Why stay if there's no love there?!! You deserve a much nicer life partner, girl.
Posted By: Get out and go for it! nm He's a creep!! on 2007-07-30
In Reply to: If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter
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Learn to speak your partner's love language.
For example, when my husband does things around the house for me (acts of service), I really feel loved by him, so he makes it a point to do those things. He, on the other hand, is a 'touch and affection' kind of guy, so when I wrap my arms around him, stroke his hair, etc., he really feels loved by me. It's hard for me, because I'll do things for my husband all the time and think I'm showing my love, but since that's not his love language, it does nothing for him.
What a sad life for this little girl
She has been named a living goddess. The article is not long but definitely disturbing. Check out the link.
http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-general/20081007/AS.Nepal.Living.Goddess/
My niece had a Yorkie, the love of her life! We all loved her so. Lots of love in store for you.
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i was going to use this if I had another girl. LOVE this name/spelling
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I so love your family, and Ellie is my girl.
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I bought Cover Girl's and I love it too
In time I'm sure all the cosmetic companies will have this type of make up.
Has anyone ever met the love of their life...sm
after a terrible, SICK, horrible, tortured, abusive marriage of 14 years, 3 children, and now 43 years old? Is it too late for me? Would I be naive and gullible for thinking that maybe there was an incredibly wonderful man waiting for me somewhere, waiting to give me the kind of love I have dreamed of all of my life? Or should I just divorce him with the thinking that I will be alone for the rest of my life and that somehow that is supposed to be okay with me? Maybe I'm just being immature in thinking that he doesn't have to be the end for me. Has anyone ever moved on later on in life and found someone extraordinary? For me, after what my children and I have been through, whoever he is, he would sure have to extraordinary.
Thanks, but I love my life
If I want to see these animals, can just watch the news- they are on there just ever so often, saw some on an animal show last night- they were being put down, dangerous, not adoptable. Not too long ago saw them when Michael Vick was involved. Thanks, but no thanks. I keep safe animals at my home.
Do you still love him??!!! Looking forward to life w/o him
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My life lesson would be to say "I love you" to
your family every chance you get as you don't know when they won't be around anymore, take nothing for granted.
Life is so fragile. Tell your loved ones how much you love them. sm
I have a friend who has been complaining of really bad headaches off and on. She went to the doctor yesterday (and before that, too), and the doctor gave her a steroid shot which helped relieve pain, but then ordered a CT scan, then told her to go straight to the ER because the pain was that severe.
While there she received the results. A large brain tumor. She quickly deteriorated and I was called when they put her on life support. Early this morning she deteriorated even further and today, she is dead.
She was a precious Christian woman who leaves behind a husband, a daughter in the 11th grade, and a daughter in the 1st grade. I can't imagine what the family must be going through.
About a month ago her dad died. Her mom, who is a lovely woman, lost her husband. And today she lost a daughter. Pray for this familyand those she leaves behind.
And take this as a life lesson because I know I will. I've been fighting with my husband all week and actually was thinking of leaving him after 10 years of marriage. Life is so precious. 
I love this. Did it change your life when you returned?
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My life is full of love from my two children.....
nm
The love of my life does all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, shopping etc..
He even has decorated the house with Christmas villages, lights etc.., wrapped all the presents, even his own..LOL (I did put them in brown boxes). I'm sorry but I sit here all day working..he can do something. I know how lucky I am. Going from being a single mom to this has been heaven. For every dream I had, it was answered by him. I shouldn't brag..but...last year he took me on 3 cruises..and it just never stops. So kudos to all of you who have a wonderful man in your life. Lord knows they are few and far in between..
Has your partner changes over the years
Or are they still the same as when you were first with them. What made me think about this is last night I wanted him to watch a movie with me. One I'd knew he would enjoy because we've always like movies like this one. When it was over he looked at me and said "was that supposed to be enjoyable, I didn't understand it". So I explained the plot in about 4 sentences. Same with a music group I had thought he would like because we listen to other groups similar. He said afterward "why in the world would you think I would enjoy something like that". I said because we listen to other groups that sound similar. I find the jokes I tell him he doesn't laugh at, but when he tells a joke I laugh. Once I didn't laugh and he asked why I was in such a bad mood. I said I just didn't get the joke and he rolled his eyes and walked away. He just doesn't seem like the same person I first fell in love with. When we married he was sure of himself. Knew what he wanted, responsible, etc. Now he doesn't know what he wants to do with himself. We do still laugh, enjoy movies together and other things, but things just seem to be different after 30 years. I spend a lot of time wondering if its me or him. Just wondered if others go through the same thing.
