Don't just send a note to the school...
Posted By: They Said What on 2009-03-11
In Reply to: toddler wants to shoot my family - Tab
Call the principal. We had something like this happen last year at one of the schools here where I live. It is a serious thing, because some of these kids actually try to carry through.
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My kid's school sends us home a note - sm
when 1 kid gets lice. It is sent to the parent's whose kids are in the same class and on the same bus; that is it, and I am fine with that. At least I am aware there is a problem and can be on the lookout. A friend told me that these critters don't like dirty hair and to put hair mousse in the hair as it deters the lice. Figure it cannot hurt, so I did it this last "outbreak" 2 weeks ago and we have avoided it again (3 outbreaks this year to date-1 was in my daughter's class, ick). I just hope I never have to go through it, one with the pain in the butt aspect, and 2 my DH will go totally nuts/ballistic if it ever happens.
Our school send notices home when they - sm
are doing eye tests, hearing tests, etc. Permission is not needed. Obviously they expect the parent here to advise them of any issues in advance.
Update - has agreed to send him back to school
Thanks everyone for all your advice. I prayed about it (and prayed that I would say the right things and not the wrong ones) and then I called my ex, who after discussing it for a couple hours, agreed to send him back to school with a note that he was not to go in the locker room unless the school has sanitzed it recently. He also agreed to take the child to his doctor for a checkup and to make sure his immunizations are current, and to see if the doctor had any input regarding anything else that should be done. Hopefully he will do as promised.
Well, I had to send my twin 3-year-olds to a school.
They are there all day long and I work all day. Paying for the daycare and making more money is about equal to when I worked at home with them in my way, only I am more sane for it and they are learning great social skills. I would really consider changing your hours and putting them in school/daycare/learning center, even if just for a few hours a day. It does help.
Like I said, I feel for you. I have twin 3-year-olds, and I swear they seem worse than when they were 2! LOL!
I agree, I would send just send a card....
maybe a mass card if they are Catholic.
Call the school. I had a threat like this in my high school and they cancelled school that day.
Thankfully, because the person making the threats was found with material for home made pipe bombs and quit a bit of ammunition and a shotgun. He was arrested and charged. Never allowed back in the school.
I think it would be safer to call the school and get classes cancelled for a day to investigate versus make a scene in the parking lot, especially if the student with the knife is inside with the knife.
Good luck. If nothing happens, pull your child out of school for a week. See what happens. I know that sounds horrible, but small towns is where this happens most often.
Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!
How is the school's fault if Johnny comes to school armed?
And how is the school's fault if off campus people are getting jumped? Everybody wants to blame the schools, but the reason places have gone "zero tolerance" is because every parent whose kid gets popped for an illegal weapon says, "Oh, my little pookie wouldn't do that." Which is exactly what the parents of every perpetrator of school violence has said. At 15, this girl should have been aware that it was verboten and, if they felt that strongly it was necessary, kept it hidden. If she is not capable of thinking that part through, maybe she shouldn't be trusted with pepper spray anyway.
How is this kid in school with chronic infestation? School nurse
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Another note, you said there must be more to it because
I simply responded because someone else posted that they wouldn't shop at WalMart.
You would not believe what was on my op note....
I had a doctor who falsified my op note. I had several procedures (plastic) including a face lift. He forgot the face lift! Yes, that is right. When I went and checked the medical record, the op note not dictated yet and when I approached him at his office he gave me an "IOU" on his office stationary with him signing his name. Yeh, right. I only asked for the up front payment I made for the face lift that I did not get and 8 months later he dictated the op note, except he included the face lift portion in it. I have an unusual last name so that would not be the problem. I went thru mediation and he even called my home twice in a threatening type voice. I worked there at the hospital where he is the head over that department and I just finally let it go- I believe in Karma... so
Should be " a more serious note"-
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Just another note
I'm so glad I wasn't "blasted" for my thoughts and its nice that people respect other people. You did have some good opinions too. One thing I should have mentioned though is that I don't have kids and I think that plays such a bigger role for people who do, and it is easier for me to make my decisions about moving on with my life than it would be for someone else.
