You stated, "most likely won't give up for adoption, "
Posted By: Praise the Lord someone adopted me. on 2007-03-27
In Reply to: Bad idea - most girls/women do not make this decision lightly - sm -
as they don't want to be perceived as a bad person. Placing a child up for adoption that you know you are unable to care for properly is a selfless act, as well as a responsible, and most difficult one.
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animal adoption
i agree that we needed to know about this. there are some deceived and warped people that would sacrifice animals in evil ceremonies. a relative of ours had a puppy turn up missing and later it was found with its heart cut out. sick, sick, sick,
adoption party
Congratulations! It'll be a grand celebration! Not many folks out there like you. Give me some particulars...
What is her name...her favorite color...favorite snack...is she allergic to chocolate...is she a princess or a tomboy?...Does she like art, music or dance....maybe baseball, or basketball, hockey?...So many factors to consider. School's already in by you...How many kids and adults will be in attendance?
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adoption party
I have a 7-year-old daughter and she is into Hannah Montana and tea parties. We had a tea party this year on her actual birthday (we had a "big" party at the movie theater, thus the lack of funds! I made chocolate edible tea cups (Google it, it's easier than it sounds) day before. Have thinly-sliced ham and cheese croissants (or just cut the crust off of white bread) top them with a toothpick and grape. Slice strawberries and fan them around carefully placed mandaring oranges and pineapples(out of the can). Serve the tea cups about 10 minutes after they leave the table. Invite some girls that you know she will be going to school with, this will help her become familiar with them. Have dress up items or barbies out. Board games have been popular for us, or swing sets and outdoor play. Ask the other mothers for guidance here. You can find lots of other simple ideas at birthdaypartyideas.com. Love the site and use it all the time. Good luck. It sounds like you are already on the right track.
Adoption Party
If it is hot still where you live, why not have an ice cream sundae party. We have done this for the kids a couple of ways. Once we got parfait cups from the DQ- they were happy to donate some, and bought ice cream and different toppings and sprinkles along with some fruit. Another time, with a group of boys after school we used a piece of gutter (new) about 6 feet long and let the boys make a huge banana split with all the fixings and Reddi Whip in the can. They loved making the huge dessert and it was a lot of fun for all. Just an idea.
Animal control adoption
Oie. We adopted a very sweet what we think is a lab/retriever approximately 3 years old from Animal control on Thursday. I think she's way older than 3 and not healthy. I finally got a good look in her mouth today and her teeth are a mess. She hasn't eaten more than a handful of food since we got here and I couldn't figure out what the problem was. I don't think she can eat solid food comfortably. Also, she was coughing Thursday night. Friday morning I made an appointment for the vet because I think she either has Kennel cough or pneumonia. She is coughing until she throws up now and has done so more times than I can count. It is just huge globs of mucous. She also has a nice itch issue going on. I called Animal control and they say she wasn't coughing/puking/itching when they had her. Maybe she's allergic to us. Has anyone had a dog with kennel cough? Any ideas on making her more comfortable until her vet visit on Monday? We are going to keep her and make her as healthy and happy as we can but I'm really annoyed that Animal Control didn't notice anything going on with her, especially her poor teeth.
Thanks for letting me vent. I'm off to clean up the floor, again. 
I gave a child up for adoption...
hitchhiked alone cross country twice as a teenager. Oh, and I love Howard Stern, I listen everyday.
gave child up for adoption in 70's
The kid has issues. And not just with me. Once, when she was staying with me, her adoptive mother sent her a gift card from Target. The kid's reaction was - how DARE she send me a card to a store that isn't near where I live? Now I have to go to all kinds of effort to use it - and it isn't the first time she has done this. Kid proceed to call that mom and tonguelash her for stupidity, thoughtlessness, selfishness (?!), etc. until that mom hung up on her and has refused to speak to her since. And stopped giving her anything.
Now we're not speaking either, but not regarding gifts, our problems include entitlement isssues, respect issues, lack of maturity in general. I am reluctantly storing some of her belongings that she abandoned here (as I know she cannot afford to come retrieve them) and she is using others as go-betweens to demand I bring certain items when I travel up there this summer. I keep telling those others she should consider herself lucky I haven't put it all in a pile and had a nice bonfire; as she claimed her step-mother did to belongings she left there. People treat her the way they do for a reason - she is nasty-tempered, rude and thinks the world revolves around planet HER.
