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I have to laugh. I have HP and have no trouble at all. It is the same thing with kitchen appliances. Have mostly GE and am not happy but many surveys say GE is one of the best.
I have been reading all these posts sm
and debating on what to say. Bear with me, this could be long. My mother's mother lives in California and has all my life. I live in Virginia. I havew seen my grandmother exactly 5 times and I am now 40. My mother died unexpectedly 3 years ago (she lived here and was extremely close with all her grandchildren). I knew that my mother and grandmother did not have a close relationship but they did love each other. The night before the funeral my father and I had such a long wonderful talk. He told me then that he never ever heard my grandmother say anything positive, not even anything nice to my mother. He wasn't trying to critize my GM but was just stating the facts. Two years ago my parents (dad and stepmother) decided to take each grandchild (4) on a separate vacation. My daughter really wanted to go to CA. Not necessarily to see her great-grandmother but wanted to include that in the trip. My parents asked me to go along. We flew to San Francisco and drove to her home about 3 hours away. Now keep in mind, my GM loves my father and thinks he put the moon and sun in the sky. We were only going to stay in her town over night simply becuase the woman is not enjoyable to be around. She has a very tiny home so we decided to stay in a hotel. My GM asked me if my daughter and I would like to stay with her. I did not want to but my stepmother really thought I should. We arrived and after spending some time at her house trying to show her pictures of the other grandchildren (she really wasn't very interested) we took her to lunch. I tried to talk to her about the likes of my other child as well as my nieces and what there life was like. She just kept interuppting and changing the subject. Mostly about my brother or to talk to my father. As we were leaving the restaurant my SM pulled me aside and said that we should definitely stay at the hotel. My GM has no other family except my brother and I. I still call her every week but the conversations are always the same. No interest in my life. My son's 17th b-day is tomorrow and he got a card from her yesterday. It was pink and covered in flowers. This is not a woman who I want to spend time with and never have for multiple reasons. I could write a book. Please don't "make" your children go. There are obvious reasons in their minds and you should respect that.
After reading some of your posts,
it sounds like maybe he just wants to stay married so he can keep you under his thumb. I'm sure it's better for him financially if you stay together and he has someone to do the household chores as well. As for asking for sex via email, that is creepy. But, I would still wonder whether he is getting somewhere else. I think men would still continue to ask, just on the off-chance that you actually would say yes, but get it somewhere else, too. I'd be afraid of what he could bring home. As for the kids, I agree with the other posters. The kids will pick up on this, but sadly enough, they will grow up believing it's a normal relationship when it's not, thus the generation-after-generation epic of divorce. That's just my opinion, though, and I'm certainly not an expert.
Now, back to you, I'm sorry that you're not getting any with someone who loves and respects you. So often, it is just assumed that the woman doesn't need/desire intimacy, when in all honesty women crave that intimacy even more than men. It's not necessarily the physical aspect of the intimacy that women crave, but rather the emotional. The fact that he asks for it so bluntly via email on a daily basis is his way of degrading you. Don't let it go on any longer. I would be headed straight to the divorce lawyer's office. Many women have been through divorce and made it through okay. You're children will support you once they see how much happier you are without him. Good luck to you.
My ex, and my hubby's ex, were both people who always needed to be in a crisis...and if there was none, they'd create it.
Luckily, after we'd both divorced we found each other. We have a peaceful life, and my inlaws and his inlaws are all great people and it's a joy and great fun when we get together.
I give thanks to God for my good fortune!
Okay, I just teared up reading your posts.
So glad you had that support system. My best friend in high school had a mother with mental illness but she was functioning mainly due to meds and they lived with my friends grandparents. I remeber all the times she spent at our house and at times I could tell she didn't want to go home.
After reading your 2 posts below in addition to this one...
