new baby is making me lose my sanity
Posted By: jc on 2009-05-25
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I just need a place to let out my stress. I just had my first baby May 5, and she is just beautiful. But I am about to lose my mind. I have chosen to breastfeed her, and everything takes so much longer than I thought it would. Thankfully she has switched to a "normal" day and night schedule so I can catch a few precious hours of sleep at night in between feedings.
Did anyone else find motherhood as hard as I think it is? I don't hate it or anything but it sort of makes me not want to have any more kids if just one is this stressful. Oh, and I have already returned to my IC job (part time) so that adds to my day. I also have become extremely bipolar in my moods. Yes, it is probably postpartum depression. I am happy one minute and bursting into tears over nothing the next. Did anyone take antidepressants for postpartum depression and how did that work out? I have never had depression issues until now, so I don't have any experience with that. Any kind words or insight would be helpful. Thanks.
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Where is the sanity
I like you just don't get it. We are constantly bombarded with news of Spears and other Hollyweird people getting away with drugs, drunk driving, reckless endangerment of other people, and the list goes on and on and on. Then you have people like Lindsay Lohan saying she won't have to go to jail because she's famous. Or like Paris Hilton they get very little time in jail then get out and its back to the same ol same ol. I think I read that the night of Paris' release from jail she was out partying. My husband and I actually watched about 2 hours of celebrity rehab the other night. How sad that was. However, if they are not breaking a law I can't see it being legal to force you to stay in rehab. People need to take responsibility for what they're doing with their own life (think it's that free will thing). What I think is worse is the people who all they do is idolize the celebs and want to watch every move they make (shame on me for watching two hours of celebrity rehab). And we sat there disgusted that it was being televised but there I sat too lazy to get off my fat butt to get the remote to change the channel.
If your ready for some comedy about the celebs you should watch the Soup. That is a very funny show and makes fun of all the stupid celebs and reality shows.
Personally I don't think its the city's responsibility to take care of Brittany, however, maybe putting her under house arrest with limited supervised visitations. Her parents should be treating her like the child she is. I say act like a child and you should be treated as one. She should be grounded with a 24 hour guard paid for by her parents to make sure she doesn't leave the house. Get a nurse there to help her through the withdrawals of the drugs, but punish her like we used to get punished when we were children. It doesn't matter if she is an adult, she is not acting like one. I do feel bad for her and she really needs help (no, not Dr. Phil - excuse me while I wretch) and I hope for her sake she gets it otherwise she is going to end up like Heath Ledger.
The real kicker is here we sit struggling to make ends meet, pay our bills and we are decent hard working, don't take drugs and we get diddly while they have all the money in the world and are not happy. Maybe it should be the other way around and force a little "actuality" into their lives.
However, I got so sick of listening to the info on Brittany and all the other hollyweird people I now focus more of my time on the travel channel planning my dream vacation :-) and the food channel looking for new dishes to cook. Makes me more sane this way.
Older folks sometimes lose it before they really lose it sm
It sounds like she having some issues with money and thought processes. Four potatoes and three sweet potatoes? She has lost touch with reality. I don't mean this in an unkind way. I think she didn't stop the think or plan the budget around this. Perhaps she has lost the ability to properly plan on some level. This makes no sense.
In my family, food at gramma's was always abundant. The woman always thought we were foot soldiers readying for a cold march across two states. The place she got miserly was with almost everything else. She'd have everyone over for a huge supper and have 2 rolls of TP in the house, one nearly gone, and there would be 10 of us. She stopped buying laundry detergent because it was "too expensive" and started using shavings of naphtha soap. She started saving little soap slivers and making "new" bars of soap with them. She stopped buying shampoo unless it was in the markdowns at the grocery store. She started using a baggie for her vacuum cleaner bag. You get the picture here.
The interesting thing is that truly, that gramma never fully lost it. We considered this idiosyncratic and went on. She kept the rest of her faculties, but had these odd ways of "saving money." My other gramma who never did any of these things did, in fact, suffer from profound dementia the last 10 years of her life. Of course, that set of grandparents had the issue the other way. Toilet paper: Bought in bulk 6 cases at a time. Find a salad dressing you like, buy a couple of cases. You never did want to tell them you liked a certain food, paper product or soap something because if you did, along would come a few cases of it!
We all do something when we get older. Help her out so she isn't embarrassed by this!
Yes, I lose
money if I don’t work so very simple for me. I just have good work ethics.
I'm sorry. It is so sad when we lose a pet.
