doing nothing???

Posted By: dls on 2005-08-15
In Reply to: inappropriate stepfather - uncomfortable and need advice

Ignoring this situation will not make it go away and will lead your stepfather into thinking that you do not mind. Not doing anything is what gets women hurt. You need to confront him, tell him to stop. Do not hug him, and tell him why. If he does not stop then, you need to tell your mother. No man is harmless. Even though he may possibly not be able to do anything to you physically because of his age, he can do things to your emotions. My husband's grandfather, in his 80s, was doing the same thing. I sent straight to my husband and he confronted him. DO NOT let this go unaddressed. Stand up for yourself. You have rights as a person and they do not include being sexually harrassed.

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inappropriate stepfather - uncomfortable and need advice
- Been there - Ohio MT
- Dirty Old Man - Ray Johnson
  - He is deranged to do this and could twist it around, making (sm) - Been there
- you need to be upfront and NOW. nm - Cheryl
- You need to read up on how (sm) - anon
- My niece was involved in a similar situation..sm - Just me
  - There have been some things with others in the past - uncomfortable and need advice
    - stepfather - nanna23
- This is what I would do. (sm) - jmo
  - talking in private, he may have other ideas - no name
    - LOL in private, not seclusion :-) sm - jmo
      - a different room doesnt matter to a dirty old man "Been there done that" they dont care where - no name
- Uhmm - Wy
- I have to agree with Dano - lm
- OMG! I can totally relate to this. - me, too!
  - FWIW, I was wondering if - me, too
    - I don't know if its viagra or not but - uncomfortable and need advice
- Here's what I'd do....sm - My2cents
  - Why take it out on Mom? - Dano
- Stepfather - Dano
  - Dirty old men. (SM) - In my opinion
- doing nothing??? - dls
  - dong.... - typ4food
    - I'm very angry but - uncomfortable and need advice
      - I believe sm - Dano
        I definitely want it to stop - uncomfortable and need advice
        You are not guilty!!!! - Ohio MT
        no I could never actually - talk about it, besides
        Then if I were you - Dano
        this is very good advice - because it saves
- write him a note? Can you see your mother - nss

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