Lynda, some people NEVER come to their "senses."
Posted By: indiviDUALS on 2007-02-06
In Reply to: I never said anything about what I have done in my past - Lynda
but sounds like you wish you could make them
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you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
People who go around calling other people "low class"
have their own issues in life. Ignore them. Nothing like a misplaced superiority complex to make a person feel good about themselves. Like they've never done anything gauche or made a faux pas. It must be nice for them to be so perfect and live in a glass house.
For that matter, you probably saved your piggy's life by popping that mondo zit! It could have gotten infected or something.... (yes, I have a zit popping fixation myself, but you were really descriptive on that pig zit. gag LOL)
Man, you would have appreciated the time one of my relative's popped a HUGE cyst on her face. I was standing right next to her at the time and leaned back because I knew it was going to blow. It did! Big time! All over the wall, mirror and light fixture. I'm still disgusted by the thought of it 10 years later. LOL In a revering kind of way...
some people did, some people didn't. It's their choice.
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If this helps...I know people who know people (sm)
who can make people disappear. 
Not really--I'd be lyin' if I said I never thought such things though! ;-)
IME, people don't feel sorry for fat people either
They actually have less sympathy than they do for people who have substance abuse, IME.
At any rate, I do feel sorry for Britney but the safety of her children should be everyone's first priority, then her safety. It would seem to me that all these hangers-on she has are jeopardizing that safety. It's all just very sad.
Some people just look at me
like I am crazy. You should see the looks I get when she rides on my shoulder in the car. Most people associate rats with dirty animals, etc. They are just like a hamster, only very smart animals. Plus they don't bite like hamsters or try and get away from you. They want to be around you. They are very loyal and love attention. She's my baby.
Unfortunately, she has a cyst growing under her arm now though. She is getting old, and I know her time is coming. :(
OMG! You people are bad, bad, bad!!! I'm going to
!
For me, over 25 people to buy for......
including mine and my husband's immediate families we see separately Christmas eve and Christmas day. We also visit grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc. a week later. We don't have kids yet so still spend a few hundred on each other. It is probably closer to 1500 combined for us.
What about NJ? People here act like
they're the best beaches in the world and I can assure you they are NOT. LBI is the cute nickname now given to Long Beach Island which is a dump as are most NJ beaches and everyone acts like it's the Hamptons or something. Been to NC outer banks and loved it. No comparison.
I think there need to be more people...
in the world like you! You are doing a wonderful thing and are a shining example to your children!
Pet (Dog in particular) people -
I have a Lab/Pit mix, probably 8 or 9 years old, who has a terrible problem with itching and scratching all over. I am hoping someone on this site has a solution for us.
I will tell you what we have tried that has not worked.
Benadryl has not worked. Seemed to help initially but stopped it and she shows no change.
Changing her food has not worked. Have tried all kinds of food, wheat free, have not helped.
Adding oil to her food, 1-2 tablespoons of olive oil twice a day, has not helped. Seemed to help initially but she went back to scratching.
Getting her groomed with dry skin shampoo/conditioner has not helped.
What DID help was steroid injection and prednisone pills on a tapering dose. But once the dose was tapered down, she started scratching some. I dont want her on steroids indefinitely. PLUS, the steroids made her very very aggressive and being part pitbull, that was not a good thing.
When it gets to the point that she and I are both waking up multiple times during the night, I have to go back to steroids. Before I do that, I wonder if anyone reading this has another remedy we could try before going to steroid route.
We also have a cat and I am beginning to think she may be allergic to the cat. Do you think this is possible? My vet technician told me it is possible but it would involve costly allergy testing and injections if it proves positive. Would like opinions from others before I take her for allergy testing.
Any info anyone could provide would sure be appreciated, not only by me but by my best friend who is suffering with this.
Thank you!
um, a lot of people don't go to the, uh, gym.
nm
I know 5 people who have had this...sm
1 has kept the weight they lost off.
2 had major complications after the surgery and 1 almost died - he was healthy before surgery.
4 lost weight but have regained most if not all of it. You can restretch the stomach back out by eating too much.
I like those too - I know a lot of people don't :-)
x
Yes, but LL should have people to look out for her
be watched 24/7, but LL could be and should be. She should be protected and anyone with any interest in this girl, either for financial or other, such as her mother, should be helping her better than this.
IMO there is no excuse for this. Maybe I am being harsh, but give me a break already with these celebs.
