If they fell in love with us, as we were...sm
Posted By: PammyB on 2007-08-05
In Reply to: If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter
why do they want to change us completely? Yes, I know there are reasons of health to lose weight, but if you're told your weight is "disgusting," that doesn't sound like concern for health. My husband was exactly like that with me - which is probably a big reason why he's now my EX-husband. We went back & forth for many years trying to work things out, but I'll never again settle for less than the love/commitment/respect that I feel I deserve, even though it means I may be somewhat lonely for the rest of my life. Good luck to you, whatever you decide!
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I fell in love last night.
I was browsing youtube.come last night and I found a video by Erasure sing O’Lamaur. I fell in love. Just a while ago, I looked at it again and saw the comments. Come to find out he is gay and has HIV. I know, I know even if he was straight he would not have anything to do with me but it was a nice fantasy while it lasted. LOL. I also watched the video to Always and not only can the guy sing but he can do acrobats. I had never seen these videos before but this was the music I used listening to while getting dressed in the morning to go to high school. We could not afford cable back then.
I love 80s music maybe because it takes me back to a time before I had real responsibility as in kids, mortgage, line counts. It drives my husband nuts.
I fell asleep at the end, but
I believe the ones below the yellow line were Brittany and Jenn, and that we won't find out until the next show which one was eliminated.
The girls sure are stressed out by having 2 people return, and one of them not Bernie. It's a shame he was just 2 pounds short of having the highest percent weight loss of the previously eliminated players. It would have been nice to have him back.
Jillian certainly did have some weird outbursts. I don't think it agrees with her to not have the big burly guys on her team.
There is too much to watch on Tuesday nights!
I did not see the show. Fell asleep
but heard on the news that she was throwing a hissy fit back stage and now I just looked at the video on Youtube and pretty funny.
Fell asleep last night on CSI NY - (sm)
The one where 19year old girl in the hospital after a wreck was murdered. Fell asleep before I could find out who suffocated her. Anyone?
I think he also fell out of a palm tree while
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Once, right in the nose and fell down/passed out
for a few minutes. Ouch! It was 25+ years ago by another girl over a boy, but unfortunately she was probably double my weight. My sisters weren't very helpful, they lifted me back up and while I was still stumbling around and seeing double said ''get her!''. Yeah, sure. Even the girl was decent enough to know I couldn't handle any more. So I took the loss :(
You fell for that ONE OF A KIND crap, too?? nm
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I have been but fell asleep last night.
Who got "desashed". I don't know why I enjoy it...but I do think it is real. I watch more reality TV than anything. I know, I need to get a life!
GEEZ, I nearly fell out of my chair laughing!
I really do appreciate this laugh! LOL
Anyone ever been to Fell's Point in Maryland close to Inner Harbor. What can you tell me about
this area of Fell's Point.
Good question - I fell last night and my dh didn't even help me get up (sm)
I mean I fell really hard and hurt myself and he didn't offer to help.
I really hope things get better for you, whatever your sadness is about.
My auto clock fell back too, just had to adjust it...
make sure to check yours again next Sunday morning. The auto clocks are on the previously scheduled time change rotation, not the new one (my clock is 2 years old). the newer ones should be on the right schedule.
I read that and almost fell of my chair I was laughing so hard....
but that was my first impression too, eeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwww, that's gross and disgusting. LOL.
Good - Rotties are cute puppies. Bad - they eat a TON, also I got knocked over by one and he fell o
I broke ribs and arm. His head alone was probably 30 pounds. I have a big guy now, lab/great dane, but Rotties are huge. Oh they slobber a ton. But I guarantee no one will come in your yard who is not welcome when he is there!
I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
My niece had a Yorkie, the love of her life! We all loved her so. Lots of love in store for you.
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Love movie "A Christmas Story" when dogs eat the turkey and they go out for Chinese. We love d
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She's sweet. I think she's gorgeous. Love her hair. Love her sm
smile. I wish I looked that great! I don't even come close, so who am I do judge? I admire beauty greatly in other women...I envy them!
sweet....love the heart charm, he's got love.
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God bless you on your path, all love begins with self-love, so you are really on your way.....sm
We should have less time putting needless labels on things, paying attention to dividing lines, and pratice more love, understanding, and humiility....we will all have things to answer for, no one is perfect, but I believe we are all precious and loved by the Lord, who knows all hearts, and has infinitely more compassion and mercy than ANY of us can comprehend. Be happy and take care of yourself, sexuality is such a small part of who we are in this world, but you have to be happy and at peace.
