Some of us stay at home moms need the money too.
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-17
In Reply to: "Stay at home with the kids job" - Sandy Maywel
Just because I stay home with the kids, it doesn't mean I am working just for extra cash. My family is dependent on my income. I bring in the majority of our family's income with MT. Staying home for me is an added benefit since I am saving $1000 a month in childcare, which is money my family really needs rather than paying it out to someone else. Please, don't judge all SAHMs equally. Some of us do value our career choice and work hard to support our families.
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Stay-at-home moms
I have never understood how someone can stay at home with kids and do MT. I always had to give it my total concentration. I have 5 kids (all grown and married) -- and I never would have attempted to stay home with just one kid. There's too much of a chance for mistakes. The job deserves total concentration and perfection. There will always be some problems with understanding what a doc says, but the MT should give the job her best.
Sorry, don't post here often and not familiar. I was saying I make great money and stay at home w
Where do folks get these odd ideas?
Who said it could? That IS the point and the reason a lot of moms do this from home!
We are happy doing it all from home! Why do YOU have a problem when our families and employers do not? Move on and attack your next post, please!
Agree, but there will always be young moms who want to be home
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Stay at home DAD???
Any wives out there have a stay at home dad? Or, any dads out there a stay at home dad? Today is my husband's last day of work (YEAH!!!) I am very happy, he was a branch manager of a huge company and was working 13 to 15 hours a day. We readjusted and got rid of some bills and he QUIT!! I told him to take AT LEAST 2 months off before he even thinks about working again.
Since I work at home, any tips for making him feel great about what he is doing? I happen to know that staying at home with kids is the hardest job in the world and I want him to feel appreciated. Also, I am worried about us getting in each other's hair too much since I stay at home also. Any advice? I know it is kind of a strage situation, but we are very thankful and blessed that we get to do this. He missed out a lot on my 5-year-olds growing up and he doesn't want to miss anymore (we also have a 2-year-old and planning for 2 more within the next 3 to 4 years)
The best stay at home Dad
My hubby stayed home with our 3 kids when our twins were born. Our oldest was 5 when they were born. Since I had the better job, he stayed home with them during the day and worked at night after I got home. He is the best Dad. The twins are now 9 and they all are so close to their Dad. He cooks, cleans, does laundry, take the kids everywhere (the last favorite thing they did was a fishing derby when he left with the kids and all the neighbor kids at 5:30 am). This week they spent a whole day at Grandpa's farm. He even kept 2 other kids when he was a stay at home Dad to earn extra money for groceries. It is wonderful to see how close children can be to their Dad. These are memories they will never forget. So bravo to all the Dads out there that have stayed home with their children. It is not an easy job, but many blessings come with the job.
Oh you will love being an MT! Stay home,
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Stay at home with kids?
I do not know if you all got this from my post but I said nothing about staying at home with kids. I don't even have any kids. I just enjoy being able to work from the comfort of my own home. Before I got into the MT profession, I worked for a bank in a call center. I NEVER want to work like that again! You think you are treated like crap doing MT, try working in a call center. You are treated like cattle there. I just feel blessed working from home doing something I love. And it seems like you guys are putting down all the moms who do work from home doing mt. I am sure their work is just as good as yours. They just want to be able to be there for their kids and also be a professional.
To get to be a housewife & stay-at-home mom again.
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stay home or go in house....
I got offered a job in a small neurology office starting at $17/hr with a raise in a few months. No working weekends or holidays and lots of vacation days. Low stress.
I currently work at home for a pretty decent company with a pretty decent line rate, but am starting to feel pressure to produce more...my average pay at home is between $13 and $15 an hour. It also adds stress when there is little to know work available and I am having to alter my schedule to "make up" time.
So, I would be making a bit more money, but I will have to have child care for the summers and for after school, so I don't know if it is worth it.
Can someone give me some insight as to whether they were faced with this decision...what they decided and why? I would really appreciate it.