Growing up it was the other way around. My mom cheated on my dad. My dad was a truckdriver, and yes he may have had women on the road but we never heard about it. My mom on the other hand we knew was having affairs (there's nothing more disgusting than being 15 and 16 years old and your mom's boyfriend is singing to her the song "I want to make love to you"). My mom also became pregnat by a sailor at the navy base when I was 3 years old and we ended up moving 2 states away where she had the baby and gave him up for adoption, unfortunately 3 months after she gave the baby up for adoption my little sister who was 16 months old died from meningitis. My dad ended up staying with my mom until my sister and I were old enough to understand why they were divorcing (which was 12 years later). We loved both my mom and dad equally. Mom's now in heaven with baby sister and grandparents etc.
Anyway...what I'm trying to say is in my case I would have an easier time dealing with this type of situation (because of no kids).
As for the hollyweird people I don't think any of them (or at least the majority of them) ever think when they get married it's going to be for life. They are just a different breed of people. Oh sure, they get on TV and say this is for life, but then 3 months later they turn around divorce and a week later marry someone else. I do think Brad & Jennifer were quite different than the usual crowd. I did feel bad for her when all that happened.
In my case I am committed while I am in the marriage, but if anything did happen I wouldn't be devistated because I'm basically doing everything myself anyways, but having an affair is just not something my husband would ever do (just not in his nature), but I also just look at life a little differently and figure if anything ever happens I will be committed to making myself happy.
End note!...sm
Perhaps I shoulda put in my first post that you seem to be rather mean-spirited. I heard it in your first post indicating that you're above it all. The second post was absolutely atrocious....(I am the grandaughter of...yada, yada, yada). Piffle and snot!
Hayseed is very tender-hearted, has extraordinary wit and humor, thinks before she speaks/posts, and works very hard.
Please don't mess with my friend. End note.  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
Please note sm
This is not the original poster.
Of further note...
My husband and I started going to counseling for us to have someone to talk to about the ex and get ideas on how to handle difficult situations with the child. We then slowly introduced the child after the counselor found out information and suggested it.
Just a note to all
I was reading all your posts and this thought came to mind. We don't live in the days of when I was growing up in the 50s. Things were very safe and we never locked our doors. But times are different. There are so many horrible crimes and in placed nobody ever dreamed would happen. Like one of the posters below said, I too have seen news where a crime happened and the people would say, we just never thought it would happen here. To all who think its safe or no big deal, it is a big deal and for all your safety I would please just take the extra 5 or 10 seconds it takes to turn the lock on your door. It takes but a second or two but an act that could possibly one day save your life. For all those who think your towns are safe, there are so many people who think the same thing and you see them on the news. One incident in particular that comes to mind is a town in Pennsylvania where a bunch of Amish school girls were killed. My point is that while everyone wants their town to remain a very safe place where everyone loves their neighbor and is so safe to leave your doors unlocked, it really is not that way anymore.
So, please just take the extra step and turn the lock at night.
Did he see the note?
It sounds like you told him about the note. I think his reply is pretty standard and that if he can deny it, blame it on "one of the guys" at work, and that be the end of it, then he's going to stick with his story.
It has a note on it.
It is three months behind and they are about to repo it. So that isn't an option.
Just a note
Not MY experience, but last year my mom (60 yo, well past menopause start) experienced abnormal bleeding. Turned out to be endometrial ca. They performed TAH and she went through radiation therapy. Did very well, and her last check ups were very good. I think time between diagnosis and surgery was a few weeks. My advice, don't stress too much between now and seeing your doc.
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
side note--sm
and don't forget to remove the neck and giblets in the bag inside the turkey prior to baking. I learned from experience. :^)
I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm
to be helping with the kids so she could bring home money. I am sure he has no problem spending any money she makes, but he does not want to be inconvenienced in the course of her making the money. I know, I have the same problem but not as bad as she does. My older daughter did not even know she had a dad basically until she was about 19 months old, then my DH had absolutely no choice but to help as I gave birth to our second daughter. At that point he'd probably only changed 2 diapers. But with kid #2 he helped more than he did with the first one, but still under some duress. To this day he still won't brush their hair, or supervise/help with teeth brushing (he says he doesn't know how to do it, well he does it himself so where is the problem), they are 6 and 8 now. You never feel pestered by your kids, you get on the phone and instantly they want you and nag you to death until you either lock yourself in the bathroom or get off the phone, then they don't want/need you anymore. Yes, I feel pestered sometimes, doesn't mean I don't want to take care of my children, I'd die for them if necessary. The poster is frustrated, obviously being verbally abused and has a jerk for a DH. I can relate and I am sure many others can too. It is hard to be supermom, work, clean, take care of the kids/house, make DH happy, everyone but you comes first, and then when the DH has to actually help out boy you'd think you were cutting off his leg. Well, mine is not like that now, but he used to be. Now he is good about it and likes his time with the kids on his own but they are older now and easier to deal with. They still can drive you nuts though. I hope she can somehow get him to turn around, maybe stop working for 2 weeks and when he sees the money is not coming in maybe he will realize just how important it is that she have the time to work without interuptions and pitch in some to lighten her load.
