My... how JUDGMENTAL we all are!

Posted By: JMT on 2007-03-30
In Reply to: You said everything I was thinking - only you said it better! nm

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Good or Bad Idea? - sm.
- R the fathers made to look at the x-ray, too? -nm - typ4food
- In my state . . . - ERMT/Oncology MT2
- BAD idea! Terribly BAD idea! - What's the world coming to
  - I have 3 children, but I agree with your post 100% - anon
- Clarification of Annies - AnnieM!AnnieM!
  - Who would have ever thunk it? 2 people in the - Annie M
    - More? NO!! - AnnieM!AnnieM!
- This is an argument that cannot be won between - folks from the north and folks from deep south..nm
  - I am true southern and totally pro-choice - Annie M
    - I should have made my post more clear, sorry... - folks from the north and folks from deep south....
      - You did not offend but terribly misinformed - Annie M
- This is just another example of the government interfering where - ETMT
  - Using that logic.... - Observer
  - maybe their point is it'll deter more women - from "accidently" getting pregnant.
  - Well said!!! Pretty much sums it up. - MT in agreement
  - We do have a choice. We can choose to keep our - Wannie
- Talk about a patient's privacy being intruded upon. - I think that is absurd.
- I think it should be mandatory and here's why....sm - Georgia Gal
  - Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t - deb
  - if there should only be 1 reason to abort - - it would be the situation of rape/incest
    - oh puleeze, In USA tons of kids in orphanages - neglected while others adopt OUT OF COUNTRY
      - what does this have to do with my post? - I clearly said there are enough children waiting
      - To the Pro-Lifers....in 1973 I marched and will again - until the Pro Lifers, who condemn abortion...SM
        I don't want any pro-lifer pokin' around in my uterus - amensister
        Fair enough! You mind your own uterus... - Observer
        Sure. And don't use MY tax dollars...sm - none
        Also, don't use my tax dollars - Agree
        Hello......if you want your kids to know... - Observer
        Your tax dollars - typ4food
        it was a blue dress firstly and Clinton lied - but nobody died.................NM
        Oh well, of course..... - Observer
        Bush lied, many died, including one who - said he raped her in 2002....here's the link..s
        Oh geezzz....that poor woman was... - Observer
        oh get over ur repuglican self - thinkprogress dot org and many other sites
        Not trying to convince anyone.... - Observer
        ur the same poster who believes the RAINN figures - while MOST rapes go unreported........
        If you don't like figures compiled by liberal organizations... - Observer
        you *sound* like a passive-aggressive - assume away....u sound like a huge nutjob!
        You don't have clue what passive-aggressive even means... - Observer
        please do not let the door hit you on your bum - on your way out..........N/M
        It didn't...thank you for another immature response... - Observer
        And for the record....I am not a Republican... - Observer
        Hello, yourself. If I had kids, I would...sm - none
        If you will read my post.... - Observer
        oh but you'd rather have a non-elected prez - sleeping with the Saudis for 40 years?
        Amensister - GREAT post and I agree!!!!! - until the Pro Lifers, who condemn abortion...SM
    - According to most of these posts - abortion is killing a baby.
      - If you disagree with a certain belief or action, then don't do it YOURSELF... but - America=Freedom=Choice
      - so, your mentality is let the child live with this? - no message
      - So very harsh - - Wow
        I agree with abortion being a choice. - in regards to the OP asking the ?
  - I disagree and here's why - sm - disagree
    - I have--sm - nn
      - What if you don't believe in god? - sm
        nobody has taken your rights away...sm - nn
        I do have a conscience and wouldn't - sm
      - Good for you - not for me
        Me too - gd1
        Yep, I had therapy for awhile too - not for me
        Gee, I am sorry if I seemed flippant about it..sm - nn
        what a wonderful post. sm - luvmyboys
    - another thought - disagree
    - Well I had a friend at work who wanted a baby badly - and at 7 months along found out the baby
      - hydrocephalus - sm
      - FYI.. I gave birth to a child with hydrocephalus - let it shine
        Well good for you. But, was she the product of a rape? - didn't think so - nm
        Very few rapes result in pregnancy. So now what? - nm
        THAT IS ONE RIDICULOUS STATMENT - that most rapes do not end up in pregnancy!!..NM
        It is not a ridiculous statement.... - Observer
        you believe everything you read???? - stats terribly off-base by the way....nm
        The stats came from an estimate by RAINN.... - Observer
        MOST rapes go unreported..........NM - so RAINN figures are not on target!
        Can you point me to a site (not a liberal blog)... - Observ er
        I read it nowhere - I lived life in many big cities - speak with your community leaders...sm
        I agree. And many rapes...sm - yep
      - Yeah, tough call, as I said above - - disagree
- Bad idea - most girls/women do not make this decision lightly - sm -
  - You stated, "most likely won't give up for adoption, " - Praise the Lord someone adopted me.
    - I agree, but if a girl is pressured to have it - sm -
  - that is - half the girls - also if they do pass this - sm -
- Hey, don't ask me. Ask the unborn baby. Does that answer your ? nm - what?
  - yet again ANOTHER RIDICULOUS STATEMENT - perhaps you should think before posting!
    - I am sure it was meant figuratively, not literally.... - Observer
  - Unborn babies can't talk until they are given birth - and even then you're lucky if you get a googoo
    - listen to your conscience...there is your answer--sm - nn
    - Don't you remember Ronald Reagan's stance on abortion? sm - me
      - some of us remember Reagan's ideas on AIDS too - B-actor for president....hated him....sm
        I agree! Reagan/Schmaegan. One of our worst presidents. - haha
      - That dude was from another time, and he WASN'T a pregnant single woman. - Jurassic MT
        Tidbit of information, Regans wife, Nancy - Janet
- So Carolina law - QArbouncin
  - Legislating morality?.... - Observer
  - Hey now - QArbouncin
    - UR right on. My sister got preggers while she was in (sm) - Jurassic MT
      - EXCUSE ME....ignorant minority??? - Observer
        You are correct: The majority of people would NOT vote for abortion - sirpercy
        YES. Ignorant , 'way-too-vocal minority. - JMT
      - so in other words--sm - nn
        You said everything I was thinking - only you said it better! nm
        My... how JUDGMENTAL we all are! - JMT
      - I just KNOW ur all gonna say that teaching doesn't (sm) - Jurassic MT
- Boy, that's a tough one - Dreamweaver
  - US - QArbouncin
    - Not exactly - Dreamweaver
- Personally, I do not see this as a step backwards--sm - nn
  - You need to look at it as more than (sm) - Hayseed
    - HEY, Y'ALL VOTED FOR 'EM. don't whine now! nm - nn
      - I did not vote for ANYONE in this "regime," so my... - Hayseed
        U sure got THAT right! ;D - Baaaaaahhhh!
        did not mean you personally Hayseed..sm - nn
        "This country is too far gone..." Sadly, I agree. - Hayseed
        I agree--sm - nn
    - GREAT POST, HAYSEED!!! - nm
    - WELL SAID, Hayseed! (sm) - Jurassic MT
      - great post, Jurrasic MT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - nm
      - Get a grip--sm - nn
        Well, alot of us DIDN'T vote them in... - That's the problem.
    - I with you, Hayseed. Backwards (or worse) is right. sm - GLF
      - HAHA... YEAH... I can just see our county jails filling up with (sm) - Jurassic MT
- Well...let me see. We want to see x-ray, MRI or - anna
  - Putting in middle initial so can differentiate - Anna M.
    - Someone who wanted a child and couldn't have one could - Wannie
  - In your title you even said "we want." - Hayseed
    - That is how many already feel about - anna
- Requiring a woman to do anything with her health - Hayseed
  - I just heard on Friday that one of the states out - Kokopoo
  - No matter what laws are made, if women want to get an abortion - Anna
    - It sort of does make a difference when they use it as a form of birth control... - sm
      - Sure beats the ol' COAT-HANGER method...... - Jurassic MT
      - No birth control pills when I had the abortions, - Anna
        dunno how old you are but I'm pushing 60 - and back in the 60s BCPs were available..sm
        I am talking very early 60s and only available for married - Annie M
        Planned PArenthood began in 1916 - Margaret Sanger Founder....SM
        There most certainly WAS birth control back then--sm - nn
        what about condoms? were they not around? - luvmyboys
        Oh, c'mon now....abstinence? Wake up and smell the coffee. :) - sm
        abstinance is the best form of birth control there is--sm - nn
        Abstinence is not Birth Control, it is SAFE SEX. - abstinence is the only safe sex, not birth control
        Yes it is...no sex...no preggo...hence birth control. ummmm. nm - nn
        Yes, in a perfect world.....this one if FAR from perfect ; ) - nm
        So because this world is far from perfect--sm - nn
        No, I didn't say that and I actually believe abstinence would be best - sm
        No. I share this earth with you unfortunately..sm - nn
        You are yelling more than my own mother did, - Anna M.
        I am not yelling at you. --sm - nn
        I am single mother, raising my kids on my own, but not - nm
        I am talking single mom by choice, not by - Anna M
        A single mother by choice does not make them a welfare - nm
        Because you breed out of wedlock then that makes you a responsible person? - Anna M
        breed? come on - see message
        How pompous! I'm a single mom and I didn't "breed" - I chose not to murder a baby. sm - editor

