I apologize if I offended you, that wasn't my intention at all. As far as any suggestions for SM
Posted By: MissouriMT on 2006-10-07
In Reply to: manic - mom
your situation, I would agree with MT2RN above that maybe she is being enabled to behave the way she behaves. She is getting exactly the reaction she wants. It's hard to do, but if she refuses to get help from trained professionals, then you shouldn't be there to take care of her. My ex-husband refused and I stayed for a long time, taking care of him. He had employment issues and drinking issues and spending issues and legal issues and I just enabled him. I made the money and cleaned up his messes, paid off his debts, bailed him out of jail. It is an endless cycle that can only be broken by the stable person saying "I won't help you anymore, unless you help yourself first."
Again I apologize for offending you. My initial post was in response to your post chronicling what seemed to me to be depression without mania and you made no mention of her being diagnosed as bipolar, so I just simply was curious. I thank you for clarifying and I wish you well. It's really tough situation to be in.
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I wasn't offended. I thought it was funny. :-)
No...I have no intention of that whatsoever! nm
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free pc to people who have no intention of working as MT
Read the post a little more carefully next time, duh.
that was not my intention, Administrator - I have not had the chance to see the responses...but hey,
I will check out that board, for any responses to the post. Thanks!
Start looking for another position. My intention is not to be negative here; however, I have
experienced an entire, large, radiology department laying off all transcriptionists and keeping 1 editor. This was a large teaching hospital. It may take a little while, but if I were you, I would start putting my feelers out for a new position.
Good luck whatever you decide.
I've no intention of switching over just cuz they're a "money maker"
I'd rather do consults and clinic notes which I enjoy. To some of us, it's not ALL about the money.
I'd rather make a little less and enjoy what I do. *Shrug* Maybe that's just me, though. Someone else can have my seat on the OPs bandwagon, lol!!!
Also not offended
... unless they use poor grammar and can't spell. I actually told somebody I work with (I don't work at home anymore because I didn't like it) that she would make a good Transcriptionist because she is so careful to ask questions and learn things thoroughly. She looked very pleased and thanked me. Of course, if she asked me about it, I'd direct her to Andrews.
Not offended here..
I plan on quitting myself when my 35th b-day rolls around in September....how did you do it? I tried with the gum, Zyban,but have always gone back. I think it is just will power.
Sorry that I offended you......
I am truely sorry that I offended you. I don't post on chat boards often so I wrote in a letter form. There is nothing fish going on, I just needd some guidance. I am very down right now about this profession, but I surely did not mean to offend you!
No, I am not offended...sm
LOL! I do not find this offensive at all. I actually love it. I think everyone should just have a sense of humor about it. I tell you if that word offends someone then they have lived a very sheltered life indeed. BUT different strokes for different folks as they say. :)
Not offended...You just keep smoking that
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So sorry..say something about the MTs who don't do their jobs and they are all offended, but yet
MTs who DO do their jobs are not. HMMMMMM
Now THAT comment would have offended me!
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Here, here!!! My own husband got OFFENDED when someone would say
"Oh, you're babysitting." He'd say, "NO, they're MY kids. You don't say my wife babysits when she stays home with them." Aren't guys amazing!
No, not offended and not turning on you sm
I think some of us are frustrated and concerned for you because we know it will happen again--and there's nothing we can do.
We also see the things that you're saying and see them as typical problematic statements, classical of someone who's being abused and will be abused again.
Statements like these:
"I have neglected to mention that when he is calm, he is actually okay." What? What difference does that make? He's probably very sweet and wonderful when he's not hitting you, yes.
and
"The incident two weeks ago was because I was forcing a trip to see my daughter's family." In other words, you caused it, right? That's so typical of an abused woman. "I made him mad" or "I egged him on." See, we on this board read things like this and see what you're not seeing, which is why we are SCARED for you and urging you firmly to see them. You're interpreting this as turning on you or that we're offended. No -- we are seeing something and trying to get you to see it, and really worried that you're not. And yes, frustrated that you're going to live with this man under the same roof while you try counseling and religion.
I'm offended that you laugh about it
Have you checked into seeing what is required of someone to become a fellow of the AAMT? It is a lot of work, believe you me. And, it is not just the education--it's community service, holding offices in the organization, as well as the continuing education part of it.
I work for a surgeon who is a fellow of the American College of Surgeons. It works basically the same way---they have to prove that they have completed so much continuing education, hold offices in organizations, community-type services, etc.
Basically, just being a "fellow" just means that you've gone above and beyond what an ordinary person in your organization does. Honestly, I think it is an honor; a matter of distinction, even if it is just AAMT. It just sets yourself apart from everyone else; says that you are a hard worker.
I'm sorry if I offended you personally....sm
 That was not my intention and I see in another thread you defended my post about eTime....da DE dum dum is what I said about the web clock question. So I want to thank you for the defense....on the eTime and apologize if I insulted you about the gift-giving recognition for MT Week.....
Have a nice weekend!!! 
