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Boy, my husband is paranoid too but not to that extent - sm

Posted By: XXX on 2006-01-15
In Reply to: Can I cry on your shoulders this morning? - Kar

If I were you I just tell him I am coming and that is that. You miss him, the kids miss him, etc. I find it hard to believe he has a girlfriend on the side already (its only been 14 days). It could be he is just very tired and wants his 1 day to himself, granted I am sure he has unwind time at night. But he shouldn't be that selfish about his free time since he has a family to consider. Can you get one of those video cams for the computer and at least have the kids be able to see their dad that way since he is unwilling to drive 5 hours to come home every 2 weeks, or unwilling to let you "get in harm's way" by driving to see him? You have every right to be pissed, but as suggested wait until you calm down, then ask him WHY and that it has to be a credible reason, not because he thinks there is too much traffic in the area, or some such crap like that. As I said, it is probably because he is tired, being selfish about his time off and (here's the big one) probably enjoying being by himself for the first time in a long time. I actually take my kids up to my dad's about 3-4 x a year to give him some down time, granted I never get any except for a few hours here and there when he takes them to the movies or something, but at least it is something!


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I do agree with you to an extent
most surgeons do dictate well. I enjoy doing OP notes for the most part. I have this one doc; however, that I would like to do mean things to...lol. When I see his report come up I want to cry sometimes. He is a neuro doc and he literally sounds like someone winds him up with a crank and lets him go. The fastest talker I have ever heard. The good thing is that most of his surgeries are spinal surgeries and are similar, so I have created normals for him, which are a big help. Occasionaly, there will be that oddball report though, and I just want to tear my hair out because I just cannot understand him! Oh well, OP notes are good for the most part, but that guy is a piece of work!
Yes to some extent, obviously you need to have a computer - sm
You also need reference books, I only have 3 I use on a regular basis, and 3 others besides that, plus a medical dictionary. I don't know what sort of transcription machine you are referring to, but if you mean a digital player for the computer, yes, that is usually something you have to buy, unless the company works via an internet website and has their own platform through which you get work. If you mean a transcription tape player, again yes, that you buy yourself, same with a C-phone usually, though I have worked with companies that will lend them out to you if you do not have one. You will also need 2 phone lines most likely, maybe even a fax machine, or an account on-line that receives faxes. I assume by office furniture you mean you bought a desk, chair, light, that sort of stuff. You could have used the kitchen table or dining room table (if you had one) just as easily though the level may have been wrong, at least temporarily since you have no experience. MT is not for the faint of heart, and if you get hard work it is very easy to get discouraged and give up. You will also need to keep track of all your expenses so you can write them off on your taxes, i.e. your new furniture, computer, etc. I probably easily spent $2500 getting everything I needed over the course of my first year, computer $1400, reference books, second phone line installed, unlimited internet, programs for my computer, foot pedal, travel laptop, etc. It takes a while to get in the black at first, but once you have everything odd are you do not have to add much more on, just if you change jobs, and they use different equipment/programs. Good luck, I hope you did not pull off more than you can chew.
I agree to an extent
I agree we should be honest about things and not put on pretend happy faces as you say, but I think the point is, there's a difference in being honest and just plain nasty.  I also believe one can be honest without being blunt or rude.  That's what I'm seeing a lot on this board - just plain rudeness.  Not necessarily rudeness in giving honest opinions about companies, but rather, the bashing that goes on when someone responds honestly about a question or comment. 
To some extent I agree with you.

I, too, believe that experience should be compensated at a higher rate.  More often than not, it is worth it. The women I worked with were great and they were very helpful and did indeed help me with some terminology that I didn't know, being new to oncology at that point.  I do think, though, that when someone is hired as a newbie and is paid as such, once that person starts working and proves that they can produce more than the vets, the compensation should be re-evaluated.  Maybe not to as much as the vets, but it should be closer than what it was.  At least that's what I think from being in the middle of it.  I was considered good enough to get the brand new doc that was extraordinarily picky with his documents, and I was given the two PAs that no one else wanted to touch.