On a lighter note -
its FRIDAY!!!!!! WOO HOO Thank goodness, what a long week I've had.
On a personal note -
 Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas? I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future. Anycomments or anything about it? I sure would appreciate it!
Got a tacky thank you note
I went shopping for the gifts and got a printed thank you note. That is just tacky-back. If I have time to shop for a gift, you can at least send a 2 sentence thank you- hey could mention my name and what I gave also. That is how you do things.
could have wrote you note but sm
I have a daughter that is a sophmore.Wamted this certain college. Could not convince to stay in state. It costs her 10,000 dollars more being out of state. She goes from wanting to b there to not wanting to be there to liking it it to hating it It depends on what day you talk to her. Joined the band dropped out, had problem with boyfriend moved across the campus, than they started dating again, then he ends it. She gets upset wants to come home. I get a phone call every night. Everytime we decide to have her transfer or come home she decides to stay. Has changed her major three times. What worries me is she is on Student loans that she will be responsible to pay when she graduates. If she leaves college she will have to start paying immediately, where she would have 10 years if the stays in college. This month she is already over 80 minutes on the cell phone and there is two weeks more to go. She spends hours talking to the ex-boyfriend and they are on the same campus. My husband and I are going to talk to a therapist about this because I want to do tough love. Hang up when she calls crying at 11 p.m. Telling her if she does not get her act together she will have no choice to leave etc. He is the softy. Nothing makes her happy.
By any chance is your son going to a college in New England.
Quick note sm
I think he is incredible, yes, but he is a bit of a perfectionist and even loveingly complains when we don't keep the house "clean enough" or "yardwork needs to be done". I have always said he will either make a wonderful husband or drive his wife crazy. LOL!!!
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Thanks for your note, here's more info...sm
She is doing well in school in some subjects and struggling in others as she has a couple of learning disabilities but has made great improvement with that so far this year. I'm hearing from her teachers and other parents that a lot of her kids her age are now "testing" them and parents like we used to do when we were older. She doesn't make friends at school easily and that's something a counselor is working with her on, because she does things to really annoy other kids and make them not like her.
We already did the drastic measure of taking everything out of her room and that really got to her for about a week, esp since she had to spend every moment she wasn't in school or in bed in her room during that time. She has only earned a few of her things back. Some days she does well and other days she's, like a brat trying to see how much she can get by with.
We don't believe in spanking but when I was growing up, if we ever talked like that we'd have been knocked across a room!
I told her tonight when she got mad at me and screamed in my face to STOP that if she kept this crap up she'd have a very miserably severely grounded life, and that my next measure would be to add to the grounding to her room no afternoon snack, which she loves, to see if that helps get her attention. She also knows that we're going to see Santa soon but we haven't told her the date for that and that if she's not behaving then we're going to make her tell Santa she hasn't been good....and she knows I'll make her do that.
Note for Siren (sm)
I saw your note below about how you are recovering from foot surgery and trying to lose weight. I lost weight about 5 years ago doing Oxycise when I had severe plantar fasciitis. I kept it off for over two years and then stopped Oxycising and gained back what i had lost and more, slowly over the last few years. I just recently started back on it and it is working like a charm. Anyway, it is 15 minutes a day of isometric and breathing exercises. The DVD is kinda nerdy looking and it doesn't look like it would do anything but it really does. It is about $30 and it really does work. Back when I lost so much with using it I was practically their spokes person telling everyone I knew but then I slacked off! Anyway best wishes to you!
I forgot to add to the above note
My children, sibling and parents do not have a key to my house and we are all very very very close, and I don't have a key to any of their houses - and we all feel loved by each other and welcome anytime as long as one of us are there or we arrange it ahead of time to let each other in the house without one of us there. Why in the world would anyone want a key to someone elses home when they don't live there is beyond comprehension for me. I know...maybe I should give them all a key to my house and they drunk on the corner down the road too. Give me a break everyone....better yet give the person who originally posted a break (and some credit for knowing right from wrong).
