no I could never actually

To the family member I already spoke to, and now that she opened her mouth, its a little different, not better just different.  Coming here has helped though, because I was keeping this to myself wondering what the heck I was doing to make him act like this?  I even find myself dressing differently when I go there, oversized T shirts, no makeup, trying to be unattractive as possible, and i'm finding that this is actually affecting me enough to do that so maybe there's a problem.  Being an adult I should be able to handle it, but its just too bad because we had a normal relationship before this.  I've never known my real dad. 

Sorry you suffered through such abuse as a child.  I just can't imagine.  I managed to get through my childhood without being violated by adults at least.  Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it.

• inappropriate stepfather - uncomfortable and need advice
  • Been there - Ohio MT
  • Dirty Old Man - Ray Johnson
    • He is deranged to do this and could twist it around, making (sm) - Been there
  • you need to be upfront and NOW. nm - Cheryl
  • You need to read up on how (sm) - anon
  • My niece was involved in a similar situation..sm - Just me
    • There have been some things with others in the past - uncomfortable and need advice
      • stepfather - nanna23
  • This is what I would do. (sm) - jmo
    • talking in private, he may have other ideas - no name
      • LOL in private, not seclusion :-) sm - jmo
        • a different room doesnt matter to a dirty old man "Been there done that" they dont care where - no name
  • Uhmm - Wy
  • I have to agree with Dano - lm
  • OMG! I can totally relate to this. - me, too!
    • FWIW, I was wondering if - me, too
      • I don't know if its viagra or not but - uncomfortable and need advice
  • Here's what I'd do....sm - My2cents
    • Why take it out on Mom? - Dano
  • Stepfather - Dano
    • Dirty old men. (SM) - In my opinion
  • doing nothing??? - dls
    • dong.... - typ4food
      • I'm very angry but - uncomfortable and need advice
        • I believe sm - Dano
          • I definitely want it to stop - uncomfortable and need advice
            • You are not guilty!!!! - Ohio MT
              • no I could never actually - talk about it, besides
            • Then if I were you - Dano
              • this is very good advice - because it saves
  • write him a note? Can you see your mother - nss

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