Wow.

Posted By: Misha on 2007-07-30
In Reply to: If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter

I would say:

I understand these are my faults, and you want me to change them.

Are you aware you are not perfect? If I were able to become perfect on these points for you, would you be able to become perfect on the points about you I want changed?

You are not being realistic, dear, because nobody is perfect, not even you.

The vows were took should have reminded you that marriage is made up of 2 people and people aren't perfect, nor is life. If you are too immature to handle it, then it's mostly your fault if we have to get a divorce. Do you realize that one of the points you would have to correct is you huge ego? Can you control that?

Complete Discussion Below:

marks the location of current message within thread

If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter
- Hate to say it but he sounds like a clone - sm -
- he sounds like a jerk to me - a happy MT
- If they fell in love with us, as we were...sm - PammyB
- ""Love Must Be Tough" -- written by (sm) - No Name
- Sounds very much like he is unhappy with HIMSELF! - mandy
- 1/2 the equity is not enough - mammamt
- See a divorce attorney - Malia
- ask yourself this question . . . sm - maam1
- Wow. - Misha
  - good post Misha!!! And to OP, know you're a better - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
    - Very silly question - I know but have to ask (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - No experience at all with this, just what I saw on a Dr. Phil one time - - mlt
      - not a silly question at all....sm - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
        Thank you so much - it's gone on so long (sm) - Butter and clutter
        Did I mention he's a horrible person? - Misha
        Good post again Misha.......no msg - LorenaBobbitt
        you're welcome............sm - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
  - That's good Misha - thanks :-) (nm) - Butter and clutter
- Your weight problem may be due to your - bad marriage. Seek some psychiatric help.
  - In your shoes - siren
    - Pretty sure he's done that too - no proof (sm) - Butter and clutter
- I'd tell him to hit the bricks sm - mlstoo
- Sounds like he is a negative weight pulling you - down (sm)
- Sounds like he's blaming everything that's wrong in HIS life - on you.
- Your choices are to either be proactive and do something... - mtc
- blatant emotional abuse - put him out
- I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the - Wannie
  - bad marriage. don't live that way! - just me
  - I agree totally this this post, though I have never been married, - I do have a child. They should come first-sm
    - He refuses to do that. He says no way is he leaving (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - Not only is he treating you badly, - trose
      - I was not suggesting you live in the situation at all. I just was thinking - about the kids "leaving" their home-sm
      - You're right! You and your kids will do better w/o him - in a happier home where you all are loved. nm
      - Does he treat you badly in front of your children or is it - Wannie
        occasionally blatantly in front of them - usually (sm) - Butter and clutter
        Out of the mouths of babes - Listen to your son
        The only reason I asked if it was in front of your children or - Wannie
- Are you unhappy enough to leave? Your life is too short... - mtmetoo
- I'd tell him to take half the equity and get out - sm - XXX
- Why stay if there's no love there?!! You deserve a much nicer life partner, girl. - Get out and go for it! nm He's a creep!!
- Take your share of the equity and go (sm) - nm
  - Take your share and go?? - Why doesnt he take his - share and go? - What about the kids.
    - He has agreed the kids should go with me (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - He doesnt want the kids cause they would mess up his - single lifestyle. nm
    - I tried hard for years - never good enough (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - you don't need therapy-you JUST SUMMED IT UP!! - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
- Now he just came in and asked me to start over (sm) - Butter and clutter
  - ok he sounds like he has a sense of humor..LOL. - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
    - But we go through this routinely (sm) - Butter and clutter
  - It would just be more of the same. - nm
  - This sounds just like me and my husband! - Hayseed
    - Hayseed I usually love your posts but (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - Hey, no need to apologize to me! - Hayseed
        You're not like him - different motivations (sm) - Butter and clutter
        hubby - ortho mt
- I think... - you know the answer...sm

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu

Other related messages found in our database