Been there

I hope if you have any daughters you never allow them to be around this man.  My brother started molesting me and other little girls when he was still a kid.  This went way beyond playing doctor or you show me yours, I'll show you mine.  I don't know where he is because he has avoided our family most of his adult life and makes sure no one knows where he is.  I didn't talk about what my brother did to me until I was about 50.  It's a very difficult thing for a child to come to terms with.  Our families are often the last people we would ever tell, for fear of them rejecting US, the molested ones, and protecting the molester.

You should take a trusted friend or relative with you to talk to this man and make it clear that he is never, ever to touch you, and that if you ever hear of him touching a female relative, you won't hesitate to call the police.  Tell your mother that you want to see her separately, as the writer stated in a message below.  Don't ever kid yourself that this guy will stop.

Men who molest women never stop, no matter how old they are.  That his own kids hate your stepdad and have nothing to do with him, and that he has a daughter who has sunken into addiction, makes a powerful statement about their opinion of  their father. 

Don't ever let anyone tell you this is your fault, that you led him on.  I feel bad for you and hope everything turns out okay for you.  Please keep us posted.

• inappropriate stepfather - uncomfortable and need advice
  • Been there - Ohio MT
  • Dirty Old Man - Ray Johnson
    • He is deranged to do this and could twist it around, making (sm) - Been there
  • you need to be upfront and NOW. nm - Cheryl
  • You need to read up on how (sm) - anon
  • My niece was involved in a similar situation..sm - Just me
    • There have been some things with others in the past - uncomfortable and need advice
      • stepfather - nanna23
  • This is what I would do. (sm) - jmo
    • talking in private, he may have other ideas - no name
      • LOL in private, not seclusion :-) sm - jmo
        • a different room doesnt matter to a dirty old man "Been there done that" they dont care where - no name
  • Uhmm - Wy
  • I have to agree with Dano - lm
  • OMG! I can totally relate to this. - me, too!
    • FWIW, I was wondering if - me, too
      • I don't know if its viagra or not but - uncomfortable and need advice
  • Here's what I'd do....sm - My2cents
    • Why take it out on Mom? - Dano
  • Stepfather - Dano
    • Dirty old men. (SM) - In my opinion
  • doing nothing??? - dls
    • dong.... - typ4food
      • I'm very angry but - uncomfortable and need advice
        • I believe sm - Dano
          • I definitely want it to stop - uncomfortable and need advice
            • You are not guilty!!!! - Ohio MT
              • no I could never actually - talk about it, besides
            • Then if I were you - Dano
              • this is very good advice - because it saves
  • write him a note? Can you see your mother - nss

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