Federal laws require that students be educated....sm
Posted By: My2cents on 2006-11-30
In Reply to: I am sure people with disagree with me but...sm - at home MT
on their level however it gets frustrating for parents when their child isn't "normal" and they have to fight with schools to get their child educated. It's crazy that your nephew was passed from school to school without being able to read. As a foster parent I had a prior foster child that came to me in the 5th grade but could really only read at a 1st grade level and was very behind in all subjects.... yet her report cards from her prior schools all gave her A's and B's and commented on what a wonderful student she was. I busted my butt working with the caseworkers to get her the extra assistance she needed to get caught up and teaching her how to work around her learning disabilities, which were diagnosed while she was with me. Did the school want to cooperate? No.... but all it took was one letter from an education attorney to get them to realize that we were going to force them to educate this child instead of passing her own without helping her and then they started working with us. Crazy thing is that the federal laws require it, provide the money for it but the schools don't want to deal with the paperwork or having to do it... and they prefer just changing grades for kids and passing them on instead of helping them. This sends these kids on the dead-end street because they eventually graduate without any skills and oftentimes it goes downhill from there.
When I was growing up we had 1 teacher to maybe 10 or 15 students, and the teachers had time to work with the kids individually as they needed it. Now the schools want to cram as many kids into a classroom as they can, don't give teachers any help and on top of that expect the teachers to spend money on supplies, yet my property taxes keep going up to pay for the schools and I'm in a growing area with new houses being slapped up faster than you can say your name.
It's wrong that the schools don't give a crap when a child isn't "normal" and they want to pass them on without helping them, and they expect the parents to bail them out. Sure as a parent I'm willing to do my part but I'm not going to spend time doing all of the education of a child regardless of whether they're biological or foster, especially if the school isn't trying to educate them during the day.
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I was told they had to have 3 complaints before they paid a visit so just relax now that you did your cleaning and are prepared. Always best to prepare for the worst! Good luck to you with the divorce. I could have said your story!
I'm very educated.
I can feel it in my gut. Politics is all about judging! Get a grip!
I guess it can't get any worse with our affiliation with foreign countries so why not let us be run by a foreigner as well? Ya' think it's bad now? Just wait if he gets elected into office.
If I had a closed mind, I wouldn't be curious to see if a woman can handle some of these situations better than a man. Do you think because her husband is a nympho that she doesn't deserve a chance? Motherly instincts are a virtue; maybe we need a "mother" in the White House.
Plus the media has a lot to do with our opinions, so..... I'll leave it at that.
Now yours is funny because you said educated guess?
That is a good one. Sounds like the poster has never been south of the Mason/Dixon line. Funny!
I actually think this one is cute, but my boyfriend who is actually very educated says (sm)
He gets *heart flapitations* and I thought it was so adorable I've never corrected him. Don't worry, this is during moments of *ahem* intense exercise; he does not need medical attention!
I hear you on that one, and it DEFINITELY pays to check out the US educated M.D.'s as
well...some of the horror stories I have heard from OR nurses give one pause to check out any MD before ANY SURGICAL PROCEDURE!
again, weak comparison; we are educated in BCP now, she is famous and rich
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For so many of the students they spend more
time with the teacher than they do with their parents. These teachers are preparing these kids to be the future of our country someday. Look at the money that atheletes make for playing a game. It is ridiculous.
Along with the federal tax increase, my
state tax went up 30 cents per pack, so that is a total of 90 cents per pack or $9 a carton more.
Along with the federal tax increase, my
state tax went up 30 cents per pack, so that is a total of 90 cents per pack or $9 a carton more.
Several of your suggestions require that
She will have to get her kids on board with her to accomplish some of these things.
When a wife has a restraining order against the husband, but they have kids together, it can get very very complicated.
What if it was one of the kids who let DADDY in the house? Not the wife who let the SCUMBAG in? See the kids still think of him as DADDY, whether the wife does or not.
That is excellent advice about not answering the door, I must say, but if the kids are not completely in tune with that concept, it still won't work.
As for his stuff...
Maybe she could rent a storage locker IN HIS NAME, paying the first month's rent, and then have future bills sent to him? If he doesn't pay the bill, then the storage company will be the bad guys to get rid of his stuff.
Not sure what to say about the pot problem. Definitely having a witness to the father smoking with his kids would certainly strengthen the mom's case, but the fact of the matter is that teenagers CAN and DO act opposite of how they were told to act by their mother. That happens all the time, probably even to some of the social worker's own kids. I don't really see that as being a valid reason to take somebody's kids away from them. Hopefully Social Services doesn't either. I'm of course working from the assumption that the mother is not involved at all in drugs, only the father, and that the kids may be accused of experimenting but are not addicts either.