Dear offended
I would go to the doctor and tell him exactly how you feel. You are completely justifed in feeling offended - you were in a sense stabbed in the back.
Since you will be less productive while you are training this person, you need to let the doctor why. That way, if the office manager tries to criticize you for being less productive, you know that the cardiologist understands why.
That is why I like working at home - no office politics. Had more than my share of that kind of obnoxious behavior in the past.
What is offended is my hearing!
I know exactly where the post comes from. I hear physicians say the patient mother, no patient's, but the patient mother. That really grates on my nerves. Some words are not even pronouced correctly. I would think if you have the sense to become a physician, surely you can get some English in on the side. It is very rude and offensive for me to have to listen.I get enough of that on the evening local news.
I would be offended as well. A lot of assumptions going on here.
I was accused of being a troll.
I personally am not offended by asking about my salary...
I am just saying some people might think that way...
Yeah, and I suppose I probably offended
some newbies, too. I didn't mean to. I know what I was thinking in my head but I didn't communicate that in my message post.
I apologize..you did say that!
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No need to apologize. . . .sm
I have (had) one woman ESL that speaks very, very softly with a very, very heavy accent and there is always a huge HUM in the background. If you turn up the volume to actually HEAR her, the HUM just get's louder. She never does shy of at least 40 lines per patient which would take me at least a half hour and would be sent with at least 5 QA markers.
I reported her to my super and haven't had her for over 2 weeks. Whether or not they are "fixing" the problem or sending it to India, I hope I'll never know, but she honestly was next to impossible.
How can you apologize for something other's did?
Your post is sickening. Close the site down? Teach manners to those who hate? Manners?
Don't apologize . .
I rather enjoy the husband rants 
No need to apologize...
We all get just as frustrated with dictators who eat while dictating. It's extremely rude. Then too, some docs have absolutely no idea how horrible it sounds on the other end -- until they hear it for themselves! LOL
For example, I used to transcribe for a university president who chewed (smacked) on his gum during every single dictation. He was a precious man and I never had the nerve to tell him that it bothered me so much. I would literally cringe when I heard this. One day, he went through my office and saw my body language, which must have been quite a sight because I was totally and completely past the point of being able to control or concele my contorted face, the hairs on my neck standing straight up, or my huffing and puffing while typing. I did not hear him walk through and he stopped by my desk to ask me what was wrong. Well, what could I do? I took out my earphones and let him hear it for himself. He was completely shocked and embarrassed.
I felt HORRIBLE about bringing this to his attention because he was the best boss and the sweetest person I knew but he never did it again.
then I apologize
to you and wish you and your family good health. don't forget to vote!
I apologize!
I am sorry. I must have offended you in some way. I guess it is unreasonable for me to need some time off for rest, time with my family, or even for medical leave. Yes, I am very grateful to have a job to return to. I am blessed. Everyone needsa break some time. I just don't want to be the type of wife/mother that teaches her family that money and a job is all there is to life. Maybe I am wrong. Perhaps I should not be seeking advice on this site if I am going to offend others.
I must apologize
I am the OP and did not intend to offend any particular group of people. Did I mention I am not white? As far as I could “hear” the dictator was not black. For the sake of being PC can any one give me the right term to describe Ebonics? Where I was raised “Pijun” was the spoken language, and I would agree with anyone who would think that should be considered ESL as well.
OP, I don't see any need to apologize!
To me anyway, you described a type of language being used and that language is known as Ebonics. To me it's kinda like "pig Latin."
People take offense to the darndest things these days it's not funny. Ever visit the comedy section of this board? I posted maybe 3 or 4 blonde jokes and no one's crawled up my butt complaining racism or whatever. Sigh. It's hard to have any sort of dialogue without offending someone on some level, so just be yourself and if someone has a problem with something you said, it's their problem to deal with, not yours.
"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~Eleanor Roosevelt
I apologize for not
reading your post carefully. I see that you realize you will need an editor. If you hire an Editor and pay them what they are worth to proof your work right out of school, they will be making more than you, and you will probably be making less than with S*is or M*qst. Doesn't make sense and I can't imagine it being worth it. To sum it up, yes, your idea sounds nuts. Again, JMO. I'm sure there are people who have done it. Doesn't make it a good idea.
I wrote the post and I am not offended, I took it how you meant it.
and like I said.... I love warm milk, drink it almost every night.
I am white and offended by that garbage post as
well. I am so sorry there are people like above poster in this world. A nice informatie post turns to garbage - oh well. 
Dang, don't apologize ;-)
Like far out, man..LOL. Awesome resolution on both of them (of course I had to save them to my docs, too)  The second one looks like a Peter Maxx drawing, dontcha think?
Thanks for sharing...really need a peace sign here, dang it...oh, no wink either *sigh*
I apologize for obviously offending you.
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I agree - and apologize. (nm)
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Heck, don't apologize
They don't deserve it. If they have one ounce of sense in their heads, they will do what they can to accommodate you. If they don't, there are plenty of companies out there who would be happy to hire the talented and witty Hayseed. Seriously.
