Don't stay angry, instead get EVEN.
Posted By: (It's so much more fun!) on 2008-11-21
In Reply to: Anyone ever do you wrong and you got - S/M
been there, done that. no need to be in a hurry, either. if you take months or even years to get even, you have just that much more time to come up with something truly memorable.
or, you can do something swift and simple, like blocking their emails on your pc as spam.
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I think if you were not angry
you would not be human. You did the right thing and she did the wrong thing. Try to hold your head high and remember that instead of being angry. I have learned that MOST OFTEN, people who ask for money are wasting money and they start to think of your money as an easy backup source if they don't feel like pinching pennies. This is America and there are resources out there for emergency situations. The trouble is, the other resources that are in place for emergencies require some effort on the part of the one needing help. It's a lot more convenient to go to a friend for help, especially if they learn they won't have to pay it back.
It is much better to give money rather than to loan it. But now you know you were taken advantage of. Lesson learned. You are a good person!
You are right to be angry (sm)
I would talk to him, probably by phone and say in as calm a voice as you muster up, that your daughter has dyslexia and that she is already sensitive and struggling with that and that by calling her lazy, it really hurt her feelings. The reason I would do this nicely is because if your daughter slept over there, she must really like the other child and you wouldn't want to alienate them from each other. I have issues with a neighbor but because my children like to play with hers, I have to step gingerly when I talk to her about things - if it was just me I was thinking of I would be happy to just give her a peice of my mind! But in my children's best interest I choose my words carefully. I am so sorry that he treated her that way though, and you are 100% right to be upset.
not angry, just sad
I don't know when this started, or why. I guess I didn't notice until I had my child around the time my sisters had theirs, and there was a big difference in how often she saw each one. I have talked to mom about this before, and it goes nowhere. She gets all guilty and cries and apologizes, and then nothing changes. She means well, but actions speak louder than words.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I guess that pretty much says it all.
Have you ever seen anyone more angry looking?
It's a picture of a local prostitute. She was arrested for pimping out her own daughter.
Who are you angry at?
Not me because I think Susan was a jewel of a find. I also happen to like Simon and did not find him in any way condescending or the like. I guess you would have to know/like him in the first place to realize this.
You are one angry lady!
I'm not sure what your problem is.
I'm not the OP, but I can certainly tell you that every doglover in the world has the right to have their pet in their own space. Not in mine, though.
Public places that are not designed for dogs include shopping malls, etc. (except pet stores where that is the entire focus of their business).
Perhaps a dog is the only thing that can be nice to you with that attitude of yours!
Calm down!!
me2-cannot stand Jen and was angry she got HOH
You're right to be angry
I would have pointed out to her that as proud as you are of your daughter for making the team, you feel that putting family first is a higher value for you and your husband.
I hope you have a wonderful meal with your father-in-law. Your child is lucky to have parents like you and your husband.
venting and angry
My daughter had this same problem 2 years ago. I finally called the doctor, and the nurse asked me if we have animals. I told her that we did, and she said that they need to be treated as well. So, along with treating my daughter, bagging all her stuffed toys, vacuuming and steaming everything else she had been in contact with I bathed the cats in a shampoo for animals that helps treat lice. We didn't have problems with them again. Maybe you should find out if this child's family has pets, and if so, make a suggestion that they treat them as well. I know this is a frustrating and expensive problem, but as was stated earlier, I think educating the child's mother is the Christ-like thing to do. If she gets angry about your help/suggestions, then you know that you did your part. Hang in there!!
I am the OP and I did not mean to get people angry here. SM
I have not turned my kinds against my husband, in fact I have always defended his actions to them, but now they are old enough to make up their own minds based on his actions. He is not a bad man, but he is just all about him and can be very demeaning and hurtful to me and my girls. Seems like he always has an alterior motive, which is usually something to gratify himself and his needs.
He just does not make me happy and I don't wish him any harm, in fact I want him to be happy. I just don't think I am the person who can make him happy, really.
I am able to financially support my children and I know that without him in the picture, none of us would have to walk on eggshells anymore. That's all.
And the need for adding the little angry icon is???