Stay home or go in-house?
Help! What do I do? I currently work for a pretty good national company and I get to stay home and work in my PJs, but then... we ran out of work for a few days and I panicked. I applied for an in-house position doing radiology, which I have never done before. I am fairly certain they will offer me the position to work 24 to 32 hours, with many more hours if I want them. It pays about 18.50 per hour during the week and 19.39 on the weekends, which I will work one weekend day. So now what???
Do I give up the comfort of my home for a guaranteed paycheck and work in a cubical typing radiology notes for 8 hours a day? UGH! Tough to have such choices in this economy.
Any insight or thoughts on this? I do have young children, but they spend a lot of time at grandma's while I work anyway.
JUST to stay HOME with your kids is NO reason to
get into this profession. You sound like one of those many women who think just because they have a computer, can type and put two words together they can be an MT. As I am sure you have discovered, there is so much more to this career than that. I agree the benefits of being available for our children is truly a blessing and when mine were young I was SO thankful to have that flexibility, but to all the newbies out there: Do the research before you delve into this. It is not as easy as some make it out to be. Perhaps you should try running a daycare instead. Or put your children in one part-time until you get comfortable with MTing. 
Yeah, but getting to be a stay-at-home mom is just one of the perks.
I would gladly have done this had I known about it when my children were little in order to get to stay at home with them.
Me too - when do we go? Hubby would have to stay home with the kids
how do you stay consistent and productive working at home?
Just wondering. I have a hard time lately with being disciplined enough to sit and do what I am supposed to. What do you guys do if that happens to you?
Not stay at home, but opposite shifts. My advice:
Make sure you always say thank you. It's a MUST for a man. My husband and I decided to work different shifts years ago so that the kids wouldn't have to go to daycare. Now I'm at home, but he still works 3rd shift for the same company that he's been with for 7 years because he likes it.
I've always thanked him. I'd get home from work and he'd have dinner cooking and I'd say, "I"m so lucky to have you!" And even if I didn't care for the dinner choice, I'd shut up and eat it. :)
Even just little things now, like if he washes the dishes or vacuums because he knows I'm on a deadline, I'll always say, "Thank you for doing that, you're such a big help."
Trust me, boost the old ego and those pots and pans won't sit in the sink. Complain one time that he missed a spot and you'll be scrubbing the broiler pan.
I turned down a hospital job to stay at home and regret it. sm
The hospital jobs are much more stable, and you have the same docs over and over. Even if they are ESL, at least you can get good at them. Take the hospital job - the PTO and benefits are worth it.
I guess we'll stay home and eat Ramen. Hadn't though about food going up too.
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I dont care if you stay home because ofyour kids, a health issue - sm
or because you just like to work in tne nude. The fact of the matter is, settling for a lower rate jsut for the convenience of working from home is BS. I've been doing this for 25 years and have been home since 1996 and while I know I am not making the same money I did in the haydays, I sure as he11 will not work for less. Many of these companies are bluffing if they tell you they have to lower your rate. In fact, if you hold your ground and have a decent reputation, you can even make more.
It's too bad that so many people don't believe in their abilities and worth to hold out. You should never base your decision on fear. Use logic and common sense.
Disciplined at home=money. (nm)
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Wouldn't you bring home more money at 10 cpl? nm
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I have to disagree. I make more money from home
The issue doesn't have anything to do with inhouse or outsourcing.
Does anyone else earn extra money at home doing something along with MT work?
I need some ideas. Fall is coming and I will have some extra time and getting burned out on MT.
