winter wonderland and chestnuts roasting on an open fire

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it's better than keeping it all inside and letting it fester.  Your MIL sounds like mine and your DH sounds like mine as well.  My husband doesn't want to deal with his mother, so he pretends he doesn't notice anything she says or does and the same goes for my FIL.  He knows how is wife is, but he just ignores it.  My husband will tell me privately "oh, you know how my mom is."  For about the first year of marriage, I bit my tongue with his mother.  But when I saw that my DH was never going to stand up for me, I decided to start biting back.  She would say stuff like "You like you've put on a little weight, sweetie." and I'd say "you look like you've put on a few years." 

My MIL and I have full on yell fests sometimes.  We don't speak to each other for weeks or months because we're mad, but we always make up.  Also, my DH has come around too.  He has gotten to where instead of ignoring comments that his mother makes, before I can come back at her, he'll jump in and let her know that what she said was not acceptable.  So now there are less fights because mommy doesn't like to be called out by her baby boy. 

I think for a long time my MIl was just jealous of me because she was the main woman in her son's life for years and that changed when I came into the picture.  So she turned every family gathering into a competition for her son's attention.  I hated the first years, but now being married 16 years, I really don't care if she gets all his attention when we get together.  Let her fix his food and tell him how great he is.  Gives me the day off. 

That's what keeps the meat nice and moist and adds all that yummy flavor!  (course, I'm kind of a fattie from good 'ol home cookin' so take my advice on that with a grain of salt).

Here in the beautiful Pacific NW, I mean really cold, below normal temps, snow very late into the season...

We are expecting some 90+ degree days starting tomorrow into the weekend - and I for one am HAPPY!  My poor halter tops haven't seen daylight for so long I forgot what they look like.

Well, this is our coldest period right now.  But having it -30 to -60 with the windchills certainly isn't any surprise.  In summer we can be in the 80s and 90s with very high humidity.  LOL!  We always say, if you don't like the weather... just wait a minute. 

Someone said consider the source.  So let's consider the source...

You don't know her and she doesn't know you.  Why would she seek you out to lie to you?

Apparently your husband does know her and was going to warn you beforehand that she might try to stir up trouble.  Why would she pick your marriage to stir up trouble in?  What bone of contention does she have with your husband?  What is his relationship with her? 

And if there is nothing to what she says as your husband suggests and that she is just trying to "stir up trouble" then why did he feel he needed to warn you? 

Sounds to me like he's covering his bases.  Personally, I think you husband has a lot of explaining to do and this advice of "keep quiet and take notes" is bunk.  Don't be the victim.  Listen to what your gut is telling you.  Something smells in your situation and I bet it's coming from hubbie.

Trust me when I say, men can look their wives in the eye and lie without batting an eye and when caught in a lie, they will practically hurt themselves trying to rationalize and justify.  Whatever is going on with your husband, you cannot deny that there are rumors out there that your husband feels he needs to squelch.  That's troublesome by itself.  Why would someone make up rumors about him?

Don't excuse him, don't treat him with kid gloves.  Confront him and find the truth.  You'll know it when you hear it.

Here's what happened:  I dropped my third-grader off at 8:20 this morning.  A group of us moms who drop off their kids meet at a little coffee shop just down the street.  I leave the coffee shop at 9:30 a.m., return home, check my voice mail (none), and then leave to run an errand (taking my elderly neighbor to the garage to pick up her repaired car).  It's now just after 10 a.m.  On the car radio, (from an out-of-town radio station, not local) I hear that my child's school has been evacuated due to a fire and school has been dismissed.

I immediately pull the car to the side of the road and call one of the mom's I had just had coffee with, asking her if she had been called by the school.  She had not.  So, I turn the car around and start racing back to school.  My brother then calls me (his daughter is in the same grade, same school, as my boy), stating that he has picked up our children and is taking them to grandma's house.  He said he had only heard it from his girlfriend who heard it on the radio and called him.

Last year, we had to fill out this form stating who was okay to pick up our kids from school in case of emergency.  My brother was on that list from last year, but this year we were not supplied with one of those forms to fill out.  What if things had changed?  What I had decided he was no longer to be on that list?

Anyhow, I get home, check my voice mail again, still none.  On the noon news, the story is there, stating the children have been evacuated and bussed home.  How many kids got sent to a home with parents away at work?  How many kids waited to get picked up by non-contacted parents?  Isn't there supposed to be an emergency system which can contact 900 parents in a timely fashion?  I am really miffed.  Everything is alright, but this was a fiasco.