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I'm trying to lose too sm
I've tried all diets, have been successful, but once i stop doing the diet, then i gain back. Atkins, WW, Jenny Craig. Last year I did Nutrisystem, but food got expensive. Now I'm just trying to eat healthy. I can tell you that Nutrisystem food had fiber and protein in it. It's tough. I'm an emotional eater. I would love to be a part of a losing weight forum. there is a website www. weightlossbuddy.com. It's free and you can find other people that live close to you and support each other. I'd like to lose about 20 or 25. Hey monitor, didn't there used to be a diet board? If not, that'd be a good board to have.
thanks
use it or lose it
They can keep you alive a very long time these days. I would try to die with my boots on. Have you walked through a nursing home lately? Just keep shuffling along and do not stop until you keel over, or you could have a manny nurse changing your Depends.
well, i try to eat right. i need to lose some weight sm
so i do buy whole wheat stuff, bread, wraps, spaghetti. i buy low fat/fat free lunchmeats, 2% cheese. i don't buy cupcakes and cookies (or else i'd eat them!) i don't drink much milk, not that i don't like it, just don't drink it much. i drink more water than anything. i'll have about one diet dr. pepper a day. i love food, it's just trying to stay on a healthy track. my problem is i don't get enough exercise. i have a 5 y/o and an 8 y/o that keep me busy. but i do like to exercise.
But how did she lose all that weight?
She was really heavy and saw her lately in my weekly rags and so thin now.
Oh yes people will tell you you need to lose
weight. My own father was a good example of that. He tried to cut me down and made nasty remarks about my weight. Never mind the fact I saw pictures of his mother who was extremely obese. I guess he forgot about her weight. Anyone who is overweight knows that- does not have to be told- there are mirrors everywhere.
Trying to lose weight
Has anyone tried Hoodia and does it work?
Well, I DID lose 10 lbs. this summer without even trying-
That's about the only good thing that's come of all this. The rest sucks.
Sometimes you won't lose much 1 week but BAM sm
you lose a bunch the next week; sometimes it is water-weight related, other times related to your period or hormones. Some weeks I didn't lose anything, only to have a 4 lb loss the next time! Just be sure to start being active (even if it is only walking to the end of your block) and drink your water!
With depression you lose either way -- sm
depression pretty much kills sex drive, but so do antidepressants. Still, I prefer to be on the meds.
You're gonna lose your man if you don't at least
Men may act macho, but they have feeling, too and like to feel attractive and loved.
has anyone done nutrisystem to lose weight sm.....
and was able to keep the weight off after you stopped eating their food? i'm tired of being stuck at the same weight. i was thinking of joining weight watchers. i've done that before and lost, but i had a 6 mos old baby dragging him along. now he's 5 and i'm ready to try again. but just wondered if anyone had success with nutrisystem. thanks
I lose focus after a few hours : (
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you will not lose weight without exercise.
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Maybe didnt lose it. It just went south.
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If he is otherwise healthy, I'd lose the tail.
He'll have to adjust how he balances but otherwise I think he'd be fine.
Me too, it is so very hard to lose a pet. What a beauty.
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I'm trying to lose weight through the WW program
I started during the summer and kind of fell off of it. I'm trying to lose between 30-40 pounds. My daughter became a vegetarian about 4 months ago and she already lost 23 pounds. I like my meat so I won't go that route, but I'm trying to exercise a little bit every day and eat healthier. Good luck to you and everyone else trying to lose.
so sorry, it sure hurts when you lose your babies.. nm
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I really lose a lot of respect for the candidates
that talk back to the judges. I know that Simon can be very mean, but it is not like these kids don't know this. I think the singers should bite their tongue and just try to take the comments and try to improve their singing next week.
Not a good way to lose weight
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Not sure what your question is? But my 401K did lose value sm
and it bothers me very much; I lost maybe 25K so it could have been worse. It forced me to diversify and take a closer look at bonds vs stocks, and other investments. Of course I would like to have more than 50K as liquidity and emergency funds, but at one time I was more than 20K in debt. This is a huge improvement in my life and a total change in mindset. It truly has created peace in my heart, to have control over what I spend and not be a tool of the consumer society that says "You are not happy unless you have the biggest, newest, brightest" thinga-mabob that we are selling this week / year / month.
You don't need to buy stuff for self-esteem. Being self sufficient lets me sleep at night.
People who type loose when they mean lose. (nm)
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I'm hungry! I want to eat! I'm trying to lose weight and I've been
doing pretty well, but now I'm getting at that poing where I just want to eat anything and everything. Any ideas on what I can do to curb my voracious appetite?
yeah well it's only wasting money when you lose
a deal when you could win millions. I can give up a few cups of coffee or something else rather than my lottery tickets!!
We did lose some money, but not a huge amount
We have three different ones that we've been keeping an eye on.
Lose weight and learn to socialize. I
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You'll lose weight & firm up doing ANYthing that you aren't currently doing
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OK, first lose the WalMart shoes. Kids are brutal. sm
Being completely honest, you definitely need to not buy the shoes at Walmart. Kids are very, very cruel about that. You can sometimes get away with a couple pairs of pants from walmart, like the carpenter-type pants, etc., and maybe a T-shirt or 2. My son is only 10, but he's already really picky about what he will or won't wear.
