Worried about autism.

Hey everyone, I was just hoping someone with experience in autism can either confirm or shoot down some fears for me.  My mother says that she is 90% sure my son has autism, and although we have had concerns before she mentioned anything, the doc said a couple of months ago to wait until he is 2.  He is 22 months now and his next appointment is next month. This has really been worrying my spouse and I recently and I was just hoping for some input.

My son shows some definite red flags, but at the same time seems perfectly normal.  For instance:

RED FLAGS:  (1) His speech is pretty delayed.  He will say "uh oh" and "daddy" and a few other words, but nothing else really and it is near impossible to get him to say any of the words he knows with prompting.  He babbles jibberish constantly, however.  (2)  Sometimes it seems like he is ignoring us, but this is usually when he is occupied with something else.  Sometimes he will look at us to his name, sometimes not.  It does appear that he is deaf at times.  (3)  He never points at anything that he wants or is interested in.  He will either get it himself or drag us by the finger to whatever he wants.  (4)  He lines objects up.  They are never in any particular order or color and he doesn't get upset when we mix them up or take away one of the objects, however, they are usually the same type of object, ie. cars, dvd cases, blocks. (5) He won't give kisses or hugs when asked, however, does without being asked every once in awhile, hugs much more than kisses.  (6)  Compared to other children, he seems very behind in listening and really interacting with others.

NORMAL BEHAVIOR:  (1)  He loves other people and children and will often act silly if someone comes over to our house, showing off.  He will bring out toys that he hasn't played with for awhile.   (2)  He isn't afraid to look us or others in the eyes and always has a ready smile.  (3)  He loves to cuddle and has no problem with it unless he wants to play.  (4)  If one of us pretends to cry or if he accidently smacks a friend who is his age and they cry, he will look concerned and give them or us a hug (and a kiss if we are lucky.)  (5)  He plays with his toys for the most part how they should be played with and gives his favorite stuffed bear rides in his trucks.  (6)  He has no problems with schedule changes and loves to go places different.  (7) He has no repetitive movements with his hands or body, at least none we have noticed.

After actually listing these things, I feel a little more at ease, however the red flags are pretty strong and are very apparent on a day to day basis, especially his speech.  I'm thinking he is somewhere on that spectrum at least.  Thanks for listening as this has been the cause of some tears lately. 

• Worried about autism. - MRMT
  • Thanks all! - MRMT
    • This sounds a lot like my cousin's daughter - sm
  • Don't worry about it yet - sm - mom of four
  • You need a professional - mt3Rs
  • Anytime you feel that internal concern - sm
  • ASD Screening - Lilly
  • talking jibberish - type-it
  • No autism experience but - he sounds pretty normal (sm) - Just me
    • wax in ears - type-it

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Hello everybody,

I'm going to be walking for Walk Now For Autism on Sep. 20th of this year. It is a ways away but since this is such an important subject for me i'm trying to get started as early as i can. If you'd like to check it out, register yourself in a city near you, or donate, you can check out my website on their website:

http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian

I appreciate your time,

Tanya

Hello everyone.

I am a mother to a 7-year-old little boy who has autism. I've had so many conversations about autism and being a mother with a son who has autism that i've decided to start a blog. There are so many mothers out there who feel alone (i'm one of them at times) that it'd be nice to read other peoples thoughts and feelings on the topic without it being sugar-coated. Here's the website if you know somebody with autism or just want to read what it's like at times.

www.autismwho.blogspot.com

Hello,

I'm doing a walk for Autism Speaks on Sep. 20th in Mn. If you'd like to check out my page it's: http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian

Any donations are greatly appreciated in this battle for a cure or even info as to why this is happening! Let your family, friends, or anybody you can think of know of this great cause and you can help just by getting the word "autism" out there and educating people person by person.

Thanks!

get him to a professional......before continual spanking of him which is far more destructive than ALL_OF_YOU getting some professional help....will pray for you!

Remember this.....if you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten.......

evidently whatever you're doing IS_NOT_WORKING.....

So, whatever.  Who cares if I get a reply.  But then I started thinking, wow, they REALLY just don't care.  It's not like I'm suprised, of course, but still, when something like this happens it really just make you feel bad .    I'm just trying to console myself thinking that maybe they are just too busy or both of them didn't get my 2 separate emails. 

Every time I see her on her show, she looks bigger and bigger.

Poor lady, she is so sweet, I really like her show, but she just uses an obscene amount of butter... so so fattening. I don't see how she going to make it, eating the way she does. Yikes.

Everything she makes looks delicious but I know I can't make or eat any of it!

has been caught putting on his 2 year old brother's diapers. He got up in the middle of the night the other night and I caught him. He got embarrassed. He does it during the day behind locked doors. He does not wet his bed. I kept finding clean, used diapers around the house and thought I was losing my mind.

I am not comfortable discussing this with pediatrician yet. He's been doing it for about 2 weeks.  I can't imagine what this could be. He gets really embarrassed if I try talking to him about it. He clearly knows it is not right. He has no faults at all - plays baseball, very boyish young child - and then this creeps up.  Anyone out there know what this could be?

It clearly says you shouldn't take them with high-fat meals.

I've been taking them for 2 weeks now and have not had any such effects.  I'm not on a super low-fat diet, I just use common sense.

Not because I doubted their abilities, but because it seemed like in the first rotation or 2, they were showing some serious bias to the Chinese.  Shawn Johnson's balance beam was way better than Ying Yilan's and yet her score was ranked higher (not talking about the difficulty value, just the execution score) Even the commentators last night were talking about it.  Nastia's uneven bars got a lower score than it deserved as well.  I'm glad to see the judges got their heads out of their you-know-whats for the last 2 rotations and gave these girls the scores they deserved. 

I do feel somewhat bad for the Chinese girl, though.  I hope she doesn't lose a few fingers or toes over this.  Of course as young as she is, I'm sure she'd recover quickly.     That's something else that seemed strange to me, the American girls seemed very emotional and yet the Chinese - nothing (at least not last nice).  Could that be because our girls have a few more hormones running through them, like any normal 16-year-old would? Hmmmm