That was funny - thanks! LOL - he's nicer today (of course) sm
he saw me looking up "signs that someone close to you is an alcoholic" and of course using typical verbal abuser behavior, he has been really nice yesterday and today...I used to fall for it hook, line and sinker and believe that things had miraculously changed...I don't buy it any more but do enjoy the reprieve!
had the man been there the previous time with his partner?
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Sound like you actually have a good partner. Above posts, not so much.
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But nothing is so much nicer than at minimum of an 800 thread count. sm
You can find those at Ross' for around 50 bucks a set for queen! :)
Ceramic tile would look nicer. Not too hard do it
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As an equal partner in this marriage, why is it wrong for me to express my wants? (sm)
You seem to imply that because he wants to live here, I have to whether I like it or not. I have lived here for over 10 years. Why is it wrong for me to want what I want, but okay for him to impose his wants on me?
BOYCOTT!! I think she is a media hound (nicer word than what I really think) sm
and we should not dignify what she has done by giving her one iota of attention. And any station that decides to give her a "show" (like Jon&Kate plus 8 or that Duggars Giant humongous family - disgusting) should be absolutely boycotted and all their sponsors too. Promoting this stuff is just WRONG.
But does someone deserve to die over this?
Even if they were teasing the tiger he should be in an area that is escape proof. I am not saying it is okay to tease animals, but these were young ignorant boys. Even Michael Vick is not getiting the death penalty.
Maybe not, but you sure deserve him.
flock to gether.
wow? You're a whole lot nicer than I am. He finally got the hint when I walked right past sm
him and didn't glance his way once. I'm so bad, but who in the world wants to be intimate after typing on colonoscopies where a patient was not properly prepped?! OR on a patient whose genitalia is basically inside out and she's having every ectomy, otomy, and repair known to mankind?
Maybe stop calling us all 'witches' and you'll get nicer responses.
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and did the gnome do to deserve that?
Respect is what I deserve.
NM
I don't think stars deserve it...sm for why..
I think stars overly compensated, bragged on, pampered, etc...and for what? giving us reasons to sit on our butts and become lazy and unhealthy? They have so much money and yet, at these functions, they're loaded with tons of free, very expensive gifts! The people who deserve big functions for recognition are the real-life heroes like cops, firefighters, the military, doctors, nurses, etc....THEY deserve the awards, the gifts, the glory, but most of them would just like to be recognized for all that they do and thanked by people.
I just love girl double names. Hon, my son is Jon Thomas. Not Jon. Not Thomas, so I know. nm
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Hmm...And Homeless People Deserve What They Got?
What a crock. She just asked for some advice. 
Glad you had a good time. You deserve
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Good grief, they deserve a safe sm
plce to live! They are not going to remember the big house, etc when they are grown. They WILL remember the abuse you subjected them to and did not get out.
So what you are saying is we've reached our limit? That we don't deserve any more kindness?
That's how you operate in life? You just deem people unworthy of your time, your kindness?
You know, curious girl, isn't asking you for money or a place to live or anything except for a few kind words on a freaking screen!!! How difficult is that?!!?!?! You act like she's knocking on your blasted door and begging you to help her. She's not asking you to do anything but LISTEN!!
My God! You people are incredibly callus. I feel sorry for you.
Also blessed w/a great hubs, partner, and father to the kids. Fixes our cars, scrubs the carpets,
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I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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Office; Life on Mars; Lost; Life; Pushing Daisies
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Rude people deserve a rude response-but an idea (sm)
I am very kind-hearted, and even a sucker at times but when someone is very rude and disgusting, I have no problem telling them to go away. If she doesn't want to completely cut this woman out of her life, she needs to say something like, "I have decided that I am only going to be able to have you come over on Wednesdays." She can make up an excuse like, "I am not getting enough time to myself" "I haven't had time for my other friends" or just act like she feels like she desperately needs a regular schedule, so "Wednesday is your day." See ya next week! If she shows up on a day that is not her day she can say, "Suzie Q, your day is Wednsday - I'm sorry, but I am really determined to stick to my schedule"
I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
Normally, this would be something I would try to stay out of, but (sm)
I would think if you called CPS and explained things just the way you did here, they might be able to do something to keep the aunt away, and parenting classes for the parents wouldn't hurt either. I agree with the other poster who said if parents (or you) act first, anything the aunt did at a later time would be considered retaliation. Handicapped parents many times can be the best parents, but it sounds like they do need some help with setting boundaries.
