I have a friend who called me to say her 34 year old son dying
Posted By: In your shoes on 2007-11-06
In Reply to: She is pregnant again. - Getarzanne
this past week. I was shocked but this is a kid who has never hardly worked, looked to his mother for most things- she is on retirement and sucks the life from her. He is in ICU with cirrhosis, liver and kidney failure, started on dialysis yesterday. He has sat at home, not working, something wrong with all the jobs, but now he did have a girlfriend who worked part-time. My friend tells me he sat on the couch just drinking until he could not get up but continued just drinking, not eating, everything tasted like cardboard, he said. Well you know who was taking him the beer, right? The mother of course. Last Thursday my size 4 girlfriend had to carry her son (who was 60 something lbs) out to her car and rushed him to hospital, he stopped breathing, been on vent since. This is a mother who does the above, gives all she can and runs herself out to help her boys (34 and 34) but she thinks she helps. She has almost helped him into his grave - oh he is still very, very ill and may not make it. BTW, the girlfriend is now at the hospital begging for gas money to go back and forth to see the boyfriend and yet the mother has no real income of her own. She feels like she is an excellent mother also. Really sad to see this and so irritating at the same time as she really does not get it, the damage she is doing (has done).
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This make me sick. I work rescue. I see and hear worse every day, but it just eats at my soul to know somebody is sitting there "feeling horrible" and "doing nothing" to help God's creature.
dying
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what do you say to someone who is dying
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This woman lived next door to my grandparents and I used to love to go over there when I was little. She had a little dog that I could play with. She had a piano that she would let me play on. She had tons of jewelry and I loved to go over there and play dress up. She has been good to my mom. Mom lost her house and she gave mom a place to live which is a trailer house next door. To me that was a big thing as she always kept her stuff neat and nice and picture perfect and mom, Gosh I love her, is a slob.
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My grandmother is dying also
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When I do talk to her I reminisce. Not about our times together but about when she was younger. She loves to talk about herself.
If this woman feels like talking do that. Or maybe she just feels like listening and you could tell her how much you enjoyed playing her piano and playing with her jewelry. Just let her know she made a difference in your life. You don't have to outright talk about missing her, but I know she will get the message and I am sure it will bring her some comfort.
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I have to disagree. Marriage is not a dying
tradition. My parents just celebrated their 63rd anniversary. My husband and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this past June, so no, marriage is not a dying tradition.
I'm more afraid of dying before I have a CHANCE to get old. nm
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Sometimes, though, it helps the person dying to know sm
you have accepted it and they can go on. My dad held on until my mom said I'll be okay without you, I know you cannot go on any longer. He died within the next few hours of my mom saying that to him. We, too were in denial, and I believe that is why he hung on so long. Tell her what an impact she had on your life and how much she has meant to you and you will love her forever. Is she right with Christ? Does she believe she is going to heaven? In my grief class after my dad died, sometimes you don't have to say anything, just a "meeting of the hearts." Just go over there and see her and let whatever happens happens. Let your heart lead you.
It's the images of dying people that get to me.. you must be out of the loop
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dying tradition would refer to the new generation
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Thanks. I think mine is slowly dying. It sometimes gets a reddish tint all over it and I think the
refresh or whatever it does through the different colors isnt working right. I do shut it off when I am not working but I am usually working except at night. I paid a decent amount for this so thought I would get at least 3 years out of it.
Guess talking with dying aunt over daughter just shouldn’t happen
Yes I did say disconnect (have thought about that for some time just due to the excessive amount spent on land phone though and daughter suggested disconnecting also to save $$$) the fuss was the fact about others assumming something. I took what I considered to be the more important of the 2 calls- basically I talk with the daughter every week several times and the aunt - well what would most do?
Dying girl denied more time with imprisoned father - please sign the petition (sm)
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/Have-Mercy-on-Jayci
This child is 10 years old - this is national news, not a hoax of any kind. This child was healthy six months ago and now has very limited time to live. Her father is imprisoned and her dying wish is to spend more time with him - which is being denied. Please go to the above website and sign the petition asking the Nebraska prison system to honor her request.
