I believe strongly in gender rolls...
Posted By: Kendra on 2009-01-18
In Reply to: Yes you are weird, I do not cook, clean, etc., etc. - Judy
I know that this statement will be contraversial, but I think that the best way to keep a marriage healthy is to subscribe to traditional gender rolls. While I believe that marriages can last when other agreements are made, I think that straying from traditional gender rolls is a big cause of the increase in divorce. Yes, my husband does clean some and, obviously, I work, but for the most part, I take care of the house and the babies and he brings home the money. We are very happy this way. I am not saying that it cannot work another way, I think that it is a lot to ask of a husband to do both and a lot of women do.
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If they are crescent rolls, make a pot pie using the rolls as a crust....see recipe
place a layer as a bottom crust as well. Bake until golden brown.
HUNTERS SAUSAGE PIE
Brown and drain two pounds sausage.
Mix one 8 ounce package cream cheese with sausage.
Use crescent rolls to make a bottom crust in the bottom of a lightly buttered 8 x 8 glass baking dish.
Spread sausage mixture on rolls evenly.
Place a remaining crescent rolls on top and bake at 350° for 20 minutes or so, or until golden brown.
Cut in squares and serve.
You can also sprinkle shredded sharp cheddar cheese in the sausage mix.
They feel they are protected by their gender
If a man were to grab Faith on her privates and she smacked him, good for Faith. If Tim were to smack that woman for grabbing his privates, he would be a monster.
The gender wouldn't be an issue with me, because
I think its a great idea and should not be gender specific
I think more and more kids should have one. Usually when they start out they have nothing. I don't have kids, but if I did I would start one at an earlier age and just add each year with practical things. I'd also use a chest that can act as a coffee table or piece of furniture for them. I'd include the basic necessities they will need, pots, pans, silverware, coffee cups, etc. Maybe a quilt/blankets, and one gift my DHs grandmother gave me was some recipes of my DH's favorite meals he likes. If you stick it in the hopechest when he gets married or goes to live with someone they wouldn't be offended as though you are telling them they don't know how to cook or something silly like that. I'd keep all the good toys they liked when they were growing up and maybe some photos. Just kind of mix it up a bit. I wish I had one when I was growing up. DH and I started from scratch and it was hard.
I strongly disagree!.
I think everybody remembers the 'first time'.
It is said that no woman forgets her first lover and even if they might part, she will always have a special place in her heart for him. (Well, not everyone, it depends on him, too)
Tootsie Rolls.....nm
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I don't care which way it rolls
Heck, I'm thrilled if someone other than me replaces the TP.
Caramel Rolls
FROZEN BREAD DOUGH CARAMEL ROLLS
2 loaves frozen bread dough
1/2 c. butter
1 c. brown sugar
1 sm. pkg. of each vanilla & butterscotch pudding (not instant)
2 tbsp. milk
1/2 tsp. cinnamon
1/2-1 c. chopped nuts
Thaw bread, but do not allow to raise. Grease a 9"x13" pan. Tear one loaf into pieces and drop helter skelter into pan. Melt butter, add rest of ingredients and beat smooth. Pour over torn up loaf. Tear second loaf and throw on top (try to place in empty spots). Let raise 2 1/2 to 3 hours.
Place in 375 degree oven for about 30 minutes. Let cool about 15 minutes, turn over on wax paper.
I like to drop each piece of dough into a mixture of sugar and cinnamon before dropping in pan (optional).
Can also leave bread partially frozen before breaking and put all back in freezer. Set out Saturday night and bake on Sunday morning. Very good.
cinamon rolls???
Let the dough rise in buttered pan. Roll out with flour to rectangle shape, brush off, sprinke with cinamon and sugar and raisins if you like them, roll up long ways and cut into 2-3 inch sections, place in cake pans, about 6 or so in an 8 x 9 (also brushed with butter). Lay towel over and let rise again. Bake at 350 till golden. Spread buttercream frosting on. Just like Cinnabon. YUM.
For a young cat with no playmates, I would strongly recommend - (sm)
that you have your catsitter come daily. When I went on a trip and for cheapness reasons had my sitter come every other day, he was oh, so lonely and depressed. Having the radio on did help - that was her idea. But daily visits are better, then kitty has something to look forward to. Hopefully MIL will play with her too!
Another hint: My CA suddenly got very ill with kidney failure a number of years later, while I was also away on a trip. THANK GOODNESS my sitter came every day, or she would have found a dead kitty. She took him to an emergency vet that saved his life.
Now I always leave ALL necessary info. for the sitter: Vet's number & how to get there, as well as emergency vet. I also leave a blank check made out to EACH vet (regular & emerg.), because the sitter had to cough up a $500 deposit out of her own pocket the first time.
Other ideas: I leave a couple extra bowls of water around the house, especially in the summertime.
If kitty likes treats, sometimes it's fun to hide some around the house so that she has to "hunt" for them.
