Seems most poeple are not taking into account
Posted By: My concern on 2008-04-02
In Reply to: It seems ridiculous because it is - sm - mollyMT
that this man beat her! He may have not hit her in the past four years but believe me, there is a good chance he will do it again. She is NOT in love with him so why stay with someone you have NO feelings for and do not desire sexually? Is therapy REALLY going to make her fall in love with this man again? Is he going to be HONEST with her....he hasn't been all these years; in fact, sounds as though he shows no emotion at all.
My question is - how do you stay with someone you do not love any longer no matter what unresolved issues there are. The only issue I would feel is that there is NO love - if there is NO love, I MOVE ON and did after 29 years.
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Own account
Think about getting your own account to supplement this. They are out there. Got two this past month. They came to me -- no advertising. Tapes with pick up and delivery but good pay. Each account between 10,000 and 15,000 lines per month. Will be adding another local IC but because I do pick up and delivery I can only pay 8.5 cpl but it is gross 65 cpl. But that might help.
I do 400 LPH on my ER account
Love it!
Take into account where she is from.
She may have grown up in a place that had no blacks, or maybe her parents were racist; maybe all she learned FROM OTHERS for a very long time was a little skewed or backwards, and she has no idea she's not being PC.
I had an ex-BF who didn't know a single black person until he went to college, and he would say the weirdest things about blacks, not out of hatred or racism, but out of innocent ignorance to their life/background/culture.
In all honesty, the OP sounds a little simple in her language and view...or maybe it's just that she and I are from different cultures and we are both NORMAL.
Very easy for me- I have an account
with 1 of the major shopping channels, have my television in my work room, sometimes watching a particular show and get the number, call up the site and order. It really does not take that long and I still get 2000-3000 or over a day, no sweat.
I'm jealous, I wish I had such an account
as a secret one so I could sock away some extra $$ !!!
Can You Get Overdraft on your account
This has more than saved my life. It's well worth it just for piece of mind in case something should happen and you absoutely have to use your checking account and you're a little short. I hope that that one penny won't screw you up. That would stink. Maybe the bank would be forgiving.
Can you account for most of his time
when he is supposed to be either at work or home? I would be more upset if my husband were into a same sex situation than with a woman. Thinking he might be cheating (if into same sex) I definitely would not want to have sex with him, or really the other way either but especially same. You are much at risk if you do, better to not fiddle around. Thank the Lord I don’t have that crap now. I have gone through similar in my life and finally found a guy who I am 100% sure of - hard to find now days.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
No checking account. sm
I have a prepaid debit card I have my pay deposited onto and then pay bills from that or get money orders. The only problem I have is if I get a check its hard to cash and I have to go to the issuing bank and they sometimes charge a fee to cash their own check. Like National City charges $10 to cash a check drawn on their bank if you don't have an account with them. 
I only have a savings account....sm
Better for me that way. I hate checking accounts. My husband and I have issues when I have a checking account because he thinks you can write a check and worry about covering it later. Not me.
Do you have a Paypal account?
Maybe a few of us could send you a couple of dollars to cover it.
I came home from Sunday school once with a chunk out of my hair but it was the work of some naughty little boy. 
Never had any money, on account of....sm
Though I made decent wages, I was divorced and had a daughter and later grandson to almost completely support for a great many years, all through her nursing school and college for her, because her father did nothing...but that's neither here nor there.
So if anything, I'm even a little better off now than before, LOL! As long as my loved ones are OK, I'm OK.
But did you and your no account brother treat her
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Sounds like we work on the same account!
LOL
I get irate too, report after report about illegals and all the free crap they get, and doctors even giving them advice on how to get more freebies.
We had that happen with an old dial-up account
But there was no advanced warning or anything. One month our bill was what they said it would be and the next month it had doubled if not tripled. They told us it was because we were "unusually heavy users." I don't even remember what company it was, but we dropped them immediately.
My checking account is free too. I pay
most of my bills on line through them--no fee for that either. Whenever I need checks, I order them from one of those places you see in ads in the Sunday paper. They are cheaper and with paying online, I have not ordered any in probably 4 years.
I can use bill pay to pay to a specific account #
at any bank. Its free, too.
login to your account @paypal to see your history. SM
if there is no payment listed, then assume it did not go through.
or you could check with your credit card company...
file garnishment on bank account
so it hits his account the same day he deposits pay checks (usually Friday).
PayPal eCheck from my checking account
I know this has happened to somebody here before, I remember reading it. This morning I woke up and checked my checking account to see what little I had left before pay day this Friday. What I found was that somebody had taken $2420.00 from a PayPal eCheck, and now I am way in the negative. The bank says it takes three to five, possibly up to ten days to dispute and make the account right. That's just great. I have a direct deposit going in on Friday, and won't even be able to use that until who knows when.
