Am so offended by the loading him up so he is more manageable for me comment (sm)
Posted By: MTmom on 2009-04-13
In Reply to: one more thing - divorce
I would NEVER do that. How dare you make that assumption? How rude of you!!
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Offended others
My intent was not to offend others - that is why I worked as a wet nurse - so that those who could not breast feed their babies received the immunity and benefits of breastfeeding. I realize that it is not something that every woman can do and I never said that it was for everyone because it is not.
I would be so offended if I were you
I am a really big animal lover and probably would have turned him in for the kicking of an animal, husband or not, just would not be done around me. Secondly, running the risk of catching a disease by the tick thing, I would not live in the same home knowing this. His actions would just gross me out. Whether others killed birds or not, I would not be there, innocent animals all around that this man is hurting! Sounds really like a disgusting life style and I would never want to be a part of that. You are not wrong in your feelings. Do you have children that you cannot leave or just don’t want to leave. I doubt he will change his ways but you could tell him either clean up or you are out of there, might work.
I would tell her that I was offended and was buying elsewhere (sm)
I have learned over the years to stop wishing in hindsight that I had said what I should say to begin with. She is being rude and thinking you will pay her asking price just to prove to her that you can afford it. She is banking on you being offended and trying to prove to her that you can indeed afford it. That is a sales tactic I have seen used before - don't bite the bait!
I agree--not offended here at all.
I think that's what this board is for...a safe haven to talk about things. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't worry about what you witnessed at all. Seen it, heard it, even lended a hand a few times! We have been through the discord and will probably be through it again. It's always something. Hang in there and please try not to worry. Stuff like this happens...a lot. It's just that not a lot of people like to talk about it for fear of it being verboten is all. ;-)
no i wasn't offended :) sm
i feel like to each their own. my kids didn't sleep with me when they were babies. they slept in their own rooms and actually they fell asleep on their own very well. my second boy would sometimes spit up big time while sleeping, so i kept him close to me anytime he was sleeping, in his bassinet (gosh don't know how to spell that!!).
i see my hubby and his family and although they all love each other, there is no communication whatsoever in his family and they aren't near as close as i am with my mom and dad. i want my boys to grow up knowing they can talk to me about anything and that i'm always here for them. my hubby is the type that keeps EVERYTHING to himself. i'm not like that! i blame his family for not having open communication, and my hubby suffers from anxiety to a certain extent. his family situation is a whole nother chapter!
thanks for your input! 
that's okay im not easily offended
and im EASILY amused.
#7 is very funny
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
Not offended, just thinking with some sense
She is emotional because of what has happened. Legally, you cannot obtain someone elses records - I told her to contact lawyer because this is not a good thing to tell. It is not legal period. She can try to protect but you cannot take the laws into your own hands, well you can but then you might be put in jail. I am just telling her the facts like they are. She can insist on him having testing but again she CANNOT make him do it. Not her call.
nor was I offended. Sorry for your troubles in the marriage. sm
Maybe he just needed some "relief" if the two of you are not getting along so well in the bedroom, so to speak, if you catch my drift.
No! Not offended in the least and as a matter of fact, sm
I never even noticed the imperfections of my daughter's feet. Interesting though is the fact I never realized for the last 20 years that the second toe is longer. Isn't that the sign of a leader? Well, she definitely fits THAT profile :-)
As for the bunions... well, let's just say it's a good thing I work at home...
first of all, I agree you have a reason to be offended
but on the other hand, she may really have been trying to have (what she thought) was an open and genuine conversation with you.
I went through a period after my divorce where I really questioned why guys who slept around were considered studs while gals who did the same were considered *luts. I asked a lot of questions from a lot of people. Doesn't mean I slept around a lot, but I was curious about the thinking behind the idea of how things could be so different when the only difference was gender.
All I'm trying to say is that perhaps in her disjointed way, she was trying to genuinely institage a thoughtful discussion about racial inequality, even though she failed not to offend, but in her own mind thought she was unoffensive. Some people really do ask questions because of genuine curiosity that has been dormant in their own minds even if they do come across as offensive. Just MHO. Doesn't excuse her rudeness by all means, but just a thought to toss about.
It is not my fault others get offended at my opinions
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I have often wodered this too. I would also not be offended hear of someones
I have also wondered why those who do not believe in Christ (athiests and the like) celebrate Christmas.
