I think saying something to your dad would be counterproductive

It would probably just strain your relationship with him, and it is highly unlikely that it would change his mind.

As far as the expense - I certainly understand your being concerned about your father spending his money unwisely, but it is his money (assuming he is not going into debt to pay for all this). And once they're married, any debts will be the responsibility of his wife, not his child(ren). So anything you say about the expense of the wedding could come across as sour grapes ("you're spending my inheritance" etc.).

You've managed to keep your opinions to yourself thus far.  My advice would be to continue to do so. If the woman is indeed a golddigger, your father will find out soon enough. I hope for his sake that is not the case.

Good luck. I know you are in a difficult position. Just try to be happy for your father and hope for the best.

• Speaking of weddings, tell me if I'm just being petty. SM - QALady
  • The Wedding - Lilly
  • Quick! - nana
  • Yes, I'd say its a bit over the top but - sm - Laura E.
  • At least she is single, not the married woman who took my father for $$$$$$$ - Lana
  • Having seen my own mother do a 180 - sm
  • Perhaps she eloped the 1st time and now wants her deam wedding/honeymoon. nm - deb
  • Does she have children. If so, what are - they feelings on this?
  • Is you dad complaining, or is he happy about this? My mother in law - mom
  • My thoughts - misty
  • Unfortunately, unless you question - Ack
  • NOT BEING PETTY! - rml
  • As you said, you are grown as is he. Let it be. Is he questioning her sm - Dear Ms. K.
  • I do not think that it would be appropriate--sm - dumdum
  • I think saying something to your dad would be counterproductive - Dreamweaver
  • Would need more info I guess (sm) - Sammy
    • She's 64, so close to his age. She is a widow whose late husband... SM - QALady
      • I don't blame you for feeling that way at all...but (sm) - Sammy
  • i don't know - sm
    • My father's 4th wedding was HUGE - mtstudent
      • QA Lady- - mtstudent

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