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I was so angry Gina went last night (sm)
Before last night it just seemed like a silly stunt that was being pulled, between Vote for the Worst and Howard Stern, but last night because a really talented person left before Sanjaya, it went too far and really angered me. I agree with the poster below about Howard Stern being a hypocrite, and the VFTW website seems to be run by some lame people who have nothing better to do. They don't seem to realize that in the process they are actually hurting Sanjaya, not helping him, but they don't seem to care. They just have their own agenda. Something needs to be done, but I can't imagine what because we do have free speech in this country, which normally is a great thing. There, I've had my rant!
I agree/always seems very negative and angry.
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You sound angry in your response saying whatever
But it is such a beautiful day will just think you are probably just having a bad day. Anyway, this police did not eat even half the sandwich; I have seen a picture and looks like it could have been a couple of bites. Enjoy the rest of your day, take some time for yourself!
I am angry when I hear something this ridiculous (sm)
But not having a bad day at all. It was more of an eye-rolling thing. He should have taken it back and showed it to the manager and either gotten his money back or another burger. If the girl did anything wrong she should get in trouble with her manager, not the police. If she did indeed go to her manager first, they should be the one in trouble not her. We have all gotten so petty - so focused on petty things that we miss the important ones.
Norb and Dag - the Angry Beavers
Even DH likes them. They are so funny.
Bugs Bunny and Tigger are right up there, too.
Probably should not waste your time being angry or
hurt - she sounds like a loser - and better to just use this as a lesson learned and not share anything with her in the future. Be the bigger person if you can and put behind you - but take a lesson from it - she is not your friend. Praying that you get your dream home! Hugs!!
Nanny 911 would say he is angry about some injustice once
she ruled out hypoglycemia. Is there competition or jealousy. Do you subtly favor the 11 yr old or does anyone else and make it obvious? Fairness between siblings is so important - it levels the playing field. Take him out alone and have a talk with him. Ask him what is upsetting him so much. Tell him it is important that he tell you because it can be fixed.
I know this will make people angry and ...
I do not know everyone's situations, but I see women on here whining and whining about stupid things. Enjoy the person you love. My husband is at war and I miss him terribly. All of these stupid little things that women deem "selfish" and such are usually nothing more than selfish women wanting things their own ways. Like I said, not every time, but come on, you have to give some, too. If you think your man sucks, there is really nothing he is going to do to make you happy, so you should probably cut him loose to find someone who can appreciate him.
Sorry, not my year of birth? Why are you angry?
NM
yeah..okay...now I am nuts, paranoid, angry and need a
psychiatrist. like I said, you are not overweight so you DO attack overweight people. I only eat one meal a day because that is the only time I get hungry, like someone else said about ONLY eating when they get hungry. I am not intentionally starving myself. I just have no appetite for hormone infested, pesticide ridden, additive stuffed foods. I am not being paranoid. I have researched this subject fully, and if you think the govt would not do this to unsuspecting, naive people, you are more naive than most. Remember the cigarette lie? What makes you think they wouldn't do it to your food? why are american's the only obese people in the world? think about it. oh...and I am not nuts, angry, paranoid, nor do I need a psychiatrist or therapy. I am not blaming every one else for my weight problem, other than the food we eat. You did not do this to me...I am not blaming you, but you are also thin and have no compassion for those that DO have a problem. I will not continue this. but this is my opinion only. I HAVE accepted responsibility for my whole entire life, including my weight. Oh...and I am not a liar either. thank you for all your compassionate support...must make you feel better to attack the overweight when you brag about being a size 6. I bet you are in your 20s, as well. hmpff.
It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
I wouldn't want to. I'm angry that our system is set up so that this innocent man could not b
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grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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Normally, this would be something I would try to stay out of, but (sm)
I would think if you called CPS and explained things just the way you did here, they might be able to do something to keep the aunt away, and parenting classes for the parents wouldn't hurt either. I agree with the other poster who said if parents (or you) act first, anything the aunt did at a later time would be considered retaliation. Handicapped parents many times can be the best parents, but it sounds like they do need some help with setting boundaries.
I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the
door is and can use it if he chooses. Your first concern has to be your children and you should not have to find a place to live if he is the one who has the problem with you. If there is no adultery involved here, don't rush into divorce. Divorce is painful and can get nasty. Sometimes just being away from each other can "calm the waters" and allow you to make a more objective decision. I speak from experience. My husband and I divorced very hastily when we were very young after less than 2 years of marriage and then remarried, had 2 children, divorced very hastily again and then remarried again. Had I just been a little less in a hurry I could have saved myself a hiney-load of money and a lot of heartache by just being away for a while and then making an objective decision. Instead, I rushed into divorce and paid dearly. 