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Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
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The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
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A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
then what would be 80-100 be called?
Well, I, for one, am not 60 yet tho getting *there*, look 45 (with no procedures/surgery), and my family history is such that they lived long long lives (paternal side)....and I plan on working another 15+ years......
back in the days, 50-75 years ago the elderly then didn't live to ripe very old ages, really.......
what you have is called a
dependency issue- you do not feel well, your hubby has hobbies not at home (could it be another woman or women?), you are not secure. You feel like you have to rely on someone seemingly not there for you.
Well, they just called
and said both were negative. Thank God. What a scare.
So, when your SIL CALLED, what did you tell her?
Your SIL is not a blood relative, but as your brother's WIFE, she is entitled to her inheritance.
When my husband dies, I surely am going one of HIS HEIRS, even if he does not write a testament.
But I will make sure that he writes one and gives ALL TO ME AND MY CHILDREN, nothing to sisters, LIKE YOU!
I am so interested in this, your case, because I hate it when legal heirs are cheated out of their inheritance.
So what did you tell your SIL when she called?
You got your and their inheritance, so give it back to them.
Was it really $ 750.000.-- ?
Give them half of it.
My sister took the whole amount of my mother's money, but AT LEAST she told me about it, later, after she bought her apartment. I forgave her for this, because she told me.
PLEASE STOP MAKING UP EXCUSES AND I REALLY HOPE THAT YOU GET INTO CONTACT WITH HER, YOU CAN IF YOU WANT AND GIVE THEM THEIR MONEY.
Why do they have to be called old
f.... Did you ever stop to think maybe not everyone in life desires to retire? I can retire but want to continue working. It is not always a money thing. Also, when you said appt mixup happened 10 years ago and then you said staff overworked due to rising job cuts, what does the one 10 years ago and relate to each other?
I'm the one who usually gets called, rather than
the main reason is that my brothers & sisters all have *real* jobs, and can afford the long-distance rates. On the other hand, as an MT, I usually can't afford it. But it makes sense, because I'm always here, and it's almost always an okay time to call me.
I also tend not to call people anymore because for some reason, my phone-kharma is truly the WORST! In the past, when I've called friends or relatives at home just to chat and say hi, it just never fails - at the moment I called:
* They were having a huge fight.
* They were having sex.
* A pet just died in the kitchen.
* A relative just died in the living room.
* The house is on fire.
Even worse, if I call their cell, turns out they're:
* In an ambulance racing to the hospital.
* They're on the toilet, or throwing up into it.
* They're in labor.
'Ooops! Did I get you at a bad time?'
Everyone on here has what is called
FREE WILL. No one makes you accept a low paying job, no one makes you sit around with no work, you would have to prove fired because of offshoring. Everyone can turn down a job if they want but apparently the majority here accept what is dished out to them. What you just said does not hold water.
Not everyone knows about why he was not called
MJ when the person made the 911 call, in fact out yesterday heard lady talking on the phone and thought it very disrespectful that the person referred to him not as his real name, she said it twice, why would they not say MJ instead of guy (or gentleman)forgot which one they said. I heard TMZ was first to report first of all. That was who got the first shots of the ambulance leaving the house so maybe they had others checking out, following on motorcycles the ambulance and got the shot that way. There were shots of Princess Diane as she dying in the car after her accident so guess paparizzi (spelling?) most everywhere.
She already told me she called and they said SM
she can't until March because they already had a claim. They would be cancelled if they claimed it. It does cover it, though.
The ones from that site are called - sm
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Cats definitely need something called
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Update. I called the CPS
It is so hard to do that to your own family but the way she treated those kids is disgraceful. The lady that took the call said that they probably won't remove the kids from the home but they will check out the situtation and give the parents an alternative route to childcare and not to use the grandmother.
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