been there done that

• I'm sick & husband is being mean...just so tired of it - sm - crying all morning, just venting
  • I HAVE A BRAINSTORM - nana
    • That was funny - thanks! LOL - he's nicer today (of course) sm - OP
      • Be careful of the cycle. He is in the gift mode. - HolidayMT
    • Don't you get drunk quicker while in the air? - HolidayMT
  • Been there - heck, there now!... - The Other Sunshine
    • One tiime, say yes and go. See how he reacts to - that. nm
  • been there done that - ginny
    • It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm) - OP
  • Thanks everyone for your comments (sm) - OP
    • Calling AA will do you no good. You need to call Al-Anon. - latecomer to thread
    • GOOD FOR YOU! But, think of yourself first. call the domestic violence hotline FIRST. - Holiday MT
    • Maybe he was freaking out about germs - during today's incident
      • That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL! - nm OP
  • your hubby - spring
  • So he's out drunk and with a gun. S/l a recipe for - huh
  • Why don't you appreciate the fact that he cooks??? - Mt
    • Uh, what? Cooking makes up for meanness? - tnmt
    • He messed up the pan on purpose...to be mean n/m - OP
  • I just wanted to say I feel bad for you. - sm
  • I am so very sorry, my heart is with you. - HolidayMT
    • Thank you...do you really think they will listen to me (sm) - OP
      • Of course they will listen. Mental abuse is extremely prevalent - HolidayMT
        • wow - mimiskids
  • Well, he sounds like a control - Me
  • I'd kick him out. I would not enable him to keep doing what he is doing - pc
    • How can I kick him out? I have told him to leave many times (sm) - seriously - OP
      • you do the leaving - mimiskids
        • Thank you...can I ask you (sm) - OP
          • personality/alcohol - mimiskids
      • If you are serious about leaving, you need a plan. SM - bunny buncher
        • Do NOT stay just because of the age of your kids. - MslaMT
          • You may want to shoot me, but SM - bunny buncher
      • Order of protection, change locks and be prepared - to call police. nm
      • Call womans shelter/police and ask them where to - start. nm
  • bull, he was not too drunk he has a girlfriend. See the writing on the wall. nm - Minding your Business
    • Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm) - OP
      • Sorry to hear all this; here's my advice - sm
        • This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm) - OP
    • you don't know that for sure. He says he thinks he's an alcohol. - she needs to start there. n/m
  • You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make - decision to change this, it will continue, no surp
    • do you know how alcoholism works? - n/m
      • I know if SHE doesnt get proactive and take charge - her and children's situation, nothing will chan
  • if he states he thinks he may be an alcoholic, he is asking for help - there is help out there; utilize it.
    • Would he still act like this even when sober? (sm) - OP
      • alcoholics have personality changes; talk to AA group - get info on it. n/m
        • Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without - really being alcoholic? nm
          • if he quits drinking and changes for the better, you have your answer - n/m
            • This may sound crazy sm - Seasoned Survivor
              • Thanks...and I drink almost never...I occasionally buy (sm) - OP
                • Let us know sm - Seasoned Survivor

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