I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the
door is and can use it if he chooses. Your first concern has to be your children and you should not have to find a place to live if he is the one who has the problem with you. If there is no adultery involved here, don't rush into divorce. Divorce is painful and can get nasty. Sometimes just being away from each other can "calm the waters" and allow you to make a more objective decision. I speak from experience. My husband and I divorced very hastily when we were very young after less than 2 years of marriage and then remarried, had 2 children, divorced very hastily again and then remarried again. Had I just been a little less in a hurry I could have saved myself a hiney-load of money and a lot of heartache by just being away for a while and then making an objective decision. Instead, I rushed into divorce and paid dearly. 
Stay away from CC....
If you have been having problems meeting the minimum payment on any CC, by all means don't go opening another credit card. Your credit report will be an absolute mess. I know it's 0% interest for one year, but read the fine print - there is usually a fee of some type, plus, can you pay it off in one year before the interest starts up? You never know what will happen in life and you may not be able to make the payments, the rate goes up, and you are in deep doo-doo.
Sallie Mae is high interest, your 401K is better. With 401K you are paying yourself back with interest. It's a no-brainer. No one gets your money but you. Is it possible to borrow again from a 401K if you already have a loan out? Having the money deducted automatically from your paycheck and put back into your 401K is the safest and smartest bet...as long as you have a job.
If you ABSOLUTELY have to have this other loan for $7,000 then the 401K should be your only choice. Can you do without the $7,000 and get back on track before getting deeper into debt - or at least until you pay off the existing credit card?
Why would you want to stay...
with someone who is, as you say, mean? If you are not happy, LEAVE! When you stay you are condoning his behavior. Some women want to be martyrs, others want to live a great life. There are great men out there; wallowing in self-pity does not get you one though.
Well, obviously we don't want to stay
somewhere where there's still a lot of damage. That's why I'm asking for personal experiences, and hopefully recently. We don't want to book a beach house and when we get there find out it's in the middle of a big mess.
stay vs go
First, I am so sorry for your situation...that being said, the kids will definitely pick up on the negative vibes between you and your husband. As far as your question goes, I think only you and your husband can know the answer to that one. Just be very aware of your kids and behavior changes, emotional lability, etc. Trust me when I say, they are not dumb...they will pick up on what's going on, no matter how hard you try to hide it (yes, I'm speaking from experience...). Good luck!
You definitely need to stay on top of this...
The kids who you think are least likely to commit suicide are the ones that actually do...that is not meant to scare you by any means...most kids find it easier to write down their feelings than actually expressing them face to face so the fact that he wrote this means something is bothering him...I think you should both talk to your pastor..good luck...(((HUGS)))...
I think you should just stay out of it.
It is just humiliating for kids when their parents act up or cause a scene.
The name of the game is fun. Your going into the game wanting your son's team to beat the other team because of YOUR issues with another parent is very immature and selfish.
Trust me, we've watched parents like you've described yourself (and others, in fairness) acting out and it is so unsportsman-like and completely immature.
Embarrassing for everyone.
To Done: STAY !
No husband is perfect, we are all human. Your husband has a lot of good qualities. Think of your children! I think you are spoiled and unthankful. Maybe he is right and is better than you. He loves you, why don't you; I think you are just bored.
If I don't have anywhere to go, I stay
in my jammies. I usually get up and take the kids to school in jeans and my jammy shirt. Then come home and put the jammy pants back on. If I don't have anywhere to go, I don't get dressed until mid afternoon when I break for lunch. I usually put something in the oven and hop in the shower. Sometimes I just put clean jammies on, sometimes I get fully dressed. Either way, my contacts go in and my hair gets done. My husband likes me either way, as long as I'm clean. I find I wear my jammies more in the winter and am more likely to get dressed in the summer, probably because kids are always coming and going in the summer.
At any rate, I tend to be more productive when I'm dressed, so I should probably try to do that every morning, but I'm just not a morning person. Every year for Christmas, my mom gets me "work clothes" (jammies)!!!
Where we stay in NYC.
We stay at the Embassy Suites on North End Avenue right in the financial district. It is walking distance to to the Village, China Town, Mulberry Street, etc. It overlooks the Harbor and you can see the all the helicopters coming in and out. My husband always goes to Battery Park to watch the helicopters. It is not too inexpensive, but you do get free breakfast and there is a happy hour at 5:00 p.m. if you like to have a few drinks, which will really cost you in the city. There is also a fantastic deli 1 block away that we always hit for a late night snack. We go at least once per year, sometimes twice or 3 times. We love it.
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