Your comment
about checking BC pills will probably draw a lot of fire about teenage sex, etc. However, my daughter's 17-year-old friend just had a baby 3 weeks ago. They had unprotected sex ONCE and she got pregnant. This was a very smart girl, ranked #1 in the class academically, churchgoer, not a drinker, no drugs. She is now missing out on her senior year and all the hoopla, taking classes at home to get her diploma, and raising a baby. It is too late to say she should have abstained, this is the reality of the situation and all concerned are making the best of it. So I say keep checking those BC pills, Mom!
about the comment
I lived in a trailer park for 11 years, and to those who felt offense, I apologize. I know from first-hand experience that not everyone who lives in a trailer or a trailer park is trashy, but there are enough that someone created the saying. This neighbor happens to fit whatever criteria associated with the comment. I didn't live trashy when I lived in trailers, or any apartment I've been in, or in any home, either. It's an attitude and lifestyle that fits the comment...not everyone fits the comment.
Oh, by the way, add to your comment here
The "preachers kids are always the very worst!" You have heard that I am sure.
Well, guess what I am married to a Pastor, I am a Pastor's wife and these are my children who we are talking about. So I guess you can add that to your list of gripes. LOL.
Thank you for you comment.......sm
and I wish you all the best.
People who think that they can deliberately destroy their lives, are inconsiderate, selfish and unthankful towards people who love them.
Self-destruction is a sin, because it is a slow suicide.
Whenever she makes a comment that you
suspect is made as a dig, try smiling pleasantly and saying, "What?" and waiting for a reply. If she is trying to be mean and trying to slip it by everybody else, she may not be willing to explain what she meant. If you do it every time, not quite hearing or understanding those comments, you will tire her out because her zing didn't hit.
That's what I am looking for- opinions from others. Thank you for your comment.
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Your comment about an old HS bad apple -
made me laugh, reminds me of a guy I went to school. He used to sell T-shirts at concerts (the fake one's, not put out by the performer/band); was high most of the time; now he is a copyright attorney - talk about ironic.
Was the flea comment really necessary?
Another comment about harnesses
Our neighbor was walking his dog with just a collar and leash. The dog was so hyper it it jumped and in the process broke his neck. If he had a harness on this would not have happened. It was totally heartbreaking.
do not let him anger you with this comment
he feels this way because you make more money than him, and after that comment, I would calmly and confidently remind him of that whenever you need to, maybe daily. Also, sit his dumb___ down and make him type one sentence of a hard provider, then calmly and confidently talk down to him and tell him he would never be able to do your job. Calm and confident. Do not ever again let him make you feel that way.
I don't understand the comment
"knowing the girls these days" can you elaborate?
I understand the comment very well
I think a lot of girls now completely out there with their dressing, suggestiveness, forwardness, aggressiveness. I guess trying to keep up with the guys. When you see a prison population go from mostly male to more females than ever, does that not tell you something?
I understood the comment, too
That's why I thought it was offensive.
Your aunt's comment....
''well, the doctors really do not want you to tell them what you think it is or what to do for any ailments.''
I don't understand why you are upset; she was talking about the doctors, not you, and her comment was pretty much right on. Unless I am misunderstanding.
I have some problems, probably fibro or a rheumatoid thing, and am going to doctors now for a workup. I do a LOT of research and I know a lot. But, in my experience so far, if you tell a doctor what you think it is, most will do everything in their power to prove you wrong or will just say no, if they don't think of it first. It's called arrogance and yes a holier than thou attitide.
So I guess I don't understand why this upset you.
Comment on Alli
I'm 45 and started Alli the weekend it came out in mid-June. I weighed about 185 at the time. This morning, I weighed 163. It's been a slow, steady loss. I haven't had any of the "treatment effects" that are talked about with Alli. Just the threat of those treatment effects if you eat too much fat and take Alli are enough... it teaches you to watch your fat grams, which makes you also reduce calories. I haven't felt deprived in the least, but I've learned to eat healthier, less fat, smaller portions. I've been using Lean Cuisine or Smart Ones for my quickie meals, and eating lots of rice, veggies, fruit, whole grains, lean meats. I have lost 20 plus pounds doing Atkins in the past, but gained it all back plus about 10 more. Over the winter, I was the highest ever.. up at about what I was when 9 months pregnant! I feel so much better right now, and I feel confident that when this bottle of Alli runs out, I probably could go without because in these 3 months I've developed habits that I can stick with. Good luck!