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try not to be too judgmental-
its easy to say she could leave if she really wanted to but it is often not quite so cut and dried. If you have never been in the situation you can't really know.

In any case, a little compassion and empathy can go a long way.

I know, I'm being judgmental
I have a family member who prides themselves on daily exercise of about a 5-1/2-mile walk, yet has a Handicap tag they hang on their mirror when they shop and parks in the Handicap parking spot. Why does someone who walks this far for exercise need a Handicap parking slip? I wish I could ask them that very question, but I feel such condescension that I'm sure it would be revealed in my tone and immediately offend them. Do I care? Not sure I really do. I guess this is just one of those battles I don't choose to fight. Ten to 15 years from now, it's not going to matter. I just think it's ridiculous that a person walks this far for exercise on a daily basis but can't walk 300 feet or so to a store front door. Good grief!

I don't mean to seem judgmental but
the fact that you have kids and your husband waits until the evening to sleep is really inconsiderate. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him. He's really missing out on the kids' stuff and he's letting you with all the work. Maybe you could compromise -- like spend 1/2 hour with him in the morning when he gets home and then he sleeps until the kids get home and you can all spend the evening together.

Some people can be so judgmental. Think about
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I'd rather be stuffy than judgmental and self-riteous but that's just me
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I have apologized for appearing judgmental. That's all
I can do.

You shouldn't be so judgmental and nasty
without knowing all the facts. News flash: Life isn't always black and white, cut and dried. Try to put yourself in her shoes and not be so critical because you don't know any of the details of what's going on. Jeesh.