Someone putting that many demands on a gift is taking advantage of you, and you are letting them. nm
Posted By: whatever it is on 2008-01-21
In Reply to: Case closed on gifts - sm - anonme
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Ah, that is sorta taking advantage of a restaurant
in fact might border on theft. I don’t think quirky, would be embarassing to me to have your family heist any and everything they could when going out. Do they go out other times or just on a special occasion? Rather than run the risk of someone in management asking me to pay for their "treats," think I probably might make them a dinner at home, then you could make sure to tie down anything valuable to you.
My community demands that we keep our yard
free of the bugs and weeds and we were infested with grubs this past year. We have spent a lot of time trying to rid our yard because they do so much damage. The management came by while this was going on and sent letter that we try to remedy the problem. I have to use these, sorry but I do like a nice lawn.
Yep, you should be mad. They took advantage of you. But now
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Advantage
I called 1-800-petmeds in the past. I got free shipping and was pleased with the service/pricing.
You are definitely being taken advantage of
You're not wrong. You have every right to be mad. I would tell hubby that either his buddy comes and gets the dogs, and doesn't do this to you again, or next time your husband can stay home and take care of them. It's one thing to take care of your own, but 5 more is a lot to feed and clean up after. I think his friend is taking advantage of both of you and your husband is being wayyyy to nice about it. By the way, where I live the going rate of a kennel is about 25-30 dollars a night per dog. Maybe you should bill his buddy? Good luck.
You can only be taken advantage of if
you allow it yourself. Don’t be a rug for her or anyone else for that matter. It is your home, grow a backbone and tell her what you have said here, just so upsetting to you and the only way these visits can happen is if she stays at the hotel. You should not put yourself out for her if war is going to continue in your own home. If you cannot tell her what you have said here, then I guess Auntie will continue to visit like she has all along.
Then learn how to use my tax dollars to the best advantage
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Anna Nichole is still being taken advantage of, even in
death with her supposedly beloved, yeh right, Howard Stern who now I hear has sold the rights for her funeral to Entertainment Tonight for 3+ million. Why am I not shocked by this? Hearing complaints from other news services unable to get any kind of story at all, all involved - her mother, her former boyfriend Larry and her baby daddy (supposedly) Howard others think are being paid $$$ not to talk but exclusively to ET. Heard Fox news just say they do not pay for stories, well I guess some are not that honorable.
Advantage for cats/fleas
Has anyone found a source for purchasing Advantage at a very good price? I have 7 inside cats and 4 outside. I would be willing to buy this in bulk if the price was more reasonable.
Also, has anyone used something other than Advantage with good luck.
Thank you.
People who don't have trust issues will take advantage of it.
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I use Advantage 9 for my smallish kitties. I didn't think - sm
I needed flea-treatments since they are both 100% indoor-only cats living in an apartment, but every few months to a year,they'd suddenly become infested. It happened with my past cat, too. I finally figured out what was happening.
It was ALWAYS after I'd been away for a while, and the pet-sitter came to take care of them, which included grooming, etc. She's not uncleanly or anything, but she does take care of a LOT of animals all over town, because that's her livelihood. So obviously one or more of her clients had a flea problem, and it only takes one to jump from that animal, to the pet-sitter, to one of my cats to start the problem all over again.
So NOW, I apply Advantage before planning to leave them with anyone, and that seems to do the trick.
I handled it by quit allowing myself to be taken advantage of -sm
Just STOP doing it. Doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result borders on insanity! They obviously do not value what is given, so stop doing it, save yourself the money and the heartache, and move on to more positive things to spend your energy on. 
Thank you for letting us
know the child survived. I didn't want to look up the story.
The initial post should have not only put the post in the message but also don't just drop a bomb like that and then walk away.
letting go
I am so excited for your son. What an awesome opportunity.
My daughter is a bit younger and she had an opportunity to go to Central America (which is closer and safer I know) for the summer on a mission trip. I received a LOT of negative feedback from family and friends for letting her go, especially since she is under 16, but she had an opportunity to be part of something bigger than her "what do I wear today" kind of life. She loves God and feels called to the mission field and I am sure this summer was her first of many trips.
I know it will be a real stretch for you as a parent, as it was me, but I had to trust that she belongs to God before me and God could keep her safer than I could. She loved it and grew as a person and as a Christian.
Hope that helps. I will be praying for your family.
Thank you for letting me know - NM
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Calling when going somewhere and letting you know
she arrived safely is one thing. Teaching a child that forgetting something once in a while is some horrible thing is another story all together. We ALL, and I do mean ALL, forget things from time to time. I don't care how many lists you make, how organized you are or anything else, we all forget things. It may be a coat, something on our list that we made or somebody's birthday, but we ALL forget things. My children did learn from their mistakes but, once again, not from cruelty, but simply because it was a life lesson. They are both wonderful you adults who work full time jobs and are responsible people. While they had guidelines and rules to follow and knew and reaped the consequences of not following the rules set before them, we did not rule with an iron thumb. We knew they were human and would make mistakes along the way and learn from them. Sorry this was so long, but this type of treatment of children really makes me sad. I wanted my children to know that I loved them more than I wanted to rule them. They still respect me and I talk to both of them several times a week and have a wonderful relationship. 
