Red Flag
Posted By: Chris on 2007-08-03
In Reply to: Sorry to post again about this but (sm) - Butter and Clutter
A huge red flag to me is that he blames *you* for hitting you a few years ago.
"But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago."
Nice.
.."why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?"
I think you answered your own question *wink*
Good luck, and take care of you!
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You need to get a life and join the 21st century. More Moms and Dads are working these days. Parenting is the hardest job in the world. A child can get into mischief even if you don't work and watch them 24/7. That is part of growing up. There is NO such thing as the perfect parent - no matter how hard we all try. There are going to be broken bones and busted lips. Don't tell me YOUR children never had a cut or bruise under your watchful eye. That is BS and a flat-out lie.
I worked in child abuse as a therapist for 13 years. I have seen the worst of the worse. This is definitely not a case of abuse.
Lilly
red flag should be up
IMO if the person who told you something about your spouse cannot provide the proof, why would you discount it so quickly. Maybe it's time you started to look for proof. It could be as the other poster said and the person who told you about this could be trying to stir up trouble, but like I've heard before - the wife is always the last to know.
Well, I think Red Flag is outnumbered here.
Oh my goodness-Red Flag - Are you kidding?? (sm)
First of all, even if we didn't go as far as to compare this to truly neglective mothers, think about this. If the mom worked outside of the home and her child was in a child care setting, do you know how closely the child would be watched? By teenagers usually for summer camps at least, and they have many children to watch at once. Kids get hurt all the time. Even a non-working mom cannot sit and stare at her six year old watching their every move all day. If she did, she would be accused of being overprotective and she would never get her housework done, so then, of course, she'd be in trouble for that. The last 20 years or so children have been far more supervised than ever in history! For those of us who grew up in the 70s and 80s, we were outside playing til the street lights came on. For those who grew up in the 30s and 40s - they were out farming and cooking when they were 7 or 8 years old - heck, back then, the 6 year old would have been the babysitter while the parents farmed. People have to make money to survive. A mom working while her child is at home cannot supervise them 24-7. But she loves them and takes very good care of them, working to earn money to take care of them and I am sure setting boundaries and keeping the child in a safe environment. Kids today are soooo much better off than in the past. Be realistic, please!
let's raise the flag *ROFL*.....lucky you....
When the physician personally calls you, red flag time
I just had an MRA of brain this past week and nephrologist called today, not in and he left his cell phone # for me to call him back. He said an artery showed up as bigger than should be - I asked aneurysm and he said, well he wanted to know about my seeing a neurosurgeon ASAP and he said he would call and talk to 1 he knew (if I did not have one of my choice, nope didn’t ) and get me in just as soon, hopefully tomorrow and then nephrologist called back in about 5 minutes to verify he did speak with the neurosurgeon and appointment tomorrow. Now I have just started to draw my full social security, still working, planning vacations and yes that is pleural and crud!! Maybe good this anomaly caught in time, would hate to stroke out or worse. I had been going to another neurologist, started having some twitches in my face and also nystagmus in my right eye here lately. I was knowing something was up. I will collect that medical license just any day now. Wish me luck with tomorrow....
Birthdays. Mine was completely forgotten by everyone! June 14, Flag Day. sm
Mom & Dad, longterm boyfriend, best friend, brother, I teach a kickboxing class and last class I randomly said *I will be teaching on Sunday, which is my birthday, so be prepared for a killer workout" - maybe I was hoping for a few Happy Birthdays... not a call, not a card! I kind of cried tonight in the shower... I'm over it now, (well maybe not really!) but should I bring it up tomorrow? I know B-days are for children, but I just wanted to be treated just a little bit special on this day! I've had a hard year with some illness and kind of thought maybe somebody would want to celebrate me! So here I am working tonight - but I think I might have to head out to Dairy Queen for a Blizzard before they close. I think something gooey and chocolatey is needed.
Physician called, red flag lady back from visit and on my getting M.D. license
First of all when I called the neurologist's office this morning (this was the appointment my nephrologist had so quickly set up for me last night, himself-) the neurologist's office asked me if I could come on in then instead of waiting for my appointment at 11:30. Oh, lordy me- I just knew it was time to get my affairs in order, write that will, etc.
The physician after my saying about 2 sentences to him asked if I were a physician. The great news is the brain aneurysm is very small (see I also was goggling brain tumor before I went in, you know how some of us are) and he said it was a watch thing, no neurosurgeon would touch it at such a small size. You talk about relief. I told him I could hug his neck. I went in with such fright and that was all basically eliminated. Thanks to each and all who said they had me in their thoughts.
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