You need to get OUT! In time the kids will know what is going on either way, married or divorced. If you husband has been physically aggressive with you before, who is to say he's not going to have enough of your turning him down one day and come home aggressive again?! I'm worried and I don't even know you. Listen to stories on the news about the women who trusted their husbands implicitly and then one day something snapped in him - don't let that happen to you. Besides, do you want your kids thinking his behavior is a healthy one. Consciously or not, many children model their future marriage skills after their parents. I think you should seek individual counseling and advice from a lawyer. Commonly the first visit does not cost you anything and they will tell you what type of retainer fee they need so you can be working on that. Also, when (hopefully) everything starts to get in motion, get your kids in counseling too. Early is better. Don't wait for problems or issues. A lot of kids are very good at hiding their feelings from their parents. Finally, I must say, as controlling as your husband sounds the only reason he wants you to stay around is financial. Men talk about these things, my husband had told me. You will make out just fine. He'll be the one writing the check - oh, and you can request that it go through the court so you don't have to see/talk to him about the money every month. Good luck to you. Go with your gut. Be sure to let family know what's going on too so they can keep their eyes open and help if needed.
I posted before reading all these great posts and guess what?
I had said almost word for word what everyone else said. I would not give a rats behind what she thought of me, in fact if something had killed my 3furs I probably would have strung them up myself. How you can be so I don’t want to hurt her feelings, crap- I would call the police, I would get some kind of action if I had to do it myself. I keep my loves in my home always (in my neighborhood animals are not supposed to just roam free) but I would never be able to sleep, eat or anything knowing my babies outside. Everyone posting here apparently are of 1 mind, basically we have said the same thing. If a dog kills another animal, likely then to turn on a person. I could care less what someone thinks about me- I would call the police.
I was just reading the posts last night and missed it last week. It was not that I SM
trying to fight. I reads the other posts on that subject, and the moderator is correct. SOMEONE kept the back and forth up, but NOT ME. I am about done with this board, as this has hurt. I know that sounds dumb, but it really does. I sent you a VERY supportive reply today when you said you are trying so hards to quit. I wished you luck, but it was deleted. Now I am a trouble maker. I am shaking I am so upset about this.
Can't be that. I stopped reading your posts to her awhile back.
She laughed a lot, but it was making her vomit so I had to stop.
Thanks for yet another one of your brilliant brain dumps. They're much better for the tulips than the horse manure we were buying.
From reading the whole thread, I now feel
very sorry for you and your family. I wish you had posted all your thoughts at the start. You are honestly one of the lone MTs who work at home for - no reason other than to stay away from coworkers, really is the sum of your logic. You obviously feel children are worthless burdens, along with housework of any sort, or caring for your family. So go out and earn the big $$ - guess you couldn't hack competing with the men in the corporate world. Obviously. Seems a pity, as you get to sit at home and hate everything related to home and family, while other poor humans drag their tired selves out the door every morning to earn a living, counting the minutes until they can return home, exhausted, and catch a minute or 2 of their kids and family life before passing out from exhaustion. Such is life...
I feel your pain! (See my posts to other threads above) nm
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Sound like you actually have a good partner. Above posts, not so much.
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Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
Feel good jars...
My son gave this to me years ago, and it is the most touching gift I've ever received.
Cut some wide strips of colorful paper, and have the kids write something about why they love the parents on each one (I love it when you read to me, I love your hugs, etc.)
Put those strips inside a small Mason/canning jar.
Replace the removable flat part of the lid with a square piece of pretty fabric and then use the "ring" part to screw it on.
Tie a ribbon around the jar with a card attached that says:
When you're feeling blue,
And you don't know what to do,
You don't have to look far,
Just open this jar,
And see how much I love you!
Made me feel good anyway - sm
I can see where the girl gets it though. Really pathetic.
They moved in a couple houses down about 2 years ago and I started locking my front door not long after.
All the neighbors had a BBQ party one night not long after they moved and that is when we all got a taste of how their house is run. The husband seems like a nice guy and I actually pity the poor man.
We are in the front yard of another neighbor and the girl comes storming up to her mom whining about not having something, think it was about a water gun or something. Anyway, the mom looks at dad and I am NOT kidding... she said, "Dale, what are you going to do about this?"
She wanted him to drop everything and race to get her a bigger one... AND HE DID! The girl was what.. 13 then? Give me a break!
Not long after, the girl started coming over unannounced, uninvited, and would just walk right in and make herself at home. Go through the fridge, turn on the television, you name it.
Thought, okay, the kid is rude. Then her mom came over one day did one of these tricks of opening up the door without knocking and saying "Knock Knock! ANYONE HOME?" As she is walking into my kitchen in the BACK of the house. She started doing this often enough that I started keeping the door locked.
She also will stand out in your yard and, while she's talking to you, her little precious dog poops. She simply says, Oops! but leaves the POOP right where it lands!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr Not a feel good movie...