Dress code for students?
Our school system is looking at implementing a strict dress code for all students...khaki pants and solid colored collard shirts (basically a polo shirt) but no brand-names are allowed. My children hate the idea..ages 14 and 16. Any opinion on this?
The big deal is your federal government....
You're absolutely right. They have some identifiable information on file about citizens, so why would they need to change anything and put more restrictions in place? I'm more confused as to why US citizens don't ask why? If they've got everything on us, then what could possibly be the reason to do this?
We require that the rooms be tidy but not...sm
super clean. For example, all clothes must be off the floor, furniture not so dusty I can write my name in it and floors have to be vacuumed once a week. The kids aren't allowed to eat or drink in their rooms because we had problems in the past with this and getting ants so they're only allowed to eat in the dining area and living room (as long as they clean up after themselves on the latter).
I wouldn't allow my kids to live in a super messy room but Martha Stewart's white glove would produce dirt on it at any time!
buy food through this federal subsidy
go to
angelfoodministries.com
Buy a box of food for $25 for the month, and specials for $18 or $17 for additional meat packages. Deliver the package(s) to your friend and the famil will not go hungry. This has been a godsend in the last year, and there are no questions or forms or qualificiations. The kids won't go hunry and your conscious will be clear. But, once your friend has the contact information about the program, you could encourage her to take advantage of the program without your support.
Actually, has she applied for the federal loans?
I'm sorry, I went on my own rant about private loans! Has she applied for the federal loans? All you have to do for those is fill out a FAFSA and the school should tell you how much you can get. There are two types of federal student loans and you can qualify for one of them no matter how much money you make. Those usually cover tuition and sometimes books.
The private loans come in when the federal loans aren't enough (I'm attending a private college and the federal loans aren't enough). Good luck!
My SIL is professor at university, where students SM
can post their thoughts about professors and some female professors have been called the "b-word". I don't think they were really terribly broken up by it.
I think it was over-reaction of school.
My daughter is also a teacher in middle school. I may run this by her.
Federal law requires that any child who is
have an IEP designed. It is required also that it be reviewed at least annually, and there are very specific requirements about who must be invited and in attendance among other things. In our case, my child was initially diagnosed with moderate to severe autism, but on his last full evaluation (required to be done at least every three years) this was changed to Asperger's.
ESL students in elementary schools
They probably bought the store from a cousin.
I grew up in public schools where about 1/3 of my fellow students in elementary school were SE asian refugee children and some spanish speaking children and some who spoke other things. My teachers did not know what to do with classes of 33 students (5 over limit) where they had students speaking Laotian, Cambodian, Vietnamese, Spanish, and who knows what else, and little to no English. These kids spent an hour a day in ESL but they never caught up (maybe by senior year in high school, some of them) . There is another method where they spend their first year in intensive ESL study before going into the regular classroom. Since kids learn languages better the younger they are, this makes a lot more sense. I know that I and other students were slowed down by this problem in the classroom (as well as the fact that the school could not keep up with the numbers and our classes were overcrowded).
Same here. I served on Federal Jury once, so
when I get summons for local court, I put that down. Plus, since we had a car stolen, all my jewelry and clothing (we were moving at the time), and a son assaulted, I usually get turned down for county jury duty.
I did like serving that one time and would do it again, but if I didn't put down the above things and they found out, it would probably be a mistrial if they put me on an assault or theft jury.
Our high schools require it also, they want
to know who is coming in, I think mainly because if there is any trouble from someone from another school, it can be handled by that school.
I agree, they should receive more respect from students
and parents alike. I just don't believe they are underpaid for the actual hours they put in.
Most rewarding parts require most effort.
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Clumping litter does not require a liner
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federal withholding tables changed
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By my calculations, including my husband's income in the whole equation, the govt just decided to withhold in one year my son's community college tuition.
Some states require a Doing Business As license if you work
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I think they should require psychological counseling before someone makes a freak of herself like th
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My sister has multiple cats who require differnt foods. sm
She feeds them in separate rooms. She gives them 1 hour in the morning and 1 hour in the evening to eat. The overweight cat has become beautifully normal-weighted over the past year. They all do well with this arrangement as cats are only munchers cause we keep the food available all the time. I actually started restricting food times for my cats as well and they are all doing great. Hope this helps.
The students at the Golden Lab Academy eagerly awaited their first fieldtrip.