I know I'm not objective about it.  I just think that sometimes there needs to be some review of a situation and not just "oh she's a newbie so she doesn't make as much," or 'oh she's a vet, so she makes a whole lot more."


 


Any tips on learning a new hospital that has a lot of ESLs. I have done some but not to this extent.
I just wondered how you develop a better ear for them. I havent had trouble with the ones I have had unless they talk rapidly.
being paranoid about
I totally agree. I am always checking, double, triple checking things and worrying about commas and hyphens, account specifics and my line count shows it
No one was being PARANOID except the OP
Someone inquired if she were in India, no accusation, just a question. Someone else posted to ask if Curious had a problem with the OP being in India, to which Curious said not at all. Then a couple of other posters pointed out this is a board for AMERICAN MTs ONLY.

I'm failing to see where anyone except the OP is paranoid (or just defensive, which is probably more accurate since she indeed does not type as the usual American MT, at least not to my eyes).

I normally agree with your posts, Robin, by this time I'm failing to see why you are accusing other posters of being paranoid when the only one who has expressed ANY paranoia or accused others of being paranoid, etc., is the OP.

I think maybe you need to re-read the thread again. Even the one where she refers to you as being smart is oddly written.

Nope, I don't smell any paranoia here, just perhaps someone who detected an odd syntax, asked a question, and the OP blasted off into orbit.
DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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I'm starting to get paranoid....
I've been with Medquist only a short time and have a good experience so far.  After reading some of these posts, though, I am becoming paranoid that things are not so good.  Someone please fill me in on what is going on.  I received the letter a couple of weeks ago from the CEO and just assumed it was a hand full of people involved with this lawsuit.  Now what is up???
off subject -am I being paranoid
I have some genealogy information on my computer and my grandfather had a very unusual first name and middle name-  today when I was going through my junk mail there was junk from someone with that  same name-  just kind of stopped me in my tracks I didn't open it ---but is that a coincidence  How does that happen - I should have better Spyware I guess  .  maybe Im just paranoid
Becoming paranoid about work and QA

I would like to find a job that I do not  have to proof report 2-3 times as when audits roll around  QA dings for more grammar than actual medial terms.  I would just like to sit and type. I have done this for 29 years, and we all make mistakes, but it is just rediculous anymore.   This company I work for now is so picky about even the smallest thing such as hyphens, comas, colons, etc that a few of MTs on the same account are becoming so paranoid that we are wasting too much time on each report and IM each other that we are not getting anywhere.   I have lost my rhythm with jumping around so much for each WT.  I love to do Op reports and have asked twice and that is about as far as it gets.  I used to enjoy transcription, but not anymore.  If I could afford financially to quit I would.  I used to do over 1200 lines a day, but not anymore.  I feel like I am back in high school English class.  Those days are gone.  Jobs are hard to find anymore with the economy the way it is, but at least I have something coming in, but just not enough and I still am working two jobs.  Just getting tired, frustrated, aggravated, you name it.  Thanks for letting me vent. 


