My father is no longer living, but he was never a part
Posted By: me on 2006-02-14
In Reply to: I'm wondering about your Daddy's. - Jodi
of my life. He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more. When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner. He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease. We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all. My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one. I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though.
My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
I also want a living wage for MTs. Don't mind hard work and longer hours, just want to be paid
:+
I especially like the part about "no longer uses (sm)
international contractors."
The sad part is she just might think that $8/hour is a decent living. nm
nm
I think I do now, but it used to his father - sm
If I would try to make plans, he would always say he had to see what his father was doing first because he might need help doing something on the family farm. And this was BEFORE his mother passed away and I never understood it. I know WHY he did it - loyalty and I think a sense of obligation - but I could never understand. My feelings were in shreds on more than one occassion. But things are much better now. He's still there to help is father, but I don't feel like I'm running a distant second to him anymore.
my father tried it
My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.
He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.
My father....
was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies. However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child. Slowly, the tables began to turn. He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby). By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money. My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later. He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too. That made him feel useful. He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work. Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage. My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you. My husband is very much the same.
my father uses WW
He has diabetes and a heart condition so it is critical that he maintains his diet & a healthy body weight. So far, he has been really happy with WW and it really has been helping him reach his dietary goals. Good luck to you.
it sounds like Father, May I.....*tsk tsk*..nm
##
Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
Katharine's Father
I was thinking the same thing about Katharine's father. They'll probably have to hold him up. All he does is cry whenever she sings. Imagine if she wins?
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all you men
out there!
I took care of my father
for last two years of his life. I barely had time to work because it became so time consuming taking care of him and two little kids. It was very difficult to get any help, and social services can only do so much.
I would think long and hard before making the move. How will you care for your mother if you are working full time, perhaps have to travel across town to see her, take her to doctor visits, and still take care of two kids? My Dad lived on the other side of my duplex so I was right there and it was still incredibly difficult.
If anything, I would advise moving in with her or maybe she could move to Georgia. Good luck whatever you decide.
The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is
actually doing it. Been in your shoes and it took me a year and a half to leave after I had made the decision to do so. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself and my girls. I had family and friends and a counselor telling me what needed to be done and I knew what needed to be done but until I had the courage on my own to do it I stayed. One day, we had an argument and he spit in my face and that was the last straw for me. Even though it is something that I will NEVER forget, that day is also a day I will never forget because it is the day that I took my kids and left. I am a single mom of 2 and have been single and supporting us for 5 years now. I have been healing ever since and still am to this day. You can do this. I know that if I hadn't have left and I would have stayed one of us would be dead by now or both.
The father was brought in for report of him saying this and now he is
released. I guess the "report" of the "report" did not pan out enough to keep him in jail. The prosecutor is not at liberty to disclose anything and has said so repeatedly. No professional has ever quoted one of the suspects directly and you know that. A report of a report of this man having said this is all I heard from a reporter.
I have both and even had a father; I love them all dearly!!!!
*** I just knew someone would have to be negative. Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything. I, quite frankly, enjoy life. Guess what? I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!! I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny. My brother is laughing with me now. My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be.
Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that?? It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time. Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness". Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice. Thank you.
Reminds me of my late father-in-law....
He totally controlled the money (he figured he earned it all, so why not) and doled out "household money" to my MIL like Ricky and Lucy Ricardo did. This continued until he died 18 MO ago, so I'm not talking about a by-gone time. Meanwhile, up until he quit smoking, he was buying 3 to 4 packs a day plus stopping at the bar every day on the way home from work. He never did stop drinking and I can only imagine the money he spent on that over their 40 yr marriage, while she's trying to run the house on her "allowance" and she could never take a dime out without his permission beyond the money he gave her. Sheeesh (eyes rolling). Thank God it didn't rub off on their son or I'd be a single woman by now.
My 4 year old also behaves better than his father.
what are you going to do
please give your Father an ATTABOY....nm
Happy Father's Day to ALL including...nm
yes, Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there! (nm)
x
The father just bought her a cell
and sent her a text message. She was able to send a message back saying, "I love you guys." I cannot even imagine the pain that family is going through or the other girl's family who was victimized.
