Please don't take offence, but it seems to me
Posted By: MT on 2007-12-08
In Reply to: not scared - sm
that being physically punished and humiliated in these ways can affect your relationships with others. You say you tend to not let others get close which obviously could have something to do with your father, but I think feeling out of control or vulnerable when people took wood to your bottom would have something to do with that.
I'm sickened by the thought of kids being paddled, as well as the idea that it still goes on even to this day and age! Why isn't society past that? Aren't there better ways to teach kids respect and how to behave?
What do you think it meant to you knowing your mother kept a wooden paddle at your house (complete with holes!) to beat you with if you didn't behave? I would have felt worthless if I knew my mother did that. I'm sure she cared about you but what a horrible way to keep control of your children. I would feel like she actually wanted to beat me, having a specific instrument for such.
Do you see what I mean? It seems like a punishment that has so many other negative ramifications that it's not worth doing that to a child.
Again, I'm sorry you went through that. No child deserves to be beat.
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