Identity...seen it hundreds of times. I dumped Vince Vaughn for John once I saw this movie.
You are right! I feel really good today
for the first time in a really, really long time! I suggest it to anyone, except put it on your schedule first so you don't miss anything good. LOL. :)
Feel Good Story
I wanted to share a feel good story with you from our local paper. Have a great Monday and Wonderful Week
OMAHA, Neb. -- Drivers who saw $2,500 in cash blow from a motorcyclist's open pocket Thursday pulled over, collected 24 of the hundred-dollar bills and waited for his return as others tracked him down.
The unlikely payback had the motorcyclist feeling "blessed," and, perhaps more importantly, able to pay his bills.
Anthony Burres was headed south on 132nd Street between Dodge and Pacific streets when the bills began to fly.
"I didn't have my side hip-pocket zipped up and my wallet fell out, and it's like $2,500 in cash just flying all over the street," Burres said.
Burres got to Center Street before realizing he was being chased.
His headphones made him oblivious to his expensive mile.
A witness finally got his attention at the intersection of 132 and Center streets. They headed back to the scene.
"I finally get back here and it's like four lanes of traffic of cars stopped just dead in the street, picking up money, and I'm like, 'Aw man, no way,'" Burres said.
But it was real. Burres got $2,400 back.
Eight to 10 people handed him the money.
He was down one bill.
He's not missing the pocketed $100.
"I can still pay my bills. That's real good for me," Burres said.
He said the first person to stop probably pocketed the cash. But he said that's OK -- that person probably needed the cash.
We have a produce store right down the street. They sell dairy, meats, breads, snacks, canned good, but the produce is what I go for.
Bananas are usually 3 lb. for $1, red peppers in the winter are 2 for $1, green 3 and sometimes 4 for $1, packaged radishes 3 bags for $1, lemons and limes 6 for $1, apples are $1 a basket, and globe tomatoes are 2 pints for $1. Fresh white mushrooms are 99 cents a pound and portabellos are $1.99 a pound (expensive in my eyes but fresh). cukes 4 for $1. They have fresh zuchini, egglant, yellow squash, yellow and orange peppers, asparagus, fresh herbs, you name it. Oh, they did up the price on lettuce and celery. They used to be 2 for $1 and now they're $1 a piece. They sell potatoes loose or by the basket, usually no more than $1.50. A 50 pound bag of red or white potatoes last week was $11.95.
They also sell bread at 2 loaves for $1.75. It used to be 2 loaves for $1.25.
I love this store but if I don't get there as soon as they open, I can't get in. It gets packed and there's not a parking spot to be found. Gee, wonder why?
oh geez - get a life! it was a joke Geez Ella, get a grip
She didn't say her husband was a monster, just that he would not let her give a permanent home to yet another dog. Maybe you'd trade your husband for a stray pit bull, but a lot of us wouldn't. Geez, it's gotten HOT today anybody have a pool???
Well, we just got back from getting pool supplies. This is our third summer, we used Baquacil the first 2 years, dh said we were switching to chlorine this year because it is so much cheaper! Anybody done this before, I wanted to keep the Baquacil because of the grandbabies, but was just wondering about the switching.. any & all info appreciated.. tia.. gina
Oh geez folks, light up...
it was funny!
Geez.. these aren't videos. You don't know so why comment?
These are images of real women and children, in Africa and in our country, some living in extreme poverty, some dying of AIDS and malaria. It's not just a video.
why is everyone so mean on a monday? geez, how would you like to be shut up in a house never to go
i had a dog get attacked and killed about a month ago by another dog in my own fenced back yard. never seen the attacker dog before in my life nor again since the incident. you can't always protect your pets just like you can't always protect your children, but yet you have to give them some freedom. would you lock your children up in the house never to go outdoors because of the violence? i think not. the OP has a valid point and her SIL is being extremely disrespectful and careless with her dogs.
to the OP, i would tell MIL that she is responsible for those dogs while they are in "her care" and to do whatever it takes to keep them off your property. you have the right to protect you home, your property, and your animals. i'd get a bb-gun and shoot them until they learned to stay out of your yard.
GEEZ, I nearly fell out of my chair laughing!
I really do appreciate this laugh! LOL Well, geez, I knew what a vibrator was called!
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