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There is a free version of Efax that does not require a credit card. sm
Are you needing to fax out, in, or both? You didn't clearly state, but said you needed a number. I receive faxes for free through efax, but haven't sent any that way. Never have I given them credit card info. Check out myfax.com.
Okay, Utah passed a law permitting college students to now carry guns. sm
I am very for this and think it's a great idea. Now let's see how many colleges in Utah have shoot outs like those in the other states. I bet shooters will think twice about going in and blowing a place up knowing that there are probably many people carrying concealed weapons. I would feel much safer in a Utah college than anywhere else.
"Food stamps" now are paid on EBT cards - federal EBT cards which look the
have the option to have their pay on an EBT card as well.
She may well have been using her family's federal EBT card and working for the government for a living.
Or, if she is a foster parent, those children will receive state benefits and she could use an EBT card for food assistance.
Everything is not always what it appears to be. I'm sure you're a nice person, right?! See?! We wouldn't know any better if we believed the appearance you have given here! :)
ex in-laws
Thank you for your well thought-out reply. I plan on discussing this with him and at the same time will try to remain respectful of the fact that he loves his aunt. He is of course home for Christmas (and other holidays) and will be back here permanently around April. There are too many details of this situation to put on this board but I thank you again for your advice.
The in-laws
Hey, I am not sure if they are freaky, or not. I was raised in that church when I was young and switched as an adult. Since Matthew Winkler's father is also a COC minister it would be doubtful if he even knew about any of his son's warped proclivities (if he had them) since church members rarely, if ever, talk about things of that nature). It makes me sad to see that those grandparents are being labeled as warped just because of their religious beliefs. I must tell you that I have never met a member of that church who was a "bad person" and I have had exposure to lots of them. I have to wait and see the show. I am very interested in what she has to say. I would also like to see the in-laws go on the show to present their concerns. I think it would help everyone, including the children when they would be old enough to see it. So many times things like this go on with women and men we know and I think it is important to understand any signs to watch for so as to prevent what happened with their family from happening to anyone else. If, however, Mary is really guilty and just wanted a way out (which is a possibility) I believe the children belong with the grandparents and that Mary should relinquish her parental rights. It would be nice too if she would admit if she was truly an abused woman, or not. They can't try her twice.
Where do you think laws come from?
Most of man's laws are based on the Bible, the 10 Commandments usually.
I am not comparing gay people to criminals. Based on your statement that God expects us to be happy, regardless of what form that happiness might take, I am asking the question that, if it is okay with God for a person to be gay if it makes them happy, is it okay with him for a person to steal, commit adultery or murder if it makes them happy.
You changed the context of the subject, not me. And for what it is worth, there are still states in which sodomy is a crime, therefore gay sex is a crime. There is even a state where adultery and fornication are a crime. http://www.sodomy.org/laws/
I get this too...especially my in-laws...
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In-laws
I guess I lucked out with in-laws. When we married, I referred to his parents as "mom" and "dad" from that point on. When my SIL had kids, we *both* became aunts and uncles to them and DH is uncle to my sister's 2 kids. I don't think you're being sensitive and good for you for teaching your kids differently!
My in-laws have a dog who has seizures...
This dog seems to being having grand mal seizures because it urinates on itself and they last a least a minute. The dog has had this several times but they haven't taken him to the vet because of the cost involved. My mother-in-law gives him an aspirin and puts "cold packs" on him when he is seizing. I'm not sure why but she is a little strange. I would take the dog to a vet. They can probably do test to see if she is indeed having seizures. Good luck!
The smoking might have to be done outside if the laws there say
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This goes along with sweet in-laws...
My son was born in September 1994. We found out 8 weeks later he had pyloric stenosis after changing formula, etc. I worked in Radiology as an MT at the time and had the GI study done there. The radiologist was so nice, but informed me that our son was severely dehydrated and would need urgent surgery.
The surgery took place the night before Thanksgiving. My in-laws brought my husband and I a plate of their meal with utensils and all. Thankfully, our son (first born) came through with flying colors and is in perfect health now.
My parents were supportive on the phone, but my Dad had just been diagnosed with cancer and was too weak to make it in to see us.