I can't fix her. I've tried to help her, but I see I cannot. So I've joined the ranks of people she has alienated that ignore her on holidays. Its a pretty large group.
Dogs/Adoption of human kids
Boxers are just adorable! I love them! I have 3 pugs. I dunno - I just have this thing for pushed-in face (brachycephalic) dogs. Pugs are a pretty lazy breed. They sleep about 34 hours a day. They are very cuddley and loving. My oldest is 8, my second is 7 and my third is just shy of 6 (the older 2 are males, the youngest is a female). I have 2 black pugs and 1 fawn. I am going to be devastated when they die. They're going to have to lock me up in a psych ward and keep me heavily medicated. Hubby and I have been married almost 18 years. We tried for 14 of those to have a (human) baby. We went to all the best specialists, including the University of Connecticut, when we lived there. We're amongst the 20% of people where they just cannot figure out why we could not get pregnant, so my pugs are my babies. As fate would have it, 2 years ago, my uterus prolapsed, a grade 2 prolapse. I was wiping one day after going to the bathroom and felt a bulge. Well, having worked in the medical field since 1988, I was curious, so I pulled out a mirror and thought "I'll be damned - that looks just like my cervix." It was. Because of the degree of prolapse, I had to have an abdominal hysterectomy about 2 months later.
Now, adoption, you say? It's nothing more than buying a baby anymore, with the lawyers getting rich. An American baby runs around $40-50,000 and there's no guarantee the mother won't rescind on her offer, which would just absolutely devastate me. Foreign adoption? Runs around $20-30,000 dollars. We just don't have the money. I think Chinese and Russian babies are just beautiful and would love to have one.
Our next option is foster children and we're seriously considering that in a couple years. I'm leaving it in God's hands. It's God's will in God's time and if He wants me to have a baby, it will happen. If we're lucky, we'll end up with a wonderful foster child (they all carry baggage - though who doesn't? - if you don't believe this - go see the play A Chorus Line - if you've been knocked around by life, even just a little, bring tissues. Every member of that chorus line has a very sad story to tell) that just might come up for adoption. Like I said, God's will in God's time. Right now, I consider myself very lucky to have my puggies. It's all I can do not to get a fourth, but they average 75 pounds, and I weigh 120. There's no way I can handle 4 of them dragging me down the street. The visual is enough to make me laugh.
Creative ideas needed for an adoption party...sm
Hi,
We are finalizing the adoption on Monday of our 7-year-old foster daughter. We're working on setting a date for a party to honor this event and are trying to come up with some creative ideas of how to make this extra special but without spending a cazillion bucks.
Please post your ideas. Thanks!
A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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As I stated, (OP)
I'm all for it if the child earns it, and clearly a child making that much improvement definitely has earned an award...I am not against them totally, just think enough is enough already...I was waiting on the best teeth, hair, clothes award to come up next (not really, but you know what I mean--I hope)
In everything I have seen so far, she has not stated - sm
that she was using an birth control. If she just came forward to tell the whole world she was pregnant and what a "surprise" it was, with no mention of BC, saying, oops I must have forgotten a pill, my patch fell off, or my diaphragm slipped (not that I can see a 16-y/o using a diaphragm). Just the whole thing, and timing of it to me screams planned pregnancy; though the boyfriend may not have known about it. She is a dumb kid, just ruined her career and promise of a lucrative acting future. She may bounce back but not for at least 5 years I would think. Disney will dump her (as they should, they are promoting kids shows, not horny kids who don't know how to use any of the methods of BC that they can get in a local drug store). While it takes balls to keep a child at such a young age (a girl I knew got pregnant at 15 and kept the baby, I admired her principals but though she was nuts too), I still think it is a dumb thing to do. She should have kept her mouth shut and gotten an abortion. Any girl under the age of 20 (and some older) are just not ready to have a baby, assuming of course that they fully take care of the child. I am sure this kid will have a nanny and Jamie-Lynn won't do much of the actually child-rearing which is wrong too. I wasn't ready to have a kid until my late 20s, and if either of my girls come home at 16, 17, 18 pregnant they are not having that kid; and if they decide they just have to have it, I will not become a mom to it or raise it, I would leave it all to them. My mom told us before any of us had kids that she would not be a babysitter to our kids, (meaning day-care provider), and we all held our own taking care of our own kids, never pawning them off on someone else for the day, weekends, etc. (Other than a babysitter for going out now and then). Would love to see if her mom actually makes her raise this kid.
