer kicker's toe, football kicker's toe, etc. RICE is the treatment for it. It looks worse than it actually is. (RICE - rest, ice, compression, elevation.)
Donated blood today, as I have done many times before. sm
Today, however, while sitting in the cantina having a snack afterwards I felt so TIRED and short of breath. We left and went to the grocery store and by the time I got into the store I thought I was going to pass out, gave my daughter the list and went back to sit in the car. What gives? I have donated blood before and haven't felt bad afterwards. Now I am working and GOD I feel like crap.
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