Just like with people
Recovering from surgery (procedures done with anesthesia) when they're older is harder for them, and you have to be super careful that they don't have any conditions that could be worsened by the medications. Please try everything you can before getting them declawed. I'm lucky, my cats love their scratch posts, but they also love picking at the carpet. I just buy rugs and stick them all over the place!
Those people should have given you (sm)
thank you notes BUT, when you give you have to give with a free and willing heart and not expect anything in return - even a thank you - because you will only get bitter waiting. Only give when you really want to and feel the need to and you will feel better about it I think.
re: people
Just me,
The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9:
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; Who can know it?"
It is our sin nature to commit sin and we're all born with it. I don't know what the percentage of sexual sin is, but I do know that it is getting more and more prevalent and has been around since bible days because we are all born sinners and we all need Jesus to save us. That doesn't mean that after we accept Jesus we stop sinning, but are more likely to be faithful when we know the Lord.
God bless!
Jan
Pod people.
It's the only explanation. How can you not talk to people in an environment like that?!
This really is about the right age when most people do this (sm)
I was 18 and that was 20 years ago. You cannot make her not do it. I would strongly focus right now on teaching her all the possible STDs - I mean seriously teaching her - because I got herpes from oral sex when I was 21 and did not even know you could get it that way. Just sit down with her and say, "well you have decided to do this and I don't agree with it, BUT since you are, let's look up every possible bad thing that can happen" and make sure she is extremely well informed. Even find scary pictures of HPV and look up hep B and hep C and herpes and every STD you can think of. At least then she probably will not be promiscuous and will be choosy and careful about who she is with.
and once again, people come in here and can....n/m
Why do people have to
make reference to a person other than "did that nice woman smile at you?"??? If she had been obese instead, would they have said..."Did that fat lady smile at you?" Just annoys me how insensitive people can be and how they can be quick to label a person without even knowing anything about them.
I would have been offended myself in this situation. HOW RUDE!
i know this will ^&*()$% people off
I personally would never have an abortion, but think of all the people who were aborted instead of being born. Maybe there is another reason that they were aborted and that society is better off as a whole because of it.
Yep. People just don't think - nm
nm
I know some people that took their son's
room away. He was about 13 and they had only been living in their new house a few months. His bedroom was in the basement with the rest of the family on the second floor. He loved his room soooo much. This was not really a bad kid, just wouldn't do homework, chores, picked on his sister, really just immature. They made him move into his little brother's room. His LB was 4 so he obviously loved having big bro for a roommate. Straightened him out rather quickly.
IMO, most people won't say anything
so i would suggest you definitely keep your eyes and ears open. chances are, being it was brought to your attention, there may be something to it.
Depending upon the gravity of it all, you may want to do some snooping, and/or check financial records and such. Whatever you do, 'protect yourself at all times',ie, cover your bases. Trust is so important with a spouse, but not a blind trust.
Depending upon other factors, you may or may not confront your spouse, but likely not. There, you lose the element of surprise, and if something is up, the coverup will be more elaborate and harder to penetrate.
two people
if at all possible, but I don't have any help and rarely do I need to bathe them, only time has been when they had a brief flea outbreak. But if you have no help, just hold by the ruff of the back of the neck and since mine are adults, I let there back feet touch the ground so as not to hold them there by their full weight and do the best I can with washing them with one hand. I do it in the bathtub with a sprayer I have attached to my shower head.
For people our age I think
hair should not as long as Meredith's, just turned to see her because I really do not want her show that often. No matter how nice the color, the shine, etc. I think keeping any longer only ages a person. I try to keep mine ear length, any longer only bothers me.
I think too many people....
automatically think spanking is abuse because they have become brainwashed by society, government, etc. Adults CAN draw the line and I don't think there are too many that "beat" their kids. I was also spanked as a child, never beat, and raised my kids spanking them ONLY if needed. I NEVER smacked them across the face as that is humuliating to the child and my point was never to humuliate my kids but to instill what is accepted and not accepted.
My sister-in-law raised her kids on timeout and the never ending "talks". Five minutes later they were doing the exact same thing they were timed out for. Her kids are now teenagers. They are smart mouthed, have no respect for people, she is unable to control them which in turn she lets them do what they want, bribes them to "behave", etc. They come from a loving, good home but I see nothing but trouble in the future for them as they have no boundries of what and what is not accepted.
My kids were raised getting a spank or two on the behind with a firm no (never a beating or screaming at them). They have turned into respectful, caring, responsible adults with no side affects from the spanking. I ask them to do something and they do it without back talk. They call their elders Mr or Mrs. They turned out to be well adjusted, happy kids with many friends as it was instilled into them to respect people as they would like to be respected.