As I STATED above
I was NOT a civilian, I was a Marine working on an Army base! And, as I stated above, the Army is MUCH more lax than the Marines! The Army promotes people to Sgt in 3 to 4 years! Just one example of the many differences between the 2! And even still, it does matter who you work for, who the IG is, etc.
Very, very well stated. nm
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Sorry, the drama has just stated again
in the Bahamas so here another 24/7 coverage for anyone who wants the updates. Oh, forgot to mention her mother has just filed another suit in Florida for disposition of the body! My goodness!
That part did not need to be stated at all--sm
as it surely led some to think that it was because he was Korean that he did this. He spent most of his school years in America, so he would not have had that particular culture that you brought up, in his head. He was a troubled young man and I surely don't think it was because he was Korean. JMO
Someone on MQ board stated
last week theirs was showing up already in direct deposit for a post date of Monday, April 28. I heard there will be direct deposits all this week for those who had their tax refund direct deposited. Keeping my fingers crossed as I should be in the next group.
As I stated before, if you knew what
the emails said, you would think differently about the whole situation. I have told her to not contact me if she isn't getting the kind of response she thinks she deserves or wants. It is not my place to give her any info about her bio dad. If she found me, she can find him. I have no right to allow her to disrupt his life, just as she has no right to disrupt mine if I don't want her to. Again, so sorry if I don't come across as the loving, nurturing mommy type to you. Is your life unfulfilled, because if so, I'll give you her number!
If things were as she stated then yes ...sm
she was a good owner. The only thing I disagree with the former pitbull owner is personally I won't take my dogs out in public loose. On a ranch wherever. They stated they had the dog at a ranch with them where the dog went frequently with no leash. I understand they had no reason to leash it because they didn't see it as dangerous but mine has never been dangerous eitehr. But see with me I wouldn't even let my dog run loose in my front yard and I live in the country. There is too much potential for accidents. What if he runs to the road and gets run over? What if someone pulls up and he doesn't know them? How would he react to a stranger? As the owner I have to make sure he doesn't get harmed or harm anyone else. They have to be on a leash if I take them anywhere. That isn't just my pitbull but beagle also. My pitbull is kept either in my backyard in a fenced in area he can't get out of or in the house. My pitbull has not given me reason to isolate him but I just have a rule that he stays in my control at all times. Some people do allow their pets to go in public without leashes or to go to friends houses or where they work and not leash them and that is okay for them but that is also how accidents happen. My dogs are not mean. But they never have that opportunity to bite or anything. If someone comes over my pit doesn't know he is put in the backyard and then maybe brought in and introduced to the new person and he is usually fine. I am a responsible owner. This is with any dog I have not just the pit. I don't allow the beagle out in public either not cause I think she is dangerous by all means she isn't but what if she gets ran over if she isn't leashed or in the fenced in yard. I just feel like it is my responsibility to protect them and other people from them whatever breed they may be. That is the only thing I think the former pit owner could have done different BUT not all people agree with dogs being leashed or isolated in fenced in yards. Everyone has a right to not like pits. And some are mean. Some are very dangerous. But a lot of them are so sweet and so loveable. You just don't know the love some can show. I have a beagle and a pit inside and the pit believe it or not is more affectionate. Not to say the beagle isn't affectionate but she is not AS affectionate as the pit. I am just stating that I believe all dogs should be kept on a leash or in a fenced in yard they can't get out of. I also have a warning sign on the fence saying warning: Dog. Just in case. He may not would bite but in case I will put the sign up and people will know he is there.
No, I think I stated that wrong
They, for some reason, think we voted for GW (which we didn't). They mainly believe we voted for GW because we lived in the same city as their wacked out relatives who did vote for GW, so they just assumed that because we lived in the same city we voted the same. We voted independent but because they voted for AG and then JK, they think they have higher intelligence than us. Even when we told them we didn't vote for GW. It didn't matter because we didn't vote for who they voted for they consider us the lesser.
Know exactly what I stated and any number
approaching 8 is a litter. I have enough sense to know difference between normal births and in my words, nothing but a litter. The mother needs to be spayed. Now come back on that, also.
She already stated that the garage was full
and that they said they would take them instead. Sometimes you do things like that for family, ya know?
Also, she would most definitely say, "why did you store them near the street where you had other things stolen before and stored yours in a safe place?" That is negligence!