So, I guess it was the worst and the best Thanksgiving ever and one that I will surely never forget for a very long time. ![Leaf](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_4_40.gif")
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I have the same problems with my in-laws
Last year we got them a gift certificate to the local grocery store that they always go so and we decided to do the same again this year. Everyone has to eat. They live in a small condo and have all the money in the world to buy what they want and they're at an age where they don't need anything.
just so you know, many states have laws
against any corporeal punishment now, especially for "kinship" care (relatives raising kin children). For example, in many states I cannot even give push ups or running laps as punishment, forget about spanking! And throwing cold water on a child would get the child taken away from me. There are laws you can't withhold food as punishment or send a child to be early. There are over 5 million children being raised by relatives and just under 600,000 in state foster care. Things ARE much different now.
I understand some of these laws but
not being able to send a child to be early. Who gets to decide what is "early"?
What about lesh laws?
If you have a pet running around in this town you will be fined up to $500 whether the dog did anything while running about or not.
I do hope the little girl gets past her fear of dogs someday. I have a 6-year-old that has that same fear but she has never gotten bit so I don't know why she has that fear. She has turned now many playdates because of those tiny, barking house dogs. One friend in particular wanted dd to come over and play so bad but dd refused because of the dog and I explained that to the mother. I suggested that the litlte girl is welcome to come play here, after consulting with dd first and she agreed. ( I wanted to make sure it really was the dog not the other girl). So they come over, with their little barking, jumping dog and turned it loose in our house and dd started screaming and crying and very rudely ran them both off. I felt bad because dd bluntly told them to leave but I did not get on to her too much about it because it did not make sense to me. I had just explained that dd was very scared of the dog so why did they bring it to my house and turn it loose in my living room.  The dog was not mean, just very very hyper.
MIL shares that same fear and does not know why. She quit visiting a friend because their hyper little dog kept jumping on her and the owners would not do anything to control it. I guess dd and MIL are 2 peas in a pod when it comes ot that.
Must be nice to know you have in-laws ...sm
who would help. My parents couldn't help. My father in law couldn't either BUT mother in law could but wouldn't I know because she is so tight. She would just say oh well loose all your sh**. She wouldn't come off her money.
we just had to ask our in-laws for $500 loan
they're like a bank to us ;)
we just had to ask our in-laws for $500 loan
they're like a bank to us ;)
we just had to ask our in-laws for $500 loan
they're like a bank to us ;)
The laws where I live
forbid a teacher from having a sexual relationship with a student period...and I think that's how I prefer it.
I didn't even think about laws differing in other states. :/
My in-laws are overkill -sm
my DH cannot stand his parents though we do not deny them their grandchildren, though we have never left them alone with them. They were very neglectful to him when he was growing up, verbally abusive, etc. His mom would badger me when we were first married about having grandchildren. She assumed (wrongly) that we would give us any children we had to them on the weekends as all their friends had/did. Our kids have been nothing but trophies to them. My MIL used to really hate the fact that I had a family, once my mom died a few years ago she did a complete turnaround and no longer hassles me when I go to see my family. She is the reining grandma now and so no one to be jealous of. This does not endear her to me obviously. Their other son, the golden child (and oh favored one who spent 20+ years going to school, getting money from M&D, and mooching off friends for those 20+ years--would stay in their homes until kicked out), he finally bought a home at age 40 (with $40K from M&D), has never married or had kids, my DH says it is because of their childhood, though he was the favored one so who knows. Anyways we moved 2 hours away (were about 10 miles from them) just so we would not have to see them every day once we had kids. Even then they came every 2 weeks and in the beginning badgered us to give them the kids for extended periods of time (I am talking 6/7 days of the week, every week). I don't think we have ever invited them here, they just call up and say we are coming. I then tell them yeh or ney basically. They come for every holiday that they can and birthday, though this year my one did not want them to come on her birthday, so I put them off a week. She wants it to be just us 4 for a change and to all go out to dinner....she will be 9 next week. I found that interesting but I told her it was her decision, and that they wanted to come, etc. Usually she is very accommodating and is always thinking of others so I am not going to make her have her grandparents come for her special dinner out if she does not want them to (she just saw them last weekend). So they will come on the 15th instead which is fine with me. So I do try to be accommodating to them, I am the one who calls them, I visit with them for an hour or two on my rare trips to see my family (2-3x a year) or stay the night so they can have more time, depends on my work schedule, I see my in-laws about once a month now (call weekly), and my family once during the summer, maybe Spring break and around Christmas. Obviously this won't last forever, they are 74 and 79 now but longevity is in the dad's family (late 80's to 90s). Both are in relatively good health, mom is a type 2 diabetic, dad has had bladder cancer twice, but otherwise doing very well. My DH insists on taking in the survivor when one dies. He has a very strong guilt complex, they did their job well on him. Obviously I don't want that, but not going to worry about that right now. Many sides to this coin/subject.
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