Exactly, lol, and anyone who is treated like a true princess does not work! lol

• Stray animals and an animal lover - SM
  • My heart is also tender when it comes to strays. - passing
  • Strays - typingforpennies
    • Let me tell you about my dealings with Paws... - Betti
      • Paws - typingforpennies
        • The local police department told me to call them so - Betti
  • SM- please see msg - love strays
    • These dogs appear to be puppy mill producing dogs. - SM
      • That's great news! - ER MT
      • you are amazing, SM..... - love strays
  • I said never again for taking in animal because - Katie
    • You carry food for lost animals in your car? You are an angel! - I do this, too! (NM)
      • Yes, I do and have 2 more to - katie
  • strays - ER MT
    • It seems to me neutering/spaying should be free - SM
      • I meant that the fed/state/local govt should pay the vet - SM
        • Where do you think those funds come from? You, me, etc. - Sorry, but I don't want to pay for your pet'
          • Boarding and subsequent euthanize is not free. Nor are dog catchers, - OP
          • Your tax dollars already go to the local shelter/animal control...sm - GLF
            • Then learn how to use my tax dollars to the best advantage - and don't take any more. nm
              • That's what I just outlined in the 1st...sm - GLF
                • I was in the pet care industry for over 30 years. I know about - compassion for animals and irresponsible owners. n
          • glad i'm not you - mt2
          • Wow, you sound like - MT4eight
            • I am rich in compassion but poor in dollars and am - tired of govment taking my money. nm
          • Cont: your pe'ts surgery. - nm
      • Do you work for free? What vet is going to work for free? - nm
        • Me again, tell you what I did about paying a bill for a dog - Katie
          • Don't strain your shoulder patting yourself on the back. - nm
            • I used to give money to people like you - Katie
              • What are you talking about. I work and pay taxes. - I don't need hand-outs. nm
                • Still remember from seeing you this morning on the side - Katie
                  • Oooh, you must be that poor homely person - that waved at me from her junky car. nm
                    • Bless your heart, don’t know a 2006 BMW - Katie
                      • You wish,,,, ROFL. You can say anything - on this board cause you don't have to prove it.
                        • After 2000 when I married my hubby, he - Katie
                    • And, btw, I am one of the working poor, a member of - our shrinking middle class. nm

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I, too, feel badly for you.  I personally don't think you sound like the kind of woman who could live with what will most definitely come, and sooner than you think.  I'm not here to judge whatever you decide.  Just know that we're all very sorry for your situation. Betrayal is probably the worst thing I've ever had to endure, whether from a friend or in any area of life.  But I must agree based on where I've been in life that he's down-playing the sex. We all know anatomy well enough here that there was obviously some kind of pay-off here for him (hate to go "Dr. Phil" on ya, but you can't ignore this--he clearly wasn't thinking of you when he was in the arms of another woman)!  You didn't mention exactly how you learned of this.  Did you find out on your own?  If so, that would speak volumes in my world.  If that's the case, I can't see where he had enough guilt to bring it to the table.  You also didn't mention the dynamics about this other woman.

I know from my own experience how many men cheat on their husbands, as I've been hit up on for as long as I can remember (and still am).   And trust me, the ones you'd never expect are out there doing it.  No, not all of them.  Fortunately there are some really decent men who don't.  I'm just jaded based on how many have just assumed that I was a player, too.  Whether it was at the hospital, the gym, or even the grocery store, I was amazed (and of course disgusted and disappointed).  Even more surprising to me was over the phone!  I could look like CIrcus Fat Lady and they still hit up on me!  Now how screwed up is that?

I had a boyfriend long before I got married who was behaving this way.  I'm ashamed that I even spoke to him after that!  Of course, we're friends now, but if he had it his way, he'd have me again (we're both married).  So that tells me nothing's changed.

I personally could never trust a man after this.  Only you can answer that, but I think you're in for a long, painful ordeal by dragging it out.  I learned long ago that no man is worth it, no matter how "good he looks on paper."  We can spin it anyway we want in our own minds to pacify ourselves.  I just know that I'm worth far more than any liar or cheater who could bring something back to my bed. That's a huge turn-off for me.  I'd personally cut my losses and move on and be a princess yourself.  You deserve that (heck, we all do)!

Either way, we're all here for you and will support you and help you through this.  What a horrible thing to learn so close to Christmas, bless your heart...

Please keep us updated on whatever it is you decide.  It's a very personal decision.  I'm just glad you felt you could reach out to us. 

how helpless can you be!

I've heard the Wal-Mart brands are the worst (like Old Roy).

I have to feed my dog a special dog food I get from the vet for dogs with kidney and bladder problems because he gets bladder stones. Hill Science Diet makes it.

I also get regular boneless chicken breasts from the grocery store, usually about 10 pounds at a time, cook them up in the crock pot (I have a 5-6 quart crock pot), put them into plastic bowls and freeze them. Since he is a small dog, that makes enough food for his "supper" for a month or more. I usually try to catch sales for $1.99 a pound (sometimes $1.49 a pound). That's only $20 for a month's worth of food that you know is at least reasonably healthy.

In our state they had instituted a program called "young 5's", which was basically a year of pre-K where they did the exact same cirriculum as K.  I saw no point in it as my child was K ready, so I insisted they just go ahead and put him in Kidnergarten.  His teacher kept hassling me about it during conferences.  She was an old battle-ax that insisted she knew better than me and he belonged in pre-K.  She couldn't give any reason other than "emotionally immature" (what 5 year old isn't?).  She informed me that sooner or later, he'd be held back a year because of my arrogance about his ability and pushing him into something he wasn't ready for - SHE knew, SHE had been in the business a long time and SHE was the expert.

He started high school this year at the age of 13 (he'll be 14 next month), and still hasn't been held back a grade due to "emotional immaturity" - in fact he's doing just fine.  I think when he graduates I'm going to track her down and rub her face in his diploma - I'm still peeved at her after all this time for trying to bully me into keeping him back a year .

The majority are expected (and actually counted on) not to think, to focus on themselves and only what's beneath their very noses, the acquisition of products nobody truly needs, and fluff entertainment only, and not take an interest in any real issues. 

The government and media expect, and actually think they need, people to stay shallow, uniformed, marginally educated, and childishly willing to be led wherever "authority" tells them to go as long as it sounds good.

Perfect example of this is the housing crisis.  People were told by "professional experts" they could afford too much house, and that they could always refinance, so they signed for it.  They didn't bother to question or think, and now are up a creek.

Many people are lazy and don't want to think too hard.  They don't want to take responsibility for themselves, much less responsibility for issues affecting others, their country, or their world.  They learn to care about MS Spears by staring blankly at the tube, and whatever they see there often will be what they are interested in and care about.  They'll only touch a newspaper to find a sale or a job, a magazine for the pretty pictures and short, breezy tales that don't strain their attention span.  And books - if you can get them to touch one - only for entertainment, and not too thick, please!

We are being trained to be like this.  We are letting ourselves be trained.  We are letting our children be trained.  You are not crazy.  It is the truth.