...house. Baby will only add on more expenses and maybe loss of

• When's the best time to buy a house? - Luke S.
  • best time to buy a house - sarmt
  • I sort of know where you are coming from - sm
  • That $6K a month I presume is before taxes - sm - XXX
    • This is w/o health insurance either - sm - XXX
  • When you can afford it. - nm
  • Are you putting down a lot, like half? - sm
    • a family member will help us.... - Luke S.
      • You have to have your own financial backing - Jane
      • You need professional advice - Rad MT
        • thank you for the advice .... nm - Luke S.
        • it's an overwhelming response - Luke S.
  • It's a buyers market. Just hold on to that job. - Good luck.
  • Does anyone else thinks this sounds - sm
    • please don't be rude - Luke S.
      • I apologize for coming off rude - sm
        • It's okay. - Luke S.
      • Not rude, just realistic...you asked... - mtc
  • House poor - MIMT
    • With the prices of homes and property taxes today, just about everyone is house poor. - SM
      • We are also fortunate here in our area... - mtc
      • House costs here are not that fricking high - Lana
        • I guess you are right; it is where you live :( - sm
          • Where are you? Wish I knew how to send - Lana
            • NJ and well over 200,000 for a cracker box - NJfool
  • Too much house for you on your income... - mtc
  • Did you talk to a bank or mortgage company and see if you can get pre-approved? Seems - like your income is too low for such a costly hous
    • if we get to their 75,000 annual income qualification - Luke S.
    • ...house. Baby will only add on more expenses and maybe loss of - wife's income??? Plan it out! NM
      • Oh, and you forgot, his is not on a regular basis - Faith
      • interest-only payment - Luke S.
        • Here is an idea to find out if you can afford 2700 a month. - SM.
        • I know about the no interest loans - Annie
        • Wow, sounds like you want to jump right into the fire. - MSMT

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in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage.  Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills.  I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this.  These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring.  Where do we start?  Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations?  Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin.  We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...   

Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!

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jm

Sending cyber hugs.  Believe me I know how it hurts.  I'm sure kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy, healthy and full of life.

A friend of mine and former boss lost her husband very suddenly in a work accident when they were both in their early 30s - 5 years ago this week actually.  I think she might have tried the online way for awhile, but I know she ended up going to a grief counselor in person eventually, which really helped her.  She took her 2 small kids for a few sessions as well, if I remember correctly, and when she was about to remarry, her finance went as well. 

I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to, but have you considered seeing your doctor for some sort of antidepressant?  You sound very depressed, which is understandable.  And people that tell you it's time to snap out of it can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned.   Everyone grieves differently and at different paces.  One step forward and 2 steps back a lot of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something goes haywire.

((((hugs))))

You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her.  Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention.  You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go.  You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did. 

When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there.  A scenario I never imagined.  I was incosolable because, let's face it, 17 years (18 in your kitty's case) is such a long time to have someone in your life. There is a website that helped me through the grief--www.petloss.com.  It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out.  You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out. 

Please write again and let us know how you are doing.  ((((hugs))))

Here is a link for The Association for Pet Loss.  http://www.aplb.org/

They have scheduled chats for people who have lost pets and who anticipate losing a pet.  It was a great help to me when I lost my dog last year. There is even a book called, "Loss of a Pet" by Dr. William Sife.

My dog Scooter was my constant companion for 11 years. She got sick suddenly and deteriorated quickly.  I took her to a pet ER and made the decision to put her to sleep, but she was in pretty bad shape.  I don't envy your mother or you having to make this decision.