Unfortunately, society and the government, etc., has gotten involved with raising OUR kids. They need to step back and worry about their own kids. I for one do not worry when my kids are out at night, they are not driving and drinking, they are not stealing, not doing drugs, etc. They are not perfect and can be a pain in the a** at times, but I know I raised them right and I raised them as I see fit - not how society would want me to raise them.
I do not spank them anymore as there is no need to. That stopped at 8 or 9 years old - they knew what was right and wrong by that time. If they do something I do not like, I now talk with them. There are times that does not work and then I take away privileges such as driving, etc.
Too many people confuse beating and spanking - spanking is not beating!!
People have to eat, so it
is easy to get addicted to food. Smoking, on the other hand, is a ridiculous act of a person who wanted to rebel when they were young and got caught by addiction.
people don't get it...
The reason he probably has the bible on his desk it to have an "open" door for someone. Think about it. If someone is reading a book on say, giraffes, and your curious about giraffes, maybe after awhile you'll say "hey, can you tell me about giraffes?"
I understand now adays there are a lot of "pushy" Christians, and there are also people who are Sunday Christians, and there are Christians who don't practice what they preach. But there are also good, honest, caring Christians who really do want to help you find Jesus and save your soul from he-ll. yes, he-ll. It's real btw.
I'm not trying to start an arguement, but don't condemn this man that you have never met of "trying to make a statement" or "being a pushy Christian." Maybe that bible is on his desk so that one day a co-worker, student, friend, etc will say "what's that thing all about anyways?"
The worst thing this country ever did was take Christianity out of schools. Obviously when we have third graders plotting to kill teachers, we have done something very, very wrong.
Have you ever met one of those people...
who just drive you crazy? You know the type where anything that comes out of their mouth is negative, nothing is ever new and they have something bad to say about EVERYTHING? Had to deal with one this weekend and just wanted to scream!
I can't believe you people sm
This was a significant bite, and nothing was done about it.
Gah...some people...
My ex-SIL used to say all the danged time that she was pregnant, once with twins, then a single, oops...twins again, on and on. Inevitably she'd always end up *miscarrying* for one reason or another! For this situation, however, I wouldn't believe it til I see it...some people just really get on my nerves with their attention-seeking behavior...I think they need therapy.
Do please let us know when she stars on Jerry Springer, this sounds right up his alley!
There are people
who view their pet(s) as children because it is all they have. Our dogs have always been a big part of our family and are viewed as one of our children. Dog aggression/people aggression, it is all the same. Aggression is aggression and can easily be turned toward both human and animal given the right situation. You cannot possibly predict what will happen. It could be that one day your dog decides not to listen to you when in an aggressive state and not come back when called. Our Pitbull was very obedient, did not even need a leash (hah in hindsight), although was never off one out in public except at the ranch. She was one of the best behaved, most obedient dog at the ranch except for the Border Collie mix she nearly killed, who was trained for herding and was amazing at it. You know the potential is there for your dog to do serious damage and I hope you are never put in the position we were. It happens so fast, in the blink of any eye many lives are affected and changed forever.
people ...
1. someone is driving on the freeway ...sitting on my butt (road-rage-speak for "I want to pass you") -- and then when I move into a different lane to let them by, they get off at the VERY NEXT off ramp. I hate this.
2. crack their gum in movie theaters.
3. chew with their mouths open.
It gets old because too often people are using
to cover up what amounts to discrimination, stereotyping, hate-crimes, violence, tax-evasion, pedophilia, you name it.
(I did crack up at the red 'WARNING' label, though! Cute idea!)
But the thing is, even if you're using your scripture to back up your ideas, the fact that it was written to be perceived in many different ways doesn't necessarily mean the reader is going to perceive it the same way you do.
I know some people may use this sm
Scripture to elevate themselves above others, and that was not my intention. I believe, as Christians, we are called to obey God's teaching, even when it may be difficult to do so. Missing an occasional worship service is not going to send a person to he!!, nor does it make them less of a Christian.
BTW, I am a single parent raising 2 sons alone (yes, I have sinned and am divorced, but that is between me and God) and find that there are 6 other days of the week in which I can do my work and have the other day to worship God, even though I could make a whole lot more by working on Sunday. In spite of this, I find that God does bless me and makes it possible for me to provide for my family.
What is up with these people?
My children have no grandparents at all due to this kind of crap. When my mom was alive she stepped over the line all the time.
I am no longer speaking to my father (whom I have always adored) because of my oldest daughter and his deciding he could "do it better" as far as raising her (this from an ex-alcoholic).