This is all about forgiveness and letting go
Obviously your husband has some deep hurts and a lot of anger. Forgiveness is the key. I know it's a lot easier said than done but it benefits the person doing the forgiving, not the "forgivee". It doesn't mean he is condoning what was done to him. Maybe the stepfather is doing the best he knows how, who knows. We all have our issues. Your husband does need to work on his anger and not bring the kids into it though. Prayers for your hubby and your family. 
Also if you stay away you are letting him win(sm)
As that seems to be his goal -I would not let him keep me from seeing the rest of my family. However, I also would not want my children exposed to his mouth, so if you cannot stay in a hotel,I would go and visit without your children, which I do sometimes as well. I see my family about twice a year, usually once by myself and once with the kids, at which time we stay in a hotel.
Appreciate your letting us know - mine is scheduled
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I'm not letting my kids get a real
tattoo. If they decide they want a tattoo, it will have to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. I said they are saving for the airbrush tattoos at the beach. They wear off after about 6 weeks and there's no permanent damage, no needles, just airbrush.
I think sometimes parents don't choose their battles wisely and that causes more problems than the issue itself.
I'm sure he says those things while you're letting
It's not a mistake if you plan on letting him
do that every night. Believe me I know. We've had several dogs over the years and every single time we've given in and let them on the furniture or bed just one time - they take it as a sign that they are welcome there all the time. Now we have 3 LARGE dogs who think they need to sleep in our bed every night. :)
In my opinion - your first mistake is letting your son live with her sm
and you having "no say about it". Huh! You are his mother aren't you?
Not trying to be rude, I most certainly would not have any of my kids living with an "ex- anything" and only living with me. 15 and the teens for that matter are very tender ages and need their parents guidance in all aspects of their lives.
I have a 15 year old and 17 year old, both very athletic, and neither would live with a family member or ex-family member just for a sport.
Believe it or not - sports are not everything, but academic achieves are. We are in the hunt for colleges as my 17 y/o is a senior in high school. Guess what, they don't care if they play sports - they want their GPA, rigor of their courses and their grades, as well as SAT scores. Even if a scholarship is offered, in my case, football, they still need to meet requirements.
So, I would re-think the teen's living arrangements if I were his mother.
Well...I am always nervous about letting my kids do things like that (sm)
But I usually let them do it. However, it would depend on the parents. I mean if the guy reeks of alcohol - how bad? Do you mean he drinks a beer or two on the weekends or is he a drunk? Will he be driving your son in a car or boat? If so, I would not be comfortable with that. I have said no at times if I am uncomfortable for a reason, but I always have to think it through and see if there is real danger or if I am just being me - a worry wart. I would find out if that dad is going, if he will be driving the car, if he will be driving a boat, etc. and make my decision from that.
Letting person finish sentence
My hubs has called it to my attention several times that I do this to him. I really love, admire and cherish him and I am glad he has not given up on me like some of the above state. It is not done intentionally but I think sometime he sorta stammers and huh, huh it 1 time too much and then here I rush in. Oh, well I am an Aries and I want things done yesterday!
hold on....letting adults paddle my kid?
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I am not letting my young teen marry an old man.
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I agree with letting him go...if there are no children involved (sm)
and you are still young, get out now while you can. Don't wait like I did. I was married to someone very similar for 15 years and finally separated, but now I am older and I have two children who rely on me. I would much rather have left him early on, found someone new, and have children with a stable home.
Letting a child about Santa isn't lying, sheesh
Telling about Santa isn't lying, it's a rite of childhood for millions of kids, as is the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. I see no harm in giving my children hope in something so good as Santa. I don't remember being crushed as a child when I found out about Santa, I only remember the joy of waking up on Christmas morning to a full stocking and the anticipation of waiting for the big guy. We were so poor that I don't know how we ever had a Christmas but somehow there were always gifts from Santa, to me that's what he's about, not lying but believing.
People take really strange things far too literally, takes the fun out of the simple things in my opinion.
She is still herself...she is not putting herself out there (sm)
for a beauty contest, she is an entertainer, looks the best for herself. She cannot become someone else. She still has a right to perform.
Are you putting down a lot, like half?
I don't understand how you can even get such a high mortgage. Is that really possible? My husband and I make over 100K and have great credit and I know for a fact the most we MAY get approved for is 300,000 and that's with a lot of luck. Please enlighten me!
I was actually out putting trash out when
the police car got there. The neighbors, as I said before were not home at the time. The officer asked if I was the caller and when we were talking about the problem the neighbors pulled up. I was not about to wimp out and act like it was a big surprise that the police were there. I confronted the issue and was not two-faced about it. Since I worte this morning I found out that this guy went to the neighbors and complained about me and asked if they had any problems with his dogs barking. Each and every one stood up for me 100%. What I don't understand is why he didn't apologize to me after driving me crazy for so long instead of being rude and acting like a two-year-old. The police agreed and told him so. Also, as I stated before I was not sad about the neighbor. I was sad about the dogs. Their barking was not their fault. They need supervison and the neighbor needs to know that each of us in a neighborhood needs to be mindful of others. I am glad I did what I did now.