I love the animal channel, really love it and
my sweetie and I both watch but I absolutely, even if I know nature and the balance of, want to see small animals being killed and eaten and so forth. I know it happens but I either change the station or pick up the paper and read or find another way so I don’t watch. Also watch Discovery, love animals and love those shows!
I love you! hahaha I love your response! You can come over here sm
and kick my butt the next time I "allow" my husband to make me feel crap for whatever reason - which there seems to be many - he wouldn't complain if I made more money than him because his lazy behind wants to stay home and do nothing all day except to play golf. He tells me all the time, "when are you going to own your MT business so I can golf all day."
But, he is very mean, also. He hurts my feelings constantly and doesn't even care. He makes me drive around in his truck with bald tires and I don't like doing that for fear of a blow out and he'll just tell me, "well, don't go anywhere then." We have the money in the bank to get new tires, but he won't get them.
I love your comment, though!
And for all of you who will say, "well, leave the jerk!" It isn't that easy. We have 3 boys and I would be homeless. I only make 300 every 2 weeks MTing. We have a lovely home with a lot of space and besides him living here, the kids and I LOVE it and love each other so much.
Well, I LOVE a challenge too, Would love to debate this one day with you! sm
haha
Seriously, I was a staunch atheist for 20+ years. It's funny, though. I, too, believe that we are all electrical energies and that energy doesn't "die" and so, theoretically, where does your "electricity" go when you die, i.e., your spirit? I believe that "energy" within us is our spirit life - and that must go somewhere, right? It doesn't just go into the groun - which is what I thought for so long.
Anyways, when I learned about our "energy" and how it must go somewhere, I was really testing the waters of Christianity up to that point. After hearing about that, I was convinced that there must be an afterlife. I believe we go either of 2 places.
Anyways, I love ALL people of all religions, regardless of what I "think" or "believe." I don't think any less of you because of your beliefs! If I were to believe in a God who forgave me and loved me in my mut and mire, who am I to judge and criticize those who think differently of me?
I've always liked you no matter what your philosophy on life was....
Love people who love dogs.
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I love the dressing and I love lemon pie..sm
My mom's lemon pie that is. I also love this dessert called Texas Delight or some people call it different things but is is layers of chocolate pudding and cream cheese and whipped cream. The food is my favorite part besides the watching my son open presents on x-mas.
Young love/older love
I think it has a lot to do with your age and his. I married hubby at age 59 and he was 49. Best thing I ever did but say if you are 30 and he is 20, hmmm in that case might not be so workable. What are the ages here?
Give her love, love, love and if she...
doesn't want medicine - don't force it. Does she like to be stroked or does she like her belly rubbed? You better than anyone else know how to make her feel loved. Give her that. If her times comes before Monday, all the better for you and her. She'll die peacefully in her loving home. But, if not, be prepared to give her the last loving gesture you can - if it's time to, than let her go.
I had to put my 13 year old Lab down two months ago. It is one of the hardest things to do. But, you'll know when it's time. My dog, Shadow, told me he was done, tired, beat. He sent me the message quite clearly. But, still I waited, not for him but for me! Finally I "heard: him and did what needed to be done. I sobbed for hours and then just suddenly stopped, I realized I was crying for me - not for him! He had had a wonderful loving home with "mom and dad and brother". He was old and tired and wanted to rest. He deserved that rest! So, it's done. Yeah, I'm still sad. But I know that it was the right thing to do. And, yeah, call me nuts if you want - I know that when it's my time that Shadow will come running, knock me over, sit down on my chest and lick me silly!
Now, I'll go and give my cat lots of love and remember the fun I had with Shadow. My thoughts are with you - make the best of the time you have with your loved one's, be them human or furry! My thoughts are with you.
We will all pray for him. Your love and God's love will keep him SM
strong until he is home! 
It is better to love and have lost than to not know love at all...
Who do you really love? This is not meant to sound rude, but to make you think...if you felt like ending your life and acted upon it because you loved someone so deep but they did not feel the same way, do you think that ending your life is really going to make them love you anymore? No...now you mentioned your mom and family, would they hurt more if something happened to you? I have entertained thses thoughts before and girl, he is not worth it. The main ingredient in Love is YOU...you have to love yourself first. My situation was different but you know, love is love. We can not make another being love us. We give them too much power. If he is gay, let that be him sinking in that ship alone. What I mean by that is to give someone yourself is one of the most precious gifts, but knowing that they are giving to Tom, Thomas and Timothy is very demeaning to you. No matter how much you want him to touch you, it is good that he isn't. DISEASES, don't discriminate, nor does death. Please my friend, listen to your inner feelings/thoughts and know that you will survive, but only if you believe.