My X-in-laws tried to take my children away from me when their dad died and would not quit saying bad things about me when they saw them so my kids quit going (of their own accord).
My current husbands father has called me and my husband names in front of the kids and his new wife constantly made racial comments, so none of the kids see them anymore either.
What happened to just being a grandparent? Someone to spoil the kids and be there for them, not take over as their parent because they felt their own child was not doing a good enough job!!!
I so wish I had cut all ties with my father sooner, even though I love him, it would have saved everyone a lot of heartache and maybe my oldest would not be the mess that she is (or at least not as much).
It makes me very angry that these people cannot have the same respect for US as parents that they say THEY deserve!!
Why do people say
(especially kids) when they heard you the first time.
There are people out there though . . .
I had a PA struggling to diagnose me in the office one day and she was telling me probably lupus, blah, blah, blah, all of this crap and she had the doc come in and he said do you know who she is??? (yea, she did). He said to her, this woman is a member of the medical profession and she is going to go right back to her office and look up everything you just told her and panic. She knows what you are talking about, you don't just throw out diagnoses. That's probably not exactly how he said it but I get the meaning of, don't cross this MT off the list, honey, she knows everything you are saying!!
Too bad more people do not do this -
I think this shows how much you have grown up and how caring you are. I think this will bring the other person closure as we all need that when we are hurt. I had my heart broken 10 years ago and not a day goes by where I think "what did I do wrong to be treated so horrible". I don't dwell as much but I wonder how people can be so cruel. I commend you and hopefully, this will bring closure for you too.
people
After working at home all these years, I can honestly say I don't know enough people who know enough people to not have this fizzle out by about 6 months tops.
OMG! Some of you people!!!! WTH??! sm
What is wrong with you people???? First, let me ask how you can call yourself christians while judging others and talking the way you do??? If you're gonna downgrade people because they don't think like you or you're just too closed minded to see the situation any other way......nevermind...I can't say what I want to cuz it's too offensive for this board....just get your heads out of your a**es! You don't know everything!!
Anon, if you're not happy, you need to get out. He will be hurt. He'll probably cry and beg you to stay. He'll probably keep trying to get you back for a time. But, it will get better with time. You aren't being selfish. Your girls will actually benefit from you being happy. Yes, it will be hard for everyone at first, but it will get better and they will get better. Kids are resiliant. At the same time, they can also sense when things aren't right at home...and to some of you self-righteous posters...what do you think THAT does to them??? What do you think that's TEACHING them? Did you read all of her posts? Or just what you wanted to? He's a "me" guy. It's all about him. He's hurtful to her....and THAT is hurtful to THEM!!! Don't you think that's teaching them that it's okay to be #1 in a loveless marriage and #2 with someone that's self-absorbed and #3 with someone who is not very nice to their wife?? AND don't think for a second that if he's hurtful to mom that he hasn't been hurtful to the kids....I know some of you know-it-all, self-rightous, so-called christians are going to take that statement the wrong way...because you're closed minded...but I'm not saying he's "abusive" but even some things said/done/not done can stick with a person for the rest of their lives...and hurt for the rest of their lives.
Now, just because they divorce does not mean that they can't have a cordial relationship for the kids' sake. The kids can still see their dad if they want and should WHEN they want. If he's a good dad, he'll want them whenever he possibly can. In my situation, very similar to hers, we didn't go to the courts so some "stranger" could tell him when he can and can't see his kids. He doesn't pay child support. I support them when I have them and he supports them when he has them. He helps with their needs like school clothes, shoes, glasses, braces, sports, etc....He's still their father in every way he was when we lived together...he just lives in a different house. My kids are very well adjusted kids, very good kids, typical teenagers, love both of us and are loved by both of us. We both go to their games and school functions. Neither of our homes is their only home. They have 2 homes. In fact, we even live in the same city. So, no matter where they're at for the night, school isn't an issue. I think it's ridiculous for some judge to have to tell a man, like I said, when he can and can't see his kids, and especially ridiculous that it's usually only 4 days a friggin month! Every other weekend?? Give me a break! Then, they demand so much friggin child support from him that he can't afford to be a fun dad when he does have them!! To top that off, in most cases, he even has to have the insurance on them! Joint custody should always be first unless there is a reason why the spouse shouldn't have them on a regular basis!!! Just because 2 adults can't live together does not mean the kids have to live w/o one of their parents! Both parents should support the kids equally, not dad 90% and mom 10%!
