Like I said......sm

Posted By: there are exceptions... on 2007-02-14
In Reply to: You are only responsible for changing your behavior, not someone elses - Jan

She didn't say her husband was running around on her...that would be abuse and would understand why she would find him disgusting. She didn't say how her husband got along with their children....your dad didn't click with you but her husband may be a dad the kids love. Our children adored their dad....different issue altogether.

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Help - Disgusted by husband? - Lisa
- The day I felt repulsed by my husband's advances was the day I decided to leave. - It goes deeper, respect.
- You need to be sweet. He is STILL your husband. sm - Me here
- THE SECRET - potatoMT
  - I saw that on Oprah...so simple yet powerful!... - The Secret
    - That's the big secret? I saw some of that Oprah and got bored. - sm
      - THE SECRET = YOU - potatoMT
        The secret: JESUS. It's so odd that everything they said on that show - Me
        actually, they do know that but - insider
        You're kidding? Well, Jesus said: If you deny me in front of others, I too, will deny you. How tr - Me
        You may be right, I tend to be very negative - sm
- OMG you just described my entire marriage.. - KC
  - What kind of programs? - Lisa (OP)
- been there, felt that, got counseling - missy
  - Well I too have been there,felt that, got OUT : ) - nm
  - Do you remember the names of any of the books you read? - not feeling it
    - I believe we read the John Gray books because that was what was out then, but - - missy
- What's reallly bothering you.... - about his touch?
  - You are only responsible for changing your behavior, not someone elses - Jan
    - Like I said......sm - there are exceptions...
      - Well update on your post - Jan
        Agree, once a cheater, always a cheater... - sm
        Not always. My husband cheated on me 26-1/2 - Wannie
        Is he still living? - Jan
        yep, alive and well. Married almost 29 years now. nm - Wannie
      - And again, she cannot change his behavior, only hers - Jan
- Lisa, what is it about your husband that is making you feel disgusted? - That is where you may consider beginning (sm)
  - Believe me there are many reasons - Lisa (OP)
    - Been there done that. - MT in MT
- Oh my gosh! - S. Hill
- Had exactly same experience after 10-12 years...sm - been there
- Dont know where your relationship has gone wrong but - Gabby
- That brings back unpleasant memories. Glad that's over with. nm - yech.
- I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots - of issues going on here. Wishing you luck. nm

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