I am a very social person and I entered this job at home because it paid more money
than the jobs in the office and I was a single parent. I just learned to balance my life outside the work environment with things that did allow me to use my social skills
I make very good money at home with a small MTSO
Have done both, and still prefer at home, making more money and setting my own hours. (sm)
In-house your required to meet a productivity of nothing less here on the east coast of 135 to 155 lines per hour, not to mention the QA's done weekly!! Yes, weekly, random 10 reports per MT!! I never had a problem with the QA's always between 99.6% and 99.8%. But, you work straight, no talking, in your little box (I call it). Yes, the benefits are a perk, but not that much and I worked 2nd shift always, so it was 18% of my base wage. I am still making more at home productivity wise and take a break when I want to. But, like you said circumstances change. Good luck!!
Quick question or poll - What does one consider "good money" for weekly bring home income? sm
Would you consider $1000 a week, IC status, working 5 hours a day, 5 days a week "great money"?
What do you make a week and how many hours do you work?
This is for informational purposes only and not to belittle or degrade anyone or boast and put anyone on a soapbox about their income.
Thanks for your help!
Money, money, money, mmonnneyyy. Singing the Apprentice song.
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Moms
What about birthmothers? I am one of those.
Lynda
My take on single moms
This is not meant to start any arguing between anyone. This is just my outlook. I was raised by a single mom. Through no choice of her own, my father decided to end their marriage to be with another woman. I was 5 when we were kicked out of the only home we ever knew with nowhere to go. We had to live with some friends of hers for 3 months while she saved up money to get us a place to live. She was a nurse and worked her butt off 7 nights a week, working 60 to 70 hours a week to put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. She went without, didnt ever have nice clothes, didnt have a social life, was the sole supporter and had to be a mom and a dad to me. She was everything to me and what she sacrificed for me she did willingly and lovingly. She gave up everything for herself so that I could have a bright future.
I saw what my mom went through as a single mom. There was no support there when the pipes broke, the car wouldnt start and she couldnt get to work, if her child was ill, if she were ill. There was no second income, nobody to lean on.
Through all her struggles raising me, she never was bitter and never complained about being a single mom. But I feel that any single mother out there trying to raise children to be all they can, at the same time solely supporting the family should be regarded with a little respect. Look how hard it is in this day to make it even as a married couple with kids. It is hard.
If you havent walked down that road, you will never imagine how hard it is. I think some compassion is due to that lady and her children. Maybe not just because she is a single mom, but because at some point in our own walk, we may need some compassion sometime ourselves.
What about moms doing the same with little boys?
Ya know that's done more than the former!
Any single moms out there?
Hi all. I'm hoping there are a few single moms out there who can give me some advice. I have two children, ages 15 and 11.
Background: I divorced my husband in June. Everything was going well financially until I lost my Independent Contractor position unexpectedly in October. I could not find any work for a month and had no savings.
Now, I come to find out my ex will be dropping all medical coverage this spring. He will be self-employed at that time and have no access to insurance.
AS OF THIS SPRING, my financial status looks bleak. I have no savings, no retirement, no medical insurance and no life insurance. I'm totally lost here.
I have a few options: I could stay self-employed and buy all of my insurance, etc. I could work when I wanted and be home with my kids, attend their school functions, and so on.
I could get a full-time MT job in an office with full benefits, etc. However, my kids will be alone on vacations and in the summer. They may need to forego some school functions and may need to stay at home alone when they are sick.
I've been self-employed now for almost 8 years and the kids and I are very used to it. I hate to give it up, but, I do need to do what I have to.
Any advice?
You do what works for you and MT moms will just keep
Cause it is being done, like it or not. Take a poll on here and see just how many MTs are also mothers of young children or have been MTs when their children were young. A lot of them!!! It may not be your ideal situation, but it does work for a lot of MTs. Sorry, but it is true!
Any single moms?
I am curious, any of you gals a single mom? I am single and I also home-school my daughter and I am just curious how everyone schedules their days. I have been doing this for a while now but am always curious as to how other singles get it done. Thanks!
SINGLE MOMS
Oh yes - I have five children, however, they go off to school every morning - that is really the only way to get the bulk of my work done (although have been doing for 17 years at home). When they were younger did most of my work at night while they slept. It is not easy, as we all know "a woman's job is never done"........
