NOT BEING PETTY!

YOU'RE NOT BEING PETTY.  I had the same situation but with a close friend of mine who is a Radiologist.  He lost his wife last year and was going to marry this women, build her a home at the lake, he bought her a ring and she wanted him to sell his house here that his children grew up in.  I talked to him and so did everyone else that cared about him.  He didn't get it at first but then started to open his eyes and see her for real.

• Speaking of weddings, tell me if I'm just being petty. SM - QALady
  • The Wedding - Lilly
  • Quick! - nana
  • Yes, I'd say its a bit over the top but - sm - Laura E.
  • At least she is single, not the married woman who took my father for $$$$$$$ - Lana
  • Having seen my own mother do a 180 - sm
  • Perhaps she eloped the 1st time and now wants her deam wedding/honeymoon. nm - deb
  • Does she have children. If so, what are - they feelings on this?
  • Is you dad complaining, or is he happy about this? My mother in law - mom
  • My thoughts - misty
  • Unfortunately, unless you question - Ack
  • NOT BEING PETTY! - rml
  • As you said, you are grown as is he. Let it be. Is he questioning her sm - Dear Ms. K.
  • I do not think that it would be appropriate--sm - dumdum
  • I think saying something to your dad would be counterproductive - Dreamweaver
  • Would need more info I guess (sm) - Sammy
    • She's 64, so close to his age. She is a widow whose late husband... SM - QALady
      • I don't blame you for feeling that way at all...but (sm) - Sammy
  • i don't know - sm
    • My father's 4th wedding was HUGE - mtstudent
      • QA Lady- - mtstudent

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My father who is 68 years old and is getting married.  I'm not all fond of the woman he is marrying, but it's his life and I'm not a kid anymore, so whatever.  Thing is his woman is planning this obnoxiously big wedding complete with formal wedding gown and all -- 200+ guests with a fancy reception with dinner and dancing for everyone.  Then she wants a honeymoon to Paris which she is planning.  And I haven't even mentioned the engagement ring, let me just say $10,000!

So obviously I think this woman is over the top and a golddigger and a few other choice words I can't post on MTStars.  Don't you think an older couple each in their second marriage should have a smaller, family and close-friends only kind of a wedding?  Personally, I think if she wants such an extravagant honeymoon, she cut costs in the actually wedding and reception.

I've been holding my tongue, but I really want to say something to my dad.  Should I?  Ever since he starting dating this woman, I've been polite and friendly, kept my mouth shut.  Now that he has decided to marry her, I'm like WOA!  Am I just being territorial?