What can be done, if anything, on my part? Is there someway to make PayPal responsible for making the dispute happen faster? I have no clue what to do and have absolutely no money until this dispute is over. It did take the whole ten days about six months ago when I got double charged for something, so I already know it won't happen before pay day. Maybe with this large sum of money they will expedite. I can hope!
Okay, back to work for me. Thanks.
First thing I did after reading this was check my account sm
All is well, thank goodness. How scary! I hope it all gets straightened out okay.
Hey Jan - You can also open a free account with photobucket.com
You can upload any pictures to that and then change the size. After that you can copy it onto the avatar secton here.
Hugs sue-ellen
My husband opened up a new Ameritrade account
so far, so good. We only put in $2000. He basically wanted some play money and wanted to give it a try. We do day trading and he's actually making a little bit. He tends to watch the companies that are closing to merging and makes a play for them. You can find out ahead of time what companies are planning mergers, when they expect to close, and how much they agreed on for the selling price per share. So far, he's done 2 of these and made out okay, but he's pretty conservative in how much he buys.
Closing an account affects your score because
if you carry balances on other cards, by closing an account you instantly increase the percentage of available credit that you are using. An assessement of the percentage of use is a significant element in your credit score.
If you have other cards with high limits and low or no balances, closing an account will have only a small, probably temporary, effect, unless you are closing the account with the longest history. As another poster mentioned, length of credit history is another significant element of your credit score.
If you have high balances on other cards, leaving open an unused account will make those balances a lower percentage of your available credit, which can boost your credit score. However, in that case, paying down the balances will have a much larger positive effect on your score.
Hate making a mistake on my checking account!
I typically write only 1 check a month (for my rent/water) and everything else is paid online or with my ATM/Visa card. I checked my balance this morning and thought, yeh! I can go get a latte! So off I went, spent $3.57 on a coffee and on the way home remembered something -- I wrote a check last week to the DMV for this year's registration/tag and I wasn't sure if it had cleared my bank. Got home, checked my balance and guess what? The outstanding check has NOT cleared and now the balance in my checking account is 1 penny short of clearing that check! Too late to go put in a couple of dollars for it to be posted tonight in case the check comes through 
Y'all keep your fingers crossed with me that the check won't come through tonight, or if it does my bank will be forgiving and not charge me $35 to cover that extra penny I'm short on  That would be some expensive latte!!!
If you have a Netflix account, you can watch online for free.
The membership is fairly cheap. My husband and I have one and watch movies online on their site all the time.
Where did you get the account of it from? The child with perception issues? Or another adult?
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Change your bank account on file with Vonage Right NOW!
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Transfer your banking business to a free checking account
Washington Mutual Compass Bank, and many others offer completely free checking accounts. There’s no reason you should be paying maintenance and annual fees for a checking account.
Actually, no, I am not taking it now
Just heard back on the market in a new name and thought would tell what I experienced from trying it the first time. Hear only have 15% fat and after that it is throne time- if you can make it there.
anyone taking Yaz ........... sm
anyone taking Yas specifically to treat PMS symptoms??? my doctor gave me three months' worth of Yaz to see if it helps my symptoms. i haven't taken the pill in ages. when i used to take it, i got really bad migraines. i've been doing a little research, and found that people have side effects like nausea, anxiety, weight gain. i know side effects differ from person to person, but wondering what your experience was. i'm not a big pill taker.
thanks
Try taking
vitamin C 500 mg with the iron, it is supposed to help with the iron absorption and help with constipation and nausea as well.
On top of being anemic, I also have psoriasis, so I have my hair falling out (including pubic, lol) and constantly looks like I have extremely dry skin on my face, ears and scalp.
i'm taking it now.
But only for a month so far. I have high cholesterol but way worse triglycerides. I've had no side effects that i can contribute to it definitively; some muscle pain that i'm concerned about, but it could be a recent back injury worsening too...
what i DON'T like is that it is a statin. I understand that statins work really well to achieve the goal usually, but they also have bad side effects, including rhabdomyolysis. I've read a lot too on this class of drugs, and really didn't want to take them again, but for me, i'm at high risk for stroke or heart attack if i can't get my numbers down, so it is the lesser of evils i guess.
My educated opinion is this: if your cholesterol is NOT that high, and overall risk factors are not a real concern, i'd stay away from the drugs, statins in particular. If you do however take a statin, be sure to take the CoQ-10, which helps protect against the cell damage and effects of the statins. High cholesterol alone, in more recent studies, is not that indicative of a future problem. Lack of exercise and high-fat diets put one more at risk than cholesterol elevation. Like i said, without real necessity, i would not take a statin.
You are obviously set on taking
It's really sad...obviously you are not doing that bad, after all your child has a Wii...sounds very selfish to me, but hey...that's just me! Merry Christmas
I do not think that taking out ALL of the...
money from the joint accounts and putting it in one in only her name, as advised above, is acting defensively. You are entitled to your opinion and I to mine, but keep in mind that your children see how you act. That is all I am saying.
taking away
We had my son take verything out of his room, every nail out of the wall, put all his belongings in the garage, paint his room (which looked terrible by the way), and sleep on the floor until he surrendered his stubborness (about three nights on the floor). Then he had to put his room back together again.