Thank you... I hope all moms on..sm
staff have a happy Mothers Day also !!!!!!
How many MT moms love Gymboree?
Ok, moms, need your help! DD has chickenpox on the INSIDE of her mouth and on
I know I've heard of a mouth swish home remedy that can be swabbed inside the mouth to numb the area. If anyone knows what I'm talking about, PLEASE post!
Thanks in advance,
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I CANNOT believe these Holier Than Thou wonderful moms - sm
This is absolutely ridiculous... There are crappy daycares out there, but you can certainly tell by your child's actions if it is good or bad - if they go kicking and screaming then you know they aren't having FUN. Lady, You are doing JUST FINE.... if they love daycare and you are getting your work done, then SO WHAT... these other "wonderful moms" are SO one-sided opinionated that I would hate to see the attitude and social skills they are teaching THEIR little ones!! YOU do the best you can for YOU and your babies... Is this really troubling to these "wonderful moms" when they begin pre-K or Kindergarten for heaven's sake... LORD KNOWS the teachers at school don't love these children like YOU do... puhleeeze!! If it is a fun learning experience where they are making friends... they would RATHER be playing with friends than watching your back and listening to the rattling of the keyboard... Sure there are companies that allow flexibility, but you have to set it to suit everyone in the mix... To you "wonderful moms" who think that YOUR way of "NO DAYCARE" is the ONLY right way - poopoo to you.... Mommies have to do what Mommies have to do... all children are different... my daughter I was able to keep at home... my son needed interaction with people and constant stimulation that I could not be flexible with - so he had a sitter for a few hours, then pre-K .... he has turned out to be the brightest child you would ever meet with a vocabulary that would stun you!! Each child is different, each family is different, each mommy is different... YOU are NOT a terrible mother for choosing this route, and I am sure your babies will grow up to be well-rounded, SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE young ladies and gentlemen... Shame, SHAME for judging!!! 
Mine are 19 and 24, and, yes, when they want to talk, I do stop and listen. There are so many moms
out there who don't have close contact with their kids in this group, that I feel very fortunate when mine want to talk to me. My daughter (19) and I are very close and she still lives here, and sometimes I really do have to cut it short with her. However, my son lives away from home, and when he does stop by and wants to talk, I definitely stop and listen.
Now, with that all being said, I definitely know what you mean about all this talking and listening cutting into the overall production for the day. I just tack on another hour to an already long day and count my blessings that my kids and I can still talk. Of course, if I have a deadline, I really do put a Do Not Disturb sticky note up, and they don't bother me.
Just as a side note and not to go into any details here, but my son was really into drugs and alcohol and wouldn't hold a job for about 6 or 7 years and honestly would hardly talk to me at all unless he had his hand out, wanting money. Well, I guess I really should say that when we did talk and he wasn't asking for money, he was always lying to me to cover up what he was doing. It was a hard road but we got through it, and I do love for him to talk to me now because I really feel like I have my son back. So I guess I look at those interruptions a little differently. :)
Hey, today's my moms 60th b-day, too. I got her a pair of khaki capri pants
with a purple print belt and a matching purple top along with some socks. My teenage daughter gave her a homemade necklace made of light green stones and a shell that she got while on the beach in San Diego this summer. My nephew gave her a dreamcatcher and the dog gave her some vanilla international coffee. We took her to the Elephant Bar for lunch and gave her the gifts. She had a great time and so did we.
moms? lunch cunundrum - am I a less-loving mother if I make his PB&J tonight and refrigerator it?
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Make money? I'm not making any money because of my decision. You read my reasoning
You can agree with me or not, but don't make false assumptions please.
You're working to make money, not to spend money.
These people should be ashamed of themselves taking advantage of people this way!