Stay away from CC....
If you have been having problems meeting the minimum payment on any CC, by all means don't go opening another credit card. Your credit report will be an absolute mess. I know it's 0% interest for one year, but read the fine print - there is usually a fee of some type, plus, can you pay it off in one year before the interest starts up? You never know what will happen in life and you may not be able to make the payments, the rate goes up, and you are in deep doo-doo.
Sallie Mae is high interest, your 401K is better. With 401K you are paying yourself back with interest. It's a no-brainer. No one gets your money but you. Is it possible to borrow again from a 401K if you already have a loan out? Having the money deducted automatically from your paycheck and put back into your 401K is the safest and smartest bet...as long as you have a job.
If you ABSOLUTELY have to have this other loan for $7,000 then the 401K should be your only choice. Can you do without the $7,000 and get back on track before getting deeper into debt - or at least until you pay off the existing credit card?
Why would you want to stay...
with someone who is, as you say, mean? If you are not happy, LEAVE! When you stay you are condoning his behavior. Some women want to be martyrs, others want to live a great life. There are great men out there; wallowing in self-pity does not get you one though.
Well, obviously we don't want to stay
somewhere where there's still a lot of damage. That's why I'm asking for personal experiences, and hopefully recently. We don't want to book a beach house and when we get there find out it's in the middle of a big mess.
stay vs go
First, I am so sorry for your situation...that being said, the kids will definitely pick up on the negative vibes between you and your husband. As far as your question goes, I think only you and your husband can know the answer to that one. Just be very aware of your kids and behavior changes, emotional lability, etc. Trust me when I say, they are not dumb...they will pick up on what's going on, no matter how hard you try to hide it (yes, I'm speaking from experience...). Good luck!
You definitely need to stay on top of this...
The kids who you think are least likely to commit suicide are the ones that actually do...that is not meant to scare you by any means...most kids find it easier to write down their feelings than actually expressing them face to face so the fact that he wrote this means something is bothering him...I think you should both talk to your pastor..good luck...(((HUGS)))...
I think you should just stay out of it.
It is just humiliating for kids when their parents act up or cause a scene.
The name of the game is fun. Your going into the game wanting your son's team to beat the other team because of YOUR issues with another parent is very immature and selfish.
Trust me, we've watched parents like you've described yourself (and others, in fairness) acting out and it is so unsportsman-like and completely immature.
Embarrassing for everyone.
To Done: STAY !
No husband is perfect, we are all human. Your husband has a lot of good qualities. Think of your children! I think you are spoiled and unthankful. Maybe he is right and is better than you. He loves you, why don't you; I think you are just bored.
If I don't have anywhere to go, I stay
in my jammies. I usually get up and take the kids to school in jeans and my jammy shirt. Then come home and put the jammy pants back on. If I don't have anywhere to go, I don't get dressed until mid afternoon when I break for lunch. I usually put something in the oven and hop in the shower. Sometimes I just put clean jammies on, sometimes I get fully dressed. Either way, my contacts go in and my hair gets done. My husband likes me either way, as long as I'm clean. I find I wear my jammies more in the winter and am more likely to get dressed in the summer, probably because kids are always coming and going in the summer.
At any rate, I tend to be more productive when I'm dressed, so I should probably try to do that every morning, but I'm just not a morning person. Every year for Christmas, my mom gets me "work clothes" (jammies)!!!
Where we stay in NYC.
We stay at the Embassy Suites on North End Avenue right in the financial district. It is walking distance to to the Village, China Town, Mulberry Street, etc. It overlooks the Harbor and you can see the all the helicopters coming in and out. My husband always goes to Battery Park to watch the helicopters. It is not too inexpensive, but you do get free breakfast and there is a happy hour at 5:00 p.m. if you like to have a few drinks, which will really cost you in the city. There is also a fantastic deli 1 block away that we always hit for a late night snack. We go at least once per year, sometimes twice or 3 times. We love it.