And folks think I'm paranoid
If someone is sitting in a corner at Starbucks or the library or whatever on a laptop working, I'm not sure I see what the problem is. If you're that stringent about things, do you jump from your chair and throw your body across the monitor if you feel a family member approaching your work area? If a person isn't doing their work on external speakers and does not have a 26 inch monitor facing the room at large, I do not see there to be any more of a 'security' risk than there is at home.
I am american so someone is paranoid here. but sm
I still cannot get the proper search.. doing what everyone says. Try it. Search for TTS the company and you will get nothing new even though a month ago I saw a bunch of recent stuff. Where does it go?
Feeling paranoid but...
Has anyone ever felt as though they are set at a certain amount or say a cap per hour... if though I get .09/65  seems I never ever can make more than 14 or 15 hr... even if it is the easiest reports... I hope I'm just being paranoid!!  Just wondering if anyone else has thought this.
feeling paranoid...
Yes - I have worked for MQ since 1999 and have always been able to get 13000+ lines in a 2-week pay period (except for illness/vacation). Since Dec 08 it has been a struggle to approach and pass the 12000-line minimum, and now since half my reports are ASR, my line count has plummeted. Am not sure if perhaps this is one way to weed out the number of employees meeting the requirements for full-time with benefits. Did wonder if there was something off with line counts, but ws never able to get a response to that question, either by email or by phone. At this rate, I am going to lose my benefits, and my line count as it is disqualified me from full-time employment. From 200+ lines/hour to barely 131/hour. I'm frustrated and worried.
I've encountered a strange situation and I don't know if I'm being paranoid or not.

I worked at the same company for 17 years, left in 2003.  Since then, I've been job hopping.  The problem is, any company can tell you anything they want about how good they are.  You can't really find out the actual workings of a place until you work for them.  So, I get hired, no problem, work for 3-4 months, and if I'm not happy, I start looking again.  Since 2003, I've tried 5 different companies.  I'm looking again. 


This is the weird part:  I always seem to get responses because I have extensive experience.  This time, I applied 4 places, got 3 responses, one of which I immediately ruled out after searching them on the company forum, so I applied and tested with the other 2.  Passed both tests, they were both "very interested" and passed me on to the next step.  Talked with the next person in line, received e/m from one "will call you by such-and-such a date."  The other, message on my answering machine, called them back, person was busy and would return my call.  Then.... nothing!  From either one.  It has been one week and no contact from them.  So I'm wondering if there is a blacklist of MTs.  You think it's possible ... names of MTs who have had more than a couple jobs in recent history and left after a few months?  I just really don't know what to think. 


One of the companies that I was really interested in, I even wrote to the last person I had spoken with and asked them to let me know if I was still being considered or not, because I had other offers to consider and needed to make a decision.  Nothing.  What do you think?


If this isn't the case, this is all extremely rude!  Don't you think?


 


 


 


You sound paranoid .."they are trying to take our supplements away". lol nm
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You are one paranoid woman (?), rather obsessing over cherrypicking.

Her post had not the slightest to do with cherrypicking, you have egg on your face, and you SHOULD apologize. Though I doubt you will, as you get to hide behind your anonymity.


wife OMs are always trouble -- jealous, paranoid
poor hubbie lol

I am so paranoid of being replaced with a lower wage employee.
dd
I'm paranoid by nature, I guess. :) I agree that not all of the services out there are bad. SM

I've just not had much luck with any service and the one I spoke about above was the worst.  That was early in my career and I felt like I was pretty close friends with the supervisor and then to be treated the way I was treated, really just hurt.  Ever since then, I've distanced myself in my work life.  Business is business.


I will say, though, that I am a loyal person.  If I'm treated fairly, I will give 110%.  I think that's what happening these days in the MT world.  MTs aren't getting treated very fair and there are just bad feelings everywhere.  You're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.  If a job offer is too good to be true, then it probable is too good to be true.  And now everyone is playing cover your behind and making sure contracts cover everything.  I just think MTs need to play hardball like the big companies.  If you are working as an IC, you should have a ready made contract for whatever service you contract with.  Why should you be the only one signing rights away?


I've also had the opportunity to read the contract between a big service and one of their hospital clients.  The line rate that this particular service charged was mind boggling.  I don't feel bad about stealing accounts away from services like that.


You can go to BioLife website and read that I think, and no you do not sound paranoid! nm
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I keep the minimum amount of cash in the bank. I may sound paranoid but I fully

there to be locked up.  The banks are scampering around if you notice.  They have written notices that they can raise your interest rate to 28% or more for just about no reason on the credit cards.  I think they have let way too much money borrowed out be on the books, and now the little man is having to pay either with money, or his financial credit. 