Well, on the other hand, I would like to apologize.
I have been at this since 1979. The changes that have occurred over the last 25 years have been dramatic and mostly, they have been oppressive. Now, I know I will see e-mails stating that this is the greatest job in the world and who could ask for more than being able to stay at home and make a living.
It is more than that. This is the only field where the wickedness comes out of coworkers to the point of disdain toward their comrades. I don't understand it. It is not like this in any other field. Mostly, the team work that is necessary for feel like there is a common goal (giving the client a perfect report in a timely fashion)and a common enemy (QA which dissect our reports, turning even the most seasoned MTs into self-doubting, defensive and trembling people who, of course, realize they are on the brink of losing their jobs). The past performance however perfect is wiped clean with one bad QA result. Supervision becomes god-like, determine how much income we will make, how well we will enjoy our work and how we feel about ourselves depending on their feedback and encouragement.
There isn't much more to say about this job - it does pay well but comparatively speaking, after 25 years in the same field, you could say, we have not had a raise. Speed typing engines keep our production up to a level that gives us a decent wage.
Say what you will about this job, but it is always going to have good and bad days. Over the years, our hearing will diminish, tinnitus from noise exposure, carpal tunnel from repetitive movements, the innumerable physical conditions which result from sitting still for such a long time (heart attacks at 50 have occurred to two of my comrades), isolation, depression.
And it is not going to get any better.
Trying to consider that I am working to help a physician perform his duties as he treats his patients is what I personally focus on. It helps to be fascinated by medicine.
But, to the new MTs - I apologize for the bad and hope that the good makes up for it. I hope you realize that the patient is why we are here, so be sure that our report is accurate so that proper care is provided.
The personalities in this field can be abrasive, and it may be that reason why they turn to solo work but again, that goes with it. Best advice is to keep to yourself, not gossip nor listen to gossip, type every report like it is the only one, and realize that the money, even 60 thousand a year, is far from enough to compensate us for doing a job that is so rarely appreciated by the CEOs, that our line count and bad QA score over a 30 day period can take us out of a job we have been in for 20 years.
Just had a doctor apologize to the
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Yes, it is SHUT UP or APOLOGIZE!...nm
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you didn't offend me. you offended yourself and males who you know. if you think it's funny,
i don't. and i don't like the buffoon dumb male vs very clever female schtick either. it is degrading to both parties. if the female is so smart, why is she with some dumba$$ guy anyway?
I get offended by blonde jokes. They're not funny at all.
Especially, after hearing them over and over again from people who think they're being "clever". In addition, I don't know how many times people have told me to prove that I'm a real blonde. Like they can't tell from my eyebrows. Duh, really funny and so original. I've never heard that one before.
We blondes do have to overcome the stereotype. People think we're stupid or promiscuous just because we're blonde. Scoff all you want to, but it's true. No, we don't have it as tough as minorities do at all, but nobody ever takes us seriously either. I'd give examples of real life discrimination and harrassment in the workplace, but why bother? Everyone just thinks they're being funny or clever.
Anyone else offended or insulted to be offered 6-7 cpl? Or is it just me or finds this insulting.
Is this how bad it is that now this is the going rate?? I get sick to my stomach just thinking about it. I need a career change. 
Okay, I apologize ahead of time for this
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Apologize for the mistake...meant sm, not nm.
nm.
You are right, Dano. I apologize for sounding
so critical.
Yes, QA can have problems getting their act together. Most of time, however, I see MTs who absolutely feel they should never be corrected nor forced to follow the client preferences because they have a zillion years of experience.
No one knows it all. It doesn't matter if you have 1 year of experience or 25 years of experience; if the client wants it a certain way, they want it that way, period.
I should have tempered the tone of my post and I am going to ask Admin if they will make a change to it.
MT-NY, I apologize for sounding so critical.
This is a touchy subject, as you can well see.
You're correct - I don't know it all! I have over 20 years of experience but when a client wants it a certain way, they just do.
If it is just one QA person who is doing this, I would take that up with a supervisor. I think I might have responded differently had I known it was just one QA person doing this and not all of the QA department.
In any event, I apologize.
Simon did apologize, he said so last night. nm
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Yes. this post is a bit out of control, and I apologize--sm
I also thank you for your words. I overreacted and I will be the first to admit that. I know she was trying to be *funny* with her comment about shooting herself, and I was trying to be *funny* back, but I didn't call her a nit wit. I am sensitive today because it is my youngest son's birthday and he misses his dad, and it showed today. My son's found their father dead and they are having a difficult time in dealing with it. I guess I am too. I HAVE sought counseling, but I have not found one that was not more interested in money than in trying to help. Thank you again...and to you and the OP....I apologize. I DO know when I am wrong. but I am not a nit wit.
oops - I APOLOGIZE TO SM - you didn't...sm
Sorry to sm....you DID NOT type *slow typers* - Please forgive me for typing that - I was incorrect on that. Really sorry :)
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