Now, with that said, anon, you do what YOU know in your heart is best for you and your kids. You're not being selfish for not wanting to be with someone you don't love. Your happiness is very important to your kids' well being also. Besides, it sounds like there's more to him when you said he's all about him and you guess it's because he likes having everything done for him. You're a wife, not his mom and he's not a child. Doing everything for him is not what marriage is all about. Marriage is not one-sided. He's not ruler of your lives. It's a shared responsibilty. It's an equal opportunity. You do things for each other because you want to, not because one expects you to. You share everything, responsibilities, chores, diaper duty, feelings, pain, fears, love, everything but your underwear! THAT is what marriage is all about. Yes, I'm remarried to someone I am in love with. No, I don't LIKE him all the time and no I don't like everything he likes and he doesn't like everything I like, but that's okay and it's normal. What's important is that we respect and support each others differences. We do things together and we do things seperately. He doesn't degrade me because I'm interested in something he finds appalling and I don't degrade him because he likes to watch football on sunday's or be gone most of a Saturday to go work on his mustang that he's rebuilding. I don't like football, but I'll watch it with him sometimes just because I love him and I want to. He doesn't expect me to, but he loves it when I do. and no...I do not have to get up and get his beers or snack! I do, sometimes before he even asks..but it's because I want to not because I'm told to. My husband does the dishes sometimes, he vacuums, he even does laundry. He's taught me to change the oil in the car and how to change a tire. Marriage is between 2 people not 1 person and his employee. We are just like everyone else. We fight. We have disagreements but...we respect each others difference and opinions.
Like I said, it will be hard at first, but it will get better in time. You just have to take 1 day at a time. If he's a good dad, he'll make his home open for them, he'll be there for them and he'll never stop being dad. My daughter is "daddy's girl" even though we're not together anymore. My middle son is "mama's boy" and our oldest....well...he's the spitting image of his dad in every sense of the word..but he's not considered mama's boy or daddy's girl. He's just.....himself!
So, I'm going to end this rant by saying to you, anon, don't listen to what the other closed-minded, supposed christian, self-rightous posters say. Listen to your heart. Don't stay because someone makes you feel guilty and tries to tell you what a bad person you are and how kids will suffer if you "tear your family apart!" YOU are the only one that knows what's right for your kids. Divorce is not an either black OR white situation. Everybody's situation is different. There are many shades.
I wish you the best of luck. You can email me if you want.
COME ON PEOPLE!!!
Isn't that why we get married in a church? Isnt it to recognize God as the creator of the relationship between husband and wife? Isn't that why we stand before him on the altar and vow our loyalty to this person? I don't believe if you are truly unhappy you should stay in this marriage, but I DO BELIEVE that is why we stand before God and profess our vows to our mate. GOD BELONGS IN A MARRIAGE. DO KNOW, though, there are down times in a marriage where you don't want to be with that person. You don't stay with a person because you "LOVE THEM." You stay with a person because of A PROMISE YOU MADE TO THEM ON YOUR WEDDING DAY. I agree this could be a temporary thing. I also know I have BEEN THERE DONE THAT, and once I confessed to my husband how I was feeling he was more than gracious enough to try harder in the marriage and work on it. Are you unhappy with the marriage or unhappy with yourself? There are so many things to consider here and to think about. I have actually caught myself just being unhappy with myself and blaming it on my husband. You don't always like the person you are with, and sometimes it's even hard to say you love them. If the girls don't want to be there, then you do have some issues, but have you given him an honest chance to make it right with you and the children?
AND YES, there is a verse in the bible that no man can get to heaven but through Christ. He must be born again. We must get rid of the old self and become new in Christ. So, unless you know the bible, don't be mocking our christian beliefs. It's what kept my marriage together for 16-1/2 years in a lot of tough down times.
This is a HUGE decision, I hope you make the right one.
people
Following the teacing of the lia sophia university for booking a you will be fine. People know other people, and the bookings will come.
People do not ACTUALLY believe these
papers as a legit source of info do they???
Gah, some people just can't help
These people just let the pit run around ...sm
loose? I am a pit owner, but my pit is NEVER allowed out his fenced in yard or in the house. There are certain people who should not be allowed to own those dogs, people who take no responsibility. It really angers me to hear about people who give other pit owners a bad rap because they are not responsible owners. I have never had a complaint about my dog because he is never out loose to bother anyone. Actually I have a problem with mine lately when visitors come over once he gets used to them and sniffs them he wants to act like a Chihuahua and get all 70 pounds up in there lap. Lol. Mine would probably give you the opposite problem. He would want you to hold him and let him lick you. I have to say I'm sorry that you have to be bullied by this pit bull because he doesn't have good owners.
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