If you read about GOLD, gold is selling for a lot, all over the world, even in this supposed stable time.  That's a sign they say that things aren't as steady as the powers that be want you to believe.


I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm

When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?" 


Him: "No."


Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"


Him: "No."


Me:  "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"


Him: (shrug)


etc., etc., etc.


Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)


For CURIOUS: You are not curious, you are paranoid and a sociopath
Are you referring to the sentence

'And HOW to you put a marker?'

where I typed a 't' instead of a 'd'?

It was just a TYPO!

I am an American MT!

It is so pitiful how PARANOID SOME American MTs have become, ESPECIALLY THE OLD ONES, fearing for their jobs and being afraid of getting the boot.

Trying to be 'expert linguists,' sniffing out various dialects, detecting some Indian hints, whereas they most probably live in rural areas or in cities with a population of 1,000 inhabitants.

So sad, so sad, what has become of the MTing profession?

Now, CURIOUS, start nitpicking my post.





LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want?  Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...

The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door.  POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!


Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.

Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.

Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.

And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."


my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM

He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc.  He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer.  He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc.  I feel so stressed out too.  It is a regular argument in our home as well.  I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m.  I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??").  Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school.  He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh.  Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours.  Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.


Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house).  Sigh...Men!  Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;)  Waaaaahhhh!!  I need a wife!


LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone!  Hugs to you,


Chickadee


Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.

Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm

Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.


Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs!  That's a crock.  A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.


And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago.  *lol* but not really laughing.  Any man who will not let  (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man.  Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!! 


feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)


Take my husband, Please !

 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket?    Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal?  While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink?   This is not helpful.  


Yes, please tell us how your husband

Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race.  How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet.  Did his classmates tell him what their race was?


I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement.  Did you think that only white people visited this site?


this is my first husband.
My son was born out of a very short immature teenage relationship, which I ended 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant. He proved his immaturity very quickly in his actions and I decided one baby would be enough to handle, I didn't need two. That choice, I feel, was very responsible and smart. I DO NOT regret keeping my son as he is a wonderful, smart, loving child who has a lot to give to this world.

I am done defending myself to those who choose to bring me down rather than offer some of the pros/cons of staying married or going single again.
What husband???
:)
No husband. nm
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My husband had this done
He regrets it sometimes. He still has problems on and off with reflux but had it much worse before the procedure. He lost a lot of weight after the procedure, probably 20 pounds or so because you are limited on the portion and what food you can eat. You are on a liquid diet the first 2-3 days then soft diet for about a week then gradually can start eating solid food again. He also has a lot of problems with gas, he constantly take gas pills but everyone I am sure is different.
my husband was there and...
He had me send Coolaid, nonperishable foods, candy, snacks, toiletries, and stuff like that.  When my husband was over there, it was the beginning of the war over there and they didn't have all of that stuff.  It may be different now though.  You may want to go look at the forums at www.military.com.  I am not sure, but you may find something there.
I said to my husband
at the beginning of the show "I hope Uncle June doesn't have a firearm in that house". He was talking about Pussy and some other guy that was also whacked. Tony made the mistake of saying one of their names when he was calling to him for supper. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I said, "he shouldn't have said THAT", no sooner were the words out of my mouth and BANG! I hate when I'm right about things like that. He's going to survive, just waiting to see how it plays out. I LOVE THE SOPRANOS! I LOVE JAMES GANDOLFINI! Good night!
My husband was like you regarding me and
sleep. At night, it was difficult for me to fall asleep but in the morning, I was out and it took dynamite to get me up if I hadn't gotten my 8 hours of sleep. I didn't continue to sleep because I didn't want to start the day with him, I did it because I was so drowsy.
When I did get up, I could feel his resentment, made me feel like I was lazy. It was very very bad to start the day off with bad vibes. This happened on vacations as well. He was an early riser but would take naps in the afternoon. I preferred to stay in bed until 9.