Try shopping at JCPenney, BonTon, the Gap, Kohls, Macy's. Their clothes can be a bit pricey sometimes but just watch for sales now and start slowly collecting stuff. They have awesome sales, especially president's day, Memorial day weekend, thanksgiving (black friday), and awesome labor day sales which are usually just in time for back to school.
As far as the haircut, I would take him to a salon and let them offer some suggestions on what is popular and what would work good for your son's hair type and face shape. Maybe even try one of the hair places in the mall because they usually have younger, more modern people there. Good luck! Hope it all goes well!
Does anyone else notice when you work too many days in a row you lose your focus or something. nm
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Unless you stay on it forever, you will regain any weight you lose.
People I used to work with went on that diet once. Weight loss varied (nobody lost a lot, just a couple of pounds) and nobody kept it off.
my neck was my motivator to lose weight this year
I had already had a tummy tuck with lip and did not want to go through surgery again so I got down to 104 and finally lost the double chin. Yes I said 104 but i am also 4' 11"
A dentist who does breast exams should lose his licence. Besides...
I categorily refuse manual breast exams. If I want to check fir cancer, I go for a mommogram.
Does anyone notice you seem to lose more hair with washing and blowing dry than just brushing other
days.
I agree. I have to lose 80 pounds. Changed lifestyle, exercising now, sm
drinking more water instead of diet soda, life is good. I feel better now than ever before. Oh yea, I just quit smoking too... last cigarette was June 12th, the same diet I started my healthy way of living and lost 10 pounds so far.
I think you are making way too much of it.
My BF of 9 years calls me that all the time when, in fact, it just the opposite--he is my "sugar daddy." If he is worth it, just let it go. People are way too sensitive these days about things.
It is almost making me cry as well now.
 as time approaches. I loved that little Tux cat. I am going to have to get mama cat fixed. I think this is too hard.
If you are not making the $$$ you need
then you double up on jobs, and jobs that will pay, not sitting around waiting on work to come thru. I up until 2004 worked 2 jobs for years and years, for a safety net and both of those would qualify for full time, weekends included. I have now done MT longer than you so I guess I might know jack squat about what I am saying. I never got evicted, never did without food, kept a car, home and everything by myself because I did work so much. Why in the world are you making peanuts working 10-12 hours per day? I know the pay was more years ago, I understand that but if the job is not taking care of your needs, then a person needs to do something else.
Thank you for not making me feel so alone.
Glad your son has quit.
I will have mine read articles and will find pictures on line to show him. I do not think he has a clue as to what can happen to him if he continues this. Like I said he is only 18 and to think about many many years of this is very scary.
He says he wants to quit. I hope he means it and I will help him as much as I can.
I also was surprised by this since he has been so athletic. He always made statements about how he hated the smell of smoke and would never smoke cigarettes. I guess he thinks this is okay and won't do him any harm.
He started over the summer, so I hope it will be easier to quit than to have this go on for years. I will speak to his doctor and dentist also. May be they can help.
Thanks again for your concern. It it good to talk to someone who has been through this. Enjoy the Holidays.
Making candles
I had heard that you can save up the scrap wax from candles in glass jars, melt all of them down and put them back in the containers, adding a wick and scent such as cinnamon. So, I've been saving my containers with the bits of leftover candles. Anyone know how one goes about doing this? Is it possible to do this?
THANKS!
Any parents here making a
to only have one child..? We're seriously considering not having any more..One is PLENTY OF WORK AND LOVE!!
Thanks for making me giggle! nm
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Thanks for making me laugh!
Cute post! Yes, it is yucky, but you made me laugh this morning. Thanks!
Thanks, for making me laugh.
This is so terribly hurtful. I guess you guessed it is my sister. We have had a history of ups and downs our whole life. I am the one to just let the hurt and hard feelings go to try to have peace. I will try to grin and bear it . . showing some teeth at times. Hope I can do it.
Thank you all for making me feel
a little better about this. I would NEVER get rid of my cats. Once an animal comes into my home, it's for life. I would probably send my husband packing before the cats :)
Mine is just making me sad
When I first got my little boy he and his brother could not stay out all night. They wanted to come into my bedroom and jump on me so I gave them their own bedroom. I made sure they had all the catty things little guys need and tucked them in each night with food, litter box, their treats, whatever. They are past that stage and now know how to behave and I leave them to have the house when I turn in for the night. My little boy now sits right outside his old bedroom and meows. He looks under the door - I keep that closed off now after cleaning up after them - but he knows that is where he stayed when just a small guy and he cries. So pitiful!
Thank you so much! You're making me cry!
I have learned that this is the true meaning of Christmas - giving. There's no greater feeling than watching a child open a present or an older person whose family has forgotten them. That's what Christmas is about for me. God bless you, too! Have a very merry Christmas!
MAKING??? Isn't he a grown man? (nm)
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