Since their quads were not stolen, only the ones right by the street, it is obvious they acted negligently. She stated that the only things stolen on the property were right near the street before. Why would someone put something that they are storing for someone in the same place? That is negligence.
I have no doubt she would probably tell the OP that they should have cleaned the garage and took care of their own quads, but legally, her sister is at fault.
Stepped on a lot of toes when I stated
about how these posts come across, i.e. women stating how to take time of the baby, soccer time, cooking, doing the clothes, etc. and still complaining about not being taken as professional. Well, duh. As you stated, the perception is doubled when working from home your life is a bunch of bon-bons. Just the other day was told by a friend I could wear my PJs if I wanted to while working. That is definitely not something I do but the perception is there regardless and then the MTs come on here oh woe is me, what will I do with Jr. while I'm working. They should have to do the work like your grandmother years ago and probably would be grateful to have the opportunity to be at home and really keep their attention on their MT work instead of moaning and groaning. If you have to do your housework while working, do it and don't moan about it. Comes with being a mother and working at the same time.
I guess I could have stated my comments
a little more detail. Both MIL and DIL like to cook. We always have a wonderful Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner. I guess I was just raised in a family that we had family traveling in to visit, we would do just a little extra. BTW, we actucally have a joint Pizza Hut and KFC restaurant. We call it the Cluck and Hut. That is why I suggested KFC. Doesn't matter now, I got butchered at the beauty shop last night and have been crying ever since. I am not leaving the house for at least 2 weeks.
Rosie O'Donnell as stated below
Yes, stated in post I take supplement
and that is the gluc/chon daily, no I do not stretch because usually hit the floor on a run to do all I need to get done. I took arthritic swim class for the pain and it got worse so don’t feel exercise is all that.
This is 100% correct and like I stated earlier
The mother is making excuses for them not to go. She needs to check her attitude because kids play on this. Pack a bunch of things they like and don’t play into their crying. She apparently does not care much about the MIL- it comes out in her posts- saying she only wants to show them off? Most grandparents want to show off g'kids. This is not unusual.
The OP stated below in the thread that started this whole
conversation that he says he has told her "everything" he knows. If that's the case, then why not tell her about his education. She loves him, for Pete's sake. He does sound like a wonderful man. I just don't understand the secretiveness. It's not like she is a casual acquaintance. This is the person he has chosen to spend his life with, so why not share his life with her. My husband didn't even finish high school but he didn't mind sharing it with me. Maybe we're just strange, but that's the way it is at our house (been married almost 30 years). 
Male psychologist on CNN stated SM
he was powerful man who was afraid to discuss his feelings with his wife and "just wanted a hug". Pretty expensive, ahem, hugs.
In reply to your post where you stated, and I quote: (sm)
"I think that is why pharmaceutical companies are in the business (reference to to making money) or am I missing something here? "IMO, yes, you are missing something. IMO, Pharmaceutial Companies and the medications they produce save millions of lives each year, as well as allowing ill people to lead productive lives, improve their quality of life, as well as extended their life. While I do agree with your statement regarding making money, I believe wholeheartedly that medications save and extend peoples' lives.
Stated Income Home Loan
I am a self-employed IC and have purchased 4 homes in 4 different states as a single person. I was able to obtain a Stated Income Mortgage based on my credit, rather than my W2. No tax info was used, needed or requested. I guess, if your income is needed along with your husband's to qualify for a loan, then you would need the W2 info. But as a single person you can obtain a home loan based on your credit and not your tax info. Also, if you don't have enough for a down payment, you can take out a "second" against the house you are purchasing to finance your downpayment. You will have a short-term payment for the downpayment and your 30 yr note on the home. I was also able to obtain very low interest rates based on my credit rating.
Good luck, I did have to provide extra documents when I purchased one home with my exhusband.
they stated HALF of the money stayed here in US, not just for
the dying kids in Africa, but for underpriviledged kids here too.
It is sold, like I stated, to recoup not only my money
but also to pay what the court costs are. I had cash that day and only put $40.00 on my credit card. Doesn’t matter because I have my receipt and have the backing of the court. I tell you, I am not the only person this store has tried to skim-scam because another person in court with same 1. They have 4 big stores and guess what? I am not heading out to "do my shopping" and that is I am going with my sunglasses to choose which pieces I want to take this Tuesday (if no money forthcoming). It has been over a year so I do not think they would remember my 1 time in their store. This place now owes me over $700.00!! After this I plan on calling better business bureau and logging complaint against them also.
