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Dump him, and get your life back together

Posted By: JZ on 2005-09-28
In Reply to: I'm emotionally and financially stuck - Needing Support Ladies

Dump him!!   Do whatever it takes!  Think about your kids and what they will go through growing up around this clod if you stay with him.   I was in a similar situation about 16 years ago.  Didn't have kids with the BF but he was an alcoholic and prone to violent outbursts.   it wasn't easy to dump him because he tried like hell to get back with me, but I was determined to be rid of him and finally he left me alone.  You must be determined as well.  Make up your mind, stick to your guns, and - this is important - get some family, friend, and pastoral support because you really need it right now.     I'm praying for you.  Keep us posted.

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take a break.. you deserve it!
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nothing wrong with md saying dump.....sm

although not baby related, there is a diagnosis called dumping syndrome so if this doc said the baby took a dump in his arms and then quieted down, I see nothing wrong with that......


Heck, I just dump it in! sm
I think I used one part (maybe a cup) ice cream and just enough milk to keep it thick (about 1/8 to 1/4 cup) and poured in the chocolate syrup, added the banana and pureed it in my blender. I like my shakes thick so I experimented. If I had too much I poured it in a bowl and ate it with a spoon. I gained weight in a hurry eating them and they tasted better than Ensure. I gagged on that stuff.
this is not the norm, dump them
Really now... nobody checks my work.
I had to dump IT. Could not learn it after 6 months.
Went to shorthand,had it down in a few days and it will do everything IT does if you program it that way. Half the price, too.
Topaz is right, dump ADHI - see msg
ADHI is the new name for the AAMT after it was run into the ground.  Practices are the same.  This organization is suffering and needs members and money.  They do not care about the American MT and will sell you out in a second with one hand while taking your money with the other.
sure there would, some folks dont like to do certain worktypes and will dump all others..
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Even if McAfee shows under security, I'd dump it. sm
A lot of the ISPs nowadays have incorporated Spyware protection, spam protection, popup blockers, etc., so much of what McAfee claims to do is simply not needed. It bogs down your computer and takes up space, and it is next to impossible to get rid of with a simple uninstall. There are two great free antivirus programs, Avast and AVG, though I would spring and buy the profession version if the PC is used for work. Run those in conjunction with Spybot Search & Destroy and Ad-Aware scans and a good firewall, and you should be adequately covered. Do a Google search for a good "techie" forum and ask some questions there. They can give you good advice about each program's pros and cons and what the best combination is for you. Or even call someplace like Geek Squad, though they might charge for advice.

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Our local dump takes old computers for disposal for 5 bucks. Try that.
I just dump them in a covered bowl with vinegar and sliced onion. nmx
I pick it up, shake it, and dump the crumbs out. If that doesn't work sm

I email my company and they overnight a new one.  I go through keyboards about every three months. They take a beating, but I produce a lot of lines.

Life is life....the haven't bonded the same as if it were a 2-year-old!
I make sure the job is not my life and that it does not take over my life. sm
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But after I get off, I have my family and I take time to have fun and enjoy life. I think that is the key to not staying burned out. You need down time, time to have fun, exercise, relax, etc.

Exercise is very important, too. It rejuvenates the hormone system so you have more positive hormones flowing through your body and helps get rid of stress.

That's what I do.
With short arms, I need chair with shallow seat, good back support and high back. Want arm rests
OK! I'm glad you're back down here. Now don't go back up there and read those evil posts ag
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PS.. It apparently worked..I heard back and already submitted the paperwork back.

I'm not sure how many people they are hiring but you shouldn't stress too hard over it. Do the best you can.

I would not do them back to back - I have done 2 and 3 jobs at the same time -- all PT - sm
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How do you set your computer back 1 day. I messed something up and need to go back 1 day.
I'm the one who needs to get a life?

You people are the ones laughing at people behind their backs.  Typical female, backstabbing, egotistical snobs.  Exactly why most of you can't handle working in an office.  Thanks anyway, but my life doesn't include ridiculing people for me own ego.  You go right ahead.  Feel good about yourself.

Never in my life

I guess I have led a sheltered life.  I never in my entire life heard about so many companies bouncing checks in this business!  I would be out the door so fast, there'd be no dust behind me.  Have I just been lucky?