The sheriff was even emotional and crying after it happened. It's really sad. I don't know if I could deal with that.
I spoke to the girl's father -
He then contacted the school but I haven't talked to him since then to find out what they told him.
I think the father of the killer should be shamed publically
instead of Natalee's mother. The father of the boy is a lawyer. He is arrested because why???????? That isn't normal if there is no evidence, nothing going on. He says no body/no crime. What kind of father would say that? He is obviously not right in the head nor is his son. They don't keep people in jail without some kind of evidence either. And if my daughter was missing and the father of the suspect was saying things like no body no crime, I might get a little crazy too. I would probably be over there kicking some ***, not just talking about it on TV. Believe me, she is handling great compared to some.
We had a weird happening after my father died...
He died in August and when we went to visit his grave just before Christmas, the grass was still growing back over the plot. The grass had grown in the shape of a Christmas tree inside the rectangular plot of dirt over the grave. We got some bulbs and decorations and laid them in the grass and took pictures. Guess what, the pictures didn't turn out. "dodo do do" (twilight zone tune)
My step-father got a kidney transplant
He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.
I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.
Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.
What about mudder and fodder for mother and father?
UGH!
The boy's father was released after a short period of time.
So were the others who were thought to be involved. You have very little knowledge of this case as does Mrs. Twitty. Maybe you should just calm down and educate yourself on Aruban law and justice.
My father left us when I was 3. Busy, I always wanted a family like yours. nm
x
We're trying to get my father home due to health issues
My father has been at a federal prison camp for a little over a year now. He's been sent to a local hospital six times due to heart troubles. Before going in he had two heart attacks, stents placed, treatment for prostate cancer. He's now also having trouble with his kidneys. We are at our wit's end trying to get him home on house arrest. It was a money/bribery charge (federal). No prior record. Can any one PLEASE help?
 thanks
Yes, our father's were both truckers and knew each other. I know Terri & her sisters
quite well. We also went to nearby schools. I've been to the zoo once and Australia is just gorgeous. If I ever lived anywhere else it would be Australia. Terri took us around to places that I would have never seen otherwise. She is a lady in the fullest sense of the word. Sadly, I never got the chance to meet Terri's hubby as he was away when we visited. It blows my mind that they were married 14 years. Time really flies and it doesn't seem like it was that long ago that they got married.
I can't imagine any father not wanting to make sure his flesh and blood
x
My uneducated but street-wise father had a term for people like that--"Smart Dummy"
nm
The longer
you are in the business and have more expanders, the less errors you tend to make. You are then able to do more scan proofing (mostly to make sure you typed the expansion properly and didn't cause something bizarre to pop into the report).
I am still pretty green. I try to notice what I can while I type and always go back through it (and find something more to correct).
Some reports are much easier to proof than others. The long detailed ones that are harder to type are more difficult to proof as well. I have a hard time keeping my mind from wandering to personal issues, etc. while proofing those.
What's up with the CMT part A and part B exams?
I thought it was all one test. How can a half a test last 6-1/2 hours? If anyone knows, please share your info! Thanks!
Anybody know what living in Ky is like?
Lots longer
I don't know - I've been an MT over 25 years, am a super fast typist, use expanders, and have a great platform and accounts, and it takes me a good 5-6 hours, with a 15 minute stretch break here and there, to make 1000 lines. Bad dictators - a good 8 hour shift to make 1000.
*a little longer than usual...
nm
then that vet would no longer be my VET!! unbelievable. NM
z
If her first initial was J, they are no longer in
business. She went into nursing, pediatric intensive care I believe.
Don't wait any longer...sm
contact an attorney. You don't have to pay the attorney until he gets your money, then it's a certain percentage. I know it's a killer to have to pay, but if you don't you're probably not going to ever be paid. I had to sue a client for 3K. I still walked away with a good hunk of the money and my pride. It was well worth what I had to give the attorney.
WC does not cover CPS any longer. They sm
have determined that it is not caused by typing. Can you believe that?????
oh goodie - we no longer have to see her!!