What I am doing is putting vinyl down...sm
that looks like wood. It is in vinyl planks. Do it yourself easy. Me and my mom put it down. My son's room cost about $80 to put down in there. My hall floor is only costing $38 and is looks very nice. I don't care if it is cheap it looks much better and is lots cleaner.
I don't see a problem with putting that on there, but...(sm)
Maybe it's me, but I don't see why it has to be addressed at all. Just put the start and end times of party on the girls' invitations and the sleepover thing on the boys' invitations. It certainly would be acceptable to put the explanation in the invitation if you feel the need to. I don't think the girls' parents are going to be upset either way. I certainly wouldn't let my girl stay at an allnight sleepover with a bunch of boys or vice versa -- no matter the age LOL :)
The car isn't worth more even after putting in a
you might be able to call a local automobile salvage yard, auto recycling center, or junkyard place to see if they would come out, look at it, and see what they would be willing to pay you for the parts....
Try putting up some aluminum foil.......sm
to see if that will work. I know that for woodpeckers doing this scares them off. If this doesn't work, iF you have a county extension office office call and ask them what they recommend. Otherwise you can call a wild life preserve in your area for advice.
Good luck!
Well that makes me laugh, because putting
waste their time clicking!! See below.
she keeps putting obxious instead of obnoxious. Tsk,tsk.
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I see from your answer why the friend is putting you off.
No one posting has gotten anywhere close to what you are suggesting in your language. Shame on you.
Because you keep putting xx inside your email. That is your name. nm
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I plan on putting them in a crock pot with
the roast and potatoes to cook all day. so maybe they will be okay. Thanks!
How about putting your hot water bottle/bag in SM
the microwave to just get the chill off ot it before you apply it. The house was frigid cold and I wanted to warm up. Kept it in for a little two long and the whole microwave and kitchen smelled of burned rubber for I don't know how long! TOP THAT, why doncha! 
That's not a bad idea. he's forever putting
a few $$ here and a few $$ there in his gas tank and he has a steady girlfriend. Maybe a gift card to the movie theatre too! TY!
Anyone not putting up Christmas lights?
I usually make a big to-do out of having the house and yard lit up, but this year I don't think I'm going to. The few hours they are on a night sure packs a punch on the electric bill. How bout everyone else?
Although for different reasons, I'm putting mine up
later than usual. I usually have them up by Thanksgiving, but this year I think I'm going to wait until the first weekend in December to do the outside lights. We don't usually light them every night. I'm going to start my indoor decorations then, too, but holding off on the tree until a week or 2 before Christmas.
Our current house is a little small and the tree really clutters it up. We're moving in January and have a lot to do before then. If I didn't have kids, I probably wouldn't put the tree up at all. I love Christmas, but things are just too hectic and cluttered right now.
putting up Xmas lights
Sorry if this may seem really dumb but I've never done this before - how do you attach the lights to siding on a house around windows and doors? It's not wood siding, it's an older home with aluminum siding.
This person is putting it harshly but ...
the message is correct. and I just came in the middle of your conversation so sorry if I got it wrong. However, this is a sore subject for me. I wish I could counsel people before they get to this point.
but I was with my now husband for 8 years before marrying him. My daughter, our daughter was 4 when we married. I say my daughter because I felt like a single mom the whole time even after we married.
Looking back and I am now past my prime, I am 45 and with a chronic illness, but looking back I wish I had just taken my special needs child and moved on with my life. but I stayed out of fear of being alone, fear of raising a special needs child on my own, fear of getting a disease, not being in a monogamous relationship, etc. and even though he eventually married me, I do not think he was nor is he now marriage material. I have stood by him, followed him from state to state with his work, helping him get through college, waiting on it to be my turn and it never is. So these days I have taken the attitude that I am on my own even though I am married. I do blame him in a way but I also blame myself. but he could have just as easily walked away too.
Rule number one take care of self first, be it school, career, financial independence, etc. then get married. Not the other way around. Some people form attachments with their long-term mates but some NEVER do.
Start now. Start today. Enroll in a school, train for something you can be financially independent doing, be happy with you first and the rest will follow later down the road.
(((hugs))) I wish you the best.
Not putting you down, but do you honestly believe Danny
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Well, 10 years+ MTing, so kind of new...I see what you are saying about putting in a few sm
hours, etc. Can I be honest? I like working on holidays. I really do. BUT, that was not my point. My point was that I don't like other MTs telling me that I SHOULD work that day. And that is my obligation. Because to that I say, no it isn't!
Putting in middle initial so can differentiate
the difference is that apparetnly this law is to have women see a fetus growing and thinking this will change their mind by seeing the ultrasound. My heart told me what to do and my mind certainly was such that I had more sense than to bring a child into the world I could not possibly care for financially to start with. I never worried a minute or a day with my decision. I can live with most all decisions I have made in my life very easily.
Okay, which caption are you going to steal, and what publication are you putting it in? LOL
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