and thanks again for answering...sm
Posted By: curious......................small msg on 2007-02-04
In Reply to: To answer your question - Jackie
I guess I'm just lucky - my daughter is nearly 26 and comes to me for my opinion on much going on in her life, and I cherish that! I am also very careful never to overstep my boundaries or her boundaries. There is a huge open-door policy in my home/life forever and all know that, that they should never hesitate to ask me anything, or to come to me for anything (I can always say NO, ya know? *LOL*) - but this is like gold to me - her constantly coming back for feedback.
Again, enjoy your evening and thanks for chatting. 
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thanks for answering........sm
But wouldn't you think that family might appreciate an older, far wiser grandmother, great grandmother's opinion, input would be a Godsend?
Thanks again for responding, and have a nice evening!! 
thank you for answering that....s/m
reason I asked is because not terribly long ago, there was a poster complaining about a certain friend who consistently canceled dates/appointments with the poster and that it was ongoing for a very long period of time (years, if I recall correctly) - so it was great that you answered and you are not that person...
...and the person you had to cancel on NEEDS TO GET OVER IT!!!
Thank you for answering me. I
had just read an article in the August Reader's Digest about a man being treated for throat cancer, stage IV. The name is The Farther Shore by Stephen Reynolds, in his 40's. There is an insert in the article that might interest you.
"HPV and You"
While few people with HPV get oral cancer, the number is likely to keep rising, says Maura Gillison, M.D., of Johns Hopkins. 20 million Americans are infected, with 6.2 million new cases each year. So far, there is no cure and just one test and only to detect HPV in a woman's cervix. Only a biopsy can tell whether an oral cancer is linked to HPV, but a test to spot high-risk oral infection in men and women and a vaccine for men are both in the works. What you need to know:
Most people with HPV infections don't have any symptoms. At least half of sexually active men and women may become infected in their lifetimes. About 23% of women ages 14 to 65 have high-risk HPV, including 35% of 14 to 19 year old girls.
Gardasil protects against up to 70% of the HPV types that cause cervical cancer, but it is unknown if the vaccine protects against oral infection in men or women.
While most infections clear up on their own without patients ever knowing they were exposed, the consequences can still be severe. For instance, one type of HPV raises the risk of oral cancer of 3,200 percent.
The virus speads through any form of sexual activity, and condoms can't fully protect against it. Having more than 5 oral sex partners boosts the risks of HPV linked oral cancer by 340 percent.
Sorry this was so long, but this is the most info I have seen on this and the numbers are, I think, staggering. I notice it does not address the vaccine in Australia you mentioned.
Answering
Who was the guy that came on, I believe he was second or maybe even first. He sang a slow song and my heart was fluttering he was so good. I thought the majority of the crowd, especially the women, just sucked last night. Several should not even have showed up they were so bad. I saw Danny's friend- he was really good. I wish he and Danny both had made it. The only longhaired dark headed lady I remember having a child was 1 that I do not think made it (or maybe she was the replacement?) I even thought the Enoop or Anoop or whatever his name, cutey pie, but his music was off. The black guy who quit keyboarding who I thought was really good before was yucky last night. I can hardly wait for tonight though because I am so hooked on it. I do not accept phone calls and everything sorta stops until that is over. I don't think Paula (with her crazy self) should ga-ga over someone who basically does not stand a chance and we will just agree to disagree on Simon because I like him tremendously.
Answering
You can certainly take monentary deductions for giving to Red Cross and the like, I give to Kidney Foundation and always left envelopes to turn in the amount given away and no I am not part of the corporation, just giving money for animal care and the things listed.
