ask yourself this question . . . sm

Posted By: maam1 on 2007-07-30
In Reply to: If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter

does your lack of organizational skills really affect him in some way? Or is he just being petty? My husband's lack of organization and control in his life falls onto my shoulders because he does not take care of the things he needs to which are his responsibility (paying his bills, making phone calls, etc.). I cannot rely on him at all because he just never gets around to it. If that's the case with you, then yes, you do have some changes to do, but if it isn't really affecting him, then I would think he is just being petty. Have you tried counseling?

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If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter
- Hate to say it but he sounds like a clone - sm -
- he sounds like a jerk to me - a happy MT
- If they fell in love with us, as we were...sm - PammyB
- ""Love Must Be Tough" -- written by (sm) - No Name
- Sounds very much like he is unhappy with HIMSELF! - mandy
- 1/2 the equity is not enough - mammamt
- See a divorce attorney - Malia
- ask yourself this question . . . sm - maam1
- Wow. - Misha
  - good post Misha!!! And to OP, know you're a better - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
    - Very silly question - I know but have to ask (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - No experience at all with this, just what I saw on a Dr. Phil one time - - mlt
      - not a silly question at all....sm - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
        Thank you so much - it's gone on so long (sm) - Butter and clutter
        Did I mention he's a horrible person? - Misha
        Good post again Misha.......no msg - LorenaBobbitt
        you're welcome............sm - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
  - That's good Misha - thanks :-) (nm) - Butter and clutter
- Your weight problem may be due to your - bad marriage. Seek some psychiatric help.
  - In your shoes - siren
    - Pretty sure he's done that too - no proof (sm) - Butter and clutter
- I'd tell him to hit the bricks sm - mlstoo
- Sounds like he is a negative weight pulling you - down (sm)
- Sounds like he's blaming everything that's wrong in HIS life - on you.
- Your choices are to either be proactive and do something... - mtc
- blatant emotional abuse - put him out
- I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the - Wannie
  - bad marriage. don't live that way! - just me
  - I agree totally this this post, though I have never been married, - I do have a child. They should come first-sm
    - He refuses to do that. He says no way is he leaving (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - Not only is he treating you badly, - trose
      - I was not suggesting you live in the situation at all. I just was thinking - about the kids "leaving" their home-sm
      - You're right! You and your kids will do better w/o him - in a happier home where you all are loved. nm
      - Does he treat you badly in front of your children or is it - Wannie
        occasionally blatantly in front of them - usually (sm) - Butter and clutter
        Out of the mouths of babes - Listen to your son
        The only reason I asked if it was in front of your children or - Wannie
- Are you unhappy enough to leave? Your life is too short... - mtmetoo
- I'd tell him to take half the equity and get out - sm - XXX
- Why stay if there's no love there?!! You deserve a much nicer life partner, girl. - Get out and go for it! nm He's a creep!!
- Take your share of the equity and go (sm) - nm
  - Take your share and go?? - Why doesnt he take his - share and go? - What about the kids.
    - He has agreed the kids should go with me (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - He doesnt want the kids cause they would mess up his - single lifestyle. nm
    - I tried hard for years - never good enough (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - you don't need therapy-you JUST SUMMED IT UP!! - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
- Now he just came in and asked me to start over (sm) - Butter and clutter
  - ok he sounds like he has a sense of humor..LOL. - better Mom than his was not, probably!!..sm
    - But we go through this routinely (sm) - Butter and clutter
  - It would just be more of the same. - nm
  - This sounds just like me and my husband! - Hayseed
    - Hayseed I usually love your posts but (sm) - Butter and clutter
      - Hey, no need to apologize to me! - Hayseed
        You're not like him - different motivations (sm) - Butter and clutter
        hubby - ortho mt
- I think... - you know the answer...sm

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