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I would use a check and be sure to note
Saw this on Judge Judy 1 too many times where people didn't note that on the memo line and it came back to bite them later on. Depending on the type of debt and whether you are mailing the check or dropping it off, I would ask for a receipt. If mailing it, send it certified (check with your post office) and you will get a return receipt for a dollar or 2.
Note my surprise...
I did not realize we knew each other so well. You seem to know my age, my mortgage amount, what kind of car I drive, the amount of my household income. You should really be in a different profession.
I'd certainly wanna see the procedure note
They should have some documentation of what happened. If not, I'd REALLY wanna know exactly what was so minor they'd not document it, but left marks on your body!
LOL, note that she said the cousin is now not that stable.....
Thanks to Auntie??? ; ) lol
Another note on these wrists and Misha
Ok, I have tried some of the suggestions. I folded the towel and used that but it runs my keyboard off the back and does not seem to have enough room for my mouse so that is cumbersome. I bought the wrist supports at Wal-Mart last night and am trying those today and finally want to know where I can purchase those softflex gloves you spoke of Misha. I will try any and all because of the discomfort every single day. Thanks!
Agree, but on a lighter, but actually maybe a more serious note...
I blame Ronald Reagan for taking down the solar panels Jimmy put up on the White House. Just think of what we could have accomplished all these years had they taken seriously the concerns of the 'environmental doomsdayers.'
Actually I blame us...
Clarification on the previous note
That is I am planning on rescuing 1 or 2 animals per month.
send the 2yo to the
I have found the best way to handle it is to refuse to buy my husband any clothes at all. He has to go and buy his own clothes, and live with the look. It is none of my business. I only fill requests for bags of socks.
I always send
I always give a beautifully illustrated children's book, which truthfully people are never impressed initially, but after they cuddle their babies and read to them about 100 times in the middle of the night when they are sick, and eventually teach their kids to read the book back to them, they usually decide to keep it forever.
But receiving blankets are nice also.. :)
Op report won't note combativeness, etc. Just 'discomfort'
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On another note...does the automatic cleaner work?
Wondering if I should get one.
Even if they sent home a note and acknowledged a problem
what could you have done?? Got the other kids thrown out of school, taken your child out for the rest of their life… My gosh, lots of kids/people have lice and it is not the end of the world. Just like a child having pin worms, they get- you treat. You can pick them up anywhere, the movies, restaurants, skating rinks. I do not think parents have to be notified of each little happening that goes on- they have more to do with their time than to notify of every little bug that happens along
Friend of mine got the same note from her kid, but she was only 23 at the time.
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Just read a short note about her appearance
I just wish my husband would ask me to put on a "slutty" show. He and I both would be amazed. When in actual court noticed she kept her eyes down not looking up. I believe in establishing good eye contact. She says she picked up a shotgun, never thought it was loaded (double duh) and shot him. I think anytime you are upset, angry, get a gun you think it is loaded or otherwise why pick 1 up? I have been abused (even broken arm) in years past and I never ever wanted to kill and really do not care to hold a gun at anytime.
I'm so sorry for your sad note. I hope your life turned
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Got note from association about mowing our grass
but thank goodness hubby had mowed just a few days ago. The association goes through the neighborhood ever so often and checks the yards. He has a riding lawnmower and a gas run mower; however I am unable to mow the front yard because cannot pull the rope on the mower. I fully intend to get me a push button starter mower so I can at least mow the front so presentable at all times.
I wouldn't send it and this is why . . .
People like this get off on how they are hurting people. She can see in your email that you are hurting, and although it is a valiant and kind effort on your part, she will see it as a sign of weakness and groveling, which is what would delight her.
I'm so sorry you're put in this situation. You sound like a kind, gentle person and you certainly don't deserve the way she treats you.
The only thing I can suggest is to be around her as little as possible (family gatherings, traditions, etc.) and always choose to be in another room, on the opposite end of the dinner table, etc., as physically far away from her as possible.
Continue to be pleasant, don't stoop to her level, and you don't owe her an apology for anything.
She's the one with the problem, not you.
Know anyone can send email...
I said sent in error and that is what happened, not that you had anything to do with this, you did not. Apparently by saying independent and asking about how to send in taxes, this person thought I was maybe owner of a company. Maybe rereading the post I held no one accountable, no one. I would never respond to a post like this because of it being from India and just too many scammers out there for me. The first sentence says - - I don’t know where they got my email unless this site is giving it out - this sentence did not come from me.
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