it's not you mtmomof3.....he cannot ever be...sm

you said *but he cannot be happy with me*

It's not you...it's him.  He's never going to be happy with anyone because he's having trouble being happy with himself......you've got to love yourself before you can truly love anyone else.....I think you're short-changing yourself. 

These types blame everyone but themselves - part of passive-aggressive nature of the beast....some beasts....

Best of luck in these VERY difficult choices!! 

• Sorry to post again about this but (sm) - Butter and Clutter
  • DH not happy = his prob. Let him leave or stay or decide - his own level of happiness. I would just be me. nm
  • It is not going to get better. It is only going to get worse. - Malia
    • equally as bad for these children to see her berated - not a good thing at all.....sm
  • Our Self-Esteem - PinkLady
    • Great post, I was in SAME situation..sm - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
    • Wow - that sounds so much like him (sm) - Butter and clutter
    • Well said! - Jan
  • I have followed your threads since they - trose
    • Thanks everyone - I know it seems like (sm) - Butter and Clutter
      • please read my post below to mtmomof3...n/m - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
        • as I think it also applies to you....s/m - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
  • Red Flag - Chris
  • Don't beat yourself up. If you divorce, no one will be good enough for him. sm - MQer
  • I am going through a similar situation... - mtmomof3
    • it's not you mtmomof3.....he cannot ever be...sm - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
  • A similar situation (sm) - CAMT
    • GREATpost-reminded me of Kathy Bates' character - in Fried Green Tomatoes!!! Towanda!!!...s/m
      • and no, I'm not Towanda the other poster here...n/m - in Fried Green Tomatoes!!! Towanda!!!...s/m
  • only you know the right thing to do - decisions, decisions - SM
    • GREAT POST!!!! - couldn't have said it better myself!! NM
  • From the picture you paint, it is SM - Flora
    • its better to raise kids in a happy divorced home - than a miserably married one.......NM
      • That is true, but you will need your family's support - and that may be literal.
        • nope - I don't agree.............sm - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
        • Nope, don't necessarily need family support - though it would be nice - SM
          • not just in family matters - s/m - he will never be happy with himself!!! Get it?
          • Aren't there any agencies to help you? I cannot believe SM - Flora
            • the child gets Medicaid and WIC and the - state paid to get a CS order, SM
              • Child support works by you supplying info to them - so that somebody's salary can be garnished!!
                • forgive me-I didn't realize you were the grandparent! - so that somebody's salary can be garnished!!
                  • thank you for the kudos, but - as is every state I've encountered - SM
                    • great post and I so appreciate what you're doing!!sm - so that somebody's salary can be garnished!!
  • read prior threads-you already know answer(s) - Best of luck........no message......

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