I have a life.
It's not a money issue. I have hobbies but the winters are long and cold and I'm not a winter outddoors person, only summer and I have no child. Kinda of a workaholic.
Yes, I live a simplier life.
Get a life b.
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Get a life.
Whatever fugly trash. If you want more, keep it coming.
Don't even try to top my life
you old decrepit piece of trailer trash. I will win hands down every time. Now go to bed and dream about the love of your life,your horse, Mr. Ed.
No, I sure don't come first in his life.
he does of me.  Seems like his loyalty lies there.  I don't think he ever learned the "leave and cleave" thing.  And our kids are very important to him.  He makes it abundantly clear that I am not top priority.  Sometimes I daydream that I meet someone who really loves me and run away with him.
in whose life? *lol*......nm
in whose life? *LOL*......nm
nothing in life is ever as it seems...sm

you all might be able to *read* all this supposed goodness but some might see it differently.....as some are better readers of others in life, perhaps more intuitive..

in the life..............................nm
LOL everyone in my life has always said....sm

Everyone in my life has always said I should be a *comedienne*...... they ALL cannot be wrong as they all do not know each other.  I do see myself as *entertaining* others.  *winks*

However, I don't like lazy people.  I'm the first one to help on these boards, unless they really don't help themselves.....just the way I am.....

Be well.......loved your reaction!!  Oh and the one under it, who also LOL. 

It is her life, but you can still try to help her
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WHY? Get a life.
Well, it's his life, isn't it? (sm)
Sounds like you're more upset about the lack of respect than your son's happiness.
your life
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Get a life!
MTs come on here to vent and our fingers get to flying and we don't sit there and edit our posts. We do enough of that when working.
Life after MT at age 58
  For those of you who are happy MT'g, I am glad for you.  This is for those who are not.  Just to let you know, at the age of 58, I am going into a customer service career for an auto company's financial division, and will be making more than thirty thousand a year - so yes, it can be done.   My only qualification was that at one time for about five months I gave real estate a try - not my forte, didn't like the driving, people not showing up, etc.  So yes, you can still do something else, don't give up if you really can't tolerate it any more.  There is hope! 
I also have a life ---
that is why I want to work smarter when I am working and get it done so I can live my life...
You need a life...
Actually, that's my life, not like : ) - nm
Thank you, I will be out getting a life (nm)
to Wow! Get over yourself , a job and a life.sm
This is my post that you criticize; it has 2 'tiny' typos, namely 'd' instead of 's' and 'a' instead of 's':

......'because I find it faster my way, ONLINE.
You are using bookd, the old-fashioned way?

Expensive and much too slow.

I checked the yesterday'a and today's questions in the afternoon and found - as already said - only 1 somehow unjustifiable question.
To check 1 day would have been enough.

I research ONLINE
with fast and accurate results. The internet is literally swamped with resources and references and is the fastest way. You should try it.
Are you still looking into books? Way too slow.

So, do not blow this out of proportion.

If you have the urge to teach and to guide, open your own MT school and give your advice there.'


Yes, you get back to work now. Go back to
some routine, and it does start to hurt less. I know  And remember, she is still there at work with you. Always will be. I figure at this point I have a whole herd of loved dogs under my desk each day - along with a couple horses, hamsters, parakeets, rabbits...If only I could see them - must be quite a happy zoo! But I know they are all there I sense their love.
great too, but only in this life!
oh well. no one said life was fair
you just have to make what you can out of it.  There are many, many other subjects that can be debated as well.  That is what makes life what it is; a great variety of people and view points.  Enjoy the day. 
You really need to get a woman in your life!
looks to me like he's got enough women in his life (sm)

he has all of us! Lucky man, kyradmt!

What is a *good* life?
If you are talking material things, forget that - they need to be with you. If you give up your children, they will never forgive you and YOU will never forgive you. This advice would be different it you were pregnant, then I would say, yes, give the baby to someone who can care for it. That is love.

If you are talking any kind of abuse, get them someplace safe. No child should have to live with drug abuse, or any kind of emotional, physical, or sex abuse.

Fad clothes, iPods, cellphones, etc., are not the ingredients of a good life. You know that. Take care and good luck to you.
Life begins at 50!

My kids are grown, gone & happy.

My second husband is absolutely my best friend.

I have an exciting and highly rewarding job in the MT industry, where I am a valuable member ot the team.

Okay...two out of three ain't bad.