I unplug things she is capable of turning on - such as the paper shredder and both computer printers, since mine is so fond of turning them on.
For young cats especially, the toilet bowl lid should be down, to prevent accidental drowning.
Also, it's wise in any case to have kitty microchipped... provides a little peace of mind, should the unthinkable happen and she gets out and gets lost.
Providing a brand-new and very interesting toy just as you leave gives them something new to think about. Or else hiding an old favorite for a few days before you leave, and then presenting it again just before you leave.
I live in an apt., so I have a little sign in the door that says "In case of fire, please save me" (along with a photo of my cat.)
I really see and feel strongly about both points of view here. sm
I will say I am a Catholic, and a divorced one. I am not practicing at this point, but I am not an unbeliever...exactly. I consider myself a gnostic Catholic, and that is a story for another day.
The so-called Christian morals we have in this country are SELF-IMPOSED. They are with all religions. I consider myself a Christian, so I don't believe in sin because well, Christ died on the cross for the forgiveness of sin...even BEFORE we think about sinning. So, some of this I don't buy into.
If anyone thinks they have the slightest idea of what God wants them to do, they need therapy! WHY would any of us think we know the mind of the Divine??? I don't care how religious you are, YOU DO NOT KNOW THE MIND OF GOD.
I was in an extremely abusive marriage. He abused me, the kids, our minds, our bodies, our hearts, our souls. I was married in the Catholic church and I am still married in the church, having a divorce without an annulment. I made the commitment to keep only to this one man and that I have done. I live celibate for a number of reasons and my spoken commitment in the Catholic church is one of them.
Their respective marriages are over and not because of each other. They are free to be together if they choose to do so. Being arrogant enough to think he knows what God would want, yes he needs therapy! I think he is a bad bet for her because he will always come right back to what God would want, has no ability to exercise the Free Will God gave him, can't think for himself and would be pretty useless as a husband. This may, in fact, be what drove his wife to kick him out! Milquetoast!
I'm sorry. I know I keep posting replies but I feel strongly about this (sm)
my mother was molested by her stepfather, back in the late 40s/early 50s when no one did much about those kinds of things. He also molested her sister, who ran away and got married at age 13 to escape him. He then molested my sister (yes my mother took us to visit them!) and probably me, although I don't have any memory of it. Also most likely my young female cousins who lived there. My point is...a person who would do this type of thing will not just stop. He has probably done it to others too that you don't know about. Look how long it took your sisters to tell you. I am so sorry. But you have to do something. And if you end up in court during a divorce, your sisters have to speak up for you. You are all going to have to stand together. I can tell you really love him and you don't want to believe this. It looks like you are going to have to believe it. If he did this to children, there is something wrong with him. Something inside him is broken, not working right, and you can't fix it. You are going to have to gather all your courage and leave. I am currently in the process of seperating also, but with a different set of circumstances not involving anything like you are dealing with. If you want to email me and just have someone to vent to, please feel do. Again, I am so sorry. Please go get a free consultation or a paid consultation with an attorney. If you go to church, go speak to someone at your church. You have to do something, I'm sorry.
I strongly believe that time and place we die is predestined...
I came twice into situations where I escaped death.
Strongly recommend crating when not home or able to supervise
We adopted a 1 yo Rottweiler who literally ate the couch after he totally destroyed the living room, tore curtains from the windows, spread trash from the kitchen throughout, shredded newspapers, had the stuffing out of the pillows . . . all in one day! I was at my wit's end and called the vet, who recommended a crate for when we weren't home or if he needed a "timeout." It worked great. We used it for about 1-1/2 years. He was having separation anxiety, so he was only in there when we both were gone. She may have to do it at night too, depending on when the dog is chewing things. Our dog started sleeping in there at other times with the door open. He loved it. It's not cruel if used correctly and not as a punishment. It saves a lot of stress for both the dog and the owner.
Strongly recommend crating when not home or able to supervise
We adopted a 1 yo Rottweiler who literally ate the couch after he totally destroyed the living room, tore curtains from the windows, spread trash from the kitchen throughout, shredded newspapers, had the stuffing out of the pillows . . . all in one day! I was at my wit's end and called the vet, who recommended a crate for when we weren't home or if he needed a "timeout." It worked great. We used it for about 1-1/2 years. He was having separation anxiety, so he was only in there when we both were gone. She may have to do it at night too, depending on when the dog is chewing things. Our dog started sleeping in there at other times with the door open. He loved it. It's not cruel if used correctly and not as a punishment. It saves a lot of stress for both the dog and the owner.
Beef stroganoff over fettucini, broccoli, dinner rolls.
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Rolls, dessert (some kind of soft pie or chocolate pie). Instead of potato salad, maybe sm
mashed potatoes since they are edentulous. Green bean casserole was a great idea. Corn casserole too is yummy.
Fried chicken drummettes, mashed potatoes wiht homemade gravy, corn on cob and rolls
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