Following up on not answering the phone
I have read the posts. This is a forum for all to post any and everything. By myself mostly, I have raised 2 children, bought my own house, cars, taken nice vacations with the kids usually to Club Med and the like when they were younger and to say am I not that smart to have asked such a question, this is insulting for a person even to imply that. Others on here post about marital infidelities, problems with in-laws, kids and the like. I asked for suggestions- nothing was written in concrete I had to use. I started MTing long before we worked out of our homes- by the time I was able to work from home the kids were in their 30s and 20s, grown! I had to work to make a living so in the summers rather than having to go to daycare, they visited relatives. (Peope even asked when time for bingo- it was directly across my home from me- started 8:30 so yes in the summer I was able to go). My daughter (who by the way I am having dinner with tonight) told me about a month or so ago her childhood was "idyllic." I said really- she told me loved where we lived and she had a wonderful childhood. By the way, she has this rule and I am not allowed to call HER home before 12 on a weekend so she can sleep in. Again my asking her over and over to just ask me if I am upset should stand but this is something that continues with her. The person who said they listened to their father telling stories over and over again- when I do this, not aware that I am repeating, my daughter says - mama, you've told me that before. What works in 1 family does not necessarily work in another! I am soooo thankful working as much as I have in life- now I have found out next year when I start drawing my money at full retirement age from SS that it will be around 2,000 per month- by the way I am not planning on retiring- plan to continue working as long as I can because those are just my ethics and the way I have always been. I will always be their mother, true but they are not my entire life now- they are a portion like I am a portion of theirs. I think lots that post here are younger and true enough when the kids are young and such it is different than when they leave home and have their own lives. I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs, never brought strange guys home to stay the nights and did a darn good job with my kids. As far as my son, you only do so much and when your children are grown, not your responsibility how they decide to behave, good, bad or otherwise. Sure I would love to see him but when I said closing the bank back in 2000, the visits, telephone calls, etc. slowed down a lot. Think what you want- people do- but as for me, I have no regrets at all really about the entirety of my life, past and present.
AM ONLY ANSWERING 1 TIME AND THEN OUT OF HERE
My father was remarried. He had a 2nd wife. This was a stepmom, not my real mother. My father had 2 children, my brother and myself. No other children of his. My brother died in 1973. He was married and had 2 children at the time of his death. They were 4 and 6 then. I was not in their lives and did not see the 6 year old again until she was 18. That was 12 years later. Fast forward. My father's wife died 2 years before him. My father died in 2004, leaving me as his only heir. Two years went by. The insurance company contacted me saying he had taken out policy in the 50's- had no beneficiary listed on it- They paid me half of that and asked if I knew where my brother's kids were. No I did not know. No contact with them. They had not shown up for my father (their grandfather's funeral even). They said would try to find. They held the money for another year. The insurance company then contacted me and went the other 1/2 to me. I had no stepbrother, no stepsister, one brother, deceased in 1973, no linkage with brother's children, did not know about insurance in the first place, I did not initiate getting this. My brother's children were not orphans. Their mother remarried a year after my brother died and they were raised all those years by their mother and their stepfather. Now if this is not clear, totally sorry.
I think I was answering the person above. NM
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for SS: Thank you for answering, good to know!...nm
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Pardon me fo answering her email
but what is odd is your obsession with this. Get over it and get on to something you consider valuable. You must be reading our posts and no one else's. We have been supported by many people who have called you on your comments. Read all of em, kid.
All the questioning and answering in the world
cannot stop these idiotic people out here now. How pray tell, if you have all kinds of notices on your medical records stamped in RED BIG letters and you have an allergy wrist band on, do you still COME OUT OF SURGERY WEARING WHAT YOU ARE ALLERGIC TO??? Idio....ts
Should I just quit answering the phone at all?
My children are grown and out of the home. I was on my cellphone today talking long distance, my daughter calls on my land phone and I answered. I have caller ID but did not put on my specs so could not tell who it was, just answered. I don’t get that many calls, mostly people selling things. Anyway, noticed she seemed out of sorts, in a curt voice telling me to call her back. When I finished I called back and asked her what was her problem. She tells me I sounded like I was angry, upset or whatever. I have told her repeatedly- if you think I am upset- ask me and I will tell you- that does not happen- she just assumes that. I told her she and her brother will never know me, never as they both assumed the same (I am estranged from her brother) Her brother used to tell me to "calm down" and I again and again and again said not upset and then that would tick me off that he continued to say that. My children are in their 30s and 40s- I have been married to my present husband now for 8 years (although I have known him 25+) and he knows me much better than they ever did. Any suggestions? Should I just disconnect the phone? Should I let everything come on answering machine?? My pet peeve in life is to be accused wrongly and yet it continues with her. I guess could let answering machine pick it up for a few weeks and I guess that would worry the heck out of her then ----- or maybe not?