Let your kids witness you and your husband in a healthy happy relationship and they will go on to create one just like yours. That is all kids want really. Your actions toward are being watched very closely by these kids.

And yes, your husband sounds like a good man. After my marriage ended (I left), my husband was more than willing to give me the little that I asked for but the negativity snuffed out the positive in the relationship.

My husband used it
He said the withdrawals really weren't that bad. It comes with an aroma inhaler and that helped him a lot! He's been a nonsmoker now for 3 years! Good luck! It's one of the best things you can do for yourself!
Ugh, I am so sorry for your husband.
I've learned that when they speak their native language as much or more as English, the accent never goes away. It's a crying shame.
My husband used it...sm
He used it when he was a teenager at about 16 for 3-4 months and then again as an adult at age 26 for three months.

He had no side effects at all except maybe dry skin. For him it was a life saver because he is a salesman and appearance means a lot.

You just have to make an informed decision. I would do it if my child had acne. I'm a 33-year-old adult and have the occassional pimple because of my birth control and hate it. I try to cover it up with makeup, but boys don't have that option. I, myself, wouldn't hesitate to use it if I had severe acne.

Anyway, my husband says he was told that there may be times again in the future when he has to use it. It is not for long-term use all at one time, but he used it for a few months twice in 10 years.

Hope this helps.
My husband

did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!!  AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200.  UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.


Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.


My husband is the same way sm
Sometimes when I need a change I cook tortellini alfredo and crumble bacon over the top of it. He loves it. We usually add some garlic toast or a salad.
This is what husband and I have done...

for each big decision on job change, moving to a different state, or a situation similar to what you are facing now, one where we find it hard to decide but think we would be happy with either one.  Scarey spot to be in, I know!


Make a list of two columns, one column for each choice (Admin Asst and MT).


 Then list each pro/con for both options (each choice has to have the same pros and cons).  Gas money, time spent with kids, social contact, type of work, etc., etc. - list whatever options are important to you. 


Then assign a percentage or number to each option (my husband is an engineer so we have had to use this elaborate percentage work sheet thing he makes up!!!  I just give him my number on a scale of 1 to 5 how I would rate each option and he does his mathematical calculations). 


Then sit down with whoever you want to have input and start assigning numbers to each option in order of importance.  If you use 1 as low importance and 5 as high importance  - then, say, "Gas Money" option - working at home would be a 5 and the office would be a 1 (no gas money for home, lots of gas money for office).  In other words, if gas money were the only consideration, home would win with a number 5 and office would lose with a number 1.  Then go down your list assigning numbers.


When you are done, add up your numbers and see which option has the most points and that should tell you which you would prefer.


This may sound convoluted and I guess it is (unless you are an engineer or a math major) but, like I said, we have used this each time we have had a big decision to make, have gone ahead with the "most desirable" in terms of percentage outcome, and have been very content with our choice.


I might add that we have lived in 5 different states in 10 years - so we have really put this to the test!!!


The hardest part for me, I think, was getting to the point where I felt each option was equal in desirability.  But you seem to be at that point already, having two choices and facing the anxiety of picking one over the other.  So you are probably ready for THE BIG TEST. 


Good luck to you no matter which you pick and whether or not you use my method!! 


i see now that my husband is not only one
who can't seem to quit. I absolutely hate the effects (on health, house, etc), the stink, the cost, to the point i've thought of living separately. and he has been extremely self-diciplined in other areas of life too, but cannot seem to give this up.
My husband has this

My husband, 30 years old, had an ear infection.  It got so bad that it caused him to develop Bell's palsy.  They told him that it takes anywhere from three weeks to six months to return to normal, but he may have some permanent residual palsy.  It has been about seven months and he still has some problems.  He can only shut his eye about 75%, his smile is not all there and he has some noticeable paralysis to his cheek.  Stress, common cold or hot days can bring on a recurrence or worsen residual symptoms.  Our outlook is that there are worse things to have.  Hope you do well with yours.