To the poster above who stated "she's 80, why'd you wait so long to sm
share the gospel." Well, thanks for your encouragement (not).
I haven't been a Christian that long myself and she lived 1,200 miles away. It's just not something that comes naturally to me to share Jesus with all of my unsaved and "lost" family members. I just try to live my life for Jesus and be full of love and hope and hopefully they will ask me what's different about me (which some have asked before), though we just don't see each other that often!
I have had to really study my Bible about the "lost" and this whole situation with my grandmother. I feel led by God over and over that it is HE who calls others to Him, not us. I did mention Heaven to my grandmother on her deathbed on Thursday afternoon and she put her hands up as to "shush" me. She also mumbled "Don't question me." I believe that is what she was trying to tell me. That was the last conversation I had with her.
This is very, very difficult for me. If you have anything negative or rude to say, right now is not the time. I am just trying to answer questions asked about her salvation, my seeing her etc. Thank you.
they stated half was staying here in US/hafl to Africa (nm)
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News stated Mattel apologized to the Chinese?
They stated the lead paint issue was only a very small percentage of the recall problem and that poor design on their part was the main reason. News also stated it was important for them to do so, since "saving face" in China is very important. Saving children should be too.
Older than stated age, pendulous breasts, and docs who...
use elderly for anyone under 70!
I personally would send a check for the reason you stated. SM
Also if you are paying off debt, you can always call and let them know you will be paying it off and see if they are willing to negotiate a lower "settlement offer" rather than the full balance. Learned that from Suze Orman. Also, if it happens to already be negative on your credit, you can negotiate that the remove it from your credit file if you agree to pay in full. Make sure you get all agreements in writing though.
I agree with you. During the hearing this morning, it was stated that Daniel did not like the Baham
They stated that Daniel considered California home. I wish they could both be buried in California and rest in peace together.
My sister opened my eyes the other week and simply stated SM
that most of the people pulling this country down have children, sometimes lots of them. These kids have no guidance and only know what they see. Unfortunately, a lot of them grow up like mom and dad, thinking they don't have to work, they can take what they want from others, and they can just generally be an annoyance to everyone around them. Thank God for school teachers who are there to provide guidance and structure for a lot of these kids. Sometimes it is the only place they find it.
You do not give them food, you give
the children food but if they did not have the food to eat, probably would call family and children services. I do NOT give away money to anyone.
you should give it a try
what the post said about the wipes. maybe something all natural might also do it that way the baby might not have a reaction to that and its good for the dog also. do some research on the net if you can. its worth it before you give your other "baby" up. let us know what happens. if worse comes to worse, make sure you interview prospects very well just like a baby for adoption. hope the first one works for you :)
We would give a lot of it away, believe it or not. Then, of course, the sm
usual - pay bills, purchase gorgeous home, travel, etc.
We believed that those entrusted and blessed with much should give much. If you keep all that you have you become stagnant - like the Dead Sea. The Dead Sea has absolutely no outlet which is why everything dies that enters it. I don't think we are much different. Give in order to be happy.
Once they give me what I want, they
can do what they like but until then guess we will just have to continue to cut that massive yard. It takes us about 2 hours to get there and then spend time there just to cut. It is an all day thing.
I'm sure they have - they will give her something (or let her out) (sm)
If they let her spoiled brat behind out, I am going to be MAD.
Can't give him away--Nobody else would put up with him!
I have a big kitty (18 lbs) that acts just like that! Pulling on blinds, disturbing our sleep, doing anything and everything to get attention until he gets fed! We love him so much and know that we are the only ones in the world who would put up with him--so we can't give him away! I feed him 3 measured meals a day. Fortunately, I now live in a house with a basement, so I put him down in the basement at nightime with his 3rd meal. He cries and scratches on the door a little bit, but then he gets used to it and goes to sleep. Sometimes I have to put him down in the basement during the daytime too if he starts being too bad while I'm trying to work.
Do you have a bathroom you could put kitty in at night? Just make sure there's not too much in there for him to destroy. That would be more comfortable than a crate.
There was a give away
for me. An ad underneath said something about maze prank.
I'm going to give this a try...sm
These are my "four-legged boys".
then give him a key!!! nm
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Give him a big hug from me!!!!...
Whatta joyous day you guys had!  Cat
I'm not sure if I can give the name
legally, so I'll give you some facts -- It is a major department store that changed it's store credit card into a mastercard.
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