What a strange comment.
You were able to discern that from my post? I find THAT strange!
Actually, your assumptions are quite wrong.
I will say a prayer for you, that God may grace you with wisdom and patience.
why the comment about the jocks? nm
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I had to laugh at this comment sm
when my hubby and I saw her on the TV I just said "Well she obviously doesn't have any friends....cause a true friend would tell her how terrible her eyebrows look."
Very moving - see comment
Very moving, touching, sad, proud, thankful, greatful. There are not enough words to thank all the soldiers fighting for us. I was in the miliary some years ago and this brings back so many memories of why I joined. I can't thank enough these people who fight for our freedom and for freedom for others. I still have a lump in my throat from watching this video. What a wonderful tribute to the soldiers this 15-year-old did in making this.
Probably because that's a stupid comment?
Too bad this wasn't your first comment
to her instead of the rudeness above.
barefoot comment
Did a foot doc tell you that's why your arches fell? My foot doc told me years ago the best thing you can always do is go barefoot when you can and otherwise wear ballet type slippers around the house and flats otherwise. She said women have ruined their feet with heels (I know my mom did.) I'm 65 and am barefoot in the house almost all the time. Hope you footsies stay comfy, though!
I bet this is a comment of Mr,. TechSupport himself...nm
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that's a really weird comment...nm
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lol, about the head lice comment
never thought of that, and would not be surprised if that was it, she's pretty filthy. Dollars to donuts that was why she shaved the other *hair* LOL!
I did. My original comment was about how my son enjoys
candles. Your very next post in response to mine included the makeup, nail polish and other. I really just didn't understand how liking candles had anything to do with the use of obviously feminine products.
uhhh...did you read the OP's comment??
She said the dog was BARKING at people passing by! How is this "minding her own business?" You are the one who needs a lesson in manners lady. It is extremely rude to bring an animal into a store where other people are trying to mind their own business and shop, especially with a dog that BARKS at people!!
I can't believe all of you are upset about the police comment...
but not that she will be sent to a "meaner mom and dad". lol Priceless and typical.
To me, no biggie. Plus I don't particularly like cops ;)
Poster was having a moment. There is far worse people say and do to kids. And that can be turned around, easily. Geez.
:)
I like DWTS, just haven't seen it enough lately to comment (nm)
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I too found that comment funny..sm
After all, she doesn't live in a bubble. You play, you pay...poor baby (the unborn one, that is)...
Hey now watch that fattest comment :)
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Thanks for the kind words on the spread. Really loved the look of it, but baby it was hot hot hot, and forget it when the kids puked on it. It would be perfect for you in Maine. Love love Love purple, my favorite pillows thanks.
Surgery will be around $700, pull that one out of my @@#$ss somehow. Hopefully get good tax return, just hope I am making the right decision. He said mainy because she is young and large, that she would benefit from this surgery, especially down the road when she ages to offset the arthritis. Thanks so much for your kind thoughts. You rock Hayseed. Artsy fartsy picture of my beloved below.
No; the burp comment was random.
I can't believe somebody came on here to lecture us on proper horse terminology and then bragged about her wealth as if we were to bow to her "superiority." She actually gave us a scolding. What a way to drop in for a visit!
This is a very inappropriate and wrong comment, why do you say this?..nm
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Reading the first comment on this Youtube
We need more of this today. The generation of MTV'ers and Xbox'ers is a pathetic spectacle.
Watched a few seconds but manners we learned from our parents and grandparents. It was a wonderful time to be raised, totally unlike today. I would not trade my younger years for anything, such a glorious time. Hey, these golden years are turning out about the same. Don't hate on what you apparently missed out on.
I think her comment was meant for me, niot for you/nm
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Reading your comment I am answering,
I think that your daughter, at least on this trip she asked you to take her with you, did not behave appropriate.
She keeps criticizing you and telling you to change, whereas she has to make some changes in her behavior.
There comes a time when it is the children's turn to give and help.
Explain this to your daughter.
Thanks for your comment- I am just checking to see if others thought it was 'more' than it sho
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