You really have to stay on top of the cards
I do a lot of card flipping with balance transfers but also calling and trying to negotiate new deals. I just switched one with a balance transfer at 3.9 for the life of balance and then talked them down to a purchase rate of 8.9 (it had been up in the high teens). I also talked a card I've had a while into a 2.9 for the life of a balance transfer instead of the 12 month offer they were having because there was a delay in the electronic transfer to the other company causing me a bit of inconvenience. That transfer was actually for a loan I had at a pretty high interest rate, so some loans can be put on cards too which I never knew. I find websites that list ALL the latest offers for all or most card companies and I'm always checking. Sometimes I call my cards and tell them I am thinking about switching unless they can give me a similar/better rate or deal. Often they will so as not to lose the business. I have saved a ton of money doing this - it is sort of like consolidating on your own. I can post the site if anyone is interested, don't have it handy right now. Oh..I also have automatic electronic payment setup to pay a certain amount each month from my checking so the payment is NEVER late. You are so right about that, that's where they get you! I just thought maybe some of this info may help someone, I hope so. My credit is very good now but had been a mess in the past.
Remind me to stay
away from that doctor!!!
Did he marry her so he could stay in the U.S.? nm
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I go there frequently and would not stay in
the Flamingo. It is right downtown but a very old place, the smoke when you go into the casino is terrible, not as classy as I like. It might be cheap but then you get what you pay for. I love the Mirage, stayed at Treasure Island, very nice also, favorite though is the Bellagio, more expensive than most on the strip. Love the buffet at the Luxor. MGM might be alright and at the end of most of the strip but I would think ok as far as a place to stay.
To make it stay that way
If you want everything on your computer bigger: right mouse click on your desktop background. A little box should pop up. Click on 'properties'. Then click on the settings tab. There should be a little sliding scale with the screen resolution. Move it to less resolution (left). Then click 'apply'. Your screen may black out for a second, but when it comes back, everything should be bigger. Certainly saved my eyeballs!!
Also if you stay away you are letting him win(sm)
As that seems to be his goal -I would not let him keep me from seeing the rest of my family. However, I also would not want my children exposed to his mouth, so if you cannot stay in a hotel,I would go and visit without your children, which I do sometimes as well. I see my family about twice a year, usually once by myself and once with the kids, at which time we stay in a hotel.
Its wise to stay away
I had a C-section and had planned to stay at my mom's for a week or so to recuperate. As soon as I got there, I put the baby in the cradle in the living room and started to put some things away in the bedroom. I could hear my step-dad saying "get 'im, get 'im" to his dog....I went out there and he was actually encouraging his schnauzer to mess with the baby! I came real close to braining him with a can of tomatoes over it. I left and refused to bring the baby to their house as long as he was in it. My mom, too, chose the step-dad over her kids. Now he's dead and her relationship with her kids is rocky, and she regrets it.
Need help with a dog that will NOT stay off furniture (sm)
We have a black lab in the house - had him since he was a puppy. He was/is not allowed to be on the couch and other furniture but....he considers it a challenge. If I am in my office, he will get on the couch and jumps down as soon as he hears me walking into the family room. I don't know how to make him stay off. He is a very smart dog and we challenge him in other ways with training. One of my kids will be home for the holidays and has allergies. The dog hair on everything is getting to me real quick! He is 2 years old now. Forget the dog bed - he looks at it and laughs!! 
Can help you on this, we stay at the Bellagio
and hear that is higher up on the scale of rates.
Do NOT stay just because of the age of your kids.
Being unhappy does affect your kids, whether you are abused or not.
3 yrs and 3 months. Stay over every other
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I'd try to stay calm, but (sm)
One thing I told my now-husband years ago was that I had to have honesty enough to know if he needed something from me that I was not giving, that he was not to go looking elsewhere for something without asking for it at home.
In this day and age, with STDs being they are, there is no excuse for adultery. It's not just thoughtless and hurtful, it's irresponsible with someone's life.
As far as being calm, I'm just not sure temper or tears works in a situation like that. I think many men "turn you off" when you get in that situation and nothing gets heard or accomplished, and something needs to get resolved with you guys PDQ.
Stay together for the children - yes or no? (sm)
Husband and I have been on the verge of divorce for years, trying to stay for kids. But now we can't seem to stop arguing for more than a week at a time. He is including me in none of the decision making and acts as though we are already divorced. I am worried about the effects divorce would have on my children, emotionally, financially. But part of me is ready to just plunge into the unknown. I almost feel like I don't have a choice. Would appreciate opinions and viewpoints either way.
me either. I'll stay right where i am!
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