May be Love...
to your husband, but sometimes being a parent calls for tough love to teach lessons that children need to learn and if that means missing a meal, missing a dance concert, missing a weekend of fun with friends for being grounded, so be it.
We are going to just have to agree to disagree about my parenting style. It works well in my family and my children are safe, sane, and happy and will be well prepared for whatever life throws at them. It's not all puppys and rainbows and it's never too early to teach them that.
love it ! ! !
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I use them too and love them!
When I clean, I have a wet one and a dry one. You can use the dry one to polish things after cleaning them or getting any streaks off mirrors after cleaning. They work great, and you just throw them in the washing machine when you are done. Sam’s has a big pack of them in the auto section where they sale stuff for mechanics, and they are relatively inexpensive.
Love it!! nm
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They love it!
My oldest is 12 and has been dancing since she was three. My other two are 9 and 5. They still do ballet, but have also done jazz, tap, polynesian, mid-eastern, and others. They love it, it is good exercise, and builds wonderful grace, style and discipline. They also play sports, but dance is their first choice of extra activities. Enjoy it!!!
Love AI
I love AI and couldn't wait to watch it tonight. What were most of those people thinking??? I loved going to the Idol Tour two years in a row and meeting all of them.
Love is...
Seeing that twinkle in DH's eyes when he looks at me, after all these years, he still makes me blush.
Love is......
Valentines Day is coming up so I thought we could talk about love. What is love to you? Let's make a list. It doesn't have to be anything profound...it can be little things.
Love is making coffee for your partner every morning, even though you don't like or drink coffee.
Love is . . .
My children and my cat. They are always, always here for me and never ask for more than I have to give. I feel loved and blessed to have them in my life.
Love is....
having my DH pull the heavy blanket up over me on cold mornings before he leaves for work.
Also, it is having DH tell me I'm the same girl he married when I complain about my weight.
WHAT IS LOVE
I had to share this. Hope it makes you smile!
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:
"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
Rebecca- age 8
"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4
"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
Karl - age 5
"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6
"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4
"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make ! sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7
"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"
Emily - age 8
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"
Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7
"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6
"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
Cindy - age 8
"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - age 6
"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine-age 5
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7
"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
Mary Ann - age 4
"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
Lauren - age 4
"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image)
Karen - age 7
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." Mark - age 6
"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Jessica - age 8
And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.
The winner was a 4-year-old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."
Love is--sm
Having a personal and spiritual relationship with God, the one who TRULY loves me!
Love is
Knowing and feeling a peace deep in my soul that I am a true child of God and that He loves me like no one else ever will. In His arms I am always safe. 
Love is...
when he brings the kids with him any chance he gets just so "Mommy can work," or when he rubs my shoulders after he has had a long day himself, or makes me my favorite meal every night, etc.
Love is in my house everywhere.
Love is
having your husband come up to you and tell you... you just don't know what you've got....you have it all... others wish they could have what you have..l...I am one lucky man - and I will be 64 in March.....
Love is..
Seeing the greatest miracle god has given me grow learning new things everyday (age 2 and 4)
Love is....
Love is the man who is not your child's biological father who will pick him up from school, take him to ball practice when you can't, be there for every holiday, birthday, etc. and treats him just like his own.
Love is......
My husband indulging me in my favorite vices...slot machines, The Sopranos, and Howard Stern. He takes me gambling a couple of times a month, has bought me all of the Sopranos episodes to watch until the new ones start in April, and bought me Sirius satellite radio for the car and house. And he drives me cross country every year to see my family on the east coast because he knows I am afraid of flying. He is the best!
Love is....
and knowing what each other is talking about when there are vague statements made. Making two beautiful children, and when the day your daughter is born, he asks "what are you doing beautiful?", and you say I'm kinda' in pain I just had a baby, and he says "I wasn't talking to you!!!!!" That's love.... 
Love is also trying to get the eyelash poking his eye, he moves away, says your fingernail was coming directly for his pupil, then gets mad because you didn't get the darn eyelash.... That's love!
I love that little guy!!
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Do you really love him?
If you did, I believe you would help him through this. I believe many people see pot as a mild drug that is hard to be addicted to, especially chronic users see it this way. But, it has its addiction qualities just like other drugs. Think of just the habit part of it after doing it for 15 years.
I was a cigarette smoker and yes I was addicted, but the habit part was so hard to break, maybe even harder than the addiction part.
If you love him, help him. In the long run your relationship will be so much better without drugs involved. He will be your strong man soon, just give him time, love, and support.
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