I also blew some money signing up with Quixtar... The only way to make any money is to bug everyone
you know into signing up. I felt like a snake oil huckster. I hated it. I was flushing money down the toilet from the moment I handed over my money.
RUN, do not walk away! I do an entirely different side business now that I really love (in addition to my MTing, which I also love!) Find something you're good at and that you truly love doing. Then make a business out of it. That's the best way to have a side business. Selling discount toilet paper through Amway/Quixtar? Not so much.
The CMT exam is overrated. Don't waste your time & money. Use that money on
paid anymore just because you have it. There are a few CMT cheerleaders that post to people like you but they are pretty well sucked up into that association.
Yeah, money, that's it. I paid $20.00 for my dog. Money is NOT THE ISSUE
walk him daily, play ball daily, he sleeps in my office daily while I work. Yeah, I got a lot of money, NOT HARDLY. And, my dog is HORRIBLY HORRIBLY ABUSED because he wears a collar around his neck. It's people like you that make me sick. I am done defending my use of the shock collar. I am going to continue with it and my dog will continue to be pampered , educated, fed, kept warm, and love me for everything that I do for him even when I remind him that his barking needs to stop. So, with that said, I will not respond to any more of your CRAP in reference to the shock collar.
Money is money and most people will do whatever it takes when in need. sm
if you do bring it to the attn of the office manager, why not offer her a raise to compensate. it is obvious she just needs or wants more money than your office is paying her. I agree, it is a free country and although it seems odd, unless you had it outlined in contract, she can work for whomever or whereever she pleases on the side. at least she is typing and not at a strip joint, lol. I see no conflict of interest, she has experience obviously in whichever field you are in and what is wrong with doing extra in that field. i agree with MYOB "nicely" and concentrate on your reports than looking at older reports and seeing who they are typed by.
My kids have suffered greatly from me working at home with them home. SM
I have been working at home as an MT since my two kids were born. They are now 4 and 5. In the first few years, I had no help whatsoever. Their father was a bum who didnt work or take care of them while I worked. Your children get neglected while you work basically. And babies and young children desperately need your attention while they are home with you.
My kids have so many behavioral problems right now because of their neglect. I would try to set them up with things to occupy themselves, like coloring or a movie, etc.
I finally put them in day care and things have improved, but there are still a lot of issues because of the damage that was done. They still try to seek attention by doing bad things and they dont listen to me because they are so used to me letting them get away with a lot of stuff because I was too busy typing to discipline them in their early years.
If I could do it all over again, I would definitely have put them into day care from the very beginning.
My advice would be to seek PT care for your baby. Maybe you can do some work around her schedule a little when she is home, like when she takes a nap, and then bang out a bunch of work while she is in day care.
I enjoy being alone at home, but I've got one home sick from school already.
One on one with a kid is nice, too.
This summer has been absolutely crazy. I haven't had a moment to myself for three months because all of my kids were home traipsing their friends through the house and yard. My husband switched his work schedule, too, so he's around more than usual. However, I like not having to do two loads of dishes and four loads of laundry a day. There are no toys or clutter dragged out everywhere. I can clean the house first thing in the morning, and it stays clean until everyone gets home at night.
I even got to relax with a cup of coffee and watch TV for half an hour this morning, something I liked for a change instead of cartoons or kids' movies. I signed up for an online class that I've been wanting to take. I can exercise without being interrupted. Yesterday, I went to the mall and spent all my saved up gift cards. I got some clothes, books, bath stuff, and a new coffee mug. My work gets done a lot faster, too. Call me nuts, but I've never had the luxury of being alone in the house for 14 years. It's kinda nice. I love my family with all my heart, but I love having a few hours to myself each week, too.
Except now the cat and dogs have been acting weird since the kids went back to school. They must think that I need someone or something to clean up after and correct behavior on. They're getting into everything and racing around the house behind me.
my take is that she worked inhouse, not at home, and now wants to find out how to work at home. nm
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