I think you know already know what you need to do.
Posted By: MT3 on 2006-01-29
In Reply to: Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
Hi. It sounds like you know you need to leave. I know this is a tough decision - this is not how you planned your life to be. But nothing will change unless you do something. I left my husband after 13 years (not abusive, but chronically financially irresponsible), went to a counselor and told him I didn't know what to do. He talked to me for about five minutes and said there were two things he could think of that I could do. One, either get him to go to counseling, or two, I could leave. He said if I wanted my life to change I would have to do one of those things. That was the key - I needed to DO something. Which was very difficult for me because I was not used to taking charge of my own life and taking care of myself - always hoped other people would do that.
Anyway, once I finally did make that decision help came from out of the woodwork. I had family who were able to help me financially to get a place to rent, friends to help me move, complete strangers that I met who gave me the most incredible encouragement - just what I needed to hear. And once I left I felt like jumping for joy! Thought I would be sad - but no, just the opposite.
I know it's scary to decide to leave, because your are going into the unknown, the abyss. But I bet you it will absolute be worth it. Not that it will be easy - my life isn't totally easy, but I just feel so much better! That's important for your kids too, that they have a mom who is happy.
I wish you success. Don't be afraid - you will be okay!
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