       
Working probably longer than you have
been on this earth. I have worked over 30 years in this. I do work for an agency as have been outsourced twice from hospital work, always at a lower rate than the hospital. The first hospital I made nearly 60 thousand a year, outsourced, dropped 20 thousand in the new hospital, outsourced and now my salary per year in the 20s. I do operative notes, discharge summaries, history and physicals, consultations and my pay is about yours, 7 cents a line- most of the time you are just expected to produce more- we used to have production (incentive)- some might still have but probably few and far between. If I had to raise a family now, would have to work more than 1 job to do. This is me- I am not speaking for others even though my speed is extremely high. I put my all into my job, have answering machine, no interference, have office set up in my home, have fax (because I need 1 just for my own use), printers, phones, my own computer and a backup in case this 1 goes. Your tapes definitely sound like the real McCoy. That is what we hear day in and day out. I started out with a hospital almost 70% ESL, oh, so hard, well even the English were also and even now after all these years still grit my teeth sometimes just to do a certain dictator. Good luck!
I no longer use satellite, but used
DirecWay when I had it. Service was about $70/mo. Download speed is not consistent. Most of the time it was fast, but sometimes as slow as dial-up. It depends on if it is raining, snowing, wind blowing and tree may be blowing in front of the dish, if it is real cloudy, etc. Upload speed is much slower than download, but upload files are usually much smaller so it doesn't take long. I had trouble with e-mail, though they have upgraded equipment and supposedly the equipment comes with the software installed and configured already so basically you just plug it in and you're ready. I paid $800 for my equipment years ago - that included dish and 2 modems. The newer modems are a lot more expensive.
Delete them.........esp if you no longer do them...
For private MDs, I only keep their diskettes 6 months, since ALL the work and an additional diskette has been provided when I returned the work.........
If you worked for a national, you need to send the diskettes to them I would think.........that is, IF you worked for a national MT company. If not, I'd just delete them..........keeping the floppies for myself.........for future....(yep, I still use floppy disks...*LOL*).........
they no longer pay for proofing
Just kidding.
I know, I know...
Proofing is very important. Patient care is at stake.
And so are our jobs.
I have been MTing longer than you and get this
When starting VR was also told I should be using the function keys. My "new"(outsourced) job of years even went so far as to show us where we were using the mouse as opposed to the keys. I have never used the function keys and do over 3000 per day, my lines have increased since VR and have worked NOT using the function keys now for several years and it works ok for me. Did they threaten you with not using the function keys???
No longer confused
Now, that makes sense to me!
No longer so frustrated..
I've been reading with interest the comments my venting inspired.. both here and in my email .. and some of the assumptions are amusing.
I've been a Transcriptionist for 36 years, an MTSO a couple of times during those year, a manager with a national company or two, transcription manager, QA manager - basically just about every job possible in this field. I know how important it is for a transcriptionist to be respected for our skills and to be paid for the work we do.
We actually flew to a central location in California to train transcriptionists within a 10 mile radius of the central location, so there was no cost to the transcriptionist. We wouldn't have made the trip had we received only one or two applicants. It isn't that difficult to train someone remotely, but since we had several positions to fill and several applicants, we decided it would be beneficial to make the trip and meet the new ICs.
We have 35 very good transcriptionists, all on IC status, working at different levels of competence, on different accounts, with all of the flexibility they can use. Some started as trainees right out of school, others came to us experienced with one or more specialty. All have been cross-trained to some degree to cover each other when someone has a family emergency or just wants to take a vacation.
We have work, plenty of it, and our pay scale is competitive with other services. We've even done work share programs with other services for short term.
My plea is simply on behalf of other service owners - don't apply if you aren't serious about work. It is a waste of time, both yours and theirs.
Thanks for all of your comments. I'm getting back involved on the board a little more and find how much I've missed the exchange of opinions and ideas.
T.
Where have you been, this board is no longer -sm
***Removed by Moderator***
Hi. I no longer use this program...
also the job I worked using this program couldn't help me. So I guess I would have to hire someone.
Can't imagine what would be in conflict with it. I just want to remove it from my computer.
Thanks for suggestions.
|
