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My niece is getting married later this month BUT they are

Posted By: me on 2005-08-16
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actually only throwing themselves an engagement party as their BIG wedding and reception will be next year.  They are really getting married this year, I wanted that clear, they just have to save for their big fairy tale wedding.  Anyway, we're invited to this little ceremony this year along with the "engagement" party.  What is an appropriate gift for this kind of occasion?  I'm not a cheapo but want something appropriate as next year are the big doings and of course the gift then should be bigger and nicer, or go with the nice gift now and the appropriate 1-year anniversary gift next year.  Any ideas ladies or gents?  Thanks.

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I had a similar situation and my niece was 19 at the time. She was not sleeping around, was with 1 guy but not using OCP or anything else because it was her sexual relationship and she thought she "couldn't get pregnant." She had sex ed and was told better, but apparently she listened to her stupid friends instead of her teachers.

I'm a little more hardened than you - I would have told her that I was taking her advice and minding my own business.

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Your niece made a mistake, a big one, but she should not have to forfeit her chance at a life because of a sexual encounter. If she can't remember to take the pill, she needs to get a patch. But she should be using a barrier method of some kind to prevent STDs.

The fact that she is not responsible enough to use birth control should be a clue that she is not responsible enough to raise a child.
My niece is a product of IVF (sm)
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WRONG - my niece does it and you can
only have so many parties before your friends and/or relatives are ready to choke you.  LOL.  It's really a pyramid and good if you get in at the beginning.  Not a good time to sell it now - it will be a thing of the past very soon.
I really have to clarify that my niece..sm
really isn't the kind of girl who would send anything suggestive. 
I despise ain't! My niece says it sometimes and
She's way too smart to talk like that, and my kids spend a lot of time with her, and now I've heard them say it a few times too.  grrrrr.  I'll have to tell them that little riddle - they'll love that!
It's rough. I have a niece who's having trouble. sm

The sad part about being a newbie is all the hype the MT schools throw at you about "You can work at home!  You can make $40,000 a year!, blah, blah, blah!"

I have a niece going through the same thing.  She paid for school, graduated with top honors and couldn't find a thing for months.

What a lot of the MT schools don't tell you is about the real world. The big companies are looking for turnaround time and making money. "Newbies" (and by the way I hate that word) are a risk. 

I just started working at home after 15 years in the medical field, but had to start  as a receptionist after spending 8 years as a legal secretary/paralegal. It didn't take long for the docs to realize that I could spell and I could type and I offered to try and type their reports. With a lot of help from the docs I found I loved doing MT. I took on a part-time MT at home job at nights 1 1/2 years ago for a local person, took a medical terminology class and then took the "plunge."

So anyway, (sorry to go on so long), my advice to you is to try to find something locally, if you can, even just signing patients in at a local hospital part time and offer your MT knowledge and typing ability to human resources.  Once you have even 6 months of experience, I'm sure you will be taken more seriously.

My niece did eventually find part time work and is working at home, but she's getting paid 5 cents a line.

Best of luck to you.


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My niece was born at 4:16 this morning.

My sister in law gave birth to my niece at 4:16 this morning and I am sure that people will raise their eyebrows everytime she tells someone her DOB. 

my niece is an ultrasound tech and has sm
been for about 8-9 years. When she went in there was a shortage of ultrasound techs (kind of like the MT profession). I think her schooling was 2 years. She had to take some pre-requisite stuff that she didn't have in highschool. She makes great money. But she told me that there is getting to be an overabundance of US techs now. Use to be you had to go through the whole radiology program just to even think about being an ultrasound tech. Because of the shortage they took the US tech out of the radiology program and started programs independently. I am wondering if US is going to go the way of MT and there will be so many of them and not enough jobs.

On the positive side of it, they have many options available. There are traveling US techs that go from state to state or just facility to facility. Go for it!
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eyelids and eyebrows done a few years ago, and I don't know what the final cost was, but the DOWN PAYMENT was $800!!! 

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Married at 24.
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Married at 18, again at 34
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I never said I was married,
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I was so used to asking my first husband's permission to do things that every now and then I slip up and ask my husband now, and he gets offended when I ask him for permission! He can't believe my first husband was that kind of person. Just had to share this with y'all. My best friend wants to clone him.
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Every day since I got married.
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why are they getting married this year (sm)

and having their "fairy tale wedding" next year?  Why not just wait and do the whole marriage thing next year, but have an engagement party this year? 

I know it's probably personal but hey, you brought it up!

After being married for almost 19 years....its even better!

My husband and I have been  married for almost 19 years and our sex is better now than it ever has been and there is no downloaded porn involved.  4 times a week after being married for almost 19 years is a good thing.  But for the others remember its not the quantity but the quality that should count. 

What makes you think that your love life has to fizzle just because you are married so long?????

Been married 29 yrs, get more now than ever but I say it took me 18 yrs to train to where he knows
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Why you're still married! sm
Hang onto this one, girl! Hearts of gold shine through. :)
Married or adopted?
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P.S. - he's WRONG ABOUT OUTSOURCING. The sky's the limit here - nothing will stop outsourcing as long as there are HUGE profits to be made.
I was married to a guy like that once. I divorced him.
Most selfish, insensitive, clueless human being on planet earth. Good riddance.
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Are they getting married in a church?
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They're not married yet - NM
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My first gut reaction would be NO, but it would depend on the circumstances. I think I would have a very hard time trusting him again and forget about the STDs that could be involved.  OMG.  So, I guess. I might be able to forgive him but the marriage would probably be over.

Unhappily married?
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married since 03 and pregnant now sm
and totally on the way out the door. He is 6 years younger than me, lazy, doesn't know how to keep a job, is immature. Can't handle it. Love him but just can't do it on my own.
Get your own accounts.  Not married, work for single to dual office physicians.  Not going for that "ONE BIG" account but several that add up to that one big account.  I work 30 to 32 hours per week with pick up and delivery, printing time all counted in.  So it is out there, just gotta keep looking.  As for EMR - have been asked -- did not seek out -- to do their EMR and you can hook into the EMR programs at home and do not need to work in the office.  So the possibilities are there just gotta be a little creative and work smart.   So if your accounts decide to go for EMR show them how much time YOU can save them by doing the dictation still.   After a while the docs hated doing it and dictated on their way home, send the dictation digitally, you transcribe and can send them over to be downloaded or you can go in and load them into the charts.    Patti  PS typing without my glasses please 'cuse any goofs. 
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