I was answering MTRobin and apparently
you did not read my answer well. I said I did not have to use my credit card. I am not broke. What do you not understand about I could have used the CDs if I had wanted?? I have 401K and 2 others. I spend because I can. I have money in the bank. I can pay my accts on a month to month basis and ahead. I have no companies call me dunning me for payments. I paid an additional $15,000.00 more on my home last year on the principal to get the payments down. I would like to continue working but I am not having to work. I work now because I love my job. My husband is teamster and I can be a happy homemaker if I want. Years ago I struggled to support a family but I do not have to do that now. Just because others are hurting does not mean everyone here. I use my CC because easier than me going and cashing in the CDs and having several thousands buried in my back yard. I will have the CC paid down/off, have my 3 vacations planned for this year already and do perfectly alright if God lets me live and thrive as I have been. I have written this in as plain English as I can. Off this subject now.
I was simply answering the above post
which said they thought a person who only paid taxes should get a refund. I don't have a grudge against a person getting a refund. This is not what the post was about. My aunt has not worked in years and years and I know she does not pay taxes, has not for years and she got a refund. Goody for her! Oh, as far as getting lots back on SS. When I start mine later on in Sept I will be getting almost 2000 a month so that is not too bad. Oh, another thing, my aunt has lived on her SS for a long time now. It really depends on where you live, your lifestyle, how you spend but she did and hers is nothing like what I will draw.
Reading your comment I am answering,
I think that your daughter, at least on this trip she asked you to take her with you, did not behave appropriate.
She keeps criticizing you and telling you to change, whereas she has to make some changes in her behavior.
There comes a time when it is the children's turn to give and help.
Explain this to your daughter.
I use the answering machine to screen calls too--sm
if it is something important and they begin to leave a message, I will answer, otherwise I won't. Most of the time, they will not leave a message.
The do not call list is helpful, but not for everything. If you really want to take the time, you can answer the phone and before they start their pitch, tell them nicely that you wish to be removed from their call list. They are supposed to remove you. If they call back after that, you can report them to the do not call list and they will be fined for it. Also ask for the name of who you are speaking to. Sometimes two or three different people from the same place have your number and even though you ask to be removed from one person calling, the next may not know that and call you anyway. It took me almost a week of doing this on a daily basis and eventually the calls stopped. It takes time, but it works. oh, heavenly peace and quiet!
Actually it is answering the one who said should be canned, creating hostile
work place- yours was not a good working situation also. I think people, unless in your situation, just do not realize what a problem others have. It is not something you try to do by making so many trips to the bathroom. People working for others sometimes just have to suck up things and as my mother would have said, consider the source- if you are rude, crude, inconsiderate, lacking manners- a person fits this category and you just take with a grain of salt and overlook others like this.
My daughter has for some time said to let answering machine
get the phone calls- she knows a lot of telemarketers call so it is not my idea, but hers to begin with! I have for years and years tried to explain that IF she thinks by my tone of voice I am upset, to please ASK, that is all- I will tell her no, not much upsetting in my life. If most parents would be truthful, they would probably say they preferred 1 child over another- my son was the chosen 1 so to speak. I thought he hung the moon when he was younger. He changed a lot- to be so disrespectful when if not for me- even his own father told me after son grown if not for me- where would my son have been- that I was like the rock, he was the rolling stone, never sticking around. I would hate for that to happen- I think most parents would hate to see a child die but at the same time- what about if his mother dies and he does not try to make amends- the road goes both ways you know. I feel I have done no wrong in the relationship at all. I am at peace with myself. As far as the daughter goes- wish you could ask my housekeeper who has been with me for years about my daughter- you would get an earful- she is a very spoiled girl, a me type person and her mother is not first on her list of people to see- she does for her friends and I have always been on the backburner with her. Told my aunt yesterday I love her but I don’t like her a lot of the time. And no flame for this- other parents feel the same and I know they do about certain children. Always asked if she is only child- that should tell you a lot.
You really need to learn to read before answering posts
She NOR her husband initiated this contact - it is related to sports. Don't insult people when you yourself don't have all the facts. It makes you look like a foolish bully.
change providers NOW; i am a midwife and for one, the no answering service sm
and no way to actually get a hold of someone who is at least on call for your OB, is not good practice. i always have a list of others my clients can call if for some reason they cannot get ahold of me in an emergency. top that with your uncomfortableness with the hospital and staff, change now or you will regret it later. most of the time when docs won't accept a late transfer of care is when there has been no prenatal care period. you have that and you could even get a copy of your own records and take to new OB to speed up that process. i can't see you having a good outcome giving how you are already feeling towards the hospital/nurses there.
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