This did not cure him, but it let him know that we were more stubborn than he was..
Good luck!
Try taking away something she likes!
I know it sounds harsh, but if you take away something she likes and not give her that until she finally is a "big girl", then she may want to go potty. The other thing, I know how gross this is, but include her in your "potty time", and she may realize "Wow, Mom is a big girl, and I want to be like Mom! It is a tough call, but my daughter went through the same thing. I always got the "I'm too busy!" So, I began asking her all of the time, and finally she went because she didn't want me to ask her especially in front of her brother. She was about 4 1/2! Good luck!
Anyone taking Pamelor?
Doctor started me on one 10 mg a night for sleep but last night woke up at 5 in the morning due to some pain I am having. She said I could go to 2 a night but my question to you is do I have to work the dosage up or do you think the 20 is too much for a second night of taking? Thanks.
I said never again for taking in animal because
right after I had surgery, a Springer Spaniel came to my door. Loving animals I took him in, put flyers out in the neighborhood trying to find owner, called the pound to see if anyone declared missing, put ad in the paper under found animals, nothing-all the calls I got wanted him, did not lose him. I interviewed and hoped I chose the best- he was high energy and me low. It breaks my heart to see strays, feel so sorry and carry dog food in the back of my vehicle to feed in case I come across 1-I have before.
No. Just the motorcade taking
her to jail was driving by a circus that was set up by the side of the road. It was a pretty funny site and Shep was having a field day.
I don't like taking pills either, but
it will be 3 years in Novemeber that I lost my mother suddenly. Within 2 weeks I had to take my daughter to the doctor (family practice with my mother's doc there) and he talked to me at length and suggested antidepressants to at least help get through the holidays. They truely did seem to make a difference. By March I stopped taking them. It does get easier as times goes by but the pain and the missing will always be there. I had such a strong support system with family and friends that I didn't feel the need for grief counseling but a friend of mine met one on one and in a group setting to help with her grief and it truely helped her. Praying for you.
Yep...taking something for that which helps a lot though (sm)
Trouble sleeping, etc. Mostly get a restless feeling during the day...bored, want to do something different, need to think about multiple things at once. Want to hear the TV and work and still daydreaming about other things at the same time!
OMG! I have been taking an "inventory" of my
DVDs and another funny movie I haven't watched in awhile is Airheads with Adam Sandler, Steve Buscemi, Brendan Fraser, and Chris Farley.
At least she's taking responsibility for it...
It's not the ideal situation, but I was having sex when I was 16, so I'm not going to judge her. It could have happened to me. Sadly, she will probably be a much better mom than her older sister! My dog would probably be a better mom than Britney though, so that's not saying much.
I was not married when I had either of my children, and people judged me but oh well. I am an excellent mother and a marriage certificate would not have made me a better mom. I have been married for awhile now, but we waited over 4 years to get married, and that is our choice. Gone are the days when people rushed off to get married because they were pregnant. Sex before marriage has been around since the beginning of time. We are just becoming more accepting of it now and don't demand people get married when they get pregnant. I am personally glad our children will know we didn't get married because we "had to" but because we loved each other so much that we wanted to.
taking a guess...
Witches of Eastwick?
(has a Nicholson-type of sarcasm)
Not taking up for her, but apparently being
mentally challenged, to her it was like when you see someone you know and popping them on the shoulder to say hi. Granted, she actually hit instead of a pop, but take into consideration her mental condition. She was not meaning to hurt you and I am glad it was only a bruise and nothing more serious. Hopefully, mgmt knew her and her family and will get in touch with them.
Anyone taking Wellbutrin?
I've been on Prozac for a while now but don't like the side effects. Does anyone have any experience with Wellbutrin, good or bad?
It's a stat and someone is taking
advantage of your kindheartedness. If your contract defines a stat as anything with ? hours or less TAT and you are asked to return these "regular" reports within the stat TAT, then you should be paid as stats. Just because they weren't stats originally, doesn't mean they can turn them into 1 for you and not pay you.
Perhaps, this will prompt them to reconsider some of their lazy employees/ICs.
I want to thank you for taking the time to
answer my question so thoroughly and giving me good advice.
I wished I had such an understanding landlord like you, but I will try to talk my LL into lowering my rent in these difficult times.
I know that now is the best time to buy a house, I'll look also into this.
Thanks!
so what r u taking her to court for?
You didn't cosign for the vehicle. You didn't loan her the $$ for her electric bill. You didn't want any profit from the business. The only thing I saw you mention was at the end about animal food, etc, but isn't that considered start-up costs of a business?
Sorry, don't mean to make you madder, just confused.